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has anyone here become pregnant at a young age? please tell me ur story, im 15 and 3 weeks pregnant, n i dont know if i should get an abortion. what did ur parents say and do?
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Ya i am 15 years old and i was 14 when i thought i was pregnate... it was scarry but i dont belive in abortions they just arnt right but n e ways i took an pregnacy test and it said i was pregnate i was scared but like 4 weeks later i started my period and i wasnt pregante so i was happy but if u do ever get pregnate dont hide it from your parents it just make them more upset dont hide anything from them!
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Hi hun. I dont have a personal story but I have my friends. I was there through it all. Literaly. The night she was concieved I was there.
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A few years ago my best friend Melissa* had a party. She was in the 5th grade. It was all good til the drugs came around and since Melissa was the guest of honor she got first dibs. So her and her boyfriend Matthew* got high on X. They went down in the basement and started having sex just like almost everyone else.
Then about 4 weeks later i get a call from Melissa saying shes got some real bad news and she had to come over. Well she came and we talked and she told me she was pregnant. She had just turned 11. So me and her went down to the clinic and stuff and got her all this information about teenage pregnancy and abortions. Well we read it all and she then realized how unprepared she was for this baby. She didnt want to tell her mom or anyone else because it would give her a really bad reputation (as you might have guessed).
Well she went 5 and a half months before her mom found out and she went balistic. And you could see how much pain she was in.
She had really bad contractions for about 6 weeks and then the baby came. She was a kinda big baby so she was in labor for about 16 hours.
I know second hand stories dont do much good but i come from a long line of teenage mothers and a neighborhood or teen pregnancy. I presonally dont think you should get an abortion. Its the worst thing you will ever do to yourself.I know it may seem like a good outlet now but in the end you WILL regret it. About the parents I wouldnt worry too much unless they kick you out. In a perfect setting they would be very supportive in this even though they did not support or agree with your choice to have sex. If you need to talk about it or want some helpful advice you can always IM me CaNdiShOpGurll (AIM).
I hope my story helped a little bit and congratulations on your baby. I know it may seem like a burden now, but im sure he or she will be beautiful.
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i knw this is a long time since you posted the question and i just hopped you kept it i was 15 when i found out i was so scared but now my baby girl is just over one month old.i was so scared and was so close to geting rid of it but i didnt..i wrote it in a lettre before i went to school so i didnt actally tell them.they were abgry at first but they just had to go with the flow..i hope that ive helped and gud luck wiv everthing my email is bexhugs@hotmail.com email me with what u did
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do not kill a baby becuase of your mistake! If you are not able to support this baby, then give it up for adoption, theyre so many people that would want it. just dont have an abortion!
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e-mail me *&* I'll tell you more!xx_blueeyedbitch_xx@yahoo.com
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I was pregnant at 13, and had a baby girl at 14. I am 17 now, and everyday I look at her and wonder what it wouldve been like if i wouldve gotten an abortion. It still makes me cry sometimes, just thinking about it. I dont think you should get an abortion, you might regret it, and it might make you feel guilty. My mom isnt really a mom, she didnt care i was pregnant, but she helped me more than ever. She just wasnt logically/mentally there for me. I dont think you should get an abortion =) Hope i helped
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one of my best friends is pregnant right now and she's going thru so much in her life.. i would say.. please don't get an abortion it will give you depression.. if ANYTHING give up the baby for adoption.. but it would be nice if you could keep it.. ABORTION is NOT the thing to do.. you did the dirrty deed.. so now.. u can pay the price.. please.. PLEASE.. don't get an abortion.. EVEN if ur parents tell the doctors to give you one.. it's still YOUR choice.. KEEP THE BABY!
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dont get an abortion. go for open adoption if you cant keep the baby. if you do open adoption you can still have contact with your baby and thats wat your baby would want no matter wat, to no who his or her father is
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omg dont get an abortion.. that is so sad... ur killing a baby... imagine if your mom had dont that to you, you wouldnt be alive... whatever u do, dont get an abortion... i mean u wanted sex, you got sex, and now FACE THE CONSEQUENCES OF SEX! DURRR
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hey,i've never been pregnant but i know this girl who had a baby when she was in 6th grade. she had the baby and her mom was mad at first and they cried together over it but her mom was there for her all the way. i don't think you should get an abortion. i'm not saying it's homocidal but ur taking away your own flesh and blood. if you decide to go through with it, you can either give the baby up for adoption or keep it. keeping the baby may be hard work and you might need help from your parents but they will be supportive and will do almost everything in their power to help you and your baby. good luck with your decision and if you need anything else, im me on sxybellydancer91. hope i helped...*MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*
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You may be young, and it will be hard on you, but DO NOT get an abortion. It is hard on your body, and to think killing something you created. I don't know what to say, but be careful, and don't let others make the decision for you!
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I wasnt preganant but my cousin was raped almost a year ago and she decided to keep the baby.I'm not sure if you agree or disagree with abortions but if think thats something you might wanan do you should look into.I know you can go through with having the baby then picking the parents for your child and it can be a family in your area that you could even go visit your child.There's certain programs that will help you with that.You might want to disguss abortions with your doctor ,i know you can go to them privately and talk and thier not allowed to tell your parents about your conversation.About your parents they may get mad @ you but they'll pry be there to help you through it and telling them always makes them hapier you let them know and earning trust.Hope i helped and i'd be happy to help anyway i can.
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Hey... im very sorry to hear this, i am a 15 year old girl. I have never been pregnant but after reading all the comments on here saying "I've never been pregnant but u shouldnt have an abortion." none of these people know what its like. I mean i cant say that i do... but i am very much for abortions and i'd say that if u dont want to carry this baby for 9 monthes, possibly leave school, go through horrible labor, then id say that u should have an abortion. if u need to talk at all.. leave a comment on my site and we can talk through IM... my site is "KimRose" Hope I helped...
~KiKi
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Don't let people tell you you're "fucked up" or whatever because you want to have an abortion. Those kinds of people don't think about the lives of people after their born. You never see an SUV with a pro-life bumper-sticker driving through the ghetto. Trust me. You have to think about the future - not only yourself, but the child's. It's best to do it ASAP though and make your decision quickly.
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I myself have never been pregant .. but i feel that abortion would be the wrong way to go because its even though its not a baby yet its still has a beating heart. no one can tell you what to do really its up to u to decide. good lucck!
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nover get an abortion and either keep ur babi or giv it uppppp and next time USE A CONDOM!
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I've never been pregnant, but i've had a couple scares in the past couple of months. PLease don't get an abortion. I know lot's of teen mom's, and even more who decided to go with adoption. When my parents found out I was having sex, my dad just laughed it off, and my mom spazzed. lol. I'm not saying all dad's will laugh it off ... most will spaz. But it isn't as bad as most people think. They will actually try to help you
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ok...in my decision..abortion is the worst thing...you have to talk to your parents..and come up with a decision..why abortion if you can put him/her up for adoption? or even keep him/her..i know your really young..but abortion isnt the answer...like i said, talk to your parents about it..
goodluck
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Girl don't worry what others say keep the baby complications in birth are rare now and they have C section so no worries...it's maybe hard having a baby in the belly and making the right choice but believe me it'll even out at the end u'll see it will be a little miracle of you own. getting pregnant can be hard for pplz...and tell you parents they'll listen to you...but make sure their in a good mood when u tell them...hope I helped
ask advice anytime---Ninik
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Don't get an abortion. One of my close friends had a baby at 15 yrs old. Yes, it is scary but you will make it through. I am a new father myself and , even at 31 yrs old, I was still scared. But my little boy is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. Please don't get an abortion. Find someone who you can trust. Hopefully your parents. This will be tough but you CAN do this.
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This is really a question for a Planned Parenthood (or similar) counselor. No matter what you decide to do, this is going to affect you for the rest of your life, and it's really better in the hands of a professional. How much you involve your parents really depends on what kind of people they are and your relationship with them.
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i've never been pregnant or have sex, my advice would be not to get an abortion. Ur distroying a life if u get an abortion. I almost think of it as murder. Please don't get an abortion and kill a helpless soul. : )
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I don't agree in abortions. I've never been pregnant nor have I had sex... my cousin who is 24 had sex tunprotected because she wanted a baby and now she regrets it because the father doesn't want to have anything to do with the baby at all. So now she's stuck with a beautiful 4 month old girl named Ella and she's miserable taking care of her by herself. I don't think that you should have an abortion but since you are so young and you have the rest of your life ahead of you I do think that you should put the baby up for adoption. There are so many couples in this world that would love to have a baby and aren't fortunate enough to have one. When you tell your parents about it (which you have to do if you want to get an abortion) they are most likely going to say that you HAVE to get an abortion. Please don't get one though, it not only kills the baby but it CAN kill you as well. If you want kids in the future, having an abortion can mess up your uterus and you won't ever be able to get pregnant again. I really hope you make the right decision. But please, for the sake of the baby, don't get an abortion. You don't know what that kid could be... Hope this helped... if you need anything just drop one in my box and I'll be sure to answer.
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Never been pregnant...my advice...Get an Abortion. Seen it happen to many other girls...your life will be more difficult than it should and you'll miss out on a lot...plus you might cause harm to baby's life in the process. You'll miss out on your whole life if you have a child early. Sorry. I'm blunt...i can't help it.
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Alright, have you told your parents yet? And No babe, don't get an abortion. Seriously, if you're going to have a kid, take care of it. How would you murder your own blood? Take care and love that baby. I haven't had a kid yet, and i won't until marriage, but if your going to be doing that stuff and you get pregant, deal with the consequences don't try to clear them. You just wasted a baby's life, YOUR baby's life. How could you even think about abortion?
Emi*
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My mom became pregnant when she was fourteen. She and my dad decided to marry and keep the baby. I absolutely DO NOT think that you should get an abortion. I think that you are old enough to take care of the child, even if you are pretty young. It won't be easy, but you owe it to the kid to at least TRY to be a mother to it.
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DO NOT get an abortion, and let me tell you why:
It is so going to affect you mentally for the rest of your life, you are going to have this eternal wound in your soul that is always going to ache and you're going to cry out for your child afterwards, that you chose to murder. You are going to see other mothers with their babies and you are going to cry and won't be able to focus. I don't care how young you are, you need to have this baby. You need to face the consequences of your actions and be strong for this child that is dependent on you keeping it alive! Do not tear this innocent being from it's warm, comforting existance just because you decided to make that horrible choice. Think of this child inside of you. You can do this. 15 years old or not, God would never give you anything that you can't handle. And if you really cannot have this child in your life at this time because you are so worried about school or whatever, then give this child up for adoption, or maybe you have a parent that could take temporary custody of their grandchild until you are 18 and finished high school. Courageous mothers give their children a chance at life. Whatever you choose, DO NOT CHOOSE ABORTION; the consequences of murder are far more SEVERE then taking care of this beautiful perfect innocent angel that you are going to fall in love with at first sight. If you have this baby, it will all be so worth it. If you choose to kill your child, life will be so empty and cold. Please, don't do it, and one more thing:DO NOT LET ANYONE TALK YOU INTO IT. Even if it's your parents or a friend or the father, you need to say, "No, I am going to love and care for my child, thank you. I am a strong young lady, and my baby needs me, so you can be supportive or you can stand back cuz I'm having a baby!" You and your child will make a beautiful team. Believe me. Go look at pictures of abortions online, you can find some. That should change your mind. If you need to talk to someone please email me. I would love to answer any questions you have about pregnancy. I have an 11 month old son so I know a lot. Also, get the book called,"What to Expect when you're Expecting." It is very helpful. Good luck, and steer clear of the hell that is abortions. Please!! I'll be praying for you and your baby.
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NEVER get an abortion that is takin a life from an innocent soul away! suppose that your parents decided to have an abortion think about it you would never b here today!! THANK YOUR PARENTS!
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i have not been pregnat at all but dont get a abortion
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Do not get an abortion. That's just wrong. If you have tha baby, n you decide that you really dont want it, n you kno that you cant support it then put it up for adoption, just dont have an abortion..thats just like killing your own kid :( I dont kno what your parents are like, but mine are supportive n help me in anyway possible, n they kno that I make my own decisions. But if youre going to keep tha baby, you need to make sure you will be able to take care of it. This means not being able to go to parties, hang out with friends often, have enough money for food, diapers n all that stuff. A baby is a big responsibility, n you need to make sure you can support it. Also, make sure tha father of tha baby will be there to help n support you n tha baby. If you ever need to talk just leave one in my inbox, n I'll be happy to help you. Goodluck. xOx
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Talk to your parents and tell them that you're pregnant. I would say don't have an abortion.. either keep the baby or put it up for adoption but I think abortion is murder. It's your choice though
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I've never been pregnant but i'd say get an abortion i know everyones all ANTI abortion but when you're 15 and have a kid you get looked down upon you are thought of less and you lose a lot of respect for yourself. Unless you think you're ready for a kid I wouldnt do it. best wishes.
-holly-
hope i helped
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I don't think anyone should tell you what to do with your body. It's YOUR choice if you want to get an abortion or not and it's YOUR life. I'm 16 and putting myself in your shoes I would have a few options.
1. Get the abortion and go on with my normal teenage life
2. Have the baby and eather
a) raise it myself which would be hard or
b) put it up for adoption.
You also have to think about if you would be comfortable going to school when it started getting noticable that your were pregnant, but i think some schools might let you do indapendent study (you go once a week and get all your work)
Make the choice YOU think will work best for you.
I'm here for you if you need any more advice!
Love,
Lauren
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okay ive never been pregnant bt NO DONT GET AN ABORTION ITS BABY MURDER! WUTS WRONG WID U DONT EVEN CONSIDER IT U SHOULDNT HAVE GOTTEN KNOCKED UP!
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Well, I wouldn't kill the baby, becuase that's really cruel. I have heard of kids who have been pregnant at 13. Maybe you could have your mom take care of the baby, or put it up for adoption. I'm sorry, I just think abortion is really cruel because you're killing someone. But no offense, you weren't so smart as to have sex so young. It's really irrisponsable.
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I havn't been pregnant at a young age, and hopefully ii won't, but never get an abortion!! Everyone has the right to live, and that would be soo evil and rude to a baby. I am not sure if ii helped at all, but just don't get an abortion!
Muahsz . Katie
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well ive never been pregnate but i know ppl that has been wen they were 13 & 14...they had one of those things i fergot wut itz called but where u get the baby cut out of u instead of regular labor....i dont believe in abortion...maybe u shood sit down and talk to yer parents about wut u shood do.
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