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Hi! At this point, I'm just checking back when asked a question. When my life gets less hectic, I'll start browsing to find questions to answer. But please ask; I will answer within 24 hours.advice
how much sugar intake everyday is just right?
It really depends on how you define "sugar" and how your body handles it.
When most people say "sugar" they think of the processed sugar cane. "Sugar" can also refer to any simple carb. Eating fresh fruit gives you none of the former, but quite a bit of the latter.
Diabetes is when your body has issues with sugar intake. Insulin and blood sugar need to stay in a certain balance. If you have issues regulating your insulin, you need to be very careful with your sugar intake. In this case, I'm referring to the second, broader definition of sugar.
Does anyone know how to remove a toothpaste stain from a sweater?Sorry if this is a stupid question but I washed it and I tried a stain stick and nothing seems to work!
Let is soak in soapy water overnight. When you go back in the morning, fold the fabric over and rub the stain with another part of the sweater. If it's a really yarny sweater, try "combing" the stained area with an old (but clean) toothbrush.
It's probably to late, but in general, don't put stained items in the dryer. It probably won't affect toothpaste, but stains like blood or spaghetti sauce will "set" in the dryer.
I want to make a pie for my friends on pi day, because it's funny and dorky and this monday (3/14!) but I've never made a pie before. What's the easiest pie to make?
The two easiest kinds of pie are pudding pies and berry pies. Unless you're good with making other pastries, don't try to make a crust. Get one at the store. For berry pies, get a plain crust, if your going to make a pudding pie, try a graham cracker crust (or chocolate graham cracker crust - yum!).
The instructions below for pudding pie looked ok. Remember to follow the boxes directions for pie filling - it's less milk than for pudding.
For a berry pie, you pretty much get a can of cherry, blueberry, or whatever pie filling and dump it in the crust before putting it in the oven. There are instructions on the side of the can usually. The pie crust will tell you how long to cook the crust for. For strawberry pie, you buy fresh strawberries, cut them up, and mix them into purchased strawberry glaze.
Apple pie is considered difficult. Pumpkin pie isn't difficult, but it's more work.
Ok my neighbor is bi and she invited me over one time with her and another bi girl who i didnt kno was bi but then we got really really drunk and i made out with both of them and i woke up and i thought it was REALLY gross i mean ok and then i found out they werent drunk but i was and so they kept telling me i was bi and im like NO IM NOT and they keep telling me i am soo i dont believe them but am i?
OK. First off, you need to let them know that it's *not* acceptable to get someone drunk in order to make out with them. Writing a letter is usually easier than talking about it. If someone's really drunk, and your still sober enough to realize this, you don't do sexual things with them that you haven't done already. When everyone gets drunk, people do stupid things because their inhibitions are lowered and no one is sober enough to be responsible. I definitely wouldn't get drunk with them around again.
Remeber, being drunk lowers one inhibitions - it gets rid of the parts of your mind that say "this isn't socially acceptable" or "mom would get mad" and lets you do things that you at least kinda want to do. It doesn't create new urges in you, it gets rid of the things that stop you from admitting those urges to yourself and others. Your still responsible for your actions while drunk.
That being said, sexuality is pretty complex. It's not just a pick one of three groups and stay there sorta thing. Around the edges of any defined group, there's some wiggle room. The bottom line is that you don't have to accept any label you don't want. If they pressure you, remind them that your all still figuring out your sexuality, and tell them that you don't want to encourage the image that bisexuality is just a phase - that it's disrespectful to those who really are bisexual.
Hey , I have a question. I have this like lump sort of thing inside of my breast. I'm not sure what it is. I don't think that it is breast cancer.. but I really don't know what else it could be. Help please! I'm freaked out.
P.S. I'm 13.
As most people have mentioned, the chances of it being cancer are pretty slim. It's possible, but not likely.
Women's breasts have a few main parts. The nipple and aureola are obvious. Then there's the fatty tissue. There's also a mammary gland in each breast. That's the part of you that will produce milk if you ever become pregnant. It's much firmer than the fat that surrounds it, and can be lumpy itself. If the "lump sort of thing" is half the size or your breast or more, you've probably just noticed your mammary gland.
Unless cost is a problem, go to a doctor anyway. It may be a little embarrassing if it really is just your mammary gland, but really, the doctor knows that most people have little to no education about their bodies. If your hesitant, ask me about the time I discovered my cervix. I was embarrassed, and the poor doctor somehow managed not to laugh at me. But I'm glad I went in and found out.
Okay, well i need help with my room. I'm 13 by the way. Okay, so I'm not allowd to paint my walls, and I just got $6000, custommade furniture. But, the thing is, my walls look really empty...I need somthing coolin my room, im a guy. does anyone hae any ideas
Well, it really depends on how you want your room to look, and what the furniture currently looks like.
I've always liked having glow in the dark stars on my ceiling, and I know plenty of guys do too. Fortunately, I've not had stucco ceilings in a while - they've all been the flat painted kind. They usually come with this tacky putty stuff that comes off easy.
If you do have a stucco ceiling, it should be ok to hang things from it (you can just slap a little spackle on to patch it up). Like model airplanes or 3D paper models. I would hang them as close to the wall as possible and make some of them hang lower than others.
Pretty much everything else I can think of has been mentioned already.
Good Luck!
I have this Quantum Fireball 10 gig hard drive that I have been having serious problems with. Whenever I have it in my computer, as soon as I boot my computer it starts clicking and when Windows actually starts, it's really slow. I think it's skipping, but I'm not sure, what can I do do fix this. Only answer if you can think of somthing to insult me with or make me laugh...or if you can actually help me here.
It sounds like you've been taking it in and out of your computer. I'm assuming therefore it's not the drive that windows is on, and that there is another hard-drive that actually runs the computer in there. If this is not correct, let me know and I'll update the answer. :)
Start with the simple stuff - if I remember correctly, my dad had a quantum fireball 10 gig and it had jumpers. Make sure that the jumpers for the quantum are set to slave, and that the primary hard drive is set for master.
Also, check the settings in the bios. Make sure that it has the right information for both drives, and that it looks for the master/primary hard drive before the slave/secondary in the boot sequence.
If you've got another computer laying around waiting to be experimented on, shove it in there as a slave and see what happens. :)
Hard-drives last a long time unless they get tossed around like frisbees or were pretty crappy to start with. Seriously, I've had them last over 10 years when I finally tossed them out - and they still worked, I just had no further use for such tiny hard drives.
Good Luck, and feel free to ask me follow up questions. :)
on live journal does any one know how to make a bullet point? I know how to make italics and bolds and how to underline.. but if you know who to do that then can you tell me? and anything else thats pretty cool? Thanks
and please... if you answer htis with a real answer I will rate you a 5 and please leave your sn if u have one b.c i have to ask somemore questions
do you mean you want to make an unordered (bulleted) list? If so, it requires a few tags. Livejournal allows you to use most html tags, so just about anything you see for html will work.
To make an unordered list, you declare the list with <ul>. Each place you want a bullet starts with <li> and ends with </li>. At the end of all the items, you put </ul>
It's very much like italics, since it's all html. :)
im not good at doing crunchs.. so someone please help me and tell me what other kinds of stomach exercises i can do to help me get the fat off my stomach and how long it will take to see results ! thanks soooo much !
Unfortunately, one cannot loose fat only in a target area. We all must burn our fat from wherever our body decides to take it from. Cardiovascular (aerobic) activity is what burns fat. You need to get your heart rate up a little for an extended period of time. Jogging, swimming, playing basketball, riding a bike, or anything of that sort will do it. Most sources suggest starting at 1/2 an hour 3 times a week. I suggest doing stretches for 10 min before and after to warm up and cool down.
Once you've burned fat, you may still wish to tone your stomach area to improve it's appearance. You may also wish to strengthen your abdominal muscles. If your goal is to look thinner from the front and back, you want to tone your obliques by doing twisting and bending exercises. If you want to flatten your stomach (it will never be completely flat if your a healthy woman, btw), you can do leg lifts of several varieties. The previous posters suggestion of holding your legs up just off the ground is a good one too.
As general advice, see if your local community college or gym/health-club offers a pilates course. As the previous columnist mentioned, it's an awesome way to improve your physique. :)
1st of i'm 16 and i'm in 10th grade and a girl...and i have some pretty awesome best girl friends...well i make-out with a few of them...i don't mind it i actually have fun doing...but i wouldn't call my self bi...i read this thing online and it says that we experment to find out what we like...well i love makeing-out with both sexes! but i've never done more with a girl...i have and talked about eating girls out with my other best friend and we have talked about doing to each other...but i could never see my self with a girl...because i just love boys...but what i am getting at is it wrong to want to do this stuff with girls...it's mainly with my best friend...it's just a experment..is it wrong to experment with her? she has ate a girl out before..i mean i'm not scared to do it and i don't feel un-comfortable caouse she is my best frined...my point...does any of this seem wrong?
((i don't want the stupid rood people to answer this...or jerks who think it's "nasty"))
love: the girl who doesn't know!!
What you call yourself isn't all that important, in my opinion.
What is important is that you and your best friend know what sort of relationship you have so that no one gets hurt. Are you friends with benefits? If one of you gets a boyfriend, will you stop making out with each other if he requests so? It's not important what you call each other, as long as your both on the same page. The idea is not to end up hurting each other.
There are also safe sex concerns. If either of you has any chance of having any sort of disease, you need to use protection. If you can't find a dental dam, you can take a flavored condom and cut up the side to make a flat sheet of flavored latex.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me.
Ok, I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. I love him to death. and he's one of my best friends. I only knew him 2 weeks when he moved to Indiana. I live in New York. It's long distance, but we've managed without a single thought.
I started talking to a guy who lives in NYC. Hes madd funny, and sweet and he likes me. I'm starting to like him too. I actually told him I loved him, and we have so much fun talking.
I want to meet him, and I want to tell my bf. But i dont want things to end with either one of them. I want to be more than friends wit the NYC guy.
I dont know what to do. Im 15, and obviously a girl. They are the same age.
and I dont see my bf at all. i did once last year, and if it matters we had sex....
PLEASE help...
Well, try seeing how they each feel about you dating both of them at the same time. It's not all that uncommon to date more than one person at a time when you young. There's no reason not to, as long as everyone knows what's going on and is ok with it. Some people continue to date more than one person even when they have committed to a lifelong relationship. Such people are called polyamorous.
My friends and I are going camping in Summer- has anyone got any nice, healthy vegetarian recipes that can be cooked over the fire? Also, how do you cook things over an open fire? Thanks.
Assuming your going camping, and not backpacking, you can cook in the coals as well as over an open fire.
This is most practical when you will have someone at the campsite all the time, or if the campsite has cement fire pits, but you can "sleep" the fire instead of putting it all the way out by covering the coals with ashes. You can slow cook potatoes or corn in coals (wet them, wrap them in aluminum foil, and burry in the coals). You can also burry certain dutch ovens in hot coals for making cobblers and such. I've seen cast iron cauldrons (small ones) that can be placed in hot coals and/or small fires for making stews.
Over an open fire there are basically three types of cooking that I'm aware of - skillet, grill, and skewer. Skillet cooking either requires a very strong arm and long handle, or, more likely a grill. :) You need heavy duty pots and pans for outdoor cooking - cast iron is what I usually see. Set up your grill, and put your skillet over it. You could also boil water this way for cooking, but I usually see people using camping stoves for this. Grilling works just like barbecuing. Skewering is putting your food on the big sticks - like with marshmallows.
I'm 13 and I had high cholesteral since I was 3. My parents aren't exactly cooks and we always eat food made from instant and frozen foods. I'm skinny, but still I need to exersice, but I'm too lazy because the food I eat isn't giving me enough energy. Any suggestions on how to be healthier?
Cholesterol comes from animal products. The previous poster suggesting eating oatmeal for breakfast had a good idea. Oatmeal is high in fiber, and fiber rich diets are known for helping with cholesterol.
Basically, you want to eat more fruits, vegetables, and grains, and less meat and dairy. Dairy products tend to have less cholesterol than say, beef.
Sometimes little things can help. Check the different brands of bread next time you buy some. Get one with more fiber per slice. Instant oatmeal comes in lots of flavors, eating it for breakfast 3 times a week should help. For cereal, try things like cherrios and total, or other cereals that have high fiber content.
Exercise is good for everyone. You can start out by stretching. It doesn't take much energy, but still gets you into a routine. Then add leg lifts or push ups or something quick and easy. Then you can add jumping jacks, or jogging in place. Start simple and light, then add things as you feel ready.
Since you have had this problem since you were three, there is a chance that you will need medication. Don't forget to get check ups and to talk about progress with your doctor. Your doctor may be able to help you nudge your parents into buying healthier food for you.
I have a short story outline due on thursday and I am FRESH out of ideas! If anybody has ANY ideas whatsoever, please tell me! Even if you only have an idea for a scene, I can make something of it. Please just give me any ideas that come to your mind.
By the way, I like stories in which unusual things happen
Thanks I'll rate 5's for any ideas!
5 random unusual things/occurrences:
* you wake up one morning and discover that you can see an additional *something* (x-ray vision, in the dark via heat like D&D elves, 5 min into the future, if someone is lying, etc)
* your outside walking through the woods and when you get to a creek you've seen a million times before, you discover that it's gotten larger, and more beautiful, and you would swear that something large and white was moving in the brush, but when you investigate, all you see is odd prints.
* you're about to have your 10th birthday, and you've lived your whole life on a space ship taking a colony of people to a brand new planet. It turns out that the day your supposed to land the ship on the new planet is your birthday.
* tell the story of your day from the point of view of your shoes. or maybe their magical shoes that give you some special power.
* your a nasa scientist and you've just discovered a transmission from an alien life form
I have this boyfriend and I need some serious advice. I love him do not get me wrong on what i am about to say. He is an alcoholic. It didn't bother me at first. He used to let me do what i wanted when i wanted and now it's like i have to beg and plead with him to do what i want to do. He expects me to be at his house as soon as i get off work. If i'm not he's mad and we fight. Not all the time but..the majority. He gives me a time to be home and i am . When i tell him a time he says he will do as he pleases.
sometimes he is real mean to me. I cry cause it hurts me. somdays it's like he doesn't want to be together anymore. So then i told him if you want me to leave i will leave. I will get my shit and never come back. Then he pleaded with me . he said no. I love you please don't leave. We play around and sometimes he plays to rough. It's like he doesn't care. I let him go to girls house or even be alone with a girl. But..if i do the same he accuses me of cheating.
He has only hitt me twice out of anger. I buy his cigs,his beer and any thing else he wants.Sometimes he calls me mean names and I've asked him not to. It feels somtimes like he wants hiss cake and he wants to eat it to. Please help me. I don't know what to do anymore.
Twice is two times too many honey. Pack you bags and get out.
Just in case you think I'm being rash, I'll say more:
Even if he had never hit you, the other things point to this being an abusive relationship. A functional relationship is built on trust. He's shows that he cannot be trusted not to hurt you when he "plays too rough". He shows he doesn't trust you when he accuses you of cheating on him. There are several other things in this post that clearly say that he is abusing you. Abuse escalates; it doesn't just get better on its own. It can be cyclical, meaning that after something really bad happens, he might be all apologetic and nice for a while, before it gets even worse.
You said you love him, but keep in mind, most abusers don't change. It takes hard work to change. I'm not saying it's impossible, or that he never will, but I don't want you to fall for the "but baby I've changed" line 3 months after you break up with him, only to have him be nice for a few months before being worse than he is now. If you are inclined to give him another chance, do so only under very limited circumstances. At the very least he should stop drinking and see a counselor about anger management and abusive relationships.
If you can't get out of the relationship for some reason, see a counselor. Look up help for battered women in your local phone book.
You don't have to put up with this shit, and he needs to learn that this behavior is not acceptable. Don't threaten to leave and let him talk you out of it, just do it. Even if it means loosing the stuff you've left at his house.
Just in case the stuff I've said before wasn't clear enough:
GET OUT NOW
I dont know what to think or do. I had seen this guy at a local gas station, smiled and waved all the time. I guess he talked with a friend of mine that worked there, and showed up at my house to see what I was up to later that night. I had to work, so he said he would try to call me,but he just moved into this new place and didn't have a phone yet. He did call that night and we talked. Saturday night he called me to see if I wanted to hang out. I went over to his place with a friend. We talk and hung out for hours. He put some romantic music on and we danced down in his basement, with all his friends upstairs. We kissed and he did ask me if I wanted to sleep over,but didn't pressure me at all. He also was very understanding when I said I didn't want too. So he made plans with me to meet up the next day. We hung out all day Sunday,he even broke plans with his friends. I haven't really talk with him since, but our work schedule conflict. I just dont know if I should.
female, 18 yrs.
USA
You don't know if you should what? Have sex with him after having known him a week? Probably not a good idea, definitely not a good idea if w/o a condom. Continue to see him on the weekends, dance and kiss? Sure, and with all new dating partners, keep to places with other people around for the first few months. Make sure you get his phone number and meet his friends and he meets your friends, etc. You know, the normal "new dating partner" stuff. :)
I'd recommend telling your friends not to give your address out to random people though.
I lost my virginity and it doesnt seem like it was what i had actually wanted to happen.. people who arent virgins... can u tell me how it went for you cause im jus really curious now. none of my friends have lost their virginity yet so its kinda hard to talk to them about it. thanks!
The circumstances surrounding your loss of virginity have more to do with what you feel than the act of sex itself. Were you raised to believe that sex should only be done in a certain way, with certain people, or at certain times, but have sex outside of the "accepted" manner? You might be feeling a little guilt or regret - but it's not really about the sex, it's about breaking your cultures taboo. Was the sex so good that you felt like you were on drugs for a while, and now your a bit depressed? (highly unlikely for the first time, but it could happen) That's a normal reaction as your body attempts to straighten out the chemistry. Were you expecting something awesome and wonderful, and it was just kinda awkward and now instead of feeling all close your just feeling sore? From what I've heard, that's the most common experience, so I'll give it a more in-depth answer. :) Unfortunately, a lot of people seem to think that loosing their virginity is a magical act that will somehow change things.
Any act can be magical, and no act is inherently magical.
It's been a long time since I lost my virginity, and I remember being surprised when the guy said that he felt older and more mature now. I was a sarcastic little tart - I replied "don't worry, you'll get over it".
I felt good from the contact, sore from the penetration, and honestly didn't have any strong feelings one way or the other about anything else.
I have had sex that felt like it was straight from the movies. It didn't happen until we were older, mature enough to talk about what we really wanted, and had a little spending change to get the little props that made it really feel like a dream. The first time you have sex isn't your only chance to make it special.
Hope this helps a little. :)
I just downloaded quicktime 6.5 a few days ago and it's been working fine up until today. The video works fine but the audio is skipping a great deal. I tried uninstalling it and reinstalling it again but it didn't help. Anyone had a similar problem and a way to fix it? Any suggestions would be helpful.
G5's advice is quite good, those are two things to look into.
There is one other thing you might want to look into, since it's just the audio that's having a problem. Check to see if there are other things running that play sounds intermittently that might be interfering. For instance, do you have AIM on and set to make noises all the time? If so, try turning AIM off and seeing if that solves the problem.
It's a long shot, I admit. G5's suggestions about RAM or streaming video connection speed/quality are more likely, but I figured I'd throw this one out just in case those ideas didn't turn up results.
I am at the end of my rope, I have been married almost two yrs to my High school sweetheart.(after a 18 yr seperation since high school)She has two kids age 13 and 10. I have two boys age 12 and 9. My problem is this, Her children disrespect me and lie to me and get away with murder, while I make my kids respect her and do what they are told. Her son 10, has A.d.d and cried to his dad so much, that he was taken off the prescribed medicine. His father was too proud to accept the fact that the boy needs the meds to concentrate. He repeatedly says this to his son until he is unbearable. He cried and cried to get his mom to stop the medicine, Because he didnt need it. He was an A student until a month or so ago, when his dad decided that he didnt need it. Since then the child is unruly .whiny, moody, throws temper tantrums, and lastly his grades have already dropped. Yesterday i checked the kids grades on the Internet, and he wnet from all A's to a D+, C, and a couple B's. He threw a temper tantrum, when told he was now grounded, and then blamed the teacher for his grades. He looked his mother in the face and screamed at her" you made me take medicine that I dont need. All while crying and throwing a fit. I said to my wife, if that isnt his dad talking i will kiss your a$$. I was the one reprimanded by her for saying that to her, not her sons bad grades. She then coddled him the remainder of the night. Herelies the problem, He calls the other kids names, he tattles, he Lies to my face, and He comes out smelling like a rose. He was grounded from his game boy, his brother asked to play one of his games, he said no, until i stepped in. The previous day he was allowed to play my other sons game boy because he was grounded from it for a bad grade. His mother made my son give him the gameboy because he forgot his at his dads house, yet said nothing when he wouldnt let the youngest use his. A little later the yougest son(of mine) said your being a jerk, and was immediately told to go to bed. Unlike her children, My son immediately complied and went to bed in tears. I am at the end, i just cant deal with this crap no more. I grew up with a step mother who acted the same way and it makes me sick to see my kids treated that way. My wife refuses to see this and it is ruining my marriage. Please Help. The question is How do I make my wife see this is going on, and stop it before its too late.
None of these suggestions (or even all of them) will "solve" the problem, but they might help you get things moving in a direction where solutions become visible again.
1. Talk to your wife about getting a written set of rules and consequences for all the children. Post them in prominent places around the house. Each broken rule could have a consequence of it's own (if you call someone a name, you have a time out (age dependent). if you talk back to a parent, you loose your gameboy for the night.), or there could be a chart for "first broken rule, whatever it is, time out. second broken rule, loose gameboy for the night). This way all the children not only know how they are expected to act, but what the consequences are. Punishment will no longer seem arbitrary.
2. Since his grades have taken a noticeable dive, set up a parent teacher conference for you, your wife, and the teacher (or teachers). Once your wife sees reason, set up a conference with you, your wife, the boys father, his spouse if any, and the teacher (or teachers). The teachers are likely to be on your side - they don't want an impossible to control kid in the school anymore than you want him in your home. (less so, as they have no emotional attachment)
3. Set up a fun family activity that everyone will enjoy to act as "new family bonding time". Go to Chucky E. Cheese, or a picnic, or the zoo. Pick something that you can do as a family that will help create good memories of everyone being together. If you have to, set stricter rules than normal for behavior on these activities, and offer rewards if they are met. For instance, if you decide to go to the zoo, tell the kids at the beginning that there will be no name calling, pushing, etc. Give them a pin or sticker to wear. When they break the rules, take the sticker or pin away. Those who still have their token at the end of the day get ice cream on the way home. If things are so bad that one token isn't enough, give them three, and still allow them to get the treat as long as they have one left at the end of the day.
4. Tell all the kids you love them, at least once a day. When getting them up in the morning and sending them off to school, or when getting home from work, or when going to bed at night.
5. Try to eat dinner as a family as much as possible. You may need to tie getting desert to good behavior at dinner to get kids to be civil to each other at first, but they will improve. :)
6. See a family councilor and/or a marriage one. You have quite a few issues here, but it's not hopeless until someone gives up or gets abusive.
Hope some of this helps a little. 1, 2, and 6 are really the answers to your question, 3, 4, and 5 are just advice on getting your new family pointed in a happier direction. :)
when your hyeman breaks does it hurt?
Sometimes it does hurt a little, but most women don't notice at all. Also, be aware that not every woman even has a hymen.
It should not hurt a lot. Some activities that will break a hymen (especially penetration) can also cause a little ripping of the vaginal tissue (especially if your not "ready" in a physical sense for sex). If you've done something that you think broke your hymen, and it bleeds a lot (or keeps bleeding for more than a day), or if it still hurts to stretch or to masturbate a week later, see a doctor to make sure you didn't do more extensive ripping or tearing.
If your just worried in general, don't sweat it.