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My b/f just died in a car crash and he was on his way to pick me up and i just cant help thinking that if he hadnt been on his way to pick me up he would still be alive his sister was in the car and is in the hospital and wants to see me, but i dont know what to say to her. What if she blames me like everyone else?
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Wow, I'm sorry for your loss, and I'm sure not everyone blames you. Was he speeding, or was he doing something illegal, or was it a 2-car wreck and the other drivers fault?
Do you know the show 7th Heaven? Well there was an episode where this girl Lucy was waiting on friends to pick her up, and they got into a wreck and her BEST friend died. She blamed herself and wouldn't even go to the funeral. My friend passed away from drunk driving at a party I begged her to come with me to. You don't know how badly I blamed myself. Losing someone close is really tough.
I'm sure the sister won't blame you, and if she does, well it's NOT YOUR FAULT!!!! If it wasn't him, then it would have been someone else.
When you see this sister (if you do) just be like I'm really sorry about your brother, and I hope you don't blame me, I really cared about him, and I miss him just as much as you. I know you've known and loved him longer, but I truly miss and care/d for him.
I really hope you don't blame me, and if you do well I'm sorry, and that's all I can say. If I could change what happened it'd be me in the car, not him. (only say that if you truly mean it) I'm sorry that you ended up in the hospital and I hope you get well soon.
~~~~ I don't really know what to say. I was never really faced with the situation of the sibling wanting to see me. But I felt so guilty the only time alcohol entered my body after that crash was new years, and that was just a sip of wine or champagne or something. I was filled with guilt, mainly because her 18 birthday wasn't too long after the crash and I felt like I had taken adulthood away from her.
I will tell you though, no matter what ANYONE says, it was NOT your fault!!!! You can't control fate, if the lord wanted him dead, he would've died some other way. Have you ever seen ..dangit I forgot the name... but it was a movie about how these teens escaped death, and how death was out to get them in stuff. There is the first one, and then there's a sequal.
I really and truly am sorry for your loss, and I can empathise with you. I understand how you feel. I'm not completely sure how I got over the guilt, but I do know I had help.
If you just want to talk about it or get out your feelings then you can e-mail me at Maniac_Munchkin@yahoo.com, Basketball_Babii_08@yahoo.com, or Bull_Dawg_Babii@yahoo.com
And remember IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!
Again, sorry for your loss.
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