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Purity until Marrige
Ok.. I'm 13.. And i made a promise to God that i was going to stay a virgin until marriage... But i think about sex sometimes.. I never think about doing it, just.. you know... But does that make me a bad Christian? Its hard to not think about it when people my age are already losing their virginity... I don't want to be like that... It's wrong.. People my age are always joking about it and saying when they're 16 they are gonna lose theirs and stuff... But I think this is wrong... Also, what is all of the meaning behind a purity ring and how can i get one? Also, what is masturbation? I think anything about sex is wrong... Not just intercourse like some people... I am not going any farther than kissing... And i don't want to have thoughts or anything.. But i need to know what masturbation is. Thnx!!!
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I'll only answer one question. You are on the right track. Sex before marriage is wrong. The bible says so. It can also cause problems after you get married. Don't have sex before you get married and you will be alot happier. God knows what is best for us. Follow his word.
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I agree with "WittyUserNameHere." Did I spell that right? Ha. Anyways, thinking of sex is surely not a bad thing. It is a natural part of life. It is in us as animals to want to procreate(have sex) so it is only natural to think about. I hope you do not think sex is bad, especially if someone just told you that. Sex is a part of life, it would be wiser (in my opinion only) to learn all you can about it--which does not entail practicing it--so that way you are knowledgeable about it. Perhaps if you know more about it then your opinions on it can be more well rounded and fair. :) Masturbation is self pleasuring yourself. I could get detailed here, but for etiquette reasons I won't. Write me if you want a clean, but more thorough review. :D
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Alright.
First, I'll state my bias. I don't think sex before marriage is bad. I do think sex before you're emotionally ready for it and mature enough to handle the consequences IS bad.
And I personally think most people dont meet the stated requirements to have sex until somewhere between 18 and 25. But thats just me and my cynical view on people these days.
Anyway. Your thoughts and such are a biological reaction to checmicals in your brain and body known as "hormones"
Hormones create a desire for sex that is based in the biological need to reproduce. Some people have stronger hormonal reactions than others, some people have very high sex drives some people have very low sex drives.
All of your friends who are having sex are doing so for one or both of the two following reasons.
1) They are reacting to their hormones and giving into the desire for sex.
2) They mistakenly believe that their physical ability to HAVE sex is equal to the maturity and readiness to have sex, and they are taking part in an adult activity because they want to believe they themselves are grown up adults.
Basically, fooling themselves into thinking theyre mature because they have sex, when having sex shows that they aren't in any way mature.
A few notes. Sex is not wrong. Sex is, when done correctly, beautiful and fun and good and healthy. Its an expression of love and a way for two people who love each other to bond. What you have to understand, is that people who have sex before they are old enough get screwed up in the head about what its for.
Case in point, there is a 14 year old girl who asked a question about sex after you posted this. She stated that she doesnt play with herself because "thats what boys are for"
Its things like this that are a perfect example of why having sex at your age is an absolutely terrible idea. Its not wrong because "its just wrong" its wrong because theyre having it for the wrong reasons and they are far too young and immature to have it for the right reasons.
You asked about masturbation. Masturbation is touching yourself in various areas in order to feel physical sexual pleasure. Its usually accompanied by sexual fantasy, thinking about sex, etc. Some religious people might tell you that its also wrong, some might tell you its perfectly OK. To be honest most questions about whether sex is right or wrong will be answered a 100 different ways by 100 different people.
Purity rings. Purity rings are basically a sign of promise. Its a vow to stay chaste Chaste means virginal, innocent, until marriage. Usually this includes as you have stated nothing beyond a kiss until your wedding night.
Does thinking about sex make you a bad Christian? Depends on who you ask, I'm christian and I say no. Many priests would say yes. I know some baptist ministers who would agree with me. I know some who would agree with the priests.
But it is normal. Its natural. Its a result of your body reacting to Chemicals your body produces and its the way God designed you. Just learn to control the impulses and realize that your desire for sex stems not necessarily from your mind, but from your body, and you should be ok.
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That Is So Good That You Made A Promise And You Stick To It. It Shows Alot Of Self Control, I Hope You Keep It Up.
You Cant Control Your Thoughts, And No Matter What Anyone Says Everyone Wonders About Sex Before They Are Married But As Long As You Dont Act Upon It You Are Not Doing Anything Wrong.
Masturbation Is Basically Sexually Pleasuring Yourself. But You Shouldnt Really Do That Either At Such A Young Age.
A Purity Ring Is A Ring That Basically Shows You Are Pure And You Will Stay That Way Until Your Married.
Hope I Helped Love **Leopard-Print-Bow x
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Merely thinking about it is bad yes, but not as bad as if you were to act upon your urges.
Just ignore what other people are doing. You're amazing for sticking to your morals. Keep it up ;]
Purity rings mean that you're saving yourself until you're married, generally.
Masturbation is stimulating yourself to reach a sexual climax. I suggest you stay away from it if you're trying to abstain and be pure. It will likely stimulate feelings of lust, which is something you don't want.
--Jack
(16/m)
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a purity ring is a way to show off your promise to not have sex until marriage, any ring can be a purity ring. or you can google for a special one that says purity on it or something, but theyll overcharge. masturbation is pleasing yourself, plenty of ways to do it, none of which i am allowed to describe on this site. and no one can control their thoughts.
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