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I would like my wife to get implants
My wife used to have very attractive breasts, about a DD-cup. After our second child, though, they just kind of... deflated. She wears a B-cup now and while there's nothing wrong with that, there is quite a bit of sag because they used to be larger.
I would like to suggest that she get implants - not to make them outlandishly large, just to restore them to something like they once were. I know that she doesn't have a problem with cosmetic medical procedures in general because she's had botox and she actually worked for a plastic surgeon once, but I'm afraid that if I suggest she get breast implants, she will think that I am repelled by her body. I am not - I just think that her breasts could use a little help at this point, and I'm not interested in changing her, just in restoring this part of her to what it once was. If she said she wanted me to take steps to try and restore my thinning hair, I would be fine with that (in fact, I would be eager to do something which would make me more attractive to her); but I don't know if she will see this in the same way.
Does anyone have a suggestion insofar as how I might approach the topic? From the women out there, how would you feel if your husband suggested that you get cosmetic surgery?
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Surgery is not not something to be taken lightly. It has risks, and it is painful. There is the risk of infection, there is a risk of the implants hardening, etc.
If your wife decides to have surgery, it should only be because SHE wants it, not because YOU want her to have it.
She sacrificed her youthful breasts to have your children. You should cherish her for that.
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This is incredibly sexist and frankly disgusting. Your "I'd work on my bald spot" example does not equivocate to what you think being alright. It just means that you'd empathize with her if she was as shallow as you apparently are.
Women go through changes throughout life, it's part of their natural process. Telling her you want to "restore her to what she once was" is incredibly insensitive and self centered.
Suggest this and there's a high probability that you'll just end up getting a boot up the ass for your trouble. And you'd deserve it.
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I guess you like sleeping on the couch. This is one subject you should not touch on unless she brings it up on her own. If she is not hiding her breasts from you or hiding her body from you, denying you sex in anyway don't go there. It is normal for what has happened to your wife to have happened after child birth. Also a woman's breast tend to sag with age.
As for implants go not all surgeons do the type of work I think you would be happy with. My wife had to have Breast surgery after a mastectomy. Her surgeon did an excellent job. You cannot tell, if I let you, the real from the implanted one.
The type of implant and lift our surgeon did is the most expensive of the implant surgeries. The implant on one side could only be placed under the muscle. So that meant the lift of the other breast had to be done the same way. There are no tell tale rings as with most implant surgeries. But this surgery cost my insurance company about $18,000 where most implant surgeries run near $5,000 t0 $10,000.
So the other questions you must ask yourself if you are bent on asking your wife about this is. Do you have between $5K & $20K to pay for the surgery as it is not covered for cosmetic reason? Would you be happy with the lower cost enhancement that would announce to the world in your wife's cleavage that she has been enhanced?
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Any normal women would find this rather insulting. Although it is not your intention to do so it is probably best not to evwr bring it up. You would like to her breast more appealing but if you love your wife then why are you judging her? Learn to except her for who she is inside and out and stop pointing out her flaws. Nobody is perfect and it isn't recommended you bring it up either.
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If a man ever told me to go under the knife and risk my life just so he had more tits to look at, I would probably stab them in the jugular.
Stop trying to change your wife. I can't even process how bad of an idea this is.
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