LAWofHISvoice answered Wednesday May 16 2012, 3:48 pm: Your Irreverence about such a serious and privet question shows your true maturity level, to bring a question like that to a forum like this. I hope and pray she leaves you. You have treated the sacredness of her virginity as something common. Just understand your actions today will affect her for the rest of her life. If you’re a Christian or have any kind of respect for the Bible or consider yourself spiritual chew on this scripture 1 Corinthians 7:1. A real man wouldn’t even dare try to seek a way to take the one special thing that she has to offer her future husband “HER VERGINITY”. Be a true man, master self-control. [ LAWofHISvoice's advice column | Ask LAWofHISvoice A Question ]
adviceman49 answered Thursday May 10 2012, 10:16 am: The short answer is YOU DON'T
You don't convince, pressure or force your 15 year old girlfriend to have sex with you for any reason. There are real world penalties for doing so. What you are trying can be interpreted as RAPE if you succeed in wearing her down to giving into you.
When a girl tells a guy she is not ready to have sex with him that is the end of the conversation. Continuing to try and convince her can be construed as harassment, or some type of forcing her to give in to you. That my friend is the definition of RAPE. At your age you may not think so but if your old enough to looking to go all the way with a girl then you better know the laws. Also be aware she is under the age of consent and sex with her is rape regardless of whether she says yes or no because by law she cannot consent.
I'm being real here with you. There is more to sex than just the pleasure and release of your hormones. There are real world penalties for what you are trying to do, so STOP. If all you want is sex then find someone else. If you love her, I mean really love her you will stop pressuring her to give in to you and just enjoy being with her and doing whatever she enjoys or allows.
Given societies outlook on teenagers today my advice is to stop pressuring her to give in to you. At least where this girl is concerned keep it in your pants and avoid any possible problems that could come your way by forcing her. I know this is not what you want to hear but it is good advice for today and the future if you want to stay out of Jail. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
WittyUsernameHere answered Wednesday May 9 2012, 7:10 pm: Today's word of the day is "Objectification"
Objectification's basic definition is "making something into an object/a thing"
This is important in context with relationships because people are not things. You use things, you don't care about a thing's feelings. A book is an object, do you care how it feels? Your computer is an object, you might even feel pretty attached to it, but if you won the lottery and needed up upgrade it you'd throw out the old one with hardly a second thought. The only reason it matters to you at all is because it serves a purpose, because it does something for you that you like. It's sole job is to be there to do what you want it to do.
Do you think that's how relationships work? Do you think that your girlfriend's job is to satisfy your sexual desires? What about her own? She is not an object. She is a person, with her own needs, wants, feelings, fears, and volition. She is every bit as much important as you are.
When you try to "convince" someone to have sex with you you deny them agency. Agency means the right to make their own choices. She has a right to not sleep with you. You have a right to go somewhere else and date someone else who will. You do not have a right to pressure a young girl into sex because you want to have it.
In this society we have a bad habit of treating women like sexual objects. A very bad habit. Women are taught that their role is to satisfy a man sexually. Children like you take it to heart and act on it and try to convince girls to have sex with them because they want to get their dicks wet. This is bad for everyone. It's bad for her because you are treating her like a thing, and if she realizes it she is going to be hurt. It's bad for you because it turns you into a self centered douchebag who uses people to get what he wants instead of treating fellow human beings like they are in fact fellow human beings.
Do not sexually objectify women. Do not convince people to have sex with you. If both parties are not ready, willing, and eager, sex should not be had.
'convincing' isn't how you gain your girlfriends trust. If she isn't ready then respect that and stop pressuring her. Pressuring her or forcing her to do something against her wishes is wrong. If you care for her then focus on her feelings and bot her body [ Zane's advice column | Ask Zane A Question ]
KlutzyKim answered Wednesday May 9 2012, 5:29 pm: You shouldn't try to "convince" your girlfriend to have sex with you. For whatever reason, if she doesn't want to then she doesn't want to OR have to. Don't try to force or pressure her into anything, that's so wrong.
You can be prepared with condoms and tell her you'll go to a private location but if she still says no, that's it. You're not having sex.
If that's all you want from her or that makes you get angry at her, than you shouldn't be in a relationship with her. [ KlutzyKim's advice column | Ask KlutzyKim A Question ]
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