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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


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^my forum, liven it up a little?

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My hair is a freakish color of blonde! its coppery and i hate it. I constantly tuck my hair behind my ears, and when i untuck it it is all kinky. If possible, I'd like a shampoo or product that helps with taking chlorine out of my hair? Possibly lightening it and making it soft. I use biolage conditioner and it does make my hair soft, but it's greasy afterwards! Help needed! Thanks!

Hate your haircolor? Dye it. Or use color-enhancing shampoo. You can use one that isn't for your hairtype, and it will slightly modify your current color.


Garnier, Aussie, and Suave make excellent, inexpensive shampoos. Aussie makes one, I forgot the exact name, but it mositurizes your ends and gets rid of excess oil [granted, most shampoos should do that already, but this one supposedly has a better formulation, and for $3 it's worht a shot]. I've heard that lightly coating your hair with conditioner before swimming minimzes chlorine damage.


Kinky hair can usually be tamed with some basic styling cream. Try one or two, and see what works. You could also try a new style around your face. Maybe some layers or something similar that cuts away the kinky parts around your ears? Hairspray could solve your problem too.


Good luck with your hair!
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sorry if this is under the wrong thing,
but i just about wash,blow dry, and straighten my hair everyday.
now this is killing my hair,
so i was just wondering if anyone knew anygood
repair hair porducts, or anything to put on my hair before i do this to protect it.
dont tell me to stop fixen my hair because i cant.
thanks in advance

If your ends are ragged, the only thing that'll fix them is a trim. To prevent further damage, use a shampoo and conditioner designed to moisturize, "anti-split ends", something of that sort. I swear by Paul Mitchell Super Skinny Serum. I ran out the other day and almost cried- it was a bad day. Hah, that product is the best. Garnier makes a serum too that's similar, and a lot cheaper. Use a styling cream that you like the smell of that works for your hair type. There's hundreds to pick from and most can be purchased at Walmart, CVS, etc. Heat protecting spray works well, and you can use it with another product for additional protection.


Oh, and turn down the temperature on your straightener by a few levels & see if it still works on your hair just the same. You may be surprised. Air-dry your hair as much as possible, and use a low heat setting when you do blow-dry. That way, you'll be applying less heat to your hair = less damage!


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Please read all of this. I really do need help and a second opinion, and I have no one to talk to.

I'm 15, 5'1 and 135 pounds. I have a petite frame, and obesity runs in my family. I used to weigh less, and I know it shows that I am heavier than I used to be but when I look in the mirror I don't see myself as fat and obese. I just don't know if others see me that way and I just don't realize it. I went to the doctor three weeks ago when they told me how much I weighed and how tall I was. The nurse said my weight was perfect for my height, but the frantic research that I've done says otherwise. Sometimes I get really down on myself and begin to see it, but I don't know.

I think I've gained weight because during school I ate a lot because of stress and the cafeteria, but this summer I've been cutting back A LOT. I've been ordering healthier items when I eat out, I've stopped eating between meals, and I've stopped eating when I'm not hungry. Sometimes I slip, but... overall I think I'm doing a decent job. Hopefully, I've lost at least 2 to 3 pounds but I have no way to be sure since I have no clue where the scale in my house is.

Bottom line is, I don't want to beat around the bush or anything so I'm just going to ask. Do you think I'm "fat?" I've been really sad lately because I've been accessing these internet BMI calculating websites that have been mostly saying "I'm at risk of being overweight." One even said I was overweight by 25 pounds. But according to one of my friends, they thought I looked around 110 or so.

I don't know if it's all relative or not. Do people just carry their weight differently? My friend is 5'6 and weighs 140. She also eats much more unhealthy than I do, and no offense at all to her, but she does look somewhat heavier than I do. Not but much, but she does. But she only weighs 5 pounds more than I do and she's 5 inches taller. I just don't understand.

Thanks in advance, God bless.

Everyone's built differently. Someone could be ten pounds heavier than you and look skinner, or ten pounds lighter but look overweight. Your doctor's said you're fine the way you are, and you eat sensibly. Stop stressing so much over a number!


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i like this guy, he says he likes me. hes great. perfect :). one problem...he just told me that he smokes cigarettes...and i dont like it, but i still like him. like, it doesnt bother me enough to stop likin him. he says hes quitting soon though. i mean we still like each other like A LOT but its sooo gross...

If he smokes occassionally, you won't be able to tell that much when you're with him. Ask him to at least brush his teeth, shower, and wear cologne, etc. so he doesn't smell like an ashtray.


If he's an otherwise great guy, give him a chance. You could be missing out on someone great just because they've picked up a bad habit. Don't start smoking just to fit in with him, though. That'd just be pointless..


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heyy,well i'm doing a play and we need to get clothes from the mid 90's to the earlyyyy 2000's. our teacher told us to get s more punkisj,grungey style. soo,what was gundge/punk then?(i was only in,ehh, 1st grd.?) also what were some famous bands? 80's bands too. thankyou veddyy much =]]

If you have iTunes, check out this essentials collection.
[http://phobos.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewMix?id=40875548&s=143441&wm=4]
^ click that link and it'll open the appropriate iTunes Store page


Also, check oldish NOW CDs. Like, the first eight or so. You can preview them at www.nowthatsmusic.com too.


Fashions, all I can remember was grung-ey, and leggings. Lots of bold color too. Get snap bracelets if you can find them. [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1990s_in_fashion]
^ for more ideas.


Break a leg! =)
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does anyone know how to get a cool font on their myspace page. i've been to dafont.com and i dont get how to use it? but yeah help please.

You have to install it to your fonts folder, when you unzip the file, make the location C:\WINDOWS\Fonts\


Then you can use the font in Word, Paint, etc. It's best to type out whatever you want [like your name, a quote, or whatever] in a program like Word and take a screenshot [Print Screen button] and put it in your myspace as an image [use the code Tinypic.com is good for uploads]. That way, ANYONE can see the font, and not just you. If they don't have that font installed on their computer, it's replaced with a font like Arial and they won't see it [unless it's an image].


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How can I get my mom to trust me more.
She's really strict, and she wont even let me go to the park sometimes because she thinks im "seeing guys".
Which sometimes I am but who cares its not like we do anything.
Ive tried a lot of things and shes just getting worst.

Have her meet your friends. I had a similar problem with my parents- they were reluctant at first to let me hang out with my friends, since they're mostly guys. Once they all came over a couple times, my parents realized that they were decent individuals that they didn't mind their daughter socializing with.


Another thing, carry a cellphone if you can and call her a couple times when you're out, just to check in (or borrow someone else's) and reassure her that everything's fine. You can also gain her trust by being a responsible person. Do your chores without (much) complaining, go the extra mile and dust the house without being asked, walk the dog, do your homework (once you're in school again), things like that.


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I accidnetly got a bit of Super glue on my camera screen. It's been dry. How do I get it off?

Nail polish remover works well. If you're getting desperate, try a plastic scraper, or Goo Gone/ Goof Off/ OOPS!/ something of that sort. Industrial-Strength Goop Remover. That's what I call it anyways.


When all else fails, pick at it everyday with your fingernails until it crumbles off completely.


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alright, well my best guy friend is peter. actually, he USED to be my best guy friend. we got in this fight over something waay stupid, except i apologized and we made up - he said he was over it. yet, ever since then, it's like we're not even friends. we used to talk all the time about knida "deep" stuff and he used to confide in me. for some reason, i think he lost trust in me over something dumb. well, now he NEVER ims me and when i im him it's like we're making small talk and we hardly now eachother. it's so different and weird, and i want it to be back to how it used to be. he's stubborn though, and i don't know how to win him back - every time i talk to him he acts nice, but like we're not even friends. i want to gain his trust back and talk to him how we used to. how can i do this, or start to?

Talk to him again about what you two were disagreeing over. There's probably something still bugging him. Ask him to tell you what's on his mind about it, and apologize for your behavior, you may have done something unintentionally.


Or, he could just be going through a phase, guys do that a lot [and so do girls for that matter]. Don't be nagging him constantly about it, he'll talk when he's ready. Oh, and if he's gotten a girlfriend since this all happened, he could be confiding in her & feel uncomfortable sharing so many things with you. Explore every angle before you jump to conclusions.


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I have really curly hair. So it's hard to straighten. I want an straightener that will make it easier...it normally takes about an hour to straighten it perfect. I want one that is under $30 though.

And I need sprays to help my hair not get damaged by the heat. What do I use?? (brands etc.)

And is there anything I can put in my hair to make it stay straight??

I use a Wet2Style straightener- on dry hair. I got it for around $25-30 at Target and they're still the same price, I checked last week. It's lasted me over two years and the finish is just now starting to really wear off. They only harm your hair if you actually use it on wet hair. It's a good design, though, because if your hair's a bit damp in a few places, it doesn't stop working & has vents to get the steam away.


As for products, there's a million. Tressemme makes a really nice heat protecting spray, as does VO5. Creams & lotions, gels, etc. take your pick. Loreal makes a really good one from the studio line. It's called HotStraight or something of that sort. Pick one you like the smell of that works for your hair type, anything works really for heat protection.


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Hi, I am new here and I need some advice. I am 14 and Im a girl, and I weigh 127 pounds. I want to lose weight, and get thinner, but I can't seem to stick to any diet, or stick to any exercise thing. I'll be good for like a few days, but then all my friends are pigging out so I end up doing it too! How can I learn to discipline myself, so I can get a better body and be healthier? and please dont say I should just be me or whatever, I need something that works.

Depriving yourself completely doesn't work. Trust me, I've tried. Moderation is the key to basically everything, and it works. Wherever this pigging out is taking place, I'm assuming sleepovers, parties, things like that? Take something along that's healthy AND really good, for everyone to share. Low-cal versions of 7-layer dip & baked tortilla chips is a good choice, and is really filling and won't make you crash like pure sugar will. Instead of soda, drink milk, juice, water, tea, anything but soda. Again, you'll feel better afterwards- no sugar crash- and you'll get some vitamins in too. Discipline's easy for some. When you catch yourself mindlessly snacking, drink a glass of water instead and tell yourself that you don't NEED to eat half a bag of chocolate chips, and it won't help you reach your goal.


Okay, that answer started to ramble, and it's about 2:30 in the morning for me. So if this doesn't make any sense, inbox me and I'll clarify for you, haha.


Good luck!
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well, my camera randomly decided to start taking really low quality photos. i have a casio exilim with 7.2 mega pixels. a while ago i dropped it in the sand at the beach and it wasnt working but, i ended up fixing it. then a few weeks ago, i took a picture, and the quality was horrible. and i have no idea why. and when i turn the camera on it makes a weird noise. maybe theres sand in the lens? idk. i really want to get this fixed. if i bring it to get fixed, how much do you think they'll charge me?

Take a cotton swab, Q-Tip, whatever you call them, and dip it in glass cleaner like windex & clean the lens. Fingerprints get on there rather easily, and it happens to my camera all the time. I also happened to get sand in mine, and I gently shook it a little and the sand worked its way out, you just have to be careful about not grinding sand along the lens with the cover part, the black par that covers the lens? Make sure there's no sand caught under it.


If you take it somewhere, have them give you an estimate first. Having the camera repaired may cost just as much as buying a new camera. And if the prices are close, I'd just go for a whole new camera [and keep your old one because hey, it could randomly start working in November and then you have two cameras!]


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to lighten the color of your eyebrows without going to a salon? im getting my hair highlited and my eyebrows are already darker than my hair for some weird reason.

Yeah, you can used boxed hairdye. Or ask the person at the salon to do it for you, or try lightening with lemon juice, but that could easily sting your eyes so be rally careful. Eyebrows are often SUPPOSED to be darker. SO don't do anything crazy like dyeing dark brown eyebrows bleach blonde, unless you want to look scary. Eyebrows don't have to match hair color, I think they're designed to match SKIN tone, actually.


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hi,theres this girl we have kissed but it was just her kissing me an i said im a better kisser then her lol she said well next time i see her i can prove it to her..in 2 days im teaching her how to play basketball and when i see her im going to tell her to close her eyes an im going to french kiss her i wana no how to make her get goosebumps and where to touch her like on her check and run my hands down her spine an that like in the movies when a girl doesnt no what to do after the kis

or girls tell me how you liked to be kissed thanks..

Just do it. If you plan it too much you'll worry about it too much, just go for it and kiss her when the moment feels right.It comes naturally though, really. Oh, don't drool all over her face- yucky. Or force your tongue down her throat. There's really no "wrong" way to kiss. And your hands find their place, it just happens so like I already said, don't overanalyze it.


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lol, let me just tell you right off the bat that soul meets body is my favorite song.

what are some like upbeat songs that have the leads voice like soul meets body? i have some other DCFC songs, but soul meets body is my favorite out of them.

Check out The Postal Service- same singer. Also the Fray, Lifehouse, Imogen Heap, and Acceptance [even though they broke up their music's still good]


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wel i have a lot of friends but one i always hang out is my best friend and she means the world to me but it seems that she never cares?

like if i dont' see her for one day i get really said and stuff but if it's vice versa, she's be like 'meh.. i don't care if you hang out with other people'

I don't know why it upsets me so much..does anyone know what im feeling or what she's feeling or problem?

She's proably happy that you're socializing with other people and not becoming too dependent on her. My best friend and I, we spend four days at each other's houses, then we might not see each other for two weeks. We're fine with it. It's not bad that you miss hanging out with her, just don't make it so you can only hang out with her without getting miserable.


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ok so ive had a bad belly ache for about 3 weeks and i have super bad cramops and im not sure if its the start fo ym period or im just not healthy



help

I'd see a doctor to be on the safe side, cramps shouldn't be lasting that long. Also, if you've been eating something new, you could be allergic to it or something. Either way, seeing a doctor is in your best interest.


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Is "Ginny" short for a different name (a girls name)??

And can everyone PLEASE tell me their favorite boys and girls names??


Thankss soo much!!

Ginny can be a person's actual name, but it's also short for Virginia [as many people already said] or Ginevra. I've only heard the latter in Harry Potter, though.


My favorite names for a girl & boy are Madison and Jeffrey.


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i need a good sugar cookie recipe. i like my cookies to stay soft, but i dont want to use too much butter.
thanks:)

This one's good. I've used it. Make sure you put the dough in the fridge long enough, it makes a difference.

-http://www.bettycrocker.com/recipes/recipe.aspx?recipeId=6775


The secret to making cookies soft [and chewy of course] is to bake them to a point where they look a little bit underbaked in the center. As they cool off, they cook a little more. It might take a tray or two to get it perfect, but sugar cookies are hard to ruin, just don't bake them until they look like hockey pucks :D


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Where is the 278? Seriously.

Southern MA. It's my town's telephone exchange.

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