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So i went to the doctors and they said that i might have hybo-thyroid. I was wondering what are all the symtoms, my step-mom said easy hairloss, weight gain/loss, fatigue. Is they any others?
This weekend I have to go and have blood work to see if i have it.
If i do is there anything that i wont be able to do anymore?
Is hybo-thyroid a bad thing?
What does it mean and how bad is it? (link)
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I have a hypothyroid. You take medicine for
it and you are fine. Your thyroid controls
a lot of things. When it isn't working right
you can feel lousy!
Once you are taking thyroid medicine you
will feel better. There is nothing
you can't do the same as others. When you
are older and thinking about having kids,
it is best to see a doctor BEFORE you
get pregnant so you have a healthy
pregnancy.
Being pregnant is not a problem.
But anyone taking maintenance medication
should do this. Being pregnant throws your
already wacky hormones off. You may
need an adjustment of your medicine while pregnant,
same as diabetics.
You might have to get a few blood draws
before they get your dosage just right.
Once everything stays right where it
should be for 30 days then you only need
have it done every 6 months or so to make
sure it doesn't change. You can usually tell
when the medicine isn't working right because
you get symptoms again.
So what are those symptoms. Your mom got
a couple of them right. She is mixing up
hypothyroid & hyperthyroid.
Hair loss is a hyperthyroid symptom. Don't
worry about that one. If anything your hair
may be dry and coarse. Just use shampoo and
conditioner for dry hair and once your meds
are correct it won't be as bad.
We get the weight gain. Again, once you
start taking meds, that won't be a problem.
Hypothyroid messes with your metabolism.
That makes it real hard to lose weight if
you aren't on medication.
Fatigue is a symptom. My biggest symptom is
muscle aches in my shoulders and cramps in
places like shoulders and abdomen. I don't
mean cramps like PMS...I mean charlie horse
cramps like you get in your legs! Hope you
never experience those.
You'll be fine. My biggest problem is
remembering to take the pill. Bad memory
is also a symptom by the way. It goes away
too once you take your meds!
If you are worried about anything else
feel free to ask. You will be fine, I
promise. :)
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i dont know if this information is needed, but..
ive been on birth control since may
2 weeks ago i skipped a pill on a friday on accident and had to take two on saturday
i had alot of white discharge a week before my period
but then a few days before my period i had a little bit of brownish discharge
is that ok/normal?
normally i get a little bit of brown discharge after my period..
i dont recall having it before
help! (link)
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You are fine. All is normal. Don't
worry about it at all. :)
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my boyfriend is leaving to away college so his friends are throwing him a party. i cant go because i will have relatives over that night and i cant get out of it. should he go to his party where girls that like him will obviously be there and have a good time and i should be okay with it?
i know the answers yes and that i should trust him but can anyone just keep telling me that because i worry too much! (link)
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You really don't have much choice but to
trust him. If you can't you may want to
end the relationship now & save yourself
a lot of worry.
He is off to college where party's go on all
the time. If you can't trust him at home now,
you are going to have a rough time while he is
away!
If he cares for you, you have nothing to worry
about. :)
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I just found out two days ago that my husband of 21 years had an affair with a woman who was in his drug rehab class. I know he talked with her on cell phone (I looked up the records) and I found out that they had sex once (in a car) and he wanted to come clean it happened about one month ago. He told me there was no feelings and he was done with the relationship. He also dumped on me that about ten years ago, during the course of one year he called about six escorts at different times and actually had sex with one. I am so heart sick and need to know if I could ever trust him again. What would you do? I am at the cross roads. We have 5 boys. (link)
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Do you love him? If you do it is possible
to forgive and move on. The trust might
take a little while to get back to normal
but if you BOTH want to make it work you
really can.
You mention a drug rehab class. Is he going
to school or is he a recovering addict? If
he's an addict then he may not have been in
complete control when he did these things.
That doesn't make it any better & no excuse
makes what he did right. But it could be an explanation.
He has confessed. That makes him feel better
and maybe a little less guilty. I know all it
does is hurt you. As Witty said before me, this
is a decision you will have to make on your own.
Does he seem genuinely sorry? Is he committed to
working on your relationship? You do have a
lot of time invested in the relationship
already. You also have 5 boys to think about.
Its only been 2 days. Don't jump to hasty decisions.
The main question you need to ask yourself
is Do I live him? If you do and If he feels
the same, work on it. If this is just to
much, then get out and don't look back. :)
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So i have been getting increased discharge, and occasionally cramps, recently but not strong cramps and the other day while I was having sex for a long time (an ahour)..I started bleeding and i'm not sure why. I;ve been on the pill for 2 years now and i've been using condoms..i'm wondering if these symptoms are possible that im pregnant?
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I don't think you are pregnant.
Discharge is your bodies way of cleaning
itself. Its really nothing to worry about.
Sometimes it will be light and other times
heavy. Its also heavier when you are
ovulating. The only time its anything to
worry abut is if it has a foul odor to it.
Other than that it is just annoying.
I don't know why you would start bleeding.
It can happen sometimes when your still on
your active pills. I really don't think you're pregnant.
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Okay, so theres this guy and his name is Dan. Hes 45 years old, married, with kids, and I went to canobie with him, my uncle, and my cousins. And the only reason I was there was because one of my cousins is autistic and I was going to help. So right when I get there Dan comes up and puts his arm around me and just starts walking with me, and I was like what the heck? But I didnt say anything cause Im too shy. (Im 18 by the way) and we get to the first ride were going to go on and everyone kinda split up and went there own way and I was trying to figure out who to sit next to when he whispers in my ear, sit next to me in the back, and ofcourse, I was like uhm okay, even though I felt weird about that. But I did and it was fine, until I got off and he had his arm around my shoulder again. Anyways later when I was there this guy I knew and was just friends with came over and gave me a hug and I hugged him back and Dan came over and was like okay thats enough and then practically dragged me away from him. I found that soo rude but I didnt say anything. And towards the end of the day we were talking about who was easier to read, guys or girls, and this girl standing next to me was like oh is he your dad and I immediately said ha, no! And then I thought she would think I was weird so I was going to explain that he was one of my moms old friends but he interupted me and I was like Im a....friend. And I was just like oh yeah, hes a friend. But hes not my friend. Hes my moms friend. And I caught him staring at me a few times too, which made me feel so self concious so we went to his car because some of the others wanted food and water and stuff and I was looking in the reflection trying to make myself look better when Dan was like relax you look great. So I kinda blushed and was oh thanks. So anyways that was Canobie. Then like three days later my cell phone rings right and it was him. It was a text message that said pg. And I wrote back and was like what does that mean. And he called me back and said that it was a mistake and that somehow his locked phone, unlocked itself in his pocket and sent me a text. And I believed him until I talked to one of my best friends and she was like no, hes lying and now I believe her instead. And I already told her all this stuff and she thinks that he likes me, but I really dont know. Can someone please tell me what they think? Thank you soo much, and sorry about the length! (link)
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Play it safe and stay away from him.
Your first instincts seemed to be telling
you this wasn't right. Trust those instincts.
Always. They are rarely wrong. :)
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pretty much what it says, i've heard if you gargle hydrogen peroxide everyday it'll whiten your teeth.
does anyone know if this is true or has anyone tried it or know anyone who has? (link)
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If you read instructions on the bottle of
peroxide on how to dilute it, it is safe
to use in your mouth.
I haven't noticed that it whitens teeth
but it does help get rid of bacteria in
your mouth that could lead to gum disease.
My husband was going to have to get one
of those awful gum scraping things done
and was told he had periodontal disease.
He came home and started using diluted
peroxide to rinse his teeth with.
Next visit the hygienist was shocked that
it was cleared up and wondered what he had
been doing. Told him to keep it up!
So I don't know if it whitens teeth, those
strips have to be sitting on your teeth a
while. However using it in your mouth is
not dangerous. It should be diluted though.
Instructions are right on the label.
A certain amount of bacteria is supposed to
be in your mouth. Using it 2 or 3 times a
week is enough. :)
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Hie,i am a lady aged 25 years of age and I have known this guy for almost two years now he the same age as me, and weve been seriously going out for a 6months, the thing is before I met him he had a girlfriend he has been going out with for three years now and this lady is fifteen years older than him and she has a son the same age as he is. He says he wants to save money for us to be together by june next year and that he does truly love me, He is always telling me to be patient and to be strong until he leaves her coz he says he can't just walk away from her just like that, after all that she did for him since we are in a foreign country. he says that he sees a future and a life with me. and for the past four months i have been so patient and strong, he has done almost everything for me and he takes care of me, financially and emotionally, I gave him my virginity on our third month and i did it because of my love for him and somehow I expected things to change, but he is still with her, the worst part being that when the lady found out about our affair she started calling my parents telling her i was interfering with her relationship and now my dad has lost all his trust in me somehow I feel like he has disowned me in a way and when i told my boyfriend that i could be pregnant he just changed, he says he's not ready for any baby and the worst part is he says he can't handle me and her coz we are weighing him down, so he said that he needed space and the worst part is that he is now seeing her now more than ever, he even kisses her in my presence and now I dont know what to do,its as if he doesnt care anymore, what should i do? (link)
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He didn't care in the first place.
Not like you want. If he cared for
you he would be with you. He wants
you both. Not because he loves
either of you, but because you both
put up with being used by him.
Be the smart one here and tell him
to get lost. I hope you are not
pregnant because he will not be there
for you.
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First of all, both his book and his lecture are AMAZING! My question is about his death. When did he die? If someone could answer this, I would be grateful. It would also be helpful if I can get dates. (link)
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He died July 25th. Here is his web page if
you click the updates link, there is an online
journal he kept.
http://download.srv.cs.cmu.edu/~pausch/
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Thank you for your feedback. I am so confused with this guy. I don't mind being the bread winner, but I have been putting most of the money out here lately. I don't get any child support from my ex and I feel like the stress is building. It's helpful to have someone pay half of the bills and I feel like this is all I am holding on to. At times we have a nice relationship, but gosh it is so hard to work at. I feel like all I want to do is focus on my child and school. I hate to be lonely, but I don't have much experience with relationships. The last guy I dated was mean and a drunk. I ended up staying with him for five years and was single for five yrs. I have grown more independent and the current guy has been there for me. I want to talk to him, but he gets angry when we come to reality with life. He does go to work everyday and my family seems to think, you can do better. He seems more as a child to my son, rather than a father figure. My son's father lost visitation rights two years ago and has been in prison. Luckily we live four hours away from him and he rarely calls. My son and I moved here four years ago and I am determined to make a successful life. I have always been down in some way and any stress is horrifying to me. I really appreciate your feedback and god bless. (link)
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You're very welcome. Just make sure whatever
decision you make is the right one for you.
Listen to what family says, but go your own way.
If you have any doubts at all it probably
won't stand the test of time. If he gets
angry when it comes to discussing reality,
thats not so good either.
You need a good PARTNER. That means someone
who is willing to listen, help with decisions
and in making a happy family home. Just know
if this guy isn't that man, that man is out
there somewhere. :)
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I realize you aren't a doctor but have a background in medical sciences. I'm bipolar and on lithium, Seroquel and lamictal. I've been stable for 5 years now. The problem is I have an ulcer or ulcers which I've been diagnosed with.
It's been a bitch (pardon me) with eating as some foods make me nauseated after eating some of the time and then not affect at other times or come back to haunt me hours later or days after. They have me on antacids but only when vomiting arises which I never have warning of.
I'll be blunt I hate rabbit food and find salads, vegetables etc. to be rabbit food on their own. I have a love for stuff I shouldn't eat but is there a way of eating things that taste great but don't cause me trouble without playing russian roulette to find out? Also, it really affects dining out.
To quote comedian John Pinette "They told me I could eat all the salad I wanted (in restaurants). Salad is not food. It comes with the food or before the food as an unspoken promise that food will soon arrive."
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I can see how that would be a problem when
dining out. You should ask advice from your
doctor. Even calling and asking his nurse
might be a help.
Stay away from iffy foods or you might also
try drinking a glass of milk BEFORE you eat anything. Perhaps coating your stomach with something will help. Follow the meal with
your antacids.
Hope that helps some. Consult your doctor.
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i just wondered how you finger a girl?
i no how too, but how do you do it really good:P???
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You communicate with the girl and ask what she likes. All girls are different so what one likes another may not like. Don't be afraid to ask.
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today i got a subpoena and it is telling me i have to appear in court. when you get a subpoena does that mean you are in trouble or someone else is in trouble and you are a witness or what? am i in trouble? (link)
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You got a subpoena because your testimony
is needed in court to help settle a dispute
of some sort. You are not in trouble. You
just heard or know something that could help
another win their court case. You are basically
a witness for someone. The subpoena is just
a legal means to make sure you show up.
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about 5 months ago, i started dating this guy. we fell madly in love in no time at all. after 3 months, he told me he needed a break off of the relationship. so i let him.
after a week, he asked me back out. we had been going out for about 1 week or so when we decided to have sex. a week after that, we did it again. we were going out for a little over a month, and he admitted that he had jumped back into the relationship too quickly and that he still wasnt ready.
i was sick and tired of being hurt by him, so my friend and i walked 3 and a half hours, (20 minutes by car) to get to his house so i could talk to him. he said he still loves me and wants to go back out, but not right now. maybe in about a month or so. but i asked him what was wrong with him and why he kept doing this, and he told me that the fact that he "took my virginity" has been "haunting" him.
now, to me it sounded like he regretted it. i tried my hardest to reassure him that it was okay and that i wanted him to be my first, but he said it still bothers him.
and even thought it did physically hurts to have sex with him, i enjoy every minute of it. you cant get any closer than you do in bed. and i just dont think he sees it like i do, and that really hurts me!
well i had walked to his house yesterday and talked about this, and we're still broken up. he cant ever get on the phone because his brother always hogs it. (their whole family shares a cell phone) and so he cant call me, and im not aloud to do aim anymore. (it gave my computer a trojan virus.) so i cant talk to him on there, either.
how can i let him know that its okay that he took my virginity? or how can i make him stop worrying about it? how can i make him see sex like i do? (link)
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To be honest he is probably more like feeling
guilty for taking your virginity when he really
didn't want to continue dating you.
I don't say that to hurt you, its just a
painful reality. Think about it, he is making
NO attempt to contact you. I don't buy that
"brother always has the phone" excuse, you
shouldn't either. Its BS. YOU are the only
one walking 3 hours. He used you. If you
make no more attempts to go see him, you most
likely will not hear from him again.
Guys just don't see sex as females do. So
don't get trapped into thinking that he
considered it an act of love. 9 out of 10
guys just don't think of it that way.
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ok, so im planning on pretyping some answers to common questions on my forum to use as links for those questions. what are the contents restrictions on our personal forums though? are they the same as the rest of the site? ie, can i use those for sex advice? (link)
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They are the same as for the site.
If you can answer using proper medical
terms for body parts, and not go into
porn sounding detail, its fine.
You might want to back up your work
if you spend a lot of time on it.
Last I heard the forums were still
"experimental". They could disappear
anytime. I think all is well with
them staying for now, just keep that
in mind. :)
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I have been dating a guy for two years almost. I have a nine year old son and Im a working professional. My goals are high and I also attend online college to finish my paralegal degree. My boyfriend lived with his parents until two years ago and has worked several jobs since we met. Why am I with this guy?? He is great with my son and has a big heart. I've always been looking for the loving man that will sit at home with me on Friday nights and I have met him. We never have the money to go out or on vacation. I do not have a ring yet?? He works jobs to get by. We still live in a apartment and I drive a new car and his is lucky to still be running. I'm 28 and I have never been materialistic, but I would like to have more??? I'm confused, please help. (link)
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There is nothing wrong with wanting more.
You know what it is like to have responsibilities.
He really doesn't.
Its worth sitting down and having a long
talk about. Is this the way he plans to
muddle through life? What is he waiting for?
There is also nothing wrong with you being
the family breadwinner someday. Does he pick
up after himself? Would he make a good
househusband? Will the relatives give you
static about it if you went that route?
The whole thing in a nutshell is that you
have been going out almost 2 years. A big
commitment of time on your part at your age.
Its time to sit down and find out if there
is a future with this guy. Are you going to
be able to live with a guy with little
motivation to be what YOU consider successful.
Is he going to set a good example for your son?
If he gets up every morning and goes to work
and doesn't just quit on a whim with no other
job to go to...thats ok.
If he has the attitude that its ok to quit, someone will support him until he finds
something he can stand to do is not.
Talk, find out if he has any goals you
can live with, without resentment down the
road. If the answer is no, move on. Staying
is a waste of your time. If you think he
is being realistic, given his education,
and it is something you can live with,
carry on.
Best of luck with this big decision. :)
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Heyy ,
I am 15 years old and my boyfriend is 17. We haven't been offically going out for that long but we have been "together" for a while. He doesn't go and get with every girl. But he is older and more experienced than I am. I am comfortable with him but i dont want to rush into anything that im not ready to do yet. But i just am hoping that he understands and doesn't get mad. So i was just wondering if anyone can help me on what to say , if the conversation comes up of doing something more serious , as in sex. (link)
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This may be helpful. Its taken from Fayette teen
coalition at http://www.ftic.org/teenfaq5.html
How Do I Say NO And Keep My Boyfriend or Girlfriend?
Choosing to wait to have sex is the best decision for your health and future. Even if you’ve had sex before you can still say no to future sexual relationships. Here are some tips for keeping your decision …and your relationship
Be honest … think positively and be clear about your decision to wait until marriage for sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Know why you want to wait … there are good reasons not to have sex right now talking to your boyfriend or girlfriend about them will help them understand your position. Discuss how even “safe sex” isn’t always and the consequences of having sex. Explain that you really care, that you can be in love without having sex. Choosing to wait is one of the best ways to show that you care about each other and your futures.
Practice … write down what you want to say about your decision to wait to have sex. Practice in front of the mirror or with a friend you trust. Use a firm voice, look the person in the eye, look serious and like you mean what you are saying.
Don’t wait until you’ve gone too far … Once you are hot and heavy it’s tough to stop. Decide before you start kissing how far you are willing to go. Talk about it as a couple at a time and place that feels safe and private. Discuss what situations could lead to trouble (like being in the backseat of the car or alone together at home) talk about ways to avoid these situations.
Don’t give mixed messages … If you say no mean it. Be firm, use body language such as standing or sitting up straight and avoiding body contact. Clearly state your limits and stick to them. Even if you’ve said yes before you can still say no now. If you need to get up and walk away from the situation before it gets out of control.
Offer alternatives … Many teens have sex because they have nothing else to do or are bored. Plan your dates and keep them full of activities that are shared with other friends or are in public places. Have a plan for how you will get home if the situation gets out of control and you need to leave
Stand up for yourself … choosing to have sex is your decision, no one has a right to pressure you or force you. Remind your partner that if they truly love and respect you they won’t pressure you to have sex. You have a right to have someone who cares more about you than about sex. Let them know your decision is about your values and future - doing what is best for you. Say no clearly, directly and firmly and say it often. If the person still won’t accept your decision then leave the situation
Don’t use drugs and alcohol … Using drugs and alcohol can cause you to do things you don’t want to do and make it harder to say no.
How to be a better lover …
Respect yourself. If you don’t respect yourself, no one else will. You don’t have to have sex just to please someone else. Sex isn’t the only thing that makes you worth loving.
Be confident, have a mind of your own. No one likes a wimp. People like people who aren’t afraid to stand up for what they believe in. So don’t have sex just because you think everyone else is.
Don’t get trapped. Relationships can get very heavy very fast once sex is involved. If commitment and responsibility hit a relationship too early, it brings out the worst in everyone.
Care about the other person. Pressure isn’t sexy. If the person you’re with isn’t ready for sex, don’t push. Show that you know your relationship is a tow-way street.
Know about the other person. People love to be with someone who understands them. Taking time to find out what the other person really wants will make your relationship better.
Kiss the fears goodbye. Fears about pregnancy, AIDS, and other disease can make you worried, confused, mad, anxious - and not very attractive to be around.
Keep something you can both look forward to. If it’s the right person, your feelings will grow and last without sex. Just knowing that you’re saving sex for marriage can make your relationship even more special.
Be totally free. No getting pushed around by what other people say. No pressure to make commitments to someone until you want to. No fears about disease or pregnancy. No risking your whole future for a few minutes of fun now. This is the freedom you have when you decide to save sex for later. And that’s the kind of attitude it’s very easy to fall in love with.
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can you see more questions beyond page 10 here: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php (link)
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To see more questions, if thats what you want
to do, look at them under Advice Topics.
You get 10 pages per topic. :)
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25/F/USA
My fiance recently received a letter stating that, because he has failed to repay his student loans, payment will be claimed in the form of tax returns, social security, and other taxes, etc. The loan itself totals around $2,500... We could easily pay off the loan in less than three years and prevent this action from being taken.
However... The real problem is that he owes on other student loans as well as a credit card. I estimate his debt to total, but to be no more than $10,000. I also owe around $10,000 but my credit score is still fair due to my payment history.
Both our debts are managable... But I was thinking... I could probably buy a house for less than $100,000 (I've all ready been browsing properties) and the mortgage would be slightly higher, equal to, or less than what we all ready pay in rent. So... What if I bought a house, then re-financed in less than a year... Used the money from the refinacing of property to pay off both our debts... Then we'd only be left with the mortgage. (Until we refinance we'd both pay on our loans, a total of : $500 a month approximately.)
I suppose I'm asking for your opinion and life experience because I'm concerned that 'my plan' wouldn't work out the way I intended and we could end up screwing ourselves financially. Do you know anything about loans? Have you ever refinanced your house? I've tried searching the internet... And I've found a lot of information that I'm having a difficult time understanding because I've never tried anything like this before. Any advice that you can give would be greatly appreciated.
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Its probably not a good idea to get further
in debt buying a house until you get your other
debt paid off. That includes not only student
loans and credit cards, but cars too.
I know that isn't want you want to hear, but
in the long run you will be in a better place financially.
If you currently live in an apartment you
suddenly would have to buy a lawn mower to
do lawn maintenance. They aren't cheap!
There is trash pick-up & utilities. Property
taxes and insurance. Furnishings & problems.
Water heaters go out, sewer backs up little
emergencies that can cost plenty to repair.
And then the student loans are just added to mounting debt. Now, not all these may happen,
but they are possible. They always happen at
the most inconvenient times!
You could probably get all your loans paid
off quickly if you both put your minds to it.
It would mean doing without luxeries for a
short time but its possible to do.
Have you ever heard of Dave Ramsey? He has a
radio show hear that I listen to all the time.
If you are interested in getting out of debt
quickly and buying a house, I would recommend
his show highly. I think he is on fox news
too.
http://radiotime.com/program/p_20156/The_Dave_Ramsey_Show.aspx
Best of luck! If anyone can help he sure can. :)
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3AM this morning and i almost caved and told him i cant wait..i cant do this anymore...and when i ask myself why im doing this to myself..i remember why...erh.
i completely forgot about dr. phil bah. :-X
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I don't know if he has anything that
would be useful, but check him first. :)
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