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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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sorry this is long
i'm writing my short story about this poor orphan kid named tommy who lives in london, england in the late 1930s and he steals stuff because he's poor and has nothing better to do with his life and one day this leads him to this abandoned ally and he finds this rusty old lookin tea pot so he sees no hard in takin it and we he takes it back to his shack he discovers it was actually a genie's lamp. the genie gives him his three wishes and then they have to switch places so tommy is the genie and the genie is the master and the genie really is the cause of wwII. is this a good idea?
Sounds like a pretty cool idea of a twist on the genie in the lamp stories.
ygs-29/f
Are thinspos unhealthy to look at? -mentally?
It is if you get the idea in your head that you have to look that way in order to be beautiful.
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okay well i once saw this utube video (not a tutorial) where someone took this red brush, and smoothed it over a face, and then the face became brighter, and smoother and silkier. what did they do? can anyone direct me on this?
also. if anyone has any ideas on how to do some really good photoshop tricks for people who are scene or emo or whatever. that would be really cool.
no offense really whatsoever, just they have REALLY good photoshop tricks and id love to see some because utube cant find some stuff im lookin for.
everything will be MUCH appreciated. cause im trying to enhance my photoshop skills :)
oh yeah. and how to make an animation if u have the time to say :)
I know removing digital camera noise does that, but I can't tell you how to smooth a brush over a face for the same effect. :(
Sorry I can't tell you how to do what you ask but hope I helped somewhat. (I'm still trying to figure out that program myself...)
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I'm a senior in hs applying for colleges and I've been filling out the application and I'm really scared. I don't have very much experience in clubs and organizations at all, I hardly have any awards or honors, and I haven't done very much community service either, especially any community service that I do annually which is what colleges like.
So I'm kind of nervous. What should I do? It's november, and most applications are due pretty quickly, is there any time left for me? Obviously I can't try to be president of a club because those things are already set so late in the year, and I've joined many more clubs this year than the last three years, but what else can I do? Will any college accept me with my lack of experience in pretty much everything?? PLease, ANY advice would be so appreciated. I'm totally freaked out right now
Thanks
Your school guidance councilor can help you with this. A part of their job is helping you in any way possible with getting you into college.
They can go over your files with you and help you figure out exactly what you need to do in your specific situation.
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ok so i met this guy through a friend (a lot of my frends kno him) but we haven't met in person. we've talked online and stuff but i want to meet him.
how should i instigate this?
also, im not the best looking person, so i dont know...
You met him through a friend, so I would have that friend properly introduce you.
If he is going to be uninterested because he doesn't think you look good enough, then he isn't worth your time to begin with.
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ok so here it goes. im 13,f, and one of my best friends is 14,f. well she went out with this kid whos 15, m, and they were pretty serious for like 4 months. well one day SHE broke up with HIM for reasons unknown. he has had relashionships after, yet she hasnt. anyways its been at like 6 months since they broke up and hes obviousley gotten over her but she jsut cant shake him. anyways, over the last couple of weeks me and him have been hanging out and tonight he had his arm around me and we were like makign out and stuff. i honestly dont know if this is just like a friends with benefits thing or if he wants something more, but either way... i dont know whether to tell my friend or not. i mean i like him now, and theyve been over for like 6 months and SHE endded it. i would feel awful if she had like legit feeelings for him but i wanna be able to be with him freeely. any suggestions on how i should handle this? thank you so much sorry this was sooooo amazingly long,
Well, if you are really interested in this guy, don't go about it in a way that would back stab your friend.
Ask her how she would feel about it. If she would be ok with it, then go for it. But if she would be hurt by it, wait until she is over him before you consider dating him.
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okay so I hooked up with this guy one of my best friends has a thing for. I had no intention to and I have no feelings for him at all. when she asked me if I hooked up with him, I said no first but then I told her the truth 2 seconds later because I cant lie to my best friend. Now she is mad at me because i attempted to lie. what should i do?
Well, you need to apologize for lying. Give her some time to cool off about it and explain that you originally told her the lie because you didn't want to hurt her with the truth, but realized a lie would hurt her more, so you came clean about it.
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ok so im 16,and i dated this guy for over a year, we had our moments..you know..on and off sometimes...but it always seemed to be ok..i thought that even after what we've been through, and what we're going through, it would get better..but it hasnt..we're recently broken up..and he has a new girlfriend..and this has happened before, and we got back together..i just dont know if i can take it anymore..it hurts to see him with another girl..but, i just dont know what else to do..should i just let him go? he was my first love, i know that sounds corny..but its serious. and i still do love him..but i feel like i just dont care anymore. im done with his crap. but how do i know if what im feeling is just jealousy or anger? i just dont know what to do. thanks in advance.
You are probably feeling both jealousy and anger. That is normal so don't beat yourself up about it. You can't change your feelings- you just have to wait for the hurting to stop.
Since things didn't get better between the two of you, they doubtfully will. You've been down that road with him more than once. So you should just let him go so you can move on with your own life.
It IS going to be hard to do- I would never tell you it is easy to get over your first love, but getting over ANY love is no easy task by a far stretch.
Hang in there and have patience with yourself.
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okay, well me and my boyfriend has been together for about 7 months, and he's moving far away from me. and it's bad enough that i have to see him move away... because just to get to his house from mine. has to take a highway. the good news is, that he'll still be able to go our current school. he also said that we'll see eachother regularly like we do all the time... but i don't want to bother his parents so i can go over to his house all the time. he can't come over to my house, because my parents don't like him, and becuase i'm not alowed to have a boyfriend at this time. -____-" so i usually go over to his house instead. my sister says that we might not be able to see eachother as much as we usually do, because he lives SO far. but my boyfriend says we will... because he's doing work around the house so his parents HAS to take me. but some how.. i'm still nervous...
do you think we'll be able to see eachother regularly like he says? it's worse enough that i had to see him move far away like this.
First off, it depends on how far is SO far. An hour away? 2 hours away? An hour drive is a long trip when gas is so high priced.
Also you have to consider that he will be busy making a new life for himself in a new town and a new school and getting to know new friends.
So don't panic if he is busy.
Also it depends on how 'regularly' you see each other now. Since he is moving so far, it probably won't be as often as you see one another now. Like, you will doubtfully see him every day, or every 3 days for that matter. Depending on how far he is moving, you may not even be able to see each other once a week, so be prepared for that possible outcome.
But keep in mind that he is only a phone call away.
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you know..i've always wondered this, and i'm gonna ask this and see if anybody knows.
when someones birthday is November 29th
well you know sometimes there's no '29' in months, like the last day could be the 28th.
how does someone have a birthday? or do they just don't celebrate it?
has this ever happened to anyone? or am i just crazy? haha!
thanks.
Well, considering the only month that usually ends with the 28th is February, if someone is born on February 29 (leap year) then they would generally celebrate their birthday on the 28th for 3 years, the 29th every four years.
My nephew's birthday is November 29th, and since there is always a 29th of November, he always celebrates on that day.
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me and my bf have been going out for almost a month. and he is so amazing. but i just get these feelings sometimes that he doesn't feel the same way about me. when we first started going out he would call me. but now he doesn't i call him sometimes. but lately we haven't been able to talk much. he always tells me he will call back and he never does. and it bugs the crap out of me. sometimes i end up calling him back. im gonna stop because i feel lke im being to obsessed. like right now i want to talk to him but i know i shouldn't call. but i know he won't. but sometimes i call and he is completely silent. ahh what should i do?!?!?
You need to talk to him and find out why it is he doesn't call anymore. Only he knows what is going on inside his head.
I wouldn't keep pestering him with phone calls. I'd call once a day if you are calling daily, rather than calling and calling.
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13/f
i have a boyfriend and i really love him a lot..but..i have a crush on another guy to...is it wrong? what can i do? i dont wanna dump my bf, because i still love him, but im going crazy because i like this other guy a lot to..is it normal to have these feelings?
thanx:)
I'm not going to tell you what to do, but I will give you something to keep in mind:
You are young- experience different relationships. Otherwise, how are you really going to know what kind of man you want to spend the rest of your life with in the future?
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besides black friday, when are the best times to go out to get good deals on stuff? like clothes?
After Christmas there are usually good sales. Clearance, etc. of stuff they overstocked for the holidays but didn't get sold.
im getting contacts soon and I want to getcolored ones but I don't know what kind to get. I have bright red hair and almost pitch black eyes. I was thinking something like a dark green or blue because I like to wear really deep black eyeliner, and I wear a lot of dark clothes. but I don't know what the name of an eye color that's dark blue or green. don't you have to know the name of the eye color you want so you can buy it?
They will show you your color options. You just pick which one you want.
Since your eyes are dark in color, the colored contacts will show up excellent.
Personally, I say green because red heads look good with green eyes. :)
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15/f
Okay. so here it goes. i have a cousin and shes my best friend. The only problem with her is that i need to hide things from her. So she wouldnt get mad at me. im always scared shes going to get mad at me. So i always do everything her way. But this is the question. I was getting a new phone and i knew she liked this phone but i got the one that flips open and flips on the side and my mom was like make sure you get a phone you really like because your going to have it for two years. so i got it because it was the only phone i liekd. and now my cousin is ticked off at me because i got the phone she liked. one thing is that i always text alot so i would get more use out of it as for her she has texting blocked. and now i feel like the bad guy getting a phone i liked and my friend says that i should be the bigger friend and just act like i dont care because she know its going to bother me and i dont know waht to do i feel like i should jsut go freakin return it. and then my other cousin is like Oh.. i heard you got a new phone .. and he was like well you shouldnt return it you got it you like it your life is perfect. like idk what to doo..
Why should you let her dictate what you do or what you have in your life? She sounds like a control freak and uses the fact that you don't want to make her mad to her advantage- to manipulate you.
For example, she is jealous of your phone, so she is having a bird in order to get you to return it. Kinda an "I can't have it so I don't want you to have it either" attitude.
Your friend is right- you should be the bigger person and stop allowing her to get under your skin. You will be far better off in this life if you stop worrying if something you enjoy is going to make her mad.
There is enough stress in life- why add to it by walking on egg shells around your cousin?
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I would like to make a simple hat. [Something like this http://members.aol.com/JSchlossma/cyc.html] Does anyone know of any tutorials for this with pictures [crocheting only]? I'm a beginner, all I've made are various scarves and a poorly made sock with no pattern. I can't seem to follow patterns well without a visual picture. Help? I undestand how to do stitches and stuff but all I see is the finished product.. how am I supposed to know what it's supposed to look like in the progress of making? :[
Should I just give up on this?
No don't give up. You just have to keep trying and practicing in order to get better.
I couldn't find what you are looking for, hopefully someone else will have better luck. I searched for yarn cap picture tutorial, and also video tutorial. Best I could come up with is crochet lessons. Maybe you will find a lesson on here that will be helpful to you?
http://www.newchrochet.com/014e/
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14/f
Me and my boyfriend have been dating almost three months now, I liked him for ages. I'm pretty sure I loved him.
But..I don't anymore. I do still like him, but I don't LOVE him.
And it doesn't seem to be working between us. We hardly ever talk and I feel like we don't really understand each other anymore.
And it feels like breaking up with him is the right thing to do, I want to be free, to be single.
But he claims he's still in love with me, and I don't want to hurt him.
See, before we started dating, we were very close friends. And I told myself that whatever happened, I would always stay friends with him. And he means a lot to me. But I feel like I've lost him; and it scares me. It's almost as if we've already split up, I feel awkward when I see him and we sort of give each other awkward looks. And I know now that I've blown it; whether we stay together or break up, we're never going to be close friends like we used to.
But I'm confused, because when we're alone together it's okay, I don't feel as awkward, although I still don't feel like it's working. But the awkwardness isn't there.
But although I feel as if I want to break up with him, at night or in the mornings, when I'm in bed, I often wish he was there with me, so I could lie in his arms. But I wonder if that's just because I want to lie in SOMEONE'S arms, not because I want to lie in HIS arms, if you know what I mean?
I just don't know.
And then there's this girl, who told him she's in love with him, and when I think of them together, it annoys me, and I think, No, he's mine!
But maybe that's because I find it hard to let go of things.
And when I read old (some recent) texts or comments from him, telling me how much he loves or misses me, or how I mean to him, I wish it was like that.
But I think the problem is, I want to be with him like how it USED to be, not now.
But something in me is telling me that it could go back to how it used to.
I'm not even sure if this is how I feel, but it might be.
And although I'd like to be single, I'm scared of being alone. Scared of not having anyone to lie with at night when we have sleepovers with our friends. Scared of not getting the odd, 'i love you' message.
I'm sorry if that didn't make sense much, I'm not surprised if it didn't, I'm so confused at the moment. I really don't know what's going on in my head at the moment.
But, what do you think?
Why do you think I'm feeling like this?
What do you think I should do?
I'd be so grateful for any help on this, because at the moment, my head is such a mess.
Thanks, xxx
Sometimes people just grow apart.
You can't stay with the guy solely because you are afraid of hurting him. The longer you wait, the more hurt he will be. Besides, what about you and what you want in this life?
You shouldn't be afraid of being alone. That is also the wrong reason to stay with someone. You won't be alone. Trust me. What you need to do is be confident in yourself that you don't NEED someone, their acceptance, their approval. You got YOU, your acceptance, your approval.
Make sense?
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how do you get over your first??? Yeah he did do me wrong..he cheated on me with his ex the first week we was going out..he broke up then he starts dating her again...i go back out with him after that we go out for awhile..he takes my virginity...then he tells me he still likes her..
suicide runs through my head who does that to girls...do they do it for fun...he says it was his first time too and he 'cares' about me...he with her now..."they're in love"....omg i've shed so many tears over him...its so hard watching the person you love..love someone else..he said he was gonna try to get over her and we was gonna get back together but i told my mom and she would never let us be together and she had already knew about us having sex....WHATEVER bs....just an excuse...they kiss and hug all the time and i just have to be around when they do that...im breaking down what do i do!?!? he has put me through so much and i know hes gonna come runnin back to me when they break up and i wanna blow him off but its SO HARD...i just wanna move on let him go..but....can someone please help me
Welcome to life, kid. You might as well get used to the feeling of heartbreak, because you will experience it more than once before you find that one guy your heart belongs to.
You don't want to go back to him. He treated you like crap and he used you for sex. So when he comes running back you want to stay strong and tell him to go piss up a rope. Otherwise, you are just going to be knowingly setting yourself up for this same rut over and over with him.
Yah, it's hard to get over someone, but you CAN do it. Keep reminding yourself that you are better than that. You deserve better than someone who treats you like a dog. Remember that he has already made it clear that he will say anything sweet to get what he wants just to leave you hanging in the cold.
As for suicide, he is not worth your life. Nothing and no one is.
Try to find another guy to go on dates with or stick close by friends who are supportive.
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Gigaware® Webcam with Headset (2- pack)
is that a good one? A good webcam?
If so or not, what else is?
please keep it under 30 bucks. :)
and speaking of cameras what is a good brand for DigiCams? Sony what el;se?
I don't know much about webcams, but a good brand of digital camera is Kodak. I got one of those and it works great and takes great pictures. Mine is 6.1 MP and it wasn't cheap to buy, but is well worth the money.
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ok me and my best friend dated the same guy and now we like really hate him and i need a song that i can play for him that will tell him how much i hate him plz help!!!!
xpoetx
Hate Everything About You by Ugly Kid Joe?