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I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months and we really love eachother. We've talked about the whole sex thing and agreed that we'd wait until we were together for a longer period of time. My boyfriend said that he's ready whenever I'm ready but he doesn't want to pressure me into anything that I don't want to do. The thing is, I really AM ready. I know that he is the one that I want to lose my virginity to him and he wants to lose his virginity to me. Every time I see him, I get tempted to do more and more with him but I have to stop myself. It's not that I'm scared it's just that I feel that we haven't been together long enough to be doing anything like that. I trust him and I know he won't hurt me. I don't want to become tempted and do that. Does anyone have any ideas as to how I can avoid myself from being tempted? I can't have sex with him, it's not the right time for us yet. Thanks so much if you can help! If anyone is in or has been in my situation, tell me how you handled it or how you are handling it. (link)
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Wow, that was confusing. lol. Okay, so your ready. I understand that. But you don't think it's the right time. Well, if your worried about the lenth of time you've been dating, don't worry about it. No one is going to judge you about it, no one has to know. And you've been dating him for a while. You love him and trust him and your both ready for sex. If it is timing, don't worry about the whole 6 month thing, worry about timing such is when, and are you prepared (protected) and are you in the right place and time.
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how can i proove to mi boifriend that i love him?..and how can i make him believe me that i didnt cheat on him? (link)
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OKay, well, there are a coupel of ways you can prove to your boyfriend that you love him. Make him a romantic dinner. Candles, YOUR homemade food (not ordered in) and music. Conversation. You can always do the grand gesture thing, like, stand on a table in public, or a chair or whatever, and shout out that you love so and so and will forver. You can also have sex, which is a great way to prove your love to him. And the cheating thing, well, you'll just have to tell him over and over again, that you love him and would never cheat on him.
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Agh... I'm so agitated and confused and depressed at the same time I can barely type this...! Anyways... my gf and I have been going out for about 10 days. My friends and I and her hang out all the time. Well it started last night. My friend was just joking around and he said "I'm like a star in the sky!" (Yeah we're pretty weird sometimes.) And my gf said "If you are then I will love you haha" and this kind of got me down, even though she said she was just kidding. Also, the same day, my friend was just like "My butt hurts." Then she says "Haha let me check that out for you then", and she touched it lightly... In a joking way, but it still didn't feel right.Another thing is, today, when my friend and I were walking towards her, she was like "Hey (friends name)!" And I was thinking to myself... "Eh? :( She didn't even say hi to me..." But... my gf said that she is crazy about me and she really loves me and everything like that, and she said that like the 7th night we were going out... but on msn. =\ Anyways, my question is, does she still like me? Or could she be liking my friend, and not me? I mean, she says she's worried that I will like another girl and dump her in the near future, and she also says that she's afraid to get hurt again, so maybe she will hurt me, and everything will be fine for her? I don't know, but we still held hands and hugged and all the normal stuff we do like that, but it still made me sad... please help... and thanks for reading... (link)
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Hey hun. Okay. I'm not going to say you shouldn't or should be with her. She most likely has feeling for you friend though. You really should bring your girlfriend around your friends unless you really trust her and you know you love each other a lot. But it sounds like she likes your friend. If you want to get her back, hang out just the two of you. And about the first move thing, some girls are shy, and don't really want to do it. lol
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This is a really.. stupid.. question.. but.. here goes anyway:
I want to buy some condoms (im a girl) and i think its kind of embarrassing.. i mean.. i dont want everyone to know im having sex. I cant drive.. and if my sis or parents found out i was buying them.. they would KILL me.. Anyway.. when i work up the nerve to buy them.. whats the best kind to buy... i prefer lifestyles or trojan.. so whats the best.. and cheapest at that.. to buy
thanks! (link)
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Well, a box of condoms usually ranges from 46 to $10 dollars (IN Canada) so they are pretty cheap. If you like Lifestyles and Trogan go with them. Another good kind is Durax. But the prices are different according to what kind of condom you want. Exotic colors, flavored, studded and extra sensitive would be more expensive then the regular, lubricated stuff. Anyways ... have fun. lol
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ok when do guys like really start getting perverted(sex,makeing out)..like do the start at 12,13,14 b/c i kno some guys that are perverted that are like 12 but i dont kno if others are or if its just those guys!!! help i rate good! (link)
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lol. There is no distinct age, and some aren't perverted at all. Most though, it 12 or 13. Whenever they start puberty and all the horomones are rushing and they just start to think "oh, i like tits and ass, I'm goin to get some of that action!" and really, don't take offense to it, because it's just men being men, and you gotta get used to it. Now, I've been one of the guys my whole life, and it's completly normal for guys to act like that at that age. It's also a learning experience, because that's when you really learn what sex is. but there are some guys who don't release the perverted side of them because they find it disrespectful ... or they haven't started puberty yet. lol
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Hey Guys,
Last weekend i went to the movies with my boyfriend. We planned to kiss and make out and all that good stuff. When that moment came up i panicked because it was my first time. After that day i could think of nothing but him and that moment. Now all i want to do is make out with him or at least talk to him about it. I am also afraid that i dont know exactly how to make out with some one. Plz give me tips and should i talk to him?????
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Yeah, you should talk to him. lol. There is no sense of making out with someone if you can't find yourself comfortable enough to talkto him about it. But tips eh? Well, it's just like kissing .. and that comes naturally. You just keep on kissing. And you can kiss him in other areas too, like the neck, the collar bone the chest. Those are some major hot spots for a guy. Just don't drool. lol. To make sure you don't drool all over him when making out, breath while you kiss him. Also, use your hands as well as your lips. Hug him while you kiss him, rub them down his back, his chest, the inside of his leg. He'll love it. Don't be nervous. It's fun!
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what are the chances of a condom having a hole in it?? i had sex with my boyfriend and i know it didnt break cuz i know what that feels like....and nothing has ever happened before.....but like im worried for some reason..... (link)
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There are no chances of a condom having a hole in it. Your boyfriend would have notcied it when he was putting it on, or he would have felt it. If there was a hole it would be the only spot there was air. But if you are really that worried, you can go to your doctor or the hospital in the morning and take a pregnancey test. It only takes a couple of minutes
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sometimes, my armpits sweat for no apparent reason. I dont even have to run around..and they start to sweat...it leaves these horrible sweat marks underneath my armpits and i dont even want to raise my aroms up...does any one have any ideas on how to stop this??? Oh yeah, and they even sweat when it is cold out!!! (link)
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Hey there. It's completly normal for them to do that even when your not exercising. It's your body's natural cooling system. When it's cold out, your body could be hot, and so you sweat. There is an over the counter deodorment that you can get. Just talk to your doctor about it. Or you can see if they have some stuff on the shelf.
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Ok... I am 14/f and I weigh 100 lbs. My friends think I am anarexic and last year my teacher turned me in for anarexia. I eat, alot, do you think I should she a doctor about my weight. (link)
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Yeah, you shou;d. I mean, I have a brother who was 100 pounds at that age, and he ate a lot. And someone in my family kept losing weight and she found out she had a tapeworm, which is a worm in your stomach that eats whatever food you eat, you you won't gain, you lose. But you are staying the same went, whcih is good. It's either you balence it with all the food, or you don't have a tapeworm. Your metabolism is probley really fast.
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i need some advice please!! on thursday there isnt any school, so me and my boyfriend are planning to go out for a movie, and then over 2 his place. its just going to be us to, and of course we will be doing something! we both are ready to loose it, its just that:
1. im scared i COULD get pregnant
2. im just a lil nervous cause i dont know what to do
3. im sorta of on my period, im bleeding just a tiny, and what if i smell bad?! (link)
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Hey there. Okay. Yes, there is ALWAYS a chance of you getting pregnant. I'm guessing you are not on the pill, but even if you were you could still get pregnant. You should probley use condoms, not the glow in the dark kind, because they don't work. Flavored ones are kinda weak. Use Durax or Trogan. Strong and feel natural. Don't be nervous. Everyone has some kind of idea of what they are suppossed to do. Either from tv or something. It all comes natural when you get to the actual moment. If your that nervous, you should be on the bottom, therefore you really don't have to do anything but lay there. lol. I just recently found out that you should wait 2 days until after your period to have sex, because pentration can cause you to bleed again, or just whatever is left comes out when you orgasim. Anyways, one of the ways you canget rid of the little bit of blood that is there is to take a long, warm bath. That would also answer the smelling bad question. And when you have sex, don't be surprised that there'll be a bit of blood there. Your first time usually makes you bleed, but if you use tampons you won't have to worry about that.
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Don't take this the wrong way. I'm 13/f and I'm ok with the regualr sex (WHEN I'M MARRIED) But even though I'm too your to think about it, 69 and oral sex I'm scared of. I just really dont feel comfortable with the idea. I wouldn't wanna lick the boy's thing, and I wouldn't want his tounge "up there" please help me becuase I really am scared. (link)
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hey hun. well, oral sex isn't a requirement. and 69ing is in the oral sex category. Anyways, you don't have to ever do it. But when I was your age I was scared of it too, and thought it would be gross. You may grow out of it like i did. But hey, don't be scared, because you don't have to do it, and whoever your future partner may be, tell them that.
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when u go to the gyno i know that they can tell if your a virgin but can they tell if you masturbate too? (link)
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Hey there. When you go to a gyno, your most likely already lost your virginity, or you have some infection they have to check, because your suppossed to have gyno appointments every year after you have sex. but anyways, no, they can't tell if you masterbate. And plus, even if they did, masturbation is completly normal and natural, so they wouldn't think less of u. Don't worry
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Okay.. I don't know exactly what to do.... I've been friends with this guy for almost 2 years now, and this summer we decided to take our friendship to a new level.. We decided to be "friends with benifits". Now, we didn't do anything until a week before school started, and even then all we did was hug. About 2 or 3 weeks after school started, we hung out one night, and we made out 3 times... Afterwards I told him that I liked him and it made things RLY weird between us. 2 weeks later he told me he doesn't like me like that. (He literally said it just like that)About 3-4 weeks ago, we went outside again, and he felt me up. 2 weeks after that, he asked out this girl that he's only known for 3 weeks, and he told me that he and her made out and whatnot, and it really makes me jealous. I honestly love him. Not puppy love, actual love, I know I do. I really want to be with him, but he "doesn't like me that way" and he has a girlfriend. He also told me that he can't keep going out with her because they live so far apart.... what should I do? Should I wait and see what'll happen? or should I tell him I still really like him? God help me please! I'm 15/f btw.. also, how can I tell if he was just doing all of this (making out, feeling me up) just for kicks, or if he really likes me? (link)
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hey there. I sympathize with you. I really do. You guys were best friends before, and then you decided to become friends with benefits. hmm ... and you fell fopr him but he doesn't feel the same way ... (I'm sorry for repeating this, I'm trying to sort it out in my head). In times like these you wish you had a spell to make him feel the same way right? Well, this friends with benefits thing .. i know a lot of people who do the same thing, but i don't really agree with it. I'm not saying what you are doing is wrong, but someone always ends up hurt during these kinds of relashinships. It's almost impossible for you to be intimate with someone and not have feelings for them. What I think you should do, is slow down on the intimate part of the friendship, and work on the whole, you two being best friends again. Flirt a little bit, but don't be all over him. Show yourself a little bit more and maybe he'll become interested. It seems he has already solved the problem of the girlfriend in that way, so that's over. I believe that if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. I know your probley confused right now, and sad, i mean, who can blame you, your in love with someone who doesn't feel the same way ... but i hope everyting works out, this is confusing for me now. lol
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Ever since i could remember my parents havent been exactly intimate i guess you could say. They have always seemed happy together and i always thought they would be together forever. Then a few days ago my mom told me that she was having problems with my dad and that they might get divorced. i was shocked and hurt. it killed me that i couldnt do anything about. and the worst part of it is i am the only one out of my family that knows how my mom feels. my dad and brother are clueless. i dont know how to handle this HUGE secret on my shoulders. how can i handle this horrible situation. please someone tell my what to do! (link)
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tell someone, like a friend or your brother, or even your dad if your up to it. I had to go through a smialar situation, and I told my brother, and then after a week of us knowing, I told my mom everything. You feel super guilty afterwards, but it's better to feel guilty because something is out in the open that if it isn't.
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Me and my boyfriend are trying to get me pregnant but it seems to be not working. I just got out of collage and im living in an apartment with him and we have sex every other day .. it isnt working.. is there something I shouldnt be doing?
Thank you.
Victoria (link)
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Hey. Well, there are a couple of things you can consider. First of all, have you been on birth control recently? Because if you just got off of it, my doctor said it could take up to a year for your body to get used to not being protected .. but that depends on what kind of birth control you were on, if any at all. Another thing is, that a lot of women, and a lot of men, can't produce children. And it's not like that makes you less of a person or anything, but some bodies are not capiable to handle the stress or pregnancey, or don't have strong enough sperm to reach the egg ... Also, it could be a mental thing. You may be doubting the whole kid buisness, or you living situation. Maybe, mentally, you want to be married before you have children? Or maybe your body is under too much stress. It could be a number of things. Go to a doctor and she/he can give you some tips on how to increase your chances of pregnancy, and you and your boyfriend can get tested to see if your bodies are capable of making a child. Good Luck.
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Guys, I am in late twenties and old enough to analyze whats bad and whats right. I had enough sex in my life. But I still feel so much attracted towards girls as well as women. Each female is different than other and all seems to be very attractive. I mean sometimes I feel, I should get some strange woman to have love, which never happened. Sometimes I myself feel bad about my feelings. Is it because I have extra sex feelings? I am not sure whether other people of my age group feels the same. Please share your experience. (link)
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Yeha, it's probley normal. If your in your late twenties, it could be just because you haven't found someone you can be with the rest of your life. When you find that person, sex will be so amazing, you won't have all these "extra sexual feelings". Another reason could be because of the sex you've had in the past. I'm not saying it wasn't good, but maybe it was just all the same to you. I read an article once and it said that sometimes women are tempted to have sex with other women because women know what women like, that sorta thing. You might just want to try something new. And another possibility, you could be a lesbian. Lesbians can easily have sex with a man and not be revolted by it .. it just won't feel as amazing as it's brought out to be ... but it's completly normal for gays and lesbians to come out at a later age. There could be a wide range of possibilitys.
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ok well lately ive really had the urge to have sex. im a female and gonna be 15 soon and i know its too early but i dont know what to do. i dont even know how to have sex but ive been having dreams about it and everything. i dont want to be a slut! please help (link)
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Well, by the sounds of it your not ready .. your just horny. lol. And just because someone has sex at a young age doesn't make them a slut. But anyways ... i guess you can masterbate. lol. Or have other forms of sex. Like oral.
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ok, I was 12 whenever I first had sex...( I know Kinda young but...I was turning 13 soon) Well...it hurt SUPERSUPER bad but they say that after it hurts it's supposed to feel godd...but it didn't...it never once felt good...then the second time (i've only done it 2 times) it still didn't feel good..it kind hurt..adn once again NEVER once felt good?!?! whats wrong with me?!?! (link)
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Nothing is wrong with you. First of all, yes, it's suppossed to hurt your first time, and the whole way through. And it will hurt your 2nd and 3rd maybe too. With me it wasn't really spaced out, and it begun to feel good. Now the way you make it sound it was a while coming before you had sex again. So it's going to hurt again. Anyways, the first couple of times it hurts, but your body gets used to it, and it starts to feel really, really good.
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has anyone here become pregnant at a young age? please tell me ur story, im 15 and 3 weeks pregnant, n i dont know if i should get an abortion. what did ur parents say and do? (link)
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I've never been pregnant, but i've had a couple scares in the past couple of months. PLease don't get an abortion. I know lot's of teen mom's, and even more who decided to go with adoption. When my parents found out I was having sex, my dad just laughed it off, and my mom spazzed. lol. I'm not saying all dad's will laugh it off ... most will spaz. But it isn't as bad as most people think. They will actually try to help you
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i hope you can help because everythings really weird and i cant figure out what to do. ok there's this guy and i met him about to years ago over the summer. we went out for about a year all together (it was an off and on relationship & he had other girls and i dated other guys) but i cant shake the fact that im in love with this kid... even though its been about 3 months since the last break-up and hes had 3 other girls. i like too other guys and the both like me. ones older ones my age (im 15 - if it helps any) the older one i like more ... alot more and hes always there but he wants sex. the one my age we hang out and always have fun but im not quite sure if hes on the same page as me... please help!! soon
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I think you should totally go for the younger guy. The older guy seems like an ass, no offense of course. But if all he wants is sex, do you really want a guy like that. The younger seems like he can be a boyfriend and a best friend at the same time, which is a great, great , great thing. AMazing combination. And if it works outs, and it's a healthy relashinship, you'll get to the sex part, and i think it's totally better to have fun and have a relashinship before the sex, becofe jumping right in.
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