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ok so this is really confusing! here are the facts
-faith is my best friend
-mark and james are best friends
-im going out with zack (we dated for 6 months and broke up for 2 and are going out again for about 3 days this time)
-hannah and carter are also my best friends
-mark and james both like me
-so does carter
-faith likes james
-james also likes hannah
-ive liked mark since 3rd grade
-i kinda like james

so what the fuck do i do?

Wow.
You don't know what you want yourself, so taking advice from strangers on who to go for is.. how shall I put this.. rather silly.
Honestly, if I were you, I wouldn't be with any of them. Give yourself a bit of time to think what you really want.
If you have a boyfriend at the moment but are secretly lusting after Mark who you've liked for ages, it doesn't seem very fair to be dating someone else, does it?
You've been out with Zack previously and something obviously didn't work out, because you broke up. Are you sure you're doing the right thing by being with him again?
Just something to think about...

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Im like a guy repelant, NO GUYS LIKE ME!
not one, becuase i dont hang out with the "popular" girls, that means im not worthy enough? I need some pointers on how to be les guy-repelant.

Oh my.. So what if you don't hang with the "popular" kids?
You're either;
A. Wanting the wrong guys.
B. Putting yourself down too much making you less confident around them. Guys won't really want the "I'm not good enough for anyone" type.
C. Not being very sociable with them.
They won't just come to you. You have to do a little bit of the work, too.
Change your attitude. You're not "guy repelant". and you're just as "worthy" as everyone else.
Remember that.
Things come to those who wait. Just because no guys like you now doesn't mean they won't a little later on.

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16 f

there is this kid that i know. he will NOT stop touching me. he's had a crush on me for the longest time, and wont leave me alone. he's really gross and perverted...and just an idiot overall..I hate him. I dont know what to do to stop him. I've hit him before..but he continues touching and squeezing me. I tell him stop like everyday, and he would say something along the lines of, "but I thought you loved me" or "dont you love me anymore"
It's like freaking RAPE, I swear! I'm scared he'll rape me one day =(

what can I do to freak him out? :|

What do you say when he says "don't you love me any more?"..? Does no work, then ignoring him?
You need to be more stern. He might think you're joking or not being very serious when you tell him to stop.
"Seriously, don't do that. I don't like it"
If that fails, the only option where he will definitely stop is if you tell a teacher if it's during school.. or an adult you trust (parent/aunt/older friend).
Keep your distance from him if possible and try to have people around you when he's near.

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how long, on adverage, does it take for a girl to come? is it possible that some girls cant come? i've had sex and such with guys, and never came. Of course, it could be that they weren't adequate in the sex department, but I just want to know if there's possibly something wrong with me.

Some girls can't achieve orgasms through just sex.
Every girl is different, so it's impossible to say what will work for you.
Keep tying different ways. and there's no set time.. it takes a different amount of time for everyone under various circumstances.

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I was wondering if anyone knew any body parts that start with the letter D? haha, i know it sounds random, but I need to know! thanks!! :)

Can they be internal? Or obvious parts, like an ear for example.
I hope these help, anyway:
Diaphragm
Duodenum
Deltoid ligament
Distal Phalanges
Dorsal metatarsal ligaments
Dorsal tarsometatarsal ligaments
Descending colon
Deltoid muscle
Depressor anguli oris muscle
Depressor labii inferioris muscle
Dorsal digtal artery
Dorsal digital vein
Dorsal metatarsal artery
Dorsal metatarsal vein
Dorsal venous arch
Ductus deferens


I'll keep thinking of more and edit.

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my friend told me if you like a gay guy youre considered a lesbian, is this true?

How can it possibly be true? Just because he's gay doesn't make him NOT a man.
Lesbians like women. and only women.
You're friends either totally wrong.. or is trying to be funny.

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Hello, My name is david, my age is 25, i am masterbuting from last 3 years, my question is that can i be a father because my sperm is like water, i am deeply worried about this, please help me, i am asking it from my deep heart

Before you start to worry, remember it could be caused through many different reasons.. not just perhaps having a low sperm count.
It's not odd for it to happen, either and some of the reasons for it happening could be:
Change in diet
Tight trousers/underwear
Too hot
Do you have any other symptoms? STI's should be ruled out, too.
I can tell you it hasn't got anything to do with masturbating, though. It's perfectly normal and healthy for one to masturbate.
My advice to you would be to obviously see a doctor/have a sperm count done to put your mind at ease and find out if there is anything actually wrong.
Good luck, anyway.

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Im a fucking fat ass. I need help to lose weight and no im not taking Fucking pills. How can i lose weight really fucking fast.

Hah, as if taking pills works anyway.
Ever heard of
1. Diets
2. Exercise
?
Losing weight is hard. I'm not going to lie. and you need will power. You won't see results straight away.. and that makes the majority of people give up.
There's no safe way to lose it "really fast". You have to pace yourself.
I'll give you some ways:
*Cut out all junk food and fizzy drinks.
*Throughout your day, drink PLENTY of water. Did you know half the time when someone thinks they are hungry, they are infact thirsty? Drinking water will help this.
*Have a good decent breakfast (low sugar cereal/yoghurt/fresh fruit are good examples)
*Have smaller portions at meal times.
*If you feel the need to snack, make it a healthy choice.
*Join your local gym/take up a sport/go swimming etc.
*Aerobic exercises.

Remember.. it takes time. Set yourself a realistic goal. Not something like "by the end of this week I want to have lost 3 stone" because in reality, that'll never happen.
Keep at it. You'll even start to FEEL different.
Also..
Just a tip: Stop the swearing. It'll make more people actually WANT to answer you.

Very best of luck. I'd be happy to help in more detail if you need it.

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what is the thing called that you wear under your dress at wedding or proms that go on your leg and what are they for??


thanks in advance

It's a garter:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Garter_%28stockings%29

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what does "do you feel" mean?
i saw it on your pictuer, and its also on your myspace?
ps is that a real tatto or just pen?

Haha, no it's not real.
It's the title of The Rocket Summers newest album and one of the songs.

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so theres this guy and his name is jesse. he works for my parents at the business they own. i hung out with him the other day while he was working and he was flirting with me ALOT. he thinks im older than i really am because i told him i was 3 years older than i really am just so i would be around his age. there is a 3 or 4 year differencce between us. i like him more than i have liked anybody in the world. i can be myself around him and im afraid that if i tell him my real age ..he will get weird with me. which doesnt seem like a thing jesse would do but i dont know im not so sure. he flirted with me a bit before he knew my real age and things but not alot only because i really got to know him last night. i know this kinda sounds slutty of me and seriously i am NOT a slutty person im really not i just didnt know what to do because i like him so much. but then the thing is i dont know if i like him more than a friend or just as a friend. im so confused. what do i do?
if ur a guy what would you do if you were jesse and you found out?

I'm not a guy, but if I were in your position right now, I'd definitely find a way to tell him the truth about your real age. Why? Because it takes alot of courage to admit to something and apologize and it'll lessen the blow if you told him yourself.. because he will most probably find out if you don't tell him anyway. That'd surely make him lose alot of respect for you.
So no matter what way you look at this, coming clean is the right, mature thing to do.

You don't have to tell him the real reason why you lied. Make it sound like it didn't seem much of a deal to you but now you realize how stupid lying about your age is. Or pretend you wanted to know if he would fall for it - which he clearly did!

As for the part about you being confused whether you like him as a friend or more, keep it to a friendly level for now. Who knows.. maybe when you come clean and get to know each other better, things may blossom from there - assuming he's okay with your age etc.

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16/f
This kid and I went out for 3 months.
It ended badly.
We go to the same school.

He gave me his favorite hat and a teeshirt.
I was cleaning my room today and I came across both of them.
Should I give them back to him? Or throw them away?

Throwing them away is a bit harsh.
Why don't you ask him if he'd like them back? If you don't talk to him, keep them.. he might ask for them back sometime.

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My boyfriend is taking advantage of me and threatens to hurt me if i don't make-out with him or have sex with him and i'm still a virgin but i don't know how long i can hold out for!

Who would want to "hold out" for someone like that anyway?
He can either stop as of NOW, or you get rid of him. It's not a healthy relationship and if you ever feel threatened/pressured, it's time to get out before something DOES happen.
Probably not what you want to hear, but it's true.
Do the right thing.

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I just got a male hamster and he's white'ish and I have NO idea what to name him. It doesn't matter if it's a person name or not.

If I had a white hamster, I'd call it Winter. :)
Anyway, do any of these sound good to you?
http://exoticpets.about.com/cs/namelists/a/namesham.htm
This will help you come up with your own:
http://www.wikihow.com/Name-Your-Hamster

Good luck with a name!

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If I make cupcakes with icing how long can i keep them for? I don't even have a clue when would I have to throw them out, no expire date in mind at all =/

If you can't put them in the fridge, put them in an air tight container and consume within around 3 days.
Just to point out.. if you make them and put them in the freezer, you can keep them in there longer. Then when you take them out and they've thawed out, decorate them with the icing.

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okay so i have this guy friend...
who ive known for 5 years. he's always liked me but has not admitted it.
so we met back in 7th grade. and we were reallyy good friends
i transferred schools for 8th grade from public to private.
we still kept in touch by email and such.
last summer(of '07), he came through my line at work and i hadnt seen him in years. he soon started working there too.
so supposidly he's good friends with my ex, who i dated last summer up until late october when we broke up for various reasons. but he says he doesnt like my ex cz hes just an as$hole.
so ever since that breakup, we've been tlaking alot. he has a girlfriend who hes been with since april or may of last year('07)
lately hes been like complaining about her but says things like he misses me and he cant stop thinking about me and cant wait to see me again, etc.
so last night after work, he walked with me to my car and we talked for a few. i got in my car and rolled the window down and we talked a bit more. suddenly he says "oh my mom is here" and he kisses me. i was like..uh....ok.
it wasnt just the fact he kissed me, he did like 4 times! practically trying to like makeout with me. i was kinda freaked out.
so i emailed with him last night about it and he was saying things like he has waited so long for that to happen and that im perfect for him and he wants to be with me. yet, hes still with his gf.
what would you do? how would you go about handling this situation?
thanks,

Thanks for the question.
I'll get straight to the point.
It seems to me like he isn't 100% sure what he wants. If he was, he'd have chose you hands down.
If he wants to be with you, why won't he break up with his girlfriend? The longer he leaves it, the more people will be hurt - you included.
He needs an ultimatum, here.
Tell him he either breaks up with her, or that's basically it. Don't allow him to cheat on his girlfriend with you. It's wrong on so many levels as you know - and keep in mind.. if he does end up with you and cheated on his last girlfriend, there's a fair chance it could happen again, only this time, to you.
You need to tell him straight. Either he wants to be with you, or he doesn't.
All you can basically do is talk to him.
Very best of luck though and I'd be happy to give further advice if you need it.

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i have them and i want to know:do guys really like back dimples/ dimples of venus on girls?

Does it really matter? If he's stupid enough to not like you because you have them, he's not even worth your time.
Everyone has preferences.. so some might like it, others won't.

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I'm going tomorrow morning to get my cartilage pierced and i'm not exactly sure where i'm going.

my question is, which hurts less
gun or needle?

i've had my belly button periced with a needle.
and all other pericings on my ear done with a gun
but i don't know about a cartilage.i'm thinking a gun since i know it will be painful, but i know that a gun would be quicker.

also, right or left side?
i'm thinking the .. left
(my left)

:D thanks.

Why on EARTH is everyone saying to get the gun? It's NOT suitable for any form of piercing and shouldn't even be used.. but unfortunately, it is.
Think about it. A gun is basically forcing a blunt object into your ear, ripping your skin and causing unnecessary damage as it goes in. There's a much higher risk of infection if you use a gun too, because the guns CAN'T be sterilized properly.
A needle is simple and much more effective. It's sharper, hurts less and you know a needle is sterilized correctly. The only bad thing I can possibly think of is it may take a little longer. But you can be certain a job will be well done and the placement is correct.
See for yourself. This is a body modification website, so you know any information on it is 100% accurate.
http://wiki.bmezine.com/index.php/Gun
More info here:
http://www.bmezine.com/news/pubring/20030509.html


Sadly, my advice probably reached you too late. I just hope if you DID get the gun, it heals nicely.. and if next time you ever get a piercing, now you know the needle is the better option.
See, it's always best to do research before, right? :)
..and happy new year!







::::EDIT::::
I know you can get guns you use once and throw away afterwards.. but it doesn't change the fact they still cause unecesarry damage to your skin.
All REPUTABLE piercing parlours do NOT use guns.
So my opinion will not change ;)

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i have had a baby before, so i know what eo expect. but this is defferent. i missed my priod. but iam not stressed.i have been tired, moody,feelin like iam going to be sick, going to the bathroom a lot, lower stomach problems, eating a lot,also drinking a lot. i have taken a test but it was negitive. what could it be?

You could take another test, just to be 100% certain it's not pregnancy.
If it persists and you know you aren't pregnant, see a doctor, because unfortunately, noone here can diagnose you. It could be a wide range of things.. some which may need treatment. Good luck anyway.

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well my ex and i are talking again somewhat but he goes back out with one of hus exs and my kind of friends. So we were talking about how we used to go out and stuff and i liek him still what should i do?.. Tell him i like him and that i wish we could go out. Or just keep it quiet?. or give little hints?. i really dont know.!>. please be specific

How would you feel if you were his girlfriend and some other girl was trying to come inbetween and get with him?
I'm sorry, but I totally disagree with the other columnists.
If I were in your position, I wouldn't bother. Surely if he wanted you as his girlfriend, he would be with you. Not her.
It's the type of thing you'd say to someone who was single. Not in a relationship, as it's just plain out of order.

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