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me again , guess im still lookin 4 answers y me 1st of all. I get bullied by anyone who sees me in the streets or at school even at m opwn door step tonight they slashed my mums car tyres. The broken in to the car b4 they done this to a few houses on the street but my mums bf blames me just coz i have no friends and e thinks i fucked the kids of so bad that they doing this and the problem is with me. But how half the ppl i dont no i arnt racist , i dont blieve in voilence. I dont go out shoutin my mouth off. Im just a quite girl that doesnt ask for anything. i no this is goin to upset my mum because she's worked hard for everything she owns. i feel so unhappy i cart do anything right even an online relationship every one says ppl go though this all the time but i just wanna die and stop all this pain that i feel maybe then i will stop getting blamed
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Don't EVER say you want to die. That would upset people more than slashed tires ever could.
It sounds like you haven't got a lot going for you. Your mum's boyfriend sounds like a prick, you should just ignore him and get on with life. It dosen't sound like you live in a very nice area, unfortunately that can't really be helped either (you could always move out if you're old enough or try to beg your mum to move). Nobody has absolutely no friends, there must be somebody. If you need help making friends then I agree with kat0709. Take up drama. When you're doing drama you have to work with people, no matter what you think of them. You could use this as an oppertunity to get to know people, then maybe they'll see you for who you are rather than a walking target. Whatever you do DON'T take up a martial art as a bully deterrant, that's just diabel being an idiot. Fighting back would only aggravate the situation (if they attack you then that's a different story). If someone starts saying stuff to you just ignore them or better yet (this is what I do) agree with them. They're expecting a reaction, don't give it to them and they go away.
Oh one more thing. Online relationships don't last. It is possible but if I were you I wouldn't want to have to worry about an online relationship on top of all this other stuff.
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How can your mom's boyfriend blame you for that for the bad stuff other kids do? That is not right. My tires were slashed once and I am sure I know who did it, but I blame no one else but them. They are just really messed up kids. It is not you.
You really need someone to talk to who will listen and help you feel better about yourself. It sounds like your mom's boyfriend might be a lost cause if he blames you for something like that. I don't know what your mom is like, but is it possible to spend a little more time with her and tell her how you feel? If that doesn't work, try a school counselor, or maybe a church youth group leader if you feel comfortable with that.
On-line relationships are usually not very good. It is too easy for people to lie. Try to find someone you know in person.
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No, never ever say you want to die! *shakes head* Never ever EVER! But I do feel for you, and I'm sorry your life is painful. Take up some self defense classes, like Tae Kwon Do or karate. You want to make friends, you say? Get involved in clubs, and be friendly to those who are nice to you. Is there a new person at school? Volunteer to show them around, or eat lunch with them.
Also, talk to your mom or another trusted adult about the bullying and how you feel. Trust me, it'll help.
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no don't say you want to die. let me ask you something how old are you? most likely your a teenager just like me so i can't say i know what your going through. let me give you some advice i'm not trying to start anything but if it was me and i know who is doing these things i would go to the police. make a report of this before they do something real serious. i am a quiet girl to but people don't mess with me because they know i won't take no shit. if someone is picking on you don't just sit there and let them. there's only three things you can do tell your mother, let them no you won't take no shit, or you can just take all the bullshit they doing to them.
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I feel for you. You havnt put your age but i think i can relate to you. When i was 10-13 i was bullied really badly by people who lived near me, they didnt like me making friends and always made sure i had none and said bad things about me. I wasnt very confident around boys and my confidence got worse, but when i took up drama for GCSE at school people really began to like me and i managed to change. My confidence grew i changed my style of clothes and hair and made loads more friends by being the true me nice and chatty and a bit silly!!! The people who bullied me ended up being unpopular and i was proud to overcome this. I couldnt of done it without my close friends and my teachers!!! i talked to a head of year and she spoke to the bullys it never made it worse it really helped.
I advise you to make 1 good friend who will always be there for you and if possible take up drama it really builds confidence even if outside of school where you know nobody and you can be yourself!
I took up drama after school and am in my final months of the course at college i went to a college where non of my school friends went and i could be me without anyone judging me.
best of luck and if you need more advice or just want to talk get in touch!
kat xx
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