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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!
chat it up yo.
ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)
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15/f
okay well recently me and my friend hung out with some guys in our grade ... we were really looking to hang out with some new guys because our old group of friends we hung out with was kinda making us feel left out so these guys we hung out with are in our grade and all .. so we hung out at there house and we split into teams to play manhunt at night ... me and my friend were the only girls and we both were on oposite teams.. and i wound up with this boy by ourselves and we were talking and stuff and everything was fine and all and i got his number and stuff and then later during the week he called me to hang out but i was busy and then he called me at night once.. so we were talking on the phone for about 3 hours like late and we were just talking about random stuff and then at some parts it got quiet and akward because we didnt know what to say to each other.. but then he started asking me personal questions like - how far have you gone with a guy, do you think im good looking, how far would you go with me, what do you like about me - just stuff like that and i didnt want to be mean so i told him i thought he was good looking and that hes cute and funny and he told me that he thinks im cute and he likes my hair and that he thinks i have a nice ass.. okay i like the compliments and all but i kinda feel like he just wants to do stuff with me instead of actually becoming my friend first and i dont know what to do.. so then last night he called again and he asked me even more things like - how big are your boobs, how much hair do you have downstairs, have you ever fingered yourself - things like that and i was kinda embaressed answering them and all and i couldnt think of anything to ask him back and now i kinda regret answering some of them because i might not even be ready to do things with him because ive never even had my first kiss and i mean he told me hes been to 3rd base so idk ... i mean i really like how hes really nice and funny and cute but i just dont know about the whole rest of the situation .. any advice? .. thanks in advance
Thanks for inboxing.
First, I want you to know that you don't have to do ANYTHING with this guy if you don't want to. If you're uncomfortable [which I'm gathering that you are and it's totally fine], I would let him know it. Tell him you don't want him asking these personal questions anymore, and that you're not interested in "going to 3rd base" with him.
If he keeps bothering you, just stop talking to him. You don't have to put up with a sleezy guy like this.
I hope this helps =]
-Laura. (16-f)
can i use an AT&T sim card in a motorola rokr e8 from tmobile? if yes, how?
No. I've tried to put my friend's AT&T card into my T-Mobile phone, and it doesn't work.
-Laura. (16-f)
are there any other sites like danscomp and pacsun that i can get skate shoes/clothes at?
not like those crappy sites, but good ones like the ones above.
thanks xxx
I'm try Zumiez and Journey's.
-Laura. (16-f)
i love her song merry happy.
it's upbeat, she has a pretty voice, and the lyrics are fun and easy to remember.
can someone name more songs like this?
but nothing else by her? i have hers. thanks.
If you like Kate Nash, you'll probably love these artists:
Lily Allen.
Songs I suggest:
"LDN", "Smile", and "Alfie".
Duffy.
Songs I suggest:
"Mercy" and "Serious".
Adele.
Songs I suggest:
"Chasing Pavements" and "Tired".
Regina Spektor.
Songs I suggest:
"Fidelity" and "Music Box".
Enjoy! =]
-Laura. (16-f)
what are the ups and downs to maming yourself puke...b/c my "friend" is doing it to herself and i want her to be healthy. so can u give me the ups and downs bout makin yourself puke. and yes i already talked to her bout stopping because she doesn't know what will happen to her afterwards. so please dont leave the option to tlk to her bout it!
thanks in advance
-cutechick24
There are no "ups."
It's a terrible thing to do and it's much more serious than you think.
Here are a few consequences of making yourself throw up:
- Loss of vital minerals
- Metabolic disturbances
- Erosion and discoloration of tooth enamel from stomach acid
- Tooth decay, gum disease, mouth ulcers
- Inflamed glands resulting in a "chipmunk" or "moon" face
- Impaired mental functioning
- Lowered resistance to infections
- Severe muscle spasms
- Esophagus damage
- Permanent organ damage
- Heart attack
So as you can see, I'm not kidding when I say there are no "ups." If you or your "friend" is making yourself throw up [also known as bulimia] you need to get help.
-Laura. (16-f)
what is a good chapstick that actually has a flavor? i bought some dr. pepper chapstick today and it doesn't taste like anything. :(
I disagree with all the girls who have answered with Lipsmackers. Lipsmackers is crap.
First of all, I recommend an using ACTUAL chapstick, not some stuff made for 11 year olds.
Second of all, my favorite is Carmex, and they recently came out with a cherry flavored one which I love =]
Or, like the only other answer that didn't say Lipsmackers, Burt's Bees is a really good brand as well.
-Laura. (16-f)
ok... well i have a small lump under my right nostril... it is veryy sensitive to touch and it is ugly.. it is all red and ya.. it hurts really bad. idk if it is a pimple under the skin. but i would like to know... thanks
I think I recently had the same thing, and my mom said it might be an ingrown pimple. It got better after a few days, but if yours isn't gone within a few weeks, I'd check with the doctor/dermatologist. For now, jsut avoid touching/squeezing it.
-Laura. (16-f)
I need some good break up music. ANY. Genre opf music is good, thank you!(:
I normally don't answer these questions, but I know music helps through crappy break ups, so:
All Again For You: We The Kings.
A Lonely September: Plain White T's.
All Over You: The Spill Canvas.
Before You Go: Flight 409.
Dancing Alone: Ashlee Simpson.
Devotion & Desire: Bayside.
Emergency: Paramore.
Gone So Young: Amber Pacific.
Hey Italy: Halifax.
If You Wanted a Song...: Mayday Parade.
Leave the Light On: A Kidnap in Color.
Miserable at Best: Mayday Parade.
Say The Word: The Classic Crime.
Second Chances: October Fall.
Tell Me Everything: Just Surrender.
Up Against The Wall: Boys Like Girls.
-Laura. (16-f)
You know how on Nexopia there's layouts right?
What program do I need to make one myself?
Thanks :)
Well, I don't know exactly what "Nexopia" is, but if it's anything like Myspace, you don't need a program.
All you need is a little bit of HTML knowledge, and you should be able to make a basic layout of some sort. But, again, I don't know what site you are talking about so I could be wrong.
-Laura. (16-f)
i know people come in all deifferent shapes and sizes
but i was wondering what the average weight of a 5'3'' 13 year old is?
Check out this website:
http://www.am-i-fat.com
-Laura. (16-f)
hi . im 13 years old . and ima girl if you dont know . soo i like this guy .. :) and i want him to notice me and i have him on myspace as a friend and i wanna comment him but i think that would be a little strange because he dosent know me but he dose know my friend and she said she would hook me up with him and i wanna get to be friendly with him without being a wierdo (lmao) . so anways how do i approche him ?
I'd comment him and say something like, "Hi, I'm [name]. You know my friend [name] and she said you and I would get along well if we got to know each other." or something along those lines.
Or, perhaps you can have your friend arrange for all 3 of you to do something together so you can get to know him.
Like Jack said below, remember to BE YOURSELF. =]
-Laura. (16-f)
I like a guy who has a girlfriend. I actually have a boyfriend. Whenever I am around the other guy I'm happy and flirty. When I'm around my boyfriend I feel tired and cranky. I still have some feelings for him, but sometimes I just don't. The other guy likes me a lot to but he has a girlfriend who he lives with. What should I do? Even if I can't be with the other guy, what should I do about my boyfriend?
If you aren't as happy with your boyfriend as you are with this other guy, you should probably end things with your boyfriend. It's not fair to him if you're unhappy with the relationship.
But, you have to be careful with this guy you like. He has a girlfriend, and I don't think you should interfere with their relationship.
-Laura. (16-f)
I met this guy at drivers ed (dorky right?) and before i started talking to him i thought he was really hot and probably stuck up but after i got to know him i thought he was really sweet and cool and we had alot in common. so we got each others numbers and last week we texted all week long. he was on a camping trip so he didnt have much signal and whenever he did get it he would text me. btw- drivers ed was two weeks ago. we talked soo much and flirted and i laughed at stuff he said. it was great! (also we were flirting or whatever he was telling me how he was practicing guitar and i told him i really wanted to learn and he said that he would teach me.)so now we havent really talked this week and whenever we did i would have to text him first. i like him so far from how much i know about him but i dont want to bug him or push too hard.. i just cant tell if he likes me or if he thinks of me as a friend.. what do you think??
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340
From there:
"I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:
1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.
2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.
3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...
4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.
5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".
6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.
If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!"
-Laura. (16-f)
f 17
now being serious
I think big is beautiful
I look at women like Queen Latifah and Tyra Banks
and they are Thick beautiful women
but then you have the Paris Hilton's and the Nicole Richies
who are dam near a string and thats what america thinks is right.
thats what men think is "Hot"
but to me they have little girl bodies
now i'm a thick girl and i love it
but i still sometimes feel the need to be thin
not because i'm not happy with myself
but because of the way others may look at me
my skinny friends get attention from guys our age
but i get it from men that are 20, 21 ,22
I jus really want to know Is big BEAUTIFUL
or am i just buggin'?
I am not a guy, but I personally think it's what's on the inside that truly counts.
I'm also glad that you're asking this question in the form you are. You're not asking HOW to be thinner, and that makes me happy. Kudos to you for being who you are and not being ashamed!
Don't let magazines and celebrities make you feel like you have to be a size zero to be beautiful. I don't think skinny girls like Nicole Richie look good, at all. It makes me want to go eat a cupcake to ensure I'll NEVER look like them. It's unhealthy, it's disgusting, and it's putting a terrible image of "beautiful" into the minds of young women everywhere.
Don't worry about not getting attention from guys. One day, you'll find one who loves you inside and out. Just wait, and it will so be worth it =]
-Laura. (16-f)
13/f
im going to sleepaway camp in 3 days and my period hasnt started yet. on the 1st day you have to take a swim test and if you dont you just get put in level 1 (not good) i tried using tampons before but i was so nervous after i took of the wrapper and looked at it i threw it away. how casn i either get out of the swim test and be able 2 take it later or fix the problem. if this helps we swim in a lake
If you aren't comfortable using tampons, then don't. Or, maybe you will be lucky and your period won't start until after the swim test. Who knows?
My suggestion is to talk to a camp counselor and tell them you have your period. Tell them that this mean you [obviously] cannot take your swim test. There's no way they can force you to take it. Ask them if you can make it up another time, when your period has finished.
-Laura. (16-f)
i need a sweet, somewhat new love song. i love acoustic anything. someone hook me up?
Amazing: Josh Kelley.
Bubbly: Colbie Calliat.
Cue The Sun: Daphne Loves Derby.
Getting Into You: Relient k.
Hero/Heroine: Boys Like Girls.
It Had to be You: Motion City Soundtrack.
Three Cheers for Five Years: Mayday Parade.
My Beautiful Rescue: This Providence.
Say it Again: Marie Digby.
She Will be Loved: Maroon 5.
Skyway Avenue: We The Kings.
The Way I Am: Ingrid Michaelson.
You Be the Anchor: Mayday Parade.
They aren't all acoustic, but they're all really sweet =]
-Laura. (16-f)
I need some more music.
Anyone know any bands that are like Iron Maiden, Iced Earth, Dimmu Borgir, Children Of Bodom, Slayer, Bring Me The Horizon or in general any good Metal Bands.
Please no Def Leppard, emo music, Deftones or Killswitch Engage.
Hate those bands (no offense to people who do like them)
Thankyou!
Scary Kids Scaring Kids, Drop Dead Gorgeous, blessthefall, Alesana, A Skylit Drive, The Devil Wears Prada, From Frist to Last.
That's all I got =/
-Laura. (16-f)
As I stated in my other question I'm going to a public school for the first time in a long time. and I just wanted to let you know that it is a pretty bi school. like I'm going from a middle school of about 100 and ssomthing kids to probley about 300 possibly more. And it kinda freaks me out because in my old school everyone knew mostly everyone and now I'm like ughhh what do I do!! I am very social and im afraid that if I am that way I may get into the "wrong" kind of group. I mean I like to be everyones friend but now going into this huge school I don't know if thats such a good idea anymore! So if that helps you out any please just let me know what you think I should do!! thankz inadvance!
Thanks for inboxing!
Ok, first of all, you need to calm down. If people see you all nervous and frazzled, they'll just think "She doesn't look like a very cool person." and they'll only know you as the nervous, new girl.
Secondly, The best way to make friends is to be yourself. I know, everybody says this, but it's true. You just need to start talking to people, and eventually, you'll become their friend.
I mean, obviously you need to talk to build a relationship. Just talk to them about everyday things. If you see a group of people who look interesting, just walk up and say, "Hi, I'm [name] and I'm new here, is it cool if I talk to you guys?" or something. Just get to know them a little, and see what kind group they are.
If they're the "wrong" kind of group, simply stop talking to them, or talk to them less. then, go find a new group of people until you find the right group of people for you.
And I want you to know, that you can have friends from different groups, but you don't HAVE to be EVERYONE's friend ;]
Good Luck!
-Laura. (16-f)
hey i was talking to my friend on the phone last night and he asked me how far i would ever go with him and i said idk but can u just tell me what the bases mean exactly again bc i have a general idea i just want to be sure before i tell him something and give him the wrong idea .. thanks
Thanks for inboxing!
This question is asked all the time, but I really have no experience with the "bases" myself, so I'll give you a link:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542078
-Laura. (16-f)
okay! I've been going to a somewhat private school for most of my life. I haven't been to a public school since first grade. And now going into eighth grade I'm starting at a public school. I am very very nervous and have no idea what it's going to be like. Can anyone help me with anything? Like on the social groups and things like that.
thanks in advance for the advice!
-cuttechick24
When I was in 8th grade, there really weren't social groups. but I went to a small middle school where we all knew each other.
It would help if you let us know if it was a big class, or a small class. So, if you add additional information, we may be able to help you better.
-Laura. (16-f)