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okay so i have this guy friend...
who ive known for 5 years. he's always liked me but has not admitted it.
so we met back in 7th grade. and we were reallyy good friends
i transferred schools for 8th grade from public to private.
we still kept in touch by email and such.
last summer(of '07), he came through my line at work and i hadnt seen him in years. he soon started working there too.
so supposidly he's good friends with my ex, who i dated last summer up until late october when we broke up for various reasons. but he says he doesnt like my ex cz hes just an as$hole.
so ever since that breakup, we've been tlaking alot. he has a girlfriend who hes been with since april or may of last year('07)
lately hes been like complaining about her but says things like he misses me and he cant stop thinking about me and cant wait to see me again, etc.
so last night after work, he walked with me to my car and we talked for a few. i got in my car and rolled the window down and we talked a bit more. suddenly he says "oh my mom is here" and he kisses me. i was like..uh....ok.
it wasnt just the fact he kissed me, he did like 4 times! practically trying to like makeout with me. i was kinda freaked out.
so i emailed with him last night about it and he was saying things like he has waited so long for that to happen and that im perfect for him and he wants to be with me. yet, hes still with his gf.
what would you do? how would you go about handling this situation?
thanks,
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aww ifeel really bad for you and his girlfriend. your in such a pickle the question is do you like him? if not then your fine but if you do you serioulsy have to talk to him about what happend tell him that you dont want to be in a huge mess where you love your gf but u love me blah blah uk wat i mean so make it straight between you guys you so need to talk!
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I think you need to tell him that you do want to be with him and that you do like him very much but if the relantionship between the two of you is going to work, he can't be with this other girl. Because I'm sure you don't want to feel like the fifth wheel in this situation. You should confront him and tell him how you feel:)
Good luck:)
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This probably isn't what you want to here but if he leaves his girlfriend for you, who's to say that he won't leave you for some other girl.
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you need to confront him. Tell him very gently that you want to be with him however he has a girlfriend and that you refuse to be the girl that he cheets on his girlfriend with. If he wants both of you, then I hate to say it, just cut him loose
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Thanks for the question.
I'll get straight to the point.
It seems to me like he isn't 100% sure what he wants. If he was, he'd have chose you hands down.
If he wants to be with you, why won't he break up with his girlfriend? The longer he leaves it, the more people will be hurt - you included.
He needs an ultimatum, here.
Tell him he either breaks up with her, or that's basically it. Don't allow him to cheat on his girlfriend with you. It's wrong on so many levels as you know - and keep in mind.. if he does end up with you and cheated on his last girlfriend, there's a fair chance it could happen again, only this time, to you.
You need to tell him straight. Either he wants to be with you, or he doesn't.
All you can basically do is talk to him.
Very best of luck though and I'd be happy to give further advice if you need it.
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first of all i'd tell him something like you like him also but thats not gonna happen if he has a girlfriend ( see if he brakes up with her and make sure of it ,, cause i mean i f he doesnt like her anymore he would have broke up with her already dont you think?) or when you see him again...dont allow him to say thingsl ike "your perfect for me " and things like this , avoid it ..and say like i dont think your grilfriend would like you to say this kind of things to me .. so he can understand that hes not gonna play with you and be acting like this when he has a girlfriend (this to make sure if he really likes to be with you , or if he wants to cheat on his grilfriend with you!) if he doesnt leave her , then move on..and also and most immportant i think....whenever he tries to kiss you hug you or anything DONT allow him...cause then hes gonna get used to "oh i can kiss her ,hug her whatever and shes not even my girlfriend so no pressure to brake up with the other one " i dont know if i explain it well ...like let him know that it makes you unconfotable the fact that hes saying nice things to you and things like this when he has a grilfriend avoid it, if you just change the subject hes gonna think your not interested on him...so better just say something like (mm if i had a boyfriend i wouldn't like him to be saying this to someone else ) ( so it makes him understand that yes your interested and its not gonna happen if he has a girlfriend ) and then see what happens if he just stop doing this kind of comments or trying to kiss you etc..then probably he just wanted you to be with him while he has a girlfriend ,,,if ,,instead he brakes up with her and continue behaving like this then go for it its a big prove that he really cares about you and really thinks your the one for him :) hope you understood my idea haha sorry for bad spelling or things that didnt make sense at some point haha if you have another question just feel free to ask :) good luck
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