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ok...well I have been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months and I love him very much and he loves me. The only problem is he wants to have sex and I don't know. I am only 17 (will be 18 in December) and he just turned 19.! There is a part of me that wants to but another part of me that doesn't cause I kinda want to wait till marrage and I don't want to take a chance of becoming pregent. I thinks it more the pregent part. What should I do?
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honestly girl, i think you should wait. your first time you always want it to be something special as cheesy as that sounds. i went out with a guy for 6 months and he said he would wait because he was a virgin too. well truth was he couldn't WAIT to get rid of his virginity and one night we got caught in the moment and did it.
after a couple of months he told me he was bored and confused and ended up breaking up with me for another girl because i guess he got tired of doing it with the same ol' person. i WAS pregnant (even though he wore protection) and things at school started spreading. i didn't have an abortion, but i did have a miscarriage. and now me and him can't stand the sight of each other.
not only that, but my new boyfriend (who is a virgin) was hurt when he found out i wasn't because he wanted to wait and have his first time be with someone who was a virgin too. so it ended up hurting other people in the end. so, i'd say just wait it out. you'll be happy you did. and if he doesn't want to, then screw him he's not good enough for you
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Ok I think You should wait if he thinkz dat iz stupid then you should totally give him the boot. Tell him that if he don't respect the way you feel then tell him to hit the road. No 1 should have sex until they r married.If you want to do it use a condom.But my cusin wz 14 when she did it and da condom kinda popped and well dat baby came. I am pretty sure you don't want that. You Decide.
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Wait until you're fully ready, educated, and doubt free. I'm sure he'll respect your decision to wait. If you don't, you make feel like you made a mistake. If you're worried about getting pregnant, talk with your doctor about getting birth control. Also, be sure if you're going to have sex, that you wear a condom every time. The only way you can be 100% sure you won't get pregnant is abstinence.
I hope my advice was helpful and I hope you chose wisely.
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-Rachael
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if you're not completely sure, then don't do it. it's good that you're thinking ahead to what the consequences could be, but it also shows you're concerned. if you're not ready, he should understand, if not, you don't need him.
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dont give it up! think of it as a test. if he really loves you, he'll stick it out and wait for you. if hes that concerned about the sex, hes not worth it. dont do anything that you dont want to do. you will regret it. when you do find the guy that you want to marry and you decide to give it up, you will feel so much better about yourself and you will enjoy it that muc hmore knowing that you fought all those temptations and waited for him. your gut feeling is usually right. go with it.
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Well,I had sex at 16 with my boyfriend who was 18 then... and he wanted to and i didn't. but I still did.I don't regret it b/c I'm still with him to this day, but I wish I would have waited. Using a condum would make you not get pregnant. Or get on birth-control.
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If you don't want to have sex with him, you don't have to. You don't have to do anything you don't want to. He can't make you. If you don't want to get pregnant, or not lose your virginity until marriage, its perfectly OK to tell him no.
**Edit**
Just because you wear a condom doesn't mean you won't get pregnant. A little birdie tells me that condoms sometimes rip and get holes in them.
If you want to, you can get on birth control.
--Jack
(15/m)
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