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If anyone could please help me or advise me on what to do
Hie,i am a lady aged 25 years of age and I have known this guy for almost two years now he the same age as me, and weve been seriously going out for a 6months, the thing is before I met him he had a girlfriend he has been going out with for three years now and this lady is fifteen years older than him and she has a son the same age as he is. He says he wants to save money for us to be together by june next year and that he does truly love me, He is always telling me to be patient and to be strong until he leaves her coz he says he can't just walk away from her just like that, after all that she did for him since we are in a foreign country. he says that he sees a future and a life with me. and for the past four months i have been so patient and strong, he has done almost everything for me and he takes care of me, financially and emotionally, I gave him my virginity on our third month and i did it because of my love for him and somehow I expected things to change, but he is still with her, the worst part being that when the lady found out about our affair she started calling my parents telling her i was interfering with her relationship and now my dad has lost all his trust in me somehow I feel like he has disowned me in a way and when i told my boyfriend that i could be pregnant he just changed, he says he's not ready for any baby and the worst part is he says he can't handle me and her coz we are weighing him down, so he said that he needed space and the worst part is that he is now seeing her now more than ever, he even kisses her in my presence and now I dont know what to do,its as if he doesnt care anymore, what should i do?
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I call it the three-month rule.
If a person cannot find the strength to make a major life change in three months, they probably aren't going too. In my own life I've found it to be a good general rule: I will wait for three months, no longer, for a friend or partner to make a signifigant change. If they don't or can't after three months, then I am done waiting.
You should have stopped waiting months ago. Espcailly in light of his treatment of you now. He isn't going to leave her. He isn't even making strides towards leaving her, and as long as this situation stays this way, you will continue to be in pain.
Tell him it's over. Do not take his calls or see him. Ask your father's forgiveness and for your families support is staying away from this toxic and evil man. Pray that you are not pregnant.
Things can only get worse if you stay with him, and only better if you leave.
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Hi,
You poor thing, I feel for you. The best and only thing that you can do is to get out of the situation and I mean right now. It's only going to get worse. I know you don't want to hear this but he is just leading you on.
First of all sweetie, he already showed you what type of person he is. He was already with someone else when he entered into a relationship with you.
Some men will do whatever you allow them to do. From the way your letter reads, you are naive when it comes to relationships. He is using you, and it really doesn't matter why.
I'm sure your father hasn't disowned you or lost trust. He loves you and doesn't want you to get hurt. Disappointed is probably a better word. Talk to him again and tell him how you feel.
I pray that you are not pregnant and even if you are, listen to what your so-called boyfriend says. He is not going to be there for you. He does not love or respect you.
Take care of yourself and your baby. Don't be too hard on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. That's how we learn our most valuable lessons.
Leave him and move on. You will be alright. I promise.
I wish you the best of luck,
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He didn't care in the first place.
Not like you want. If he cared for
you he would be with you. He wants
you both. Not because he loves
either of you, but because you both
put up with being used by him.
Be the smart one here and tell him
to get lost. I hope you are not
pregnant because he will not be there
for you.
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