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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.

I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.

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My boyfriend and i had a huge quarrel and we haven't said a word to each other since then.. Its been three days now and he hasn't called.. I sent him 3 messages and his not replying his been giving me the silent treatment since what can I do somebody pls tell me what to say to him I don't want to loose my boyfriend

Have you tried calling him and maybe leaving him a message telling him you want to talk about it?

If your boyfriend doesn't want to return your call and discuss the issue then I would think after awhile maybe he doesn't care much about the relationship. In order for relationships to work there has to be communication. What was the arguement about? There is a bit lack of detail...

I think your boyfriend is being very immature ad handling this poorly. I also think that you should of tried a little harder then a text message. Again, If he refuses to fix the issue then maybe his silent treatment is also trying to proove a point that he no longer cares. Either or its immature either way

I suggest leaving a message maybe something like this

"I am calling to check in I haven't heard from you and I wanted to aplogize about ____ I was hoping we could sit down and talk about it and try to resolve the issue. If you want to talk you can call me. If I do not hear from you by tomorrow I will assume we parted ways"

We are currently living together. We both have full time jobs, and I go to school fulltime for Nursing. Well, I work 10 hours a day, and he works the typical 8 hours.

The problem is my fiance is so lazy!
WE've been living together for almost 10 months and he never cleans. If he does I have to ask him to do things, for example:

I have a dry erase board on our wall in our bedroom, and I'll leave him messages before I go to work telling him what needs to be done when I get home.

(I work 8am-6pm && he works 8pm-5am && he sleeps ti'll about 2:30pm---He works at a factory and I work at a daycare with toddlers)

Well when I get home, NONE OF IT IS DONE. So I end up doing it. I've got to the point to where I'll clean up after myself, but not him; and it kills me because it'll be weeks before he even touches it. Matter of fact, there is laundry that has been in the hamper for almost a month!!!

It's driving me insane. I told him how I feel like we both should be putting in effort equally, and I'm not his mother, so he shouldn't rely for me to pick up after him; but he still doesn't!

He is an adult, and yet he is so messy! When I get home from work he is on his video game, and when I ask 'how come you didn't pick up the house' his reply is, 'idk, i forgot'.

Ugh! I shouldn't have to ask him to do any of this; if its messy, he should just pick it up. Like dishes, he leaves them in the sink- I, on the otherhand, I do them as I mess them up; he never does his dishes!

what do I do?

Edit: I didnt mean you, I meant he doesnt pick up after himself.

Hm, maybe seeing its your parents house it would be effective if they set some rules seeing he is a guest in their home? I know this may sound like a hassle in a way but perhaps he needs to hear it from the ones that own the house...

I really hope things get better for you :-( wish I could help more.

You now have found out things you didn't know about your fiance. Jess is right, That old saying is very true.

Your fiance can change but he has to want too. Working long hours is not a good excuse to not pick up after yourself. I suggest talking to him about it. Let him know that the house needs to be picked up and you both now have responsibilites as you both live together. A relationship is about teamwork and if he is not willing to put his fair share into helping you out then this is what marriage life will be like for you. If it keeps up you WILL get burnt out.

My fiance had the same problem and for months I struggled to get through so here is what I did;

I went out and bought a erase board just like you said
I talked about it sternly and explained that I was getting fed up with the way WE did things and it needs to change. Never say him or he will feel attacked. Explain to him that if he eats to clean his dish afterwards it would be much less stressful. When you are home alternate, one day you take out the trash the next day he does. My concern though is a habit like this is hard to break and if he doesnt shape up soon then you probably want to rethink about things or try counseling maybe that will give him a push.

My advice to you is if he doesnt listen then move out for awhile and show him what life will be without you. Sometimes you got to show them tough love for us to get it.

hi i work in retail and he is my manager. He's always kind to me. He pops out everywhere. When he passes by and i look at him, he always comes back to ask me if i'm alright or do i need any help. He always offers me a ride home but i refuse all the time because i'm so shy. He always look my way and smiles at me.. And that smile could bring me to cloud9..:)) Recently, he told me he knows i can do everything because i'm awesome.. What does it mean? Does He likes me too? I'm afraid to fall for him coz he's old but i can't stop my feelings anymore. It's too strong.. help please!:(( how will i know if he does likes me?
Thank you.

I don't suggest trying to come onto your manager

Anyone who is in higher authority is in the wrong to date someone of their own. Example: A therapist dating a patient, A teacher dating a student and the same with a manager dating a coworker.

You are putting him and yourself a risk for loosing your job. Also, Do you know anything about him? This man is bot only very much older but he could be seeing someone. Not trying to be harsh here but you have no right in suducing a manager and neither do they. It looks bad and it is in many cases against the jobs policy. Very unprofessional

my girlfriend is a virgin and she scared to have sex with me because shes scared her parents find out and shes still 15 , tell me some ways to convince her into having sex with me please

Dude

'convincing' isn't how you gain your girlfriends trust. If she isn't ready then respect that and stop pressuring her. Pressuring her or forcing her to do something against her wishes is wrong. If you care for her then focus on her feelings and bot her body

First time. Tried typing the word Clubbing dresses in GoogleImages and it did not help!

19F. Please send me links of pictures I should wear or you have worn before? Nothing...crazy.

Club wear can be mix match but I tend to like casual look on ladies

Here are some ideas

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http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&gl=us&biw=320&bih=416&tbm=isch&sa=1&q=club+wear&oq=club+wear&aq=f&aqi=g-s2g1g-s2&aql=&gs_l=mobile-gws-serp.3..0i10l2j0j0i10l2.24424.28030.0.28919.9.9.0.0.0.0.307.1411.2-4j1.5.0...0.0.&mvs=0#i=50

I have been "seeing" this guy for around 3 months ( we are both in our 20s). He got out of a relationship a month or so before we started talking and he initially said he didn't want a relationship, and his friends alluded to the same thing. I didn't want one at first either I mean he isn't really even my type at all and we live kind of far from each other so we really only hang out at beat once a week. We text everyday and our for our first " date" he brought me to his house and made me an extravagant meal and bought three different types of wine incase I didn't like one of them. Totally unplanned we ended up falling asleep and I spent the night ( nothing happened more than kissing). Similar nights followed and after almost three months we had sex and right after we did he started speaking about his ex gf ( nothing positive though). We also went to a party and he got mad that I was talking to other guys. Ever since we had sex I feel like we are distant and I actually like him and would want to date him because sometimes he really does act like a boyfriend but I find it so hard to bring up the topic with him. He makes references to the future and to love spending time with me and how he hopes to do certain things with me ( like travel), yet he makes no attempt to solidify what we have. I really don't know what to do anymore, I don't know whether this is just a hookup to him or more but I'm scared to ask because I don't want to sound dumb. My question is, how do I get him to want to actually be with me emotionally as well? Any insight would be really appreciated

You two had sex and he began talking about his ex? Whether it was positive or not he isn't completely over her. If he was then he wouldn't have the need to bring her up period. Also, he had told you in the beginning he didn't want a relationship or perhaps he does but wants no emotional part of it. Really the best advice I can give you is to be honest and talk to him about it. If he doesn't want to get emotionally envolvedthen I would probably just stick to being friends and set boundaries. Allowing yourself to have sex is allowing him to be apart of you emotionally whether there is an understanding or not. What you do is up to you but sometimes fwb can be damaging depending. Re- evaluate your relationship and rake it from there

I used to date a guy I was so much in love with,I would do anithing to make our relationship work.. I also had a very close friend but after a while we fought and things were no longer the same.. After a couple of months my boyfriend broke up with me I felt soo hurt I lost weight... A week after our break up he started dating my friend I was soo shocked because she knew about us and she still did that to me even though our friendship wasn't that strong... My exboyfriend I would say stopped talking to me and would flaunt her every where I feel so sad whenever I see them together I haven't been able to move on.. What should I do

I am sorry you had to experience this, Unfortunately if your ex is dating your friend soon after the breakup chances are he hasn't been faithful for awhile.

I tell many that the best way to get over it is to focus o the anger part of it. In this situation your anger is him and your ex friend. Do not focus on how much you miss him etc focus on the fact that he hurt and betrayed you and use that to move on from it. The truth is my friend if he wasn't faithful to you then there is a very high chance he isn't going to do the same for her. You do not have to pity yourself in fact find strength to realize you are lucky you are no longer with someone like that. This girl isn't lucky she is just his next victim. Never let a guy drag you down brcause your true happiness is yourself not a man or a boy. You are much stronger than that and have to much to gain then a clueless couple in a fantasy land.

well im at school and my ex wont talk to me .. he keeps looking at me but i dont know if i should go talk to him first or wait till he talks to me. We were friends but he's acting weird. What should i do? How can i get the same friendship we had a week ago.. i dont want to push him farther than i have already..

Many exes generally prefer to go their seperate ways after a relationship. Despite the effort most exes never work out as friends. Once you date you develope an entirely different relationship with that person and you let the barrier of friendship down.

Your ex probably feels hurt and uncomfortable. I would think it would be best to leave him alone for awhile. There is a golden rule 'never try to befriend your exes' this is true for various reasons tention, drama, lack of trust and just chaos in general. You may never gain back the same friendship and this is something that in time should be excepted.

Is it possible if a woman has sex the day before her period & the man ejaculates inside of her for the woman to get pregnant???

Yes, There is no safe time of the month.

Ok so I really like this guy he's a freshman and I'm a sophomore. We all know summer is coming up and I know I wouldn't see him till the next school year. Which is really hard on me. I'm kinda shy so it's not like I can just go up and ask him it's not that simple. The guy I like is this girls brother which the girl is a junior and she's on my sport team( which I likeher we cool but she can be intimidating and I dont want that side of her) I dint have any classes with him but I go to his class sometimes to talk to people and sometimes him. Please help I'm kinda desperate bc I'm fragile

Are you friends with this girl? I'll give you my two cents on asking someone else..

The most attractive thing men find in a woman is confidence. Asking his sister for his number isn't really the smartest way unless you and her have some sort of friendship. Randomly asking is awkward.

As hard as you find it just try to get to know him. Find out what his interest are and try to small talk. I am pretty shy myself but someone once told me that it is only uncomfortable if we make it out to be. If you don't know what to say then try "hey whats up? I like your shirt" compliment him and start off casual. There is nothing to loose but I would never do it through someone else.

I will try to be brief. Me and my wife currently live in a mobile home that is falling apart. It is in need of many repairs and neither of us knows anything about home repairs. We dont make a ton of money whcih is what it would take to repair everything. At the same time, it is paid for and we hate the thought of having a rent payment again. Should we sell and move into something nicer, or stay where we are and try to eventually get everything fixed?

The user below me is right. One thing you need to consider is the profit. If the trailer cost much to repair you can fix it up but it may have a hard time selling in the economy expecially seeing as the value for homes itself are going lower and lower.

This is just an option but if the trailer is unrepairable then you could try to sell as is or just find another place to go. Maybe a nice apartment or something but I wouldn't be trying to by a house nowadays.

So I'm getting braces in a few weeks and I was just wondering what it's like. Does it hurt? What can I or can't eat? Just basic things because we didn't talk about any of this when I went to the orthodontics. Thanks

At fist your teeth will be sore and sensitive. This feeling should go away within about a week after braces were put on.

Avoid eatting anything sticky

Candy, Gum, marshmellows even popcorn

Be sure to brush daily to avoid stains on your teeth! After you have braces put on avoid anything cold for a few days.

Good luck

Me and my 'ex boyfriend' broke up a few days ago. We're both fine with it but I still love him. Over the summer he's moving to Georgia and I wont see him so is it better that we broke up now? Or should we have waited? And he's mad at me cause my friends are always around..what do I do? Tell them we he's around not to come by me? I'm just so confused...

Assuming by Georgia you mean another state? Long distant relationships are nearly impossible to maintain. There is a old saying 'do what you must but don't prolong the pain'

If he is moving away then it was probably best to call it off now then wait to the last minute to part ways. I am sure you know that too. I was in a long distance for a few years and the stress was unbelievable at times. Gas, Bus, Train can all be costly after awhile and trying to keep a strong bond between one another while your apart is mostly based on trust. That trust sometimes fades away and we get tierd of holding on and before you know it a long distant relationships turns into nothing but a fantasy. This guy is mad because your friends are around? You both are no longer together and he does not have a right. It is controlling to tell someone who they can and cant have around. A quick answer? Yes I would say it was for the best. If he is surely moving it wouldnt matter much whether you waited or not the difference if you did? You would of made the moving on process much harder then it has to be.

16 Female. Size: 34 D

I hate my boobs they are so saggy and i am so embarrassed. I can never show my boobs to a guy because i am so embarrassed about them. I want to get a breast lift and a boob job or something but i know i can't do that anytime soon:(

I exercise often and have been running for a long time off and on but i ware two or three sports bras and a bra to try to keep them from moving as much as possible when i run, because i herd that running makes your boobs sag? So thats why i put on that many sports bras cause i don't want them to sag even more. idk i just hate my boobs and i want to fix them :(

Do you have any advice on workouts the lift your breasts and make them perky?

You are too hung up on the fact that you won't be accepted.

Any normal guy isn't going to care how your breast look. Loving someone is not about what they look like anyway. Guys love breast it doesn't matter to us if they are sagged in fact what would come to mind is they are natural! Most dudes would rather have the real deal then someone who is made of plastic or went through a breast lift so they gain approval. My opinion a breast lift or implants just shows how insecure a woman really is. Running the cause for saggy boobs? I don't know who told you that one but it is not true. Running is great exercise. It builds muscles, endurance and a million other things. Trust me when I tell you guys dont think about the shape, size or the lift they are just happy their there. Stop worrying and stressing over nothing

Hi there,

I still have your old account available if you would like to have it back.

If you would like to be Zane again, please send me the email you would like to use on the account, since the old one is bad, and I will open the old account again for you.

Welcome back.

I hope your surgery was a success.

DN.

Hello there!

Sure I'd like to come back as Zane! The new email address is Debellisma@yahoo.com. Surgery went well had a knee replacement and the recovery has been a speedy one.

I was talking to this guy for about a while. We planned on hanging out and then he said it wanted it to be just us,so it was obviously a date. I was busy for about a week so we didn't really talk. Then I went to text him and he seemed really distant. Then the next week I found out he's dating this other girl. Obviously I was hurt and just stopped talking to him. This happened in March. Now today he "bumped" into me,gave me a hug and asked how I was. He walked with me to class and this is awkward but he bent over so I could bump into him and was really flirty. I didn't want to be rude to him then but im still really angry about what he did. Today I went and checked Facebook and he's still dat
ing the other girl. I feel like he's a jerk that doesn't deserve my time but I still like him. What should I do?

If the guy is in a relationship then he isn't available. When he asked you to hangout with him and you were busy he could of assumed that you weren't interested and moved onto someone else. Also something to think about but if he is flirting with you while he has a girlfriend what makes you think if he ever dated you he wouldn't flirt with someone else? Maybe you are better off friends and you could explain to him that he is a really nice guy but maybe you could ease up on the flirting.

My wife used to have very attractive breasts, about a DD-cup. After our second child, though, they just kind of... deflated. She wears a B-cup now and while there's nothing wrong with that, there is quite a bit of sag because they used to be larger.

I would like to suggest that she get implants - not to make them outlandishly large, just to restore them to something like they once were. I know that she doesn't have a problem with cosmetic medical procedures in general because she's had botox and she actually worked for a plastic surgeon once, but I'm afraid that if I suggest she get breast implants, she will think that I am repelled by her body. I am not - I just think that her breasts could use a little help at this point, and I'm not interested in changing her, just in restoring this part of her to what it once was. If she said she wanted me to take steps to try and restore my thinning hair, I would be fine with that (in fact, I would be eager to do something which would make me more attractive to her); but I don't know if she will see this in the same way.

Does anyone have a suggestion insofar as how I might approach the topic? From the women out there, how would you feel if your husband suggested that you get cosmetic surgery?

Any normal women would find this rather insulting. Although it is not your intention to do so it is probably best not to evwr bring it up. You would like to her breast more appealing but if you love your wife then why are you judging her? Learn to except her for who she is inside and out and stop pointing out her flaws. Nobody is perfect and it isn't recommended you bring it up either.

i am gay aged 22.i had sex with so many guys,but i didnt had anal sex.i sucked their anus while sucking i got some liquid before he ejaculate..is there any chance of getting infected by hiv.

Yes it's possible

If you are worried then you should get tested.

hey frndz i have a frnd in ma clsses i hav feelings on him. ilove him v muc nd evn i adimittd that i love him.he nt that type of guy wic blievs in love bt i love him like 'more dan ma life' sry bt i cnt express in wrdz bt my frndz tld me tht'tu uske ssaath pak jayegi'bt i wannt him 4 ma njoyment i wnt bc i love him.he ignores me bt dosnt tells me bt i cn see frm his behavior.he fattu typs so he will nt tell me tht he loves me ........
plz frndz advice me wat shuld i do.....plz plzplz..

I would be glad to help you with your problem but I cannot understand anything you are saying. Please re-write the question properly.

He gets a boner by just looking at me, or being around me. I don't have to do anything...is this weird?
He said i just really excite him and just thinking about me has given him a boner.

i didnt think this was possible. lol
he's almost 18.

Some guys are easily aroused, It's not really a bad thing. ;)

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