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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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anyone have ideas on what to put in my buddyprofile besides the "about myself" or shoutouts part. i got that already.
thank you

Chorus or quote lyrics, or just lyrics to your favorite or meaningful songs.
Quotes (if you need sites I have a few)
Stuff from movies, like funny things or good quotes, inside jokes, just stuff.

Hope I helped. You can look at mine if you need to. My buddy profile... there's a link on my column.

Theres this guy he creeps me out every time I sign on he's on and he IMs me saying he's gonna rape me and crap and I'm scared...What should I do I'm 14 years old I need your help Allison please!!!!

Help!!!!

Do you know who this person is? If not, maybe you can give the screen name to a friend and have them say something like "I found your username on my buddylist and I was just wondering who you are, and just incase he tries to find out who that person is, make sure he/she doesn't have any bio info or anything like that.
Also save and/or print your convorsations, or just the stuff where he threatens you.
If you know the person, or know that the person goes to your school, or anything about the person bring the printed out conversation to your guidance councilor or principal or administator (I don't know how your school system works) And definitley show the convo to your mom/dad/gaurdian, and DEFINITLEY find a policeman/woman and show them the conversation and let them know that you're scared!!!
Like we have a cop at our school, and he's super friendly towards us, he's really nice and everything, so if I were to get threatening messages from someone the first person I'd say anything to would be him.
Or do you have a teacher you trust talking to? You can tell him/her. Like it'd probably be easier to tell someone that you're comfortable talking with because then it'll be easier to get everything out, and if you start crying or something then it won't be as embarassing.
But you need to SAVE and PRINT the conversation, or just wherever he says the stuff that way you have proof and you can get this person busted. This is a crime, and you NEED to take action NOW before it gets worse. I'm sorry this is happening to you, but you need to tell a trusted adult and get the police involved. If you don't than he might quit being all talk and begin being some show (if that made any sense.)
Good luck, and if you need anything else feel free to let me know!!

My b/f just died in a car crash and he was on his way to pick me up and i just cant help thinking that if he hadnt been on his way to pick me up he would still be alive his sister was in the car and is in the hospital and wants to see me, but i dont know what to say to her. What if she blames me like everyone else?

Wow, I'm sorry for your loss, and I'm sure not everyone blames you. Was he speeding, or was he doing something illegal, or was it a 2-car wreck and the other drivers fault?
Do you know the show 7th Heaven? Well there was an episode where this girl Lucy was waiting on friends to pick her up, and they got into a wreck and her BEST friend died. She blamed herself and wouldn't even go to the funeral. My friend passed away from drunk driving at a party I begged her to come with me to. You don't know how badly I blamed myself. Losing someone close is really tough.
I'm sure the sister won't blame you, and if she does, well it's NOT YOUR FAULT!!!! If it wasn't him, then it would have been someone else.
When you see this sister (if you do) just be like I'm really sorry about your brother, and I hope you don't blame me, I really cared about him, and I miss him just as much as you. I know you've known and loved him longer, but I truly miss and care/d for him.
I really hope you don't blame me, and if you do well I'm sorry, and that's all I can say. If I could change what happened it'd be me in the car, not him. (only say that if you truly mean it) I'm sorry that you ended up in the hospital and I hope you get well soon.

~~~~ I don't really know what to say. I was never really faced with the situation of the sibling wanting to see me. But I felt so guilty the only time alcohol entered my body after that crash was new years, and that was just a sip of wine or champagne or something. I was filled with guilt, mainly because her 18 birthday wasn't too long after the crash and I felt like I had taken adulthood away from her.

I will tell you though, no matter what ANYONE says, it was NOT your fault!!!! You can't control fate, if the lord wanted him dead, he would've died some other way. Have you ever seen ..dangit I forgot the name... but it was a movie about how these teens escaped death, and how death was out to get them in stuff. There is the first one, and then there's a sequal.

I really and truly am sorry for your loss, and I can empathise with you. I understand how you feel. I'm not completely sure how I got over the guilt, but I do know I had help.
If you just want to talk about it or get out your feelings then you can e-mail me at Maniac_Munchkin@yahoo.com, Basketball_Babii_08@yahoo.com, or Bull_Dawg_Babii@yahoo.com
And remember IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!
Again, sorry for your loss.

I'm 15/f and a freshman in highschool. Lately I've been having problems with my phys. ed. teacher. I'm not going to be around the bush about this, but he's an asshole. (excuse my language). He's always such a jerk to me about every little thing. A friend of mine had a shirt on that she changed into for PE that had a picture of George Bush Sr. and George Bush on it and it sayd Dumb and Dumber under their pictures. He had a fit about it and I was supporting her saying that she can have an opinion about whatever the heck she wants to. He basically said she's not allowed to have an opinion about it until she's 18. Then he proceeded to say how he can run his class the way he wants to and if I have a problem with it to take it up with the principal. Not only is he a jerk, but alot of the time he seems like one of those really creepy pedophile type people. He's always staring at me when we do stretches and stands behind me when we're doing toe- touches. We had to do jumping jacks this weird way and I'm not coordinated enough to do it so he asked me to stay after class about it. We were doing lay ups when we played basketball and I suck at any sport that involves a ball and he asked me to stay after class to work on it when there were about 5 other people that sucked 10 times worse than me but didn't ask them to stay after. What exactly should I do about this? I mean, he hasn't made "a move" on me so I can't really say much about that but what should I do? Sorry this was long!

I agree completely with storageanddisposal.
It's a good thing that you've never actually stayed. There's this one math teacher at my school, he was staring all funny at a friend and she said something about it to him, he said he'd look at her any way he wanted and then he looked her up and down. And like one other time, he was wearing red and white and she told him he looked like a candycane, and he said "so lick me". I mean how perverted can you get??
Teachers are fags. I guess she was too nervous or something so she never went to guidance, probably also because she's not doing all that well in his class, and she doesn't have any witnesses, so she doesn't know how believable she'd be. Don't know if that's the reason, but thats my best bet.
I say you're better off going to your guidance counciler or talking to your principal or something like that. Or tell a trusted teacher or parent, anyone that can help. Maybe see if you can get your class/teacher changed. Whatever you do, if he ever asks you to stay after, DON'T!!! If he gets mad about it and sends you to the office, ask to speak with the principal or guidance councilor and tell them that you refused to stay after class or be anywhere with him, even out in the hallway, alone because you don't feel comfortable and feel like he'll take advantage of you. They HAVE to do something about it. Teachers are supposed to help you learn, and are supposed to like be there for you when you need help, and stuff like that. There was a rumor that a teacher called me a pothead, and before the rumor she was one of my favorite teachers. Well after holding a grudge for a few months I finally just came right out and told her, of course she's one of my favorite teachers again, my second fave I think. But yeah, teachers are supposed to help you, and be there, and make you feel safe. If you can't feel safe, or if you feel uncomfortable around a certain teacher, either you talk to him one on one, but have a friend there just incase he tries something, or just so he won't try something, kind of as a witness, or talk to guidance or a trustworthy adult.
School is a place to learn and feel safe, if only one of the two is happening, then something is wrong. You need to talk to someone about it and get the situation under control. Hope I helped, if you need anything just let me know!!

My boyfriend like to fidle around with my chest, and oh do I not mind, I think it is pleasureable and feels incredible, but he also will ask me to touch myself like he does. The thing is, I don't mind touching my breats like that, I like the feeling of me touching them and it kind of turns me on. Is this weird or wrong?

No, pleasuring yourself, no matter how you do it, is a form of masturbation, and it's completely normal to do just that. I'm not really into that kind of thing, but it's not weird or wrong.

i was just wondering some good ideas for my aniversary with my longtime boyfriend coming up...i was wondering if anyone had some ideas for a romantic evening, something that we don't normally do. thanks

Depending on the weather where you are, go for a picnic in the park. It also depends on your age and stuff like that. You said and I quote "something that we don't normally do." How in the world do we know what you normally do? And you didn't help us by giving your age or where you live, what there is to do around you etc. Now I think a late afternoon picnic, bring a boom box to listen to music with, then when it gets late ya'll can walk around the park holding hands looking at the stars. But that's if you don't have an early curfew, there's a park near by, it's safe to walk at night wherever you live, and weather permits it. I assume that you do dinner and movies a lot, because most couples do, otherwise I'd suggest that. And bowling isn't that romantic... and depending where you are located there could be many other romantic things. For some people romantic is going to a football or soccer game outside in the cold and cuddling under a nice warm blanket. Or spending time having fun at your favorite teams basketball game. Or say you live in Australia (or wherever this sport is played) and you want to watch a rugby game. I don't know where you live, your age, your interests or anything. This question is almost impossible to answer. Sorry if I come off rude, but it'd be a whole lot easier if you left some detail, or at least your age.

im 13/f and have been gettin discharge for more then a year...buti havent gotten my period yet..is this normal?

Yup, perfectly normal, I think I had discharge for like a year and a half maybe longer before I got my period. Believe me, you don't want it. I didn't get my period until I was 14 (ha, I'm 14 now) but it's definitley something I wish I wouldn't get until like 16. But if you don't have it by like 16 then get a doctor, but you're only 13, so it's fine. Completely normal.

what is a vivid dream?

A vivid dream is a dream, but it doesn't feel like one. Kind of when you wake up and you could've sworn it really happened. And you remember just about everything about it when you wake up. It could also be something like de'ja'vu (sp?) like a lot of my dreams are just dreams of something that could easily happen, then like a year later it does happen and I feel like I remember it happening before, though I don't think that made any sense.

A definition of vivid: Presented in clear and striking manner, Perceived or felt with the freshness of immediate experience, Active in forming lifelike images

And then a definition of dream:
A series of images, ideas, emotions, and sensations occurring involuntarily in the mind during certain stages of sleep.

Try and put them together to make more sense to you. I hope I helped.

I need to know some colleges CLOSE to New Jersey, New York..That area.. That you can get into without Straight A's

I'm not going to do complete research, you should have to do some of that on your own, but here's a site with colleges located in NY
http://www.collegescolleges.com/states/NewYork.htm
And with colleges located in New Jersey
http://www.collegescolleges.com/states/NewJersey.htm

Look through them and see the requirements. Good luck. Sorry, but I have other things to do and I can't really do complete research, but I hope my answer was of some help.

I am 14, female int he 9th grade. I'm also usually a straight A student. My sister graduated 2nd in her class. She recieved an full scholorship to the college she attends. My brother was expelled in 11th grade. My parents had stressed how important grades were, I agreed to an extent. Working my butt off to earn straight A' and a high GPA. This Marking Period. I am in Algebra 2(normally a 11th grade class) and French 1. I was doing okay in Algebra untill I failed a quiz and recieved a 80% on a unit test. This brings my grade to 88.5%, the MP ends in 3 days. no way i can bring that up. in french, i got a 70% on the Unit test. I failed most the tests in their. But my grades were usually up. Now I face the problem of having 2B's (a possible C) on my usually perfect report card. I told my mother this afternoon and she shook her head and simply said "Shit *insert name*". She then turned and walked away.
I WORK MY BUTT OF IN SCHOOL. I'm taking all Honors and the most difficult classes. I can't be perfect like my sister, I can't always get straight A's. How do I tell my parents this respectfully. ??I'm sorry It's such a long question.:-/ Help

I liked Sherry's answer about the whole letter thing, because she's right, your parents probably would interupt you (I know mine would) And WOW! about the alg 2 thing. I'm doubling up next year in honors geometry and algebra 2, but some of my friends (I'm same age/grade as you) are in it and they're having a tough time. But I'm kinda like you. I want the perfect grades, and usually I'll work my butt off to get them. I once made a 90-something on a math test and I was complaining when some of my friends had failed it. But really I think the letter idea is good. Just tell them that you've tried your hardest and that should count for something, but that you'll work at it to get your grade back up, and if possible you'll do some extra credit or get some type of extra help from your teacher. Tell her that as a freshman you're taking on a lot. Not many freshman are in such advanced courses. I'm doubling up and stuff in my sophmore year, I'd like to graduate early, but I don't think I can do that because my grades have been falling. On my report card (got it last week) I made an A, a B, a B+ and a B-, TERRIBLE compared to what I normally make, first time in a long time that I'm not on A honor roll. But really I bet if you wrote a letter like Sherry suggested and told them that you're taking on a lot of stuff and there's a lot of pressure, and it's difficult but you're doing as best you can they'll understand. Maybe they'll even help you get your grades up. If you need extra help just talk to a teacher about it. Try and tell them that most parents would be very pleased that you're making B's, my parents are sooo happy when I make just B's, but I complain. My mom laughed at me when I told her I was disappointed that even though with all the extra credit I had and I made a 121 (w/ extra credit the highest I could've made was a 125) I was disappointed, my teacher even said I made the highest grade, I was upset that I didn't make a 123 or higher. I don't like missing 2-3 questions on a test, I think it's terrible. But really try and explain to them that you're feeling overwhelmed or stressed and maybe they'll undestand. Sorry if I didn't help any, and I apologize for going off on 'stories' about me.
Good luck, and I hope you get your grades back up!

How can I delete a question that someone asked me but I already answered? Please help!

I think I know what you mean... if you go to edit answers and find that answer, then delete everything you've written and hit submit it will delete your answer.
If that's not what ya meant then let me know. Later!

does anyone know about today's holiday? its called smingus dingus =)

http://www.geocities.com/musetti.geo/dyngus.html

Does this sum up what is going on, or did I miss something?

(This was originally posted in response to a question about why most people here are 13 year old females.)

Hello there,

I have been trying my best to figure that one out...

Have you noticed that girls will tell their dads things that they simply can NOT bring themselves to talk to their mother about? Same thing goes for boys. There is a definate lack of Dad type creatures around these days. Failing to have that person to bounce things off of, they ask their peers.

Why? Because, quite frankly, when you are 13, practically everyone you know well enough to ask advice. Boys and girls all the same.

The difference comes in that a boy can ask his mother: "Hey Mom, what can I do to impress this girl." Mom is a girl, so she knows the answer usually. Don't EVER ask your mother what a boy likes... :-)

A boy at 13 has a number of people around of the male type, varying in ages, which he can ask most everything he would ask a dad if he were there. Pastor/teacher/martial arts instructor/mechanic/barber, etc.

We wouldn't think twice about asking someone we hardly know if we should get roses or chocolate, do we look alright, etc.

People say men don't ask for advice... That's bull. You see, we do. We will ask, get the answer and move on. I remember hearing girls talk about what their friend said they should do, and their friend's friend said this and that and the other.

Men, are very simple in such respects. We don't intentionally ask people we know will give bad advice. If we have a matter of life experience, we like to go to people who have already lived through a few more things than we have. For example: Back when I was 12, I wouldn't go seeking investment or job advice from someone 13. Try 50+ They have already done all the career stuff and if they did it right you get good advice. If however they did it wrong, you get to find out what job you do NOT want to get into. By asking our elders these things we learn something either way.

Today we all have reduced opportunities. When you are little today, you can't just hang out with adults... The news people have everyone convinced that every adult is a predator unless they are your parent. Guess what? The last figures I saw indicated that better than 80% of all child sexual abuse is committed by one or both parents.

What effect has this had? When I was about 6 my Dad went to pick up something from an equipment yard. I went with him and noticed a guy rebuilding an engine. Dad went into the office to pay, so I wandered over and started bugging this guy. By the time Dad came out, I was learning how to use a torque wrench. (The thing you use to make sure all the bolts on something are tight enough, but not too tight.)

Dad asked the guy if I was bothering him. He said not at all, so Dad left me there to learn for about 3 hours. I got a lot of that. Dad was a fair judge of character.

Now, there usually isn't a dad at all. :-( Everyone is so scared of things that kids never get a chance to talk to many people wiser than themselves.

We have ended up in a place where the only place to get advice is from our peers. People your own age usually give bad advice about almost everything. Boys, girls it doesn't matter.

Right now, on this board, there is a 13 year old female asking what she needs to do to start having sex. There are a few people who asked her to think twice, but those in her age range were less concerned with her mental health, and more concerned she get an appropriate condom.

A 14 year old, said something like "Don't wait till you get old like me, get your groove on before you get too old"

BAD ADVICE! Down! Bad Advice, no biscuit!

Adults in general aren't out to get you. It's a fact. If your Mom gives you bad advice, it isn't because she is trying to ruin your life... It is because she THINKS WHAT SHE IS TELLING YOU IS RIGHT. It doesn't make it right. Not at all. Same thing for Dads. (Though I mostly see complaints about mothers here.)

When my parents knew I was old enough to think for myself is NOT when I said I was. It was after I proved it. I thought something my parents said was unreasonable. My dad told me to put it in writing. I did my own thinking on why I felt that way. Then I started researching the idea. What I found out was that my parents were right about that. I wrote it out and handed it over. It was after that that my parents KNEW that if I looked into things for myself I would come to the right conclusion. Even if I didn't like it.

Short version: You want to be treated like a thinking, well read, intelligent and wise adult? Act like one.

Adult life is a lot easier when we spend our youth listening and learning everything we can to make smart choices.

Here's another thought: Travel. Out of this country. See how the rest of the world lives. Most people buy clothes because they are durable, not because they are "IN" (for about a week.) Guaranteed to open your mind to a whole new way of thinking.

Over a quarter million people died in the recent Tsunami... The survivors have NO PLACE at all to call home. And the current threads here are: "Should I wear a thong?" "Where do I get Like size 00 clothes, that are, like, in?" I like this boy...girl, etc."

The best thing that ever happened to me was seeing that almost everything I had been told to believe was important: Cars, clothes, trends, music, hair, team choice, etc. was completely and totally meaningless when you look at the big picture. I would have been right here asking the same kinda stuff(boy version of course) had I not had that opportunity.

Ok, this became a rant. Not against 13 year old girls. A rant against what our society tells 13 year old girls and boys is important for them to be worrying about.

Back to the topic of WHY:

Girls, let me ask you a question: How many of your girlfriends did you tell about this site?

Now tell me how many boys you told about it? Did you tell them there was a guy with 20+ years of computer experience they could ask questions for free? (I normally charge $75.00 per hour in my shop.) Did you tell them there was a place to ask questions about cars and trucks? How about model rockets? R/C cars? Paintball? Airsoft guns? Model building? Sports? Weight training? Hunting? CB radios? Computer hardware/software/networking? Car stereo? Hydraulics? Truck driving scools?

Have you told a single boy you know about any of the things that HE might be interested in?

Do I see one hand raised? Ok, so you get a boy in here and he asks a question. Wonderful! What do most of the girls do? Make fun of him, laugh at him, tell him he is stupid or he would already know and CORRECT HIS SPELLING! I am almost to the point where I have looked at every question on this site. I saw a lot of that on my way through.

What do I do when someone asks a question I don't know the answer to... I research it and post links to appropriate resources. When was the last time you did that for a question you couldn't answer? Saying something "cute" or mean as hell does not encourage the participation of teen boys. Teen boys are actually quite insecure about opening themselves up to be called stupid, or made fun of. They don't handle it well at all. It just guts them and they are never quite the same.

Here is something to consider: You have this guy, who you really like. You set up a date. You go out and buy the BEST outfit on earth. Your Mom likes this guy, so she gives you her credit card, sends you to get hair and makeup done in the BEST place in the city.

So far so good? Ok, now he shows up to take you out, and when you open the door, he bursts out laughing! Pointing and LAUGHING AT YOU!

Your new duds may be stylish, and the hair may be the latest french design but to him it is hilarious. He doesn't know anything about french fashion, or Neiman Marcus so to him you look like a hooker in a clown suit.

How BAD would you feel? Would anything ever make you COMPLETELY whole again after something like that?

Same thing if this site offers to answer questions and then the people here ridicule and belittle the askers. Boys minds work different than girls. It isn't a bad thing, it is just they way we are wired.

I got an email from someone after I answered their question. They said they quit using the site because the response they got to a very well thought out question was: "F***ing Dumb*SS!"

I reported another place this person used the same abusive response, using the abuse report feature, and this was the response:

"Moderator Response
Submitted: by FrEe2bMe
Reponse: While K**************'s response was not appropriate, if you look at their over all rating it is only a 2.21. That is why there is now a threshold where you can set who you want to recive answers from Under Profile Setting adjust it so you only recieve answers from people like 4 or higher or whatever your comfortable with. :)"

This guy, yes GUY, 15 years old didn't know that, so he will never be back.

Did anyone step up to tell this person off? Did anyone else report it? Do you even know where the abuse link is?

It is up to the majority here to decide if this is going to be Advivenators.com or Abusenators.com

Since the majority here are 13 year old girls, I ask you: Which will it be?

DangerNerd

I think that's the longest post I've ever actually read. And I agree with most of what you're saying. Though not all 13 year old girls are that immature. I'm 14, but joined this site back when I was 13, I joined the summer before high school, and I was 13 and in 9th grade for quite some time. I might be sterotypical teenager that just wants to have fun, blonde at heart, fun-loving girl, and somewhat immature. But when it comes to advice, well I've experienced a lot of crap in life, and I can empathize with people. I might seem young, but age is just a number. It's the level of maturity. And yes, there are a lot of immature 13 year olds on this site, but there are also a lot of mature ones, or at least somewhat mature ones. I might not be mature in my personality in front of my friends, but when it comes to this site, I'm pretty mature, and answer questions to the best of my ability, and when there are questions I don't know the answer to, but either want to help the person, or interested in the question being asked I will research it. If you were to visit my site, and look at some of the real deal questions I've answered, you'll notice that I've been through a lot and that I'm a responsible advice giver, even though I'm young, and possible an impressionable teen, I can still be mature. The fact that it seems (note I didn't say you were) you are stereotyping 13 year olds is a little 'immature' yeah, that isn't the word I want to use, but I can't think of the word I do want to use.
But I do agree with a lot of stuff you said. I read through some of your other responses, and I liked what selectopaque (sp?) had to say. I'm not trying to put you down (if it sounds that way I'm sorry) But we all have opinions, and though I agree with yours, I don't like the whole 13year old girls statement. Majority of the a-wholes on this site are guys. But if you don't ignore them, then they'll continue doing it. They do it for the attention, and when people say stuff back to them, well they're getting the attention that they seek and they'll try harder and harder to seek more and more attention. But I thought I'd share my opinion. Not every 13 year old girl is immature. Other than you saying that (or at least that's what I interpreted) I agree with a lot of what you're saying.

thongs are like really in and i was wondering if anyone who has used one can give my pros and cons of wearing them since at this rate i'll never where one myself

Wearing them because they're in (which they aren't nor were they ever) is kinda stupid. Be an individual, don't do what everyone else is doing. Yeah, I bet most girls wear them, I do if I'm wearing white pants, or tight jeans or dresspants or something like that, but that's just to lose the pantyline, which as most girls probably would agree, boy shorts will do that for ya. I like 'em. Don't wear 'em all the time, but if ya wanna lose a pantyline and don't wanna wear a thong, that'll do it for ya.

Pros
No pantyline
eventually comfy
When you're wearing low-rise jeans and you're sitting, your thong has a less chance of popping up like regular panties would
Umm, they're cute and come in many different colors, and there's more than one type of thong, they make 'em for boy and girls.

Cons
You can get some type of infection
It takes time to get used to them (at first it feels like a wedgie)
If people see the sides hanging out, (like when you're sitting, if the thong is visible) then of course the slut stereotype comes out
when you're on your period you have to wear tampons
If you're wearing one and your period unexpectedly comes... well *whoops*

That's about all I can think of. I mean I wear thongs, but it seems that there are more cons then pros, the big factor is the whole pantyline thing though.

if 2 people who are virgins have sex, is it still possible for an std to be transmitted?

If one of them already has one. Just because you've never had sex doesn't mean you don't have an STD. There are some wackos out there who will prick themselves and leave a bloody needle in a movie theatre seat, you sit in it, and wa-la, if they had an STD you get one. Or if you're giving head to someone and you have an open sore, and they have an STD then you can get it. Or if your parents had/have an STD then you possibly(and most likely) have one. Always get check. You should be able to be tested for free at the local health department.

what brand of mascara works really well?

Majority of my makeup is covergirl and maybelline, but yeah, I use maybelline mascara, and I think it works pretty good.

Tonight I'm going with a few friends to see a scary movie. My boyfriend is going to try to come behind his parents back to go with me. This one guy that I know who really really likes me is also going, and I kinda like him. What should I do because I'd rather cuddle with my guy friend than my boyfriend. Help!!

Well I think instead of 'cheating' by cuddling with the guy friend instead, you would be better off breaking up with your boyfriend. But make sure the guy friend likes you. But seriously whether or not the guy friend likes you, if you no longer have those positive feelings for your boyfriend, then break up with him before you really hurt him. You shouldn't be with him if you don't truly care, or at least if you don't care the way he does. Break up with him. Then if the guy friend likes you, have your fun. But don't do it unless you break up with the guy you're with now!!

I know about cutting and what cutters do..but i watched tv the other day and it showed a girl who snapped a rubber band on her wrist and needed phyciatric help for it...what does a rubber band do and whats the purpos?

It's something you do to try and break a habit. Whenever you have a strong urge to do something that you shouldn't or don't want to do (i.e biting nails, cutting...etc) then you snap it. I've never heard of anyone needing psychiatric help for that. Kinda strange. What show... do you remember?

Edit~~ that's kinda odd. I've never seen it, but I think it's still strange mostly because i've never heard of anyone needing to do that. But whatever.

Does anyone know any inspirational sayings? I am in need of inspiration.

~Nokomis~

~Just because it happened in the past doesn't mean it has to stay there~
I was talking to my friend Jessica about a person I knew who passed away (we were passing notes in class... of course) and she wrote that. I LOVE that quote!!

what are some good "truths" and "dares" for "truth or dare"?!

These are some truths I've made up

Out of all the people here, if you could save only one of us, who would it be and why?

If you could do whatever you wanted with whoever you wanted, who would it be, and what?

If you could do anything with any teacher, who and what would it be?

Who out of all of us do you think is sluttiest/man-whore like

Out of all of us, who do you think will be the first to get married.

Out of all of us, who would be most likely to get pregnant before graduating (or get someone pregnant)
"Who is the prettiest person of the same sex" (to grls)
Who do you think is the hottest guy here (to guys)
If you could make out with anyone of the same sex who would it be?
(to guys) if you could give yourself head would you?
Who is the hottest coach?
Who is the ugliest coach?
What's the one thing you've wanted to do as long as you can remember?
If you were a guy, what girl would you want to date (to grls)
If you were a girl, what guy would you date (to guys)
Would you rather have a good-looking partner and great sex, but a jerk/witch, or a nice partner, not very attractive, and horrible sex?
Would you rather screw someone of the same sex, or screw your eldest family memeber of the opposite sex?
Would you rather have the best sex ever with the ugliest member of the opposite sex, or the worst sex ever with the hottest memeber of the opposite sex?
(pick a person) list 3 good and 2 bad things about that person
If you could choose between painless child birth and periods once a month as usual, or never having a baby (no adopting or anything) and painless periods which would you choose.

For a guy... If you could choose between having a small dick and the hottest/sweetest girl, or a big dick, and the sweetest/ugliest girl, which would you choose?

If you could choose between being sick and feeling healthy, or feeling sick and being healthy, which would you choose?

If you could choose between a slow and painful death by starvation, dehydration, and loss of blood because your arm is caught on something, or chewing (or cutting) your arm off using your teeth (or a handy dandy knife) which would you choose?

If you had to choose between a computer with no Instant Messenger, and only e-mail for something seriously important (getting h/w, talking to teachers...), or using a phone once a month for 10 minutes, which would you choose?

If you had to choose between going to college, making millions, and marrying someone you hate, or high school diploma, a salary that barely supports you and your family, but marrying the best person (to you) in the worl, which would it be?

If you had to choose between playing a middle school sport, a high school sport, and playing a college sport, but never making it bigger, or being made fun of all your school days, but becoming better then all your class mates when you get older... which would it be?

That's about all I can think of now... let me know if you need more and I'll try.

^sry, but I suck with Dares so I didn't list any!
Hope this helped though

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