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//Name:Cale
//Age:15
//Bday:March 25
//Color:Orange
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i think my boyfriend poped my cherry am i still a virgin

"popping of the cherry" is actually the tearing of a thin piece of skin inside of your vagina called the "hymen". The tearing of this skin, just like a cut on ur arm's skin, causes blood. The loss of virginity is defined by the tearing of this skin and any penis-in-vagina contact. So if you had intercourse, no, you are no longer a virgin.

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I'm open to new ideas and Wiccan seemed interesting to me. My mother's not open minded at all and so I can't talk to her about it. I'm afraid to talk about it with my family because they are all close minded along with my friends. I don't mind that I want to persue wiccan. I wanted to know if anyone here was into Wiccan and I would like to talk to you guys...

Hello theree. Well i am 15 years old, and one of the few straight boys that i have found to be into Wicca. I just decided to read random questions just cause i was bored and to pass the time, but when i read some of the responces you were getting, especially the one from protossc541, i was just slightly angered and upset. They sound like they know a wicca who is purely into Wicca for the sake of using spells and magick, and tho that is a part of wicca, it is not the soule purpose for the belief. I am a former christian who could just never force myself to belive in god, and then i stumbled across wiccan and it has truly been a blessing in my life. protossc541 told you about her friend who says she can "visit mars" and "ride on her broom stick". to me it sounds like her friend is disgrassing the wiccan culture, Wicca is about the belief in the power and strength of nature and the elements, and the power you hold in yourself. I would love to be able to teach you what i know. My screen name is CALExSCREAMxIT. i would LOVE too teach you what i know, PLEASE IM me sometime.

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Okay, I've been suffering by myself with the effects of what I belive to be depression, or some pretty dang extreme teenage hormones. Tonite, I decided that I wanted to get help, because I'm scared of what might happen if I didn't. I told my best friend about it, and I was just met with blank stares and awkward silences. So I walked back home, with barely a word exchanged between us, and a few minutes later she called me. All she said was please calm down, and then another empty blank silence before I finally said that I'd talk to her tomorrow. I'm unsure of where to go next, and I'm beginning to think its a mistake I ever said anything. Should I be angry at my friend for not really saying anything, and looking at me like I was some sort of freak?

yes alot of teens go through this exact same situation. your not the only one going through this. Now this could as you were saying just be, being a teenager. Or it could be some kind of psycological inbalance. And either way... its a very good step that you're taking towards getting help so you wont go down the many paths other teens have. I dont think you should be angry with your friend. The situation you put her in was probobly a little stunning to her. Cause as for many... you most likely dont show it very much. So she was probobly slightly taken back by these thoughts of your depression. Some friends would jump all over it it would advice and some just arent very good with the right words. Give her time to think about what she wants to say to you... and good luck finding the help. I honor your courage. Hope it helped.

Cale

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i am 17 and i live in ny. i want to get a tattoo i was wondering how old i have to be. my mom said she dont care if i get one bc she wants one too. were thinking about getting them at the state fair. thanks for your help!

yea thats the way it goes. im pretty sure that in all states if you're a minor you have to have a parent or legal guardian present, or just an adult. I doubt they check your birth certificate to see if there really your parents or such. its the same rules that apply to piecings. hope it helped.

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well there are those night where i cry n cry i just think about me dying. n i really am ready for death even though i will miss my family. no what you need to understand is i dont feel like this at day time only at night ill cry sometimes n i want to die. im not afraid of death im ready. ill talk to god n tell him yell( i talk to him from my mind) i wan to die. i dont need any profesionals to ehlp me. but y shouldnt i die u tell me?

alright well im assuming your a teenager. cause this is a typical feeling of a teenager. and i kno exactly how you're feeling. for some reason the night just brings on a feeling. I dont know. maybe the sun makes things cheerier, but then when it goes down and all becomes dark things get more depressing. The dark probobly is making you feel alone. Lighting can affect your feelings. You just need to find something to do instead of concentrating on this sadness ur having at night. take a walk, call a friend, do something to get ur mind off of whatever is gettin you upset.

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I've been going out with this guy for almost 2 months. He's amazing. He's good looking, Funny, Smart and basically everything I want in a guy. Except, He's 2 years younger than me. He's really mature though. If he tells his mom we're going out he'll get in trouble and have to break-up with me and it kind of bothers me cause his mom keeps questioning him why he calls me and why I call him. I really dont know what to do.. Can someone please give me some good advice? I rate really good. Thanks!

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alright well first of all... hiding things is never a good idea. cause eventually his mother will find out whats really going on and she'll have to deal with it but she'll probobly be mad just because her son was hiding it from her. honesty is always the best policy. and he needs to stand up to his mom. i understand shes just lookin out for his best interest... but how much harm could you possibly do to him. Now i would understand if u had a criminal record or something (which i hope u dont)but, he needs to take a strong stance and tell her the truth. he needs to tell her exactly how he feels about you, and he needs to tell her that she cant controll the way he feels and who he can love. just dont be tooo hostile... cause hey.. thats still his mom. you donnt want her to be overwhelmed or feel disrepected. make sure she gets the point, but he should still listen to her concerns and have a compromise. hope i helped.

cale

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ok well I have this friend and i really think he is gay but idk what do u think i should do

If u really wanna know ask him i guess. But what is the problem if he is? Hes the same person. I dont have any gay friends (im also only 13 and i dont know ANY 13 year old gay kids) so i dont really know what ur feeling. But i dont see the big deal.

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i think its coming to the point in my relationship with my boyfriend where we should be taking it further...like giving head or sumin like that...i just want to know, if someone can explain how to do it and how to do it good, just in case if it gets to that point.

Ok this is how it all goes down. And neone who reads this do not judge me! I watch SUE JOHANSON on the SUNDAY NIGHT SEX SHOW! lol. Ok first you take his penis and manually stimulate it and then u put it in your mouth (put it however far down your comfortable but watch out for the gag reflex cause itll ruin the moment if u throw up on him) and then just let your spit run down his penis for a second and then start the head motion. Up and down side to side. However u want it. Keep in mind the first time u do it might not b real great for him but the more u do it the more u know what ur doing.PLEASE RATE!

Cale

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hey, I just lost my virginity like, 12 hours ago, and I was wondering if it was normal to be swollen down there Because i was really sore so i stuck one of my fingers in there and it was really swollen. Is that normal?

In some cases it is normal. You could have been a little too rough and it could have agitated the clitarous because the clitarous is FULL of nere endings, it could b since your a virgin your vaginal walls are too tight so the stretching caused swelling, or if u used a condom (WHICH I HOPE YOU DID!!!!!) u could be allergic to the lubrication or to the rubber. The next time try an unlubricated latex condom instead of rubber and by ur own lubrication because sometimes the condom lubrication is cheap. Or if u didnt use a condom you could b allergic to his natural lubrication (pre cum)and if thats the case then u need to use a condom so that the pre cum doesnt come in contact with your genitals. PLEASE RATE!

Cale

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hey i asked the question about being 13 and pregnant well i just found out im having twins!!! my question is wht do they do in a c-section people r tellin me in to tiny and might have to get a c-section, nd i just wanna no like is it more or less painful, and wht do they do! ill rate u, i need advice!! thnx

A C-Section is when they make an incision (cut) in the stomach and through the placent so that they can take your baby out that way. There probally doing this for you because since your only 13 your not quite finished with puberty so your vaginal walls cant stretch as much. And in most cases they put you to sleep during a C-section so you wont feel any pain during it at all... but in some cases they leave you awake. But im sure if u asked for it they would knock you out but it may cost more cause then they need to get an Anasteziologist. U may feel discomfort when you wake up tho.

Cale

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I was at the beach last week walking around bearfoot. Now my feet are pealing like crazy and look just awful. Is there anything I can do for them?

Yes i have the same problem with my feet. I am a guytho and dont really care that much but my mom tells me if it ever bothers my that putting like hand mosutrizing cream on them helps!

Cale

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hi well i have some questions about sex and puberty and things like that which are pretty graffic for the sight. so can any knowledgable guy mind answring some of my questions? just give me your advice column . mods pls dont delete please because im trying not to waste time by asking you a graffic q with will be deleted. thanks

Im a 13 year old boy and i know everything there is to know about sexual health, sexual knoweledge, or w/e u need.

Cale

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whats ur problem??

LOL. Hey I am the advicenator! Im the one who asks about problems. LOL! I have to many to count. Cant get into it all.

Cale

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How many people are on a typical volleyball team? And what are the names of the positions, and describe what each postition does.

typiccaly i guess there are 9 ppl on a volleyball team (pretty sure but not 100%) and there are no positions really. THe only position is in the back right hand corner... that person is the server. BUt since u switch everytime ur team gets the ball theres no way there could be positions. Basically there all the same thing just playin in different spots. Hoped this help and have fun playin V-Ball!

Cale

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When me and my boyfriend first got together he asked me how long i wanted to be a virgin and i said until i was atleast 16.. well we have been together so long and i am ready to go that far with him but we made a promise to wait until i was 16.. long story.. I confronted him and he said i wanna see if we can keep our promise.. i really want to loose my virginity to him.. what should I do?

Hello, first of all i have to say i really aplaud u cause not many high school girls can keep there pants up that long. So nice job and its totally understandable and NATURAL for u too want to move further in this relationship. But keep in mind that hes not gonna be with u forever... as much as that may hurt... its highschool and things wont last. And having sex also come with emotion distress like did u look stupid... did u hurt him... didnt u "perform" well. Just all the worries and of course there the "day after call". Just think about if ur ready to give it to him... and if u r... then approach him again. Im sure hes dyin to do the same but he thinks it makes him seem more caring if he wants to keep the promise. GO FOR IT!

Cale

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What do you get guys for gifts????

Hey I dont know how old the guy is u want to get a gift but if ur asking this question im guessin ur somewhere around my age. U can get him jewelry... the kind depends on what style he is... if hes a punk or a goth get him one of those spike thingers (not real big or it looks a little freaky). If hes a prep, surfer, or maybe even a skater hena or pooka shell neklaces are great! I own one myself! LOL. If you dont want to do that maybe think of an inside joke u guys might have and get him a gift to represent that... even though hes a guy we still enjoy thought behind a gift plus itll give him a good chuckle. Hope this helps!

Cale

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Okay well their is this boy at my school and we have gone out and broke up alot! Well now i think im startin to really like him again and he likes me to ! Im tired of breakin up and all but i really like him! Should i go out with him or say No??
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Boy TrouBle!!

Hey, I think i can give u excellent advice on this cause i am in the exact same situation. Except i am a boy. So its a different side of the story. Me and this girl went out for like 2 months and we loved eachother but i broke up with her for such a stupid reason and she was devastated and i regret it to this day and i never lost my feelings for her... and i know how hard it might to ask him out because ur scared of gettin rejected and then u cant even b friends because hell feel to awkward around u... i mean the best advice would b to go for it but i know thats not the way it works. Im tryin to spend as much time with her as i can... makin her see how great i am and how well we can get along. I suggest u do the same. Force his heart and mind to re-fall in love with u. I hope this works for u and me.

Cale

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there is only one...lol..i have another question? wut if they take it the wrong way? n wut if u said sumthin that u really didn't mean n they won't take ur apoligy 4 it? ?confused?

O ok. LOL sorry then. How would they take it the wrong way... if u tell them exactly whats on ur mind and make it bright and clear then im pretty sure they cant mistake it... and these arent exactly questions u need advice on... LOL. These are what ifs... and what ifs have nothing to do with the situation... if u said sumtin u didnt mean explain that u didnt mean it and u were just mad, upset, or whatever the reason u said it. If they dont take ur apology then thats out of my controll... there is no advice i can give u to make them except it... just do what i said... sit the person down and explain it...

Cale

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i used to have a really good friend but sumtimes they get on y=my nerves or frusterate me n i got into a fite wit'em n idk..i sorta told'em it wuz done but i just wanna tell'em how i feel...but i'm scared that they r gonna yell at me...can u plez help me on workin this friendship out?
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Now i am a little confuzed of just how many there are... but i am just gonna ssume there are 2. Well i mean we all have problems with friends... I am havin a problem with one of mine right now... i tried to IM her from my bros new cell phone when i went to the store with my mom but she signed right b4 i could... u need to talk to her... i don't think gettin mad at ppl and then just runnin away is the answer. And thats the reason I'm mad at her. U need to work it out... and if u approach them the right way everything will stay calm. Dont approach them with a strong and tough attitude... make urself very scarce (quiet, almost shy). Show them that ur not being agressive or just come out sayin very calmly "I don't want this to be an agrument... i just want to discuss this with u." And its always a good idea to talk to them both at the same time... invite them over to ur house or ask them to the movies... and then just very calmly sit them down (at ur house...) or just talk to them in the lobby or in the theatre b4 the movie starts (when they play the corny music and the repetitive music). I suggest inviting them over tho... its more of a controlled enviroment. Thanx for the great question.

Cale

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i really like this guy but hes gay and hes soooo nice and cute and he likes me but hes neva had a relasionship with a guy idk y he says hes gay???? what should i do

Ok... well just cause hes never had a relationship with a guy doesnt mean hes not gay. I mean if u had never had a b/f but u still were interested in guys... would that make u not straight cause u never dated one? He has an interest in men and thats who he likes. But u say he likes u 2... i guess that means he's bi. Go for it then... talk things out with him... see if he is willing to give a girl a shot... HELL! TELL HIM U'LL HAVE A 3SOME WITH ANOTHER GUY! LOL! Thats good for both of u. Just sit down and see if he'll take u for a test drive. THanx for the great ?.

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