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Temptation
I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months and we really love eachother. We've talked about the whole sex thing and agreed that we'd wait until we were together for a longer period of time. My boyfriend said that he's ready whenever I'm ready but he doesn't want to pressure me into anything that I don't want to do. The thing is, I really AM ready. I know that he is the one that I want to lose my virginity to him and he wants to lose his virginity to me. Every time I see him, I get tempted to do more and more with him but I have to stop myself. It's not that I'm scared it's just that I feel that we haven't been together long enough to be doing anything like that. I trust him and I know he won't hurt me. I don't want to become tempted and do that. Does anyone have any ideas as to how I can avoid myself from being tempted? I can't have sex with him, it's not the right time for us yet. Thanks so much if you can help! If anyone is in or has been in my situation, tell me how you handled it or how you are handling it.
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Oh wow.. trust me.. if you tell him your ready.. HE WILL okay it.. I mean he's a guy.. all guys are the same.. lol.. Go for it! As LONG as you KNOW you love him and he loves you.. But be prepared.. once u have sex.. U'll never wanna stop.. it's THAT good!
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Wow, that was confusing. lol. Okay, so your ready. I understand that. But you don't think it's the right time. Well, if your worried about the lenth of time you've been dating, don't worry about it. No one is going to judge you about it, no one has to know. And you've been dating him for a while. You love him and trust him and your both ready for sex. If it is timing, don't worry about the whole 6 month thing, worry about timing such is when, and are you prepared (protected) and are you in the right place and time.
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I think you should talk about it. Say, when we . . . and talk about ways to make it special. That way it's in the future and when it comes around it you'll be even more excited and it will be really special. Ask me if you need more advice...
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I guess the biggest defence against anything is your brain. Spend some time alone really thinking about what it means to be ready for sex - it sounds like some of the pieces have fallen into place, while the timing issue is still big in your mind.
I'd try to figure out why timing is so important, and when you think is an appropriate amount of time to wait. If you are perfectly clear in your head about your expectations, it's easier to let your boyfriend know what you're thinking about - and also easier to not slip into temptation.
Be honest with yourself about your wants and needs, and then share them with your boyfriend. If you both are waiting till a certain special time and are committed to that, then it might be easier than you sort of fighting alone against all the pressure.
Good luck.
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i haven't been in exactly you're situation, but it's been similar. my boyfriend and i were going out for about 6 months when we both realized that we loved each other, and it was around that time that he told me he wanted to have sex to me. at that point, i knew i wasn't ready, and he told me that he would wait until i was. it turned out that we ended up waiting a whole nother year before we had sex, but that's because we broke up for a little while, and things were a little shaky. but in the end we were in love and we both knew that we were the ones we wanted to lose our virginity to. i told him that, and we decided to wait until prom (i know how cleche), and i had no regrets. in your case, if you truely love and and he truely loves you, and you believe that you're ready, then i don't see why you should wait. but it seems that you're a little ambivilent about it, saying it's not the right time for you two. if you both are ready, then there's no better time. think about it, and make sure you really are ready, and then tell him, and maybe you guys decide to wait a couple weeks or months, or maybe you decide to do it then and there. i hope this helped, and remember, be safe! let me know what happens!
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AH! You must be going crazy! If you have ANY doubts WHATSOEVER do not go through with it. Along with the emotional attachment you gain from having sex it is also a very serious thing. You may be physically ready to have sex but not emotionally ready. You'll know when the right time is. And when you do finally do it, itll be special to you and not just cuz you felt like it was the next logical step. Waiting also strengthens the relationship between you and your boyfriend. Best of luck-i hope everything works out for you.
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just f-ing screw him beeoch..
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tell him that you want to but u feel like it isnt the right time for you now. tell him that you feel like you need to know him better. the biggest mistake for him would be to resist. most of the time, if a man has sex with a women and she wasnt 100% sure it was the right time, they lose respect for their partner. be very careful.
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I am sort of in your situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, and it is only the second time I have had a boyfriend without sex in the picture. He let me know up front that it wasn't going to happen unless we get married. Which is good and bad. That doesn't mean we don't kiss and cuddle, however.
Having a relationship without worrying about sex and its consequences has been wonderful. I had no idea I could deal with it this long. I was extremely concerned, but hey the guy has these wonderful hands...So after a few months it gets easier and easier. I am not saying we aren't tempted and we do confess to each other how bad we would like to throw one another down, that happens. And actually its kinda fun. So hold on and hope for the best.
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Just remind yerself its not the right time...but good luck wen the right time comes....just keep thynkin u can do wutever u want except until its time for sex! good luck!
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I didn't want to respond, because I can't really help you, and I tried to put myself in your situation, but I am confused as well.
You can try to think about something else...and there is a saying that chocolate helps. Your doing the right thing, and when YOU feel it's time, then just do it. Otherwise, it won't feel as good.
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Wow! Gurl im in ur position right now! My boifriend and I have talked about it and im just like you!!! everything u have explained is what i am like right now. I still do things with him and i want to have sex with him too and we feel like we need to lose it to each other. I am ready anytime and he is too. We havent been together that long. I just still do things with him and do phone sex it helps me. But if your touching each other and want to have sex really bad just stop! and breathe and think is this right? am i ready? if not then dont youll know when your limit is. Im always tempted too. But once your down being tempted dont you think to urself. Yes i wasnt ready then but i liked doing things with him. You'll know when your ready if you are thinkin like this. You let it happen when your ready. But wait! please its better. So you know it wasnt a mistake if you guys ever break up! So if you need to ask me anything else you let me know iight chicka! Im here for you 24/7! Yes.. sooo just think about it. Talk to your love one and let him know that if u do let him hanging when he is rlly horny and want to have sex and you back out.. its because your not ready and that when you are ready it will be the "BEST" because you made him so tempted and making him want it more n more. So when the time comes it will be "AWESOME" so just sit down and think about it and then talk to your love one. Ttul hun! im always here.
<3 Sammy Sam
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just talk to him and tell him u like him a lot. he'll understand. tell him ur feelings.
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I think your doing the right thing and waiting! i think that u shood just tell him how ur feeling. maybe he feels the saem way! then u guys wont have to kiss n stuff wen it temts u to go further! ive never been in that situation, but thats how i wood handle it! hope this helps...briana<<33
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