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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.

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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!

--Jack

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Ok.. I'm 13.. And i made a promise to God that i was going to stay a virgin until marriage... But i think about sex sometimes.. I never think about doing it, just.. you know... But does that make me a bad Christian? Its hard to not think about it when people my age are already losing their virginity... I don't want to be like that... It's wrong.. People my age are always joking about it and saying when they're 16 they are gonna lose theirs and stuff... But I think this is wrong... Also, what is all of the meaning behind a purity ring and how can i get one? Also, what is masturbation? I think anything about sex is wrong... Not just intercourse like some people... I am not going any farther than kissing... And i don't want to have thoughts or anything.. But i need to know what masturbation is. Thnx!!!

Merely thinking about it is bad yes, but not as bad as if you were to act upon your urges.

Just ignore what other people are doing. You're amazing for sticking to your morals. Keep it up ;]

Purity rings mean that you're saving yourself until you're married, generally.

Masturbation is stimulating yourself to reach a sexual climax. I suggest you stay away from it if you're trying to abstain and be pure. It will likely stimulate feelings of lust, which is something you don't want.

--Jack
(16/m)

my friend is turning 16 next week and is having a party at her house - its not like a formal sweet sixteen, its just like pizza and chips and cake and like swimming and stuff like that.
I decided to give her money as a gift but I don't know whether to give her $50 or $75.
If it was a formal sweet sixteen i probably would give $75 or even $100, but since its really informal is $50 fine?
I've known her since we were 7 so I guess that matters.

If you want to give $50, sure go ahead, but even $15-$20 would be acceptable.

If you don't have a job and you really don't get much of an allowance [like me], I'd say giving what you can is fine. And if your friend is upset about how much money she's getting, she really isn't that great of a friend.

--Jack
(16/m)

So i would like to take someones comment on myspace and use kinda like a picture under my about me how do i do that?

Yes, use the "prt scrn" button, which is located diagonally from the Backspace button. Then open paint and PASTE [not paint] it in there just by going to Edit-->Paste.

Then you can cut out everything around the comment and make it so that it's only the comment itself.

Then, save it to your computer where you know you can find it, like under "My Pictures" and then go to:

http://www.tinypic.com

And upload the picture there, and then use this code:

And paste that into where you would write your caption.

--Jack
(16/m)

When all I'm doing is making out with my boyfriend, he gets hard. I mean, we're like laying together and stuff, but is that normal, for guys to get hard from just making out?

Yeah, especially since the slightest touch or smell of something can cause this. It's rather hard to avoid.

--Jack
(16/m)

can someone tell me if i need the first sim game installed onto my computer, in order for me to install the The Sims 2 or another Sims game?

thanks you.

The answer is no. You're thinking about expansion packs. Like back when The Sims was awesome and there wasn't a Sims 2, you couldn't have "Hot Date" or any of the other expansion packs until you had the original software.

--Jack
(16/m)

for the 3rd cheetah girls movie, raven symone isn't in it.

so in the movie,what excuse are they going to say when galleria isn't there with them anymore? or are they just going to do the movie without mentioning her?

They probably will have an excuse as to why she isn't there, kind of like how they do on every Disney show when a person is not there.

No one will really know the excuse until the movie comes out.

--Jack
(16/m)

15/f
This guy i like is in one of my classes and we talked for like a week over the summer but he ended up having to go do something so we couldn't talk anymore. I don't know if he still likes me or not but today in class he waved to me and said hi and we had a short convo. But i am SUPER shy and every time i talk to someone i'm comfortable around my stomach hurts and my voice is REALLY shaky. He came over to me and my friends to talk to us but he was mainly talking to my friends because i was just standing there not talking. I get really shy.

Also, this isn't really part of the question but he has ALOT of friends that are girls and i will see him talking to them all the time and i know i shouldn't be jealous but he put his arm around my friend today just like a little hug time thing. I was like, "i wish that was me" but anyways, what should i do?

Here's a list of what guys do when they like you:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

Here's a link that will give you good tips on how to start a conversation, because that's what I suggest you do:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545090

--Jack
(16/m)

How do you get rid of anoying friends?

Oh my specialty. Haha not really, but I find myself doing this a lot =/.

What I did was say how I felt about them and just straight out told them I thought they were annoying and why. And then I said "I'm sorry, but if I want to talk to you, I will, but please do not talk to me anymore," and it's worked every time.

Like Laura below said, making up lies will get you nowhere. Be truthful and things should turn out right.

--Jack
(16/m)

haha, my boyfriend well he really loves my butt (it's a kinda big),says so all the time. But he says some thing that are a little hurtful, like they don't hurt my feelings really I'm just not used to someone saying things like "You have a fat ass" or 'Damn, girl you have a nice big butt". haha, I remember once when I was sitting on his lap he was all 'Oh is my phone hurting you" I was like "Nope", he goes "Yeah, probably all that padding" he says it though, in a loving way. Its not rudly spoken.
I don't know what to think, it is a compliment right?

I would talk to him about it. I'm sure he doesn't mean it to be rude, because if he did, you would probably be able to tell.

Ask him if he means it to be mean when he says those things, and if he says no, you'll just have to accept that.

Maybe ask him to not poke fun at you because even if it doesn't hurt you, it might soon turn into something he says to you in public, and then he might offend someone or something.

--Jack
(16/m)

in your opinion, which is better: an ipod or a zune? also, which lasts longer? i need a new one and i want something that will last me years.

I would say that an iPod is better because they have really good troubleshooting advice if you go to their website. They may freeze a lot, but you can minimize that if you don't try to switch songs or things too quickly. It's like any computer- if you try to have too much going at once, it will freeze. If you are careful with it, it will last longer.

I've had my iPod for two years now, and it doesn't have ANY scratches on it. Granted, I keep it covered and I barely touch it without having something between my fingers and the iPod. If you are wary of what you're doing with it, and you don't drop it or do stupid things, it will last a long time.

--Jack
(16/m)

16/f..i'm about to be a junior in a week. and well..my wardrobe hasn't changed much. i did buy a few new clothes but found that i had enough from last year...and they're pretty good-in-quality-clothes so i thought eh. what the hell? i'll just wear them next year.
also, our family's on a budget right now..so i can't get around this. would you be embarrassed to wear the same clothes next year (in addition to a couple new) ? =\ it worries me. like what people would think...

I would never be embarrassed, especially since that's what I already do xD

I still have a shirt that somewhat fits me from 7th grade. Haha how bad is that?

I just recently got a whole bunch of new shirts like back in March, and I would be stupid to not wear them just because it was a new school year. You're absolutely fine.

Just wear what ever the heck you want- who cares what you look like- people aren't going to remember you by what you wore on the first day anymore than what you wore yesterday or any other day. What people will remember you by is how you acted as a person- not what you decided to wear to impress people. If someone is going to talk to you and hope to be your friend only because you're wearing Hollister- what kind of friend is that? One that only cares about your appearance- not your personality. That isn't someone you should try to be friends with. Wear something that makes you comfortable and something that you like. If you like what you're planning on wearing- then so be it. Don't wear it for the wrong reasons.

=]

--Jack
(16/m)

I am 14 years old and will be a freshman in highschool.
Every year I help at my church in my brothers class and there is this girl that also helpsthat I have known for a while now. I know her pretty well. She is beautiful, I like who I am and all that but when I look at her I feel funny. I say things I wouldnt normally say and tell her things that I think would impress her. I feel like I am not good enough for her. I am not very big or strong I weigh 94 pounds. The only thing is she thinks I am funny. I just don't know how to tell her I like her without emmbarrasing myself. I have never had a real girlfriend everytime I have asked its been rejection. I don't want it to happen again. What do I say so I at least have a chance.

My friend Laura would give you this advice when it comes to wondering if she likes you:

I'm going to start off by saying this: if a girl smiles A LOT when she's around you, she probably likes you as more than a friend.

The Top 5 other things to look for:
1. She laughs at your jokes.
- No matter how many times she's heard them, or how totally lame they are, she'll laugh at them. End of story.

2. She touches you (not sexually, get your head outta the gutter!)
- She plays with your hair, or fixes your shirt or something. Maybe she even holds your hand, that's a pretty good sign that she likes you.

3. She includes you in things.
- She talks to you even when she's with her friends. She makes an effort to include you, like by asking you things. Even lame questions like, 'What color should I paint my nails?' might be her way of trying to include you.

4. She makes an effort to talk to you/see you.
- She texts you just to say hello, she's late to class just because she wanted to hug you good bye, or she calls you just to see what you're doing.

5. She trusts you, and talks to you seriously.
- She tells you things that she might not normally tell others. Like, if she's in a bad mood and tells others she's fine, she'll actually tell you that she failed that geometry test, or her friends aren't including her lately. She opens up to you and isn't afraid to be herself.

Even though every girl is different, these are the top 5 things girls do when they like a guy. So, chances are, if she's holding your hand and texting you saying :" Hey whatcha up to? :)", chances are she's doing it all for a reason.

And I would say that if you want to ask her out, just BE YOURSELF. You said she thinks you're funny, well play on that, without distorting your personality in the process. Ask her if maybe she wants to go see a movie or something. Starting off by blatantly asking her out might scare her away.

On this page there are some flirting tips you might find useful:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543909

Thanks for inboxing ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

my family is planning a vacation for this weekend, it's going to be about a 9-10 hour drive down south. I always get car sick esp if the drive is more than 4-5 hours
any way I can prevent this from happening?

Bring your iPod or another type of music player and listen to music the entire time to distract you.

You could try sleeping most of the way, because if you're asleep your mind won't be thinking about being car sick.

Bring a book, but sometimes that may make you even more car sick, but you could try it out.

I've heard that if you focus on the horizon when you're in the car, it gives you a sense of balance and you won't be as car sick.

--Jack
(16/m)

hey, i am seeing a broadway show in october and i dont know which one i should go to. i love spring awakening rent wicked and legally blonde if that helps

thanks!

Well..

Actually I am going to see two shows on Broadway this weekend. I'm seeing Wicked and Phantom of the Opera.

Here's some other ones:

South Pacific
The Little Mermaid
Hairspray
Mamma Mia
The Lion King
Chicago
Shrek the Musical [Not kidding]

--Jack
(16/m)

Ok so basically ive been at my job sense februray of this year. When i started working there, everyone told me my manager was gay, but something about him didnt seem gay at all. Time went by, I got to know him, he still didn't seem gay, until we got a shift manager who was clearly gay. Everyone said they were dating, and for a while, i believed it. However, I always thought he was incredibly attractive and often would dream of him. Recently, the dreams started getting more and more frequent until they were every night. I tried showing him some interest at work but I really wanted to keep my feelings from a distance-based level, until one night, my brother found out I had a crush on him and sent him a sexual text message from my phone without me knowing. He asked if it was meant for him and when I realized what had happened, I got embarresed and told him someone else had sent it. He kept saying "Suuure!" and "Sure, thats what happened.. Ha ha ha" joking about it, and he would bring it up when we were alone and smile about it. We're always playing around and the otehr night I got drunk and told him that I liked him. The next day he asked me if what I said was the truth and i told him yes, and im yet to get a responce from him. Is he not interested at all? Am I just wasting my time? Thank you

First off- if you want to know if he's gay, ASK him. Inferring or listening to what other people are saying will NOT work.

Here's some ways guys show they like you or at least are interested in you:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

--Jack
(16/m)

16/m

In the middle of May, I really became attracted to my friend Sean. I confided in one of my best friends about it, and she told me to tell him. I did, and he told me he had "a bonafide crush" on me as well. So, we started to date. The chemistry at then was great. We could both tell how much we were into each other, and the relationship blossomed.

About a month ago, something changed. All of a sudden he seemed...distant? At this point, I "loved him", and yes I'm young,I can't really love him, but I think I did/do. Everytime I'd hear his voice, my heart would skip a beat, I loved being w. him, and in his arms. It was just like heaven. He had these moments though, where he was so sweet and so amazing. But others where he was distant as I said.

Finally, I confronted him about this last week. We had this big talk, online, of all places. He said that everytime I told him I loved him, it made him feel guilty because he didn't feel the same way, and he didn't think that he ever could love me. He kept complimenting me and saying how amazing I was, and that I would find someone meant for me, but that it wasn't him. I understood, but I cannot let what I feel for him go. I was just wondering if there was anyway I could do this. I did, after all, come out about being bi to all of my friends for him. And he still wants to be good friends, I just don't know if I can do that without thinking of what we had.

Any thoughts?
Thanks.
Anthony.

If he doesn't believe that he will be with you in the future, you can't really change his mind on that. Maybe telling him that you loved him wasn't the best thing to do. And I'm sure you realize that so I'm not going to make you feel like crap about doing that. Did you try apologizing to him about what you were saying? Sure, you may have felt a strong connection with him, but "love" is one heck of a word to throw around. It probably just scared him. Let him know that by "love" you really just meant that you really cared a lot about him and you really enjoyed being with him, if that is the case.

--Jack
(16/m)

Im going to be moving to Philly to be with my boyfriend sept 1. i just go my tounge pierced on thursday the 7th. I want to know if you think it woud be okay to give him oral sex and if so is there a certain way i can do it so it wont hurt me? Also i was wondering if september 1st is too soon to give him oral sex? Thank you

You'll risk serious infection, and you could really hurt yourself and him, too.

I would wait awhile longer until you have ZERO feeling that it will hurt either of you.

--Jack
(16/m)

Okay So my last peirod was like June the 20th i think. I still havn't had one since!!! I am still a virgin i swear. But what's going on I know i'm not pregnant so whats up with my body?

As a teenager, a girl's period is hardly ever regular. Sometimes it may skip a month like that, but the more stressed you are about it, the more it will delay.

If in another month it doesn't come, I wouldn't hesitate to talk to a doctor. There may be nothing wrong or there may be something wrong. You never know unless you see a doctor ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

summers coming to an end and all of a sudden i have 386737892 things to do. im so stressed and i feel like im missing so many things.

what do you do to prepare for school before it starts?

anddd whats your morning routine?

thanks !

To prepare, really the only thing I do is to start waking up earlier every day, but in the past few years, I haven't been doing that, and I've been able to get up just fine. So try waking up a half hour earlier each day until you get to the time you'll have to wake up, that is, unless you didn't sleep in over summer.

My morning routine is usually this:

1. Hear my alarm go off.
2. Hit snooze button.
3. Wake up at 6:00.
4. Jump in the shower.
5. Shave.
6. Get dressed.
7. Eat breakfast.
8. Make my lunch.
9. Leave for school.

--Jack
(16/m)

Okay so I've already asked a question regarding organization for school. I went to Staple's and I bought 2 5-Subject notebooks and a binder for math.

I was thinking about using 1 of the 5subject notebooks for Chemistry and English, and then the other for History and French, but I'm not sure how to split it up. Any ideas?

I think that Chemistry may have more notes than English, but that could change. Try having French have 3 of the subjects and English have 2.

History may have a lot of notes, but I think French will have more. French, therefore should have 3 and History have 2.

=]

--Jack
(16/m)

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