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My boyfriend lied to me and said he cheated on me so then i would get mad and dump him and me and him have nown eachother for years, and we have been doing this on off relationship for the past 2 years. the problem is is that i like him alot but yett the only thing he likes to do is hurt me i mean sure hes got a sweet side, and he knows how to play that card very well thats why i keep falling for him. all i wanna do is get over him but he always finds someway to get me back....what should i do?

well two years is a significant amount of time. you will always have feelings for him after dating for that long, but it sounds like you might be better off moving on for good. he sounds like a manipulative guy who doesnt know if he wants you or not, but wants to keep you sidelined until he figures it out. you dont deserve that! focus on going out with your friends and keeping busy. go to parties and try to find new guys to talk to and hang out with. you dont necessarily have to find a new boyfriend, but just hanging out with new people will get your mind off your ex. if he calls you to hang out, call your friends and make plans immediatly. nothing helps me get over a guy than bashing him with my girls. =)

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i asked this before, but only got one answer and still don't know what to do. sorry if it's long, but PLEASE help, i really need some advice. okay, so first of all, my sister is dating my best guy friend n yeah. so one day, i was talking to him, and his cousin saw my myspace and said i was hot. i told him not to get his hopes up becuz i look better on myspace. so then that night, after i took a shower, him n his cousin came over. his cousin (andrew) then invited us to a party that saturday. we all went. that night we were all drunk n then i made out with andrew. the next weekend, we hung out at andrew's house again. when he was about to leave, we were just talking and kinda fast n quietly i think he said "you wanna be my girl" but im not sure. after that he said "wanna marry me" n that i hurd for sure. i started laughing. and i was like maybe. and he said yes no maybe sometimes? n i was like sometimes. n hes all okay. a week later, they all went to a kickback with me and my sister. (alan, my best friend, n other cousins n frends) so then we were talkin. (me n andrew) n he said for me to go on a walk with him. we went and ended up making out again. that night i slept over at his house, and he was telling me if theres any guys at school trying to get at me just be like na, i got a real nigga in my life. and i just laughed. and we made out again, but we didnt wanna get in trouble, so he slept on the floor. a couple of days ago, we went to another party and we all got drunk again. he hugged me a lot. n then he was like okay. im gon hook you up with some guy. n then beat him up. and he started laughing. but that whole night, he was trying to hook people up at the party. im guessing cuz he was drunk. i ono. also, at the party, when he was trying to hook people up, this one girl, his "sister" (not by blood, the just say it) was trying to hook us up. she was like so lemme tell you about my brother! and he kept cutting her off and telling her to shut up. anyways. what do you think this means? do you think he really likes me or is just messing with me?

what it sounds like is that you guys are in drunken hook up mode and not really in relationship mode. hes obviously interested in you. if he just hooked up with you because he was drunk, and he regreted it, then he would try to avoid you the next time he saw you. it sounds like he likes you and that hes nervous about trying to pursue you in more than a drunken hookup way. maybe the next time you guys are hanging out, be like " i think that the next time we hang out, we should be alone and sober" or something to that effect. you need to try to hang out with him when your not drunk because then maybe you guys will be more on the relationship level. but talk to him, becasue it does seem like he likes you.

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how do you tease your hair? i want to be like poofy at the top, but straight on the bottom. :]k' thanxx

take a strip of hair from the top of your head and hold it straight up. spray it down with hairspray (a fair amount). take a comb and comb the hair down towards your head starting in the middle of the strand. then do it from the opposite side. keep doing this to various strands until you get all of your hair teased. you just have to play with it to get it to fall right.

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Okay so on Friday I gave head to a guy for the first time and I didn't really know him (I know it wasn't thebe st idea but please don't judge) so I don't know who he's been with. Then on Saturday, I started to get a bad sore throat which I still have today. Is it just a coincidence that I'm sick or did my throat just geg mildly irritated from giving oral, or something else?

well it could very possibly be that your throat is just soar because of the oral sex. it is not uncommon to get a soar throat when your not used to doing it. theres probably nithing to worry about, but it could be an std. its enough of a chance that you should definatly get it checked out, but dont freak out because in all likelyhood, your fine.

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how can you tell if your tipsy?

well usually you'll feel loose, our more open and just want to jump around and have fun. everything will be a little bit different. your reaction time will be delayed but you will still be able to function and make clear decisions. when you move your head from side to side, it will feel like your vision is behind the way your head is turning. your mouth will start to go numb. you will know that your tipsy when you can deifinatly feel something different about yourself. you'll know the first time you experience it.

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I believe it's possible for me to get a right & left leg split by the end of summer (note my exlusion of the straddle split..hahaha) So..um..how should I go about it? I know I have to practice..but like..how often should I do it/do I hold or bounce/etcetc..

(ps gymnastics tryouts are on august 31!)ty in advance

you need to hold it for as long as you can stand. practice by holding it on each leg for at least a minute. an excercise that helped me is holding a split as far down as you can for 30 seconds, then moving up a little bit and squeezing your leg muscles as tight as you can for 20 to 30 seconds. then slip back into your split and hold that. you do this three to four times, and each time you will notice that you are able to go down further. also, when you are watching tv, or have some downtime, do half splits, hold one leg in a split position and bend the other one. these help because your able to hold them for longer. do these excercises and soon youll have a left and right split! good luck :)

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14/f
Well one of my friends is a good friend but shes kind of new. Anyways theres a guy in our class that shes friends with but they both like each other. Well this guy asked her if she wanted to drink with him. She told me about this and I dont know what to say! I don't want to be like NO YOU'LL RUIN YOUR LIFE AND ILL HATE YOU. well idk i just dont want her to not like me anymore!! pleeease help %%thanks!

ultimately, its her decision and if you get mad at her, your just going to lose her trust. but you should tell her that you dont agree with it. tell her that
A. if the guy is asking her to drink with him, hes probably doing it because he wants to hook up with her
B. its illegal and when your drunk, you dont care about much and its easier to get caught.
C. if her parents find out that she was drinking, she would lose their trust.
D. it might give her a bad reputation, make her sick, or create an addiction that could lead her down the right path.

if you tell her that and she still wants to do it, ask if you can come with her if its at a party, and if not tell her that you hope she will be safe and to please call her if she gets in any trouble.

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I'm not sure what's wrong with me, and wheather it's paranoia, or OCD, or something else. This is really hard to explain but i'll try my best.

In my head while i'm doing something, i'll make like, a 'bet' with myself. Like I have to do something or else i'll die. It's about really stupid thing, too, but it's just become a habit ie: You have to fast forward through the opening credits of this tv show, otherwise you'll die. I found a way to kind of 'derail' it, by instead of saying,"Otherwise you'll die," saying something like, "otherwise beyonce will gain a pound," But now saying that has because an obsession. I used to do something kind of like that, but with music videos on MTV. And whatever music video I saw last before I went to bed I thought would be a representation of the next day. Sometimes I would stay up for an extra hour because I was so paranoid that if i saw a video like, 'It end tonight' I would die. I've developed this stupid habit of looking at the clock and creatingf math problems. If it were 1:01 i'd say to myself, "Addition," and "Subtraction,"(because one plus one is zero and same goes for minusing). I'd also do things like that for multiplication and division. And it's become obsessive. Like every time I look at the clock I HAVE to name a math problem, or else somthing bad will happen.

Lastly, I have this nervous tick where i'll count out the sylables to everything on my hand really quickly. And for some reason it has to either be ten or five sylables. And since th phrase,"otherwise beyonce will gain a pound," is ten slables, i find myself almost always involintarily counting out sylables.

(I don't have an obsessionover beyonce, or anything, I just said it once and it stuck)

What on earth is wrong with me? And what can I do to just be NORMAL? Please help me

i was actually really surprised when i read this because i used to do the EXACT same things, especiallly the clock thing. i had it really bad though, it would take over my life and i couldnt hardly function because i couldnt stop thinking about weird little things like that. i got tested and i had OCD. it wasnt that big of a deal i just went to a schycologist and talked to him. it sounds like that might be what you have. its nothing to freak out about though, i got prescribed some medication that eased my mind and made me stop being paranoid. my life was so much easier once i got the medicine. my advice would be to talk to someone about it because it sounds like you have OCD. i hope that i helped

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I feel like such an asshole.
I don't even know if I should.

ugh.

So I like this boy right and today was our last final so me and some friends were just hanging out in this part of the school so I was going to walk down this one hallway then I saw this guy I like coming. I was like "SHIT" and ran to the next hallway. I'm pretty sure he saw me make a bolt for it considering that my friends were yelling "HEY WHY ARE YOU AVOIDING THIS HALLWAY?"

I feel like a jerk.
I don't even know why I ran.
I like him so much and idk it was just impulse?

I was planning on asking him out on friday (since we go in for report cards then we're done school) but I dont even know if I can look at him without feeling horrible.

Should I feel bad?
I don't know what to think.
It probably sounds really reallllyyy stupid.
I don't know what to do :(

no, you shouldnt feel stupid. if anything, your friends should feel stupid for calling you out like that in front of him. they shouldnt have done that. the best thing for you to do is just to talk to him and pretend that it never happened, if your awkward around him then he'll know that you were avoiding him. be confident and he will just think that you and your friends were being silly. if he does ask you about it, just laugh and say no i wasnt avoiding you. tell him you and your friends were playing a game or something but then just drop it and ask him about hanging out. guys dont think things through like that so im sure he'll forget about it.

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how can i motivate myself to want to work out? i mean, i end up going anyways because my dad makes me but i never want to go..any tips on getting myself motivated?
thanks!

burn a playlist of motivating songs or put them on your ipod. listen to them everyday before you go to the gym, and brign your ipod with you so you can listen to it on the treadmill or while you lift weights.

also, i know it might sound dumb, but print out pictures of bathing suit models or people you know who have really hot bodies and pin them up all over your room. take them with you when you go to the gym, so whenever you feel like you dont want to work out, pull out the picture to remind yourself of what you could look like.

it also helps me a lot to think about a guy i like, or an ex-boyfriend that i really want to make jealous.

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hi. i would like to ask. How to ask a gal to a prom? i am kinda bad in asking. I am looking a proper way to ask. I have a gal that i wish to ask. But for the past months. I been asking her out, but she is too busy, and she said i can keep trying to ask her and she can reject.haha. I am really interested in asking her out. We never went out before. But we chat quite a lot. Sometimes on the phone. Sometimes msn. Now i have the chance that there is a prom coming. I would like to seek advice. She is age 16 this year. While i am 19 at college. She is pretty, mature gal (tough job). So i am requesting for your help. Thanks

do it in a cute, original way. go all out. maybe send her some flowers to her house with a cute note asking her to go to prom with you. or show up at her house and leave something small that is signifacant to something you guys did together or something she likes with a note. be creative. one of my guy friends asked a girl in a really cute way you might want to try.

he picked her up to go to a movie. when they got out of the car he slipped a rose and a note saying prom? on the drivers seat. then he told her that he left his wallet in the car and asked her to go get it while he stood in line for tickets. when she went to get it she found the rose and the card.

it sounds like shes kind of iffy about you at this point. but what girl could say no if a guy does something really cute and nice for her? then when you go to prom with her, its your chance to really show her that your a good guy that she could see herself dating.

if you need tips on how to do that, drop one in my inbox. let me know how it goes (=

good luck!
sarah




well im not really sure what your trying to say here. but dont go through her friends, thats lame. and i know your probably busy on friday, but im sure you can make time to pick her up some flowers and write her a note that says: "three years has been long enough. i think its time we go out on that date. how about prom?" thats casual and not too obsessive, but sweet and hard to resist at the same time. if she still isnt responding to you, then sadly, its probably time for you to move on. i know that you dont want to hear it buut wasting your time with a girl thats not into will only make it hurt more. and you deserve better.

please let me know how it goes

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there's this girl that I can't talk to well I mean I don't have enough confidence to talk to her. I don't know what to say to her but I really like her a lot give me some advice to help me.

please

i would love to help you. but in order to do so, i need some more info. where do you know this girl from? have you ever talked to her before? when do you usually see her? do you have anything in common?

drop a message in my inbox and im sure i can help.

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I have self esteem issues. I've truly hated myself for a long time, and I'm just starting to like myself a little again.
I have these two friends, we'll call them B and A.
B. is really mad at me right now because I'm too "emo". Well, I've been trying to be happier, and the ONE slightly self degrading comment I made, she attacked me.
And my other friend A. who I thought would be on my side, seeing as how we've kind of got some stuff, due to make out sessions, and other weirdish stuff. I won't get into it, but she took B's side!!
I love both of them, but I don't know if I can love myself if I love them.
What do I do?

well it sounds like they are attacking you because they dont want to see you putting yourself down. their intentions are pure, but they are going about it the wrong way. they should be supporting you and complimenting you when you feel sad instead of just getting mad at you. talk to them about it. tell them that you really appreciate that they want you to be happy, but it makes you feel bad when they get mad at you. tell them that you are struggling and that you really need their support right now. if they are true friends, they will understand

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ok...well I have been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months and I love him very much and he loves me. The only problem is he wants to have sex and I don't know. I am only 17 (will be 18 in December) and he just turned 19.! There is a part of me that wants to but another part of me that doesn't cause I kinda want to wait till marrage and I don't want to take a chance of becoming pregent. I thinks it more the pregent part. What should I do?

dont give it up! think of it as a test. if he really loves you, he'll stick it out and wait for you. if hes that concerned about the sex, hes not worth it. dont do anything that you dont want to do. you will regret it. when you do find the guy that you want to marry and you decide to give it up, you will feel so much better about yourself and you will enjoy it that muc hmore knowing that you fought all those temptations and waited for him. your gut feeling is usually right. go with it.

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okay theres this guy i go to school with and have because well rather bestfriends with him.
yesturday i was talking to him and he said he was thinking about going out with me. ((i have liked him the whole time he's been here for 3 years.))
But the only thing is im not aloud to have a real go out on dates boyfriend(until im 16) which is what he wants. I told him about the sixteen thing and he said he would wait...he turns 16 3 days after me in december..thats 6 MONTHS!!. He wants us to talk and keep close friends and he said he wants to be my first REAL boyfriend.

But just a few months ago he said that he tells girls what they want to here to get what he wants.

The only problem is in october he was pressuring me to flash him which ended badly and we didnt talk for awhile. now he says he doesnt want to do anything with me or have me do anything to him until we are dating and he says no pressure will be put on me anymore...He also turned some really pretty girl down for sex! because of me!!!


do you think he's telling the truth and we should keep close till then or is he just telling me what i want to hear?

well think about it this way...if he was just telling you what you want to hear to get what he wants, why would he choose to wait for 6 months for it when obviously h can get it much sooner than that. it doesnt sound like hes too concerned about the physical aspects of it (i mean of course to a certain extent, he is a guy). it sounds like he really wants a relationship with you. hes just frustrated because he cant see you as much as he would like to. guys have egos, sometimes they say stuff like that to build themselves up that they dont really mean. testosterone is funny like that lol

stick it out with this guy, he sounds like he has good intentions. im kinda interested in this one, so please give me updates =)

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ok, normally i am good at love dilemmas, but this one stumps me.

I have been with a guy that I really do love for 7 months. Before him, I dated a guy a state away from me. Now, my ex bf was very caring, nice, etc...or so it seemed. We talked through webcam and instant messages. Well, he wanted to see me on webcam one day and I guess he didnt like what he saw, so the next day he txted me and said it was over. I didnt love him, but i was infatuated with him and that just broke my heart. I got over him and months later i found my current bf. Well, just now while I was on the phone with my bf, I got an instant message from my ex. And it kind of feels like those feelings could still be there. My question is, is it something I should be worried about? I think they could be just friendship feelings, but im not sure. Any help is appreciated!

of course your still going to have some feelings for your ex-boyfriend. naturally, your going to remember the good memories you had and miss him. whats important is that you know how much you love your boyfriend, and you know what he did to you was wrong. its obvious that the guy your with now is a much better guy, and i think that you know that. dont fret it. just trust the way you feel about your new guy and try to forget about the old one.

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14/f.
I like this guy, on a scale of 1-10 i like him about a 7 or 8. We'll call him "ben". K, i have NO IDEA how he feels about me. I'm a terrible flirter, I'm not exactly pretty, but there was a myspace bulletin about telling the person who posted it exactly what you felt. I tried to be as honest as I could manage without absolutely embarrassing myself. So I said:
"i think you're funny, cool, cute, and i think you're musically intelligent.
uhm, i think you're absolutely amazing.
and i think you think i'm a total freak now,
and you're going to laugh at this."
So I reposted the bulletin that way he would reply, and he did :]
he said "well... i think ur...
hilarious
cute
and.....the best writer i know:]"
idk if he was saying "cute" to be nice and not make me feel bad, or if he actually thinks i'm cute?
&& when I posted a pic of my new hair color [i got pink highlights] he said "cute:]"
so i don't know if i'm just supposed to sit back & kind of let him chase me, and play hard to get, or ask him out, or at least tell him i really like him. ick, help? thanks.

i dont think hes saying that to be nice, i mean he didnt have to say anything at all. maybe you should send him one back that says; "so what are you gonna do about it" or something flirty like that. and then wait to see what he says. dont push it too much because you dont want to seem to dependent, but you should definatly initiate it a little bit and let him make the move. just relax and be chill about it, let things fall into place.

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Okay theres this guy I've liked all of grade 7 and he's in my class and we flirt CONSTANTLY.We had this friends with benifits thing once...(less than doing it more than making out).he's in the popular click I'm...not but I have lots of friends.the guy I like's friend said to him if he goes out with me he'll never talk to him again.

Anyways after out F.W.B. thing the whole school found out while he was at camp...so he got back today nad was PISSED well we fixed it up...he's not mad as long as I tell everyone it's not true I got dared to say it.So I agreeed to.cuz he'll lose his friends cuz they're really superfishal.

I am 99.999999999% sure he likes me.I've asked him out (it was after his friend told him not to go out with me.) he said no...now I can get his friend to tell him he can go out with me...should I ?? Should I ask him out ? ?!?!?! I REALLY like him and trust him.He didn't tell anyone it was all my fault...

Love,
CONFUZZELED

listen, i know that you might really like this guy and it seems really important to have a boyfriend right now, but if he isnt willing to forget about what his friends think then hes obviously not mature enough to be in a relationship. he wouldnt even admit that you hooked up. his friend doesnt own him and when it comes down to it, he doesnt need his permission to date you if he wants to. its pathetic that he should be so worked up over what people think that hes willing to lose a girl he likes. if he really does like you, he'll come around. you just have to wait for him. and begging his friends fot their approval isnt doing anything for you, its just making them think that your inferior to them, and your NOT! even if it did work out with this guy, hes too self concious to really be seen around with you, so would you really want to be with a guy that you feel like you have to walk on eggshells to be with?? you dont deserve it! be independent and eventually youll find a guy that deserves to be with you.

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Hey! I was wondering, what are some really cute and flirty perfumes? Also, can you tell me where i can find them. Prices arent an issue, as long as its under $100.

my favorites are dolce and gabana light blue, which is more flirty and cutesy, and armani code, which is sexier. you can find them both at any department store. oo and the new ralph lauren girl smells really good too.

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I really don't know what to do. There is this new school that opened up and has really high scores like the teachers teach better curiculum. My school is like on the bottom list and I barely learned anything. I want to go to the new school, but to leave all my friends and everything behind is just so sad. I know I can see them but just the whole school. And I also really like this guy and I would probably never see him again. Please help!

really this comes down to what is more important to you. you have to think about what will be better for you in the long run. The better education would stay with you for the rest of your life, while as staying at the old school might gain you a typical high school relationship that lasts a few months and then you forget about it. and hey, who says you cant ask for the guys number before you leave. if hes into you, he'll give it, if hes not, you dont have to worry about it because you wont be seeing him anymore. so think of it as a away to find out and get you out of a rut with this guy. as for your friends, the good ones will stick around and help you with the transition. they wont go anywhere. you never know, you might get a fresh start at your new school and find the perfect guy. if its just opening up, im sure everyone there isnt going to know many people and will be a little scared, so im sure making friends wont be a problem

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