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whether to break up or not
14/f
Me and my boyfriend have been dating almost three months now, I liked him for ages. I'm pretty sure I loved him.
But..I don't anymore. I do still like him, but I don't LOVE him.
And it doesn't seem to be working between us. We hardly ever talk and I feel like we don't really understand each other anymore.
And it feels like breaking up with him is the right thing to do, I want to be free, to be single.
But he claims he's still in love with me, and I don't want to hurt him.
See, before we started dating, we were very close friends. And I told myself that whatever happened, I would always stay friends with him. And he means a lot to me. But I feel like I've lost him; and it scares me. It's almost as if we've already split up, I feel awkward when I see him and we sort of give each other awkward looks. And I know now that I've blown it; whether we stay together or break up, we're never going to be close friends like we used to.
But I'm confused, because when we're alone together it's okay, I don't feel as awkward, although I still don't feel like it's working. But the awkwardness isn't there.
But although I feel as if I want to break up with him, at night or in the mornings, when I'm in bed, I often wish he was there with me, so I could lie in his arms. But I wonder if that's just because I want to lie in SOMEONE'S arms, not because I want to lie in HIS arms, if you know what I mean?
I just don't know.
And then there's this girl, who told him she's in love with him, and when I think of them together, it annoys me, and I think, No, he's mine!
But maybe that's because I find it hard to let go of things.
And when I read old (some recent) texts or comments from him, telling me how much he loves or misses me, or how I mean to him, I wish it was like that.
But I think the problem is, I want to be with him like how it USED to be, not now.
But something in me is telling me that it could go back to how it used to.
I'm not even sure if this is how I feel, but it might be.
And although I'd like to be single, I'm scared of being alone. Scared of not having anyone to lie with at night when we have sleepovers with our friends. Scared of not getting the odd, 'i love you' message.
I'm sorry if that didn't make sense much, I'm not surprised if it didn't, I'm so confused at the moment. I really don't know what's going on in my head at the moment.
But, what do you think?
Why do you think I'm feeling like this?
What do you think I should do?
I'd be so grateful for any help on this, because at the moment, my head is such a mess.
Thanks, xxx
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most of the time when you develop feelings for your best friend, and you act on them in some way, it never goes back to being the same.
i think you should try and work on your relationship with him. if you were really ready to let him go, then you wouldn't be thinking about him before you go to bed. and you'd be okay with him being with another girl.
dont give up on him yet, work on it.
hope i helped !
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Sometimes people just grow apart.
You can't stay with the guy solely because you are afraid of hurting him. The longer you wait, the more hurt he will be. Besides, what about you and what you want in this life?
You shouldn't be afraid of being alone. That is also the wrong reason to stay with someone. You won't be alone. Trust me. What you need to do is be confident in yourself that you don't NEED someone, their acceptance, their approval. You got YOU, your acceptance, your approval.
Make sense?
ygs-29/f
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if you've simply lost intrest in eachother...then i think you should break up but still be good friends. and then you might be able to gain your chemistry back. :] hope i helped!
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