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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, and we don't seem to be getting on anymore. I have just recently been diagnosed with depression and he taunts me all the time to make me cry. I have a male friend who I haven't seen for nearly 3 years but my boyfriend insists that I have been seeing him behind his back. This is not true nor would it ever be! I don't know what to do anymore. My boyfriend has said that if I split up with him then he will cause trouble for my friend and his girlfriend, he doesn't even know my friend or his girlfriend. I feel trapped like I'm held in a custodial sentence for something I haven't done. I just feel so alone and don't know who to turn to.

I personally cannot tell you why your boyfriend is acting like such a prick. Only he can tell you that. I don't know his motives, I don't know what he's like, I don't know how he used to be, etc.

But what I can tell you is that if your boyfriend is accusing you of things you haven't done, and if he is not supportive of you, and he is taunting you because you have depression, then he is a dick and you should leave him. You do not deserve to go through that and he doesn't deserve to be in your life.

Break up with him, warn your friends that he's going to try and cause problems for them, and cut him off. Delete his number, delete his Facebook or whatever other social networking site you have him on and ignore him.

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My mom was talking to me about sex (just had my period for the first time) and she said my egg would be "fertilized" if I had sex? This is stupid I'm sure cause she didn't seem weird when she said it. She knew what she was talking about. Where is my eggs? I mean like I know they're in my body some place (obviously?) but where are the eggs stored or whatever? And are they LIKE eggs you buy at the store in some way or totally different?

Your eggs are in your ovaries which are located in your vagina. You don't buy them or get them from someone, you're born with them. It's just nature.

And yes, if you were to have unprotected sex, one of your eggs would be fertilized by the sperm and it would cause you to become pregnant.

You can learn all about your period here:
http://women.webmd.com/facts-about-puberty-girls

I hope this helps! :)

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Ok I haven't started my period yet and in early October I'll be 14. My mom started when she was 12 and so did her mom... But my dads mom started after 14 and moms sister and her daughter started at 14. I know I'll probably start at 14 but I want it to just come. People say what you think will happen so I I think about it more will it just come? Or will it wait longer tht way.? Also is there any way I can know when it will cone? Thanks... ASAP please!!!!

What you're going through is normal. Lots of girls are late bloomers, and some girls don't get their periods til 16!

You will get your period. I don't know when, but I'm sure you will get it soon. Freaking out and worrying isn't going to help you. Just relax and be patient. You'll get it.

And besides, some girls consider you lucky. :)

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Everytime my boyfriend sees something that a guy posted on my facebook, he freaks out. I want him to be able to talk to me without freaking out "/ he doesn't trust me around any guys but he's aloud to be around girls. It's like then why can't I do it? He just fights bout everything single thing I do. I only hang with 2 or 3 females & the rest are guys. I mean, I'm not gonna change my group of friends just for him. I really need help with this one. I'm 18 & a girll.

You guys need to break up. He is controlling, and he is setting some serious double standards. He can hang out with girls, but you can't hang out with guys? What kind of bullshit is that?

Boyfriends come & go, friends are forever. That right there is enough. Leave him. You can do better.

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my bf is 5 yrs older than me and has totally different views on waiting for certain things than i do.. he keeps trying to moves us fwd and it keeps making me madder every time. what should i do?


also: anytime i mention the words "break up" he flips out and becomes all emotional...

Dating someone older is always hard because you end up having conflicting views on life and certain situations and it can definitely be hard. I definitely feel where you're coming from. My boyfriend is 7 years older than I am, and our views on some things are conflicting, but we get along well because I'm more mature than most people my age. I mean, I don't know any 19 year olds who live on their own (and college doesn't count) without their parents help.

Anyways, if you think that the conflicting views are a big enough problem to break you up and that you don't think you can agree to disagree, then I guess that breaking up is your solution. Just say that the relationship has been great but that you really don't see your problems being worked out & that it's starting to make you view everything about the relationship differently. Surely he will understand.

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14/f

I have two older brothers, ones a senior and ones a junior. Me and my brother who is a junior get a long great we have a wonderful relationship. It's my oldest brother who I have the problems with. Ever since we were little he would always be mean to me and being the little girl I was I would tattle on him. Lately, I've been trying to be nicer to him. I know a lot about him that my parents don't. Mainly, his drug and alcohol use. I definately don't think it's the drugs and alcohol that made him this way not at all he always seemed to hate me. On the contrary acutally, he is nicer to me when he is high or drunk. My parents do often get in more bad fights and arguements with him. And I sort of think that he doesn't want to be part of our family at all! He never attends family parties or anything. (Don't Judge!)Over the summer, I smoked weed with him and he said he felt bad for it but he continued to do it with me about four times after that. He doesn't anymore but he sells me what I need. Whenever I have friends over he likes to stick around and bother us and he's not terribly mean just annoying so I usually want him to leave but he usually doesn't and hangs around with us. When he has friends over and if I'm just hanging out with them for ten minutes he is always so mean to me! I ask him why do you hate me? And he says you're annoying and a bitch and just insults me in every way! He never has anything nice to say to me at all. He always points of my flaws and it doesn't feel to good. When we are just home with my family he usually is up in his room and isn't very nice to me. I do want us to have a better relationship with him but he doesn't.. It makes me sad.

You really need to talk with him about this when no one else is around.

Maybe when he's around in his room, just knock and ask for a few minutes of his time. Ask him why he treats you the way he does. Let him know how it makes you feel. If he still acts as if he doesn't care, then leave it at that. Be nice to him regardless of how he treats you because 2 wrongs don't make a right. Hopefully, when you tell him how it makes you feel (cry if you need to), it'll make him realize what a giant dick he is & he'll change.

I really hope that things work out between you & your brother because it's really shitty to have bad relationships with someone so close to you. If you need anything else, feel free to inbox me!

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Long story short: I want to move to LA in a year with my cousin, we're going to live together. We just need a change in our lives. How much money do you think I should try and save? Also, if you live in LA or have been there before, how are the people there? Thank you all so much!

Hi. I've been living in Los Angeles for the past year and a half. It's not an easy thing to do. Living in LA (and making it) is actually pretty hard, and it's very easy to struggle here.

There are lots of pros to living here, don't get me wrong, but there are also lots of cons, and you may want to weigh your options before you make a serious move. You also need to ask yourselves serious questions.

First, how is your credit? Would it be easy for you to get an apartment? What are your means of transportation? Will you have a job so that you can pay for your basic needs? Are you going to school here? How will you pay for school as an out of state student?

These are all very important questions to ask yourselves. If you don't know the answers, or know that the answers to those questions aren't good, then you're not ready to move and it's not something you should do.

I've been living here for a year and a half, and I've only had 2 jobs. Both only lasted me a few months. Lots of places say they are hiring, and while they certainly may be, getting the job is very hard. My boyfriend has been conducting interviews at his job and accepting applications and he's been telling me that a lot of people are actually OVER qualified for the position.

The economy here is very bad, so there are lots of things you need to take into consideration. I'm not saying you shouldn't move here, because believe me, LA is a great place, but it's hard to make a living here and if you absolutely cannot, then you need to stay put until it becomes a reasonable goal.

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what is the best way to commite sucide

Nobody here is going to give you that advice. If anything, we are going to tell you to see a therapist because you clearly have issues and need some help.

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I've always kind of been the black sheep in my family. I love them and want to stay on good terms with them, but I feel like I have to act like a totally different person around them. When I am with my friends, I have a good time, I don't feel like I have to hold back, and I can be myself. I guess I first started noticing this on Facebook. I am "Facebook friends" with both my family and my friends/acquaintances. But it feels like I constantly have to monitor what I am putting up and what my friends are saying. If I act like the "real me" around my family, I am looked down upon by them. They are very conservative, and I am more free-spirited and unconventional. I don't want their disapproval of me, because I know that I may need their support/advice later on in life. So in that respect I have a good bond with them. But I am barely 18 years old and getting ready to begin college, and I feel like I need this time to be young and explore! How do I be myself and live my life without shaming my family or hurting their feelings?

You do not have to limit yourself just because you are friends with your family on Facebook.

There is such a thing as monitoring what others see. If you go into the privacy tab, you can completely limit what your friends may see on your profile. You can set the limits accordingly, and once you save the changes, your family will only see what you made it possible to be seen. This way, you can communicate with your friends without feeling shameful or guilty.

If you don't want to change your privacy settings, delete your family from your Facebook. There is no unwritten rule that says you must add them. It's completely your decision. Do not feel obligated to keep them there if you don't want to. I have family on my Facebook, and I speak my mind regardless, but if I don't want them to see what I have to say, I either limit their visuals, or I delete them.

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OK! I am totally freaking out because I came home and the house was quiet and I was being stupid I guess and just walked right into my brothers room without knocking because I didn't think he was home and I wanted to borrow one of these sweatshirts he has that are really comfortable and he was totally jacking off like right there when I opened the door. I slammed the door and ran to my room because that is DISGUSTING. Now I can't even THINK about him without wanting to vomit. What do I do now? Do I confront him? Should I say something about him being a nasty perv? I KNOW HE KNOWS I SAW but he hasn't come out of his room and said anything to me. This is so gross.

What exactly would you be confronting him for? He did nothing wrong. You were the one who assumed he wasn't home, and barged into his room with the intent to borrow something without asking. You are also the one judging him for doing something that is completely healthy and normal.

Just don't say anything about it. Chances are, he is just as humiliated as you and doesn't care to speak about it. Nothing needs to be said.

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Okay I have decided That i want a STEADY advice buddy which means that i want to have one specific person (that actually LOVE giving advice) That i can write to wheneva i need advice. Im senseing that some of the advicee that is giving to me is not serious. I wont someone that will actually think the advice that they are about to give to me and not go off their own disappointments. Example: If I ask someone what should i do about my boyfriend I dont want the response to be...(FORGET HIM!!! HE'S NOT WORTH IT) Just because that person have had some problems in their relationship. I wont a person that I can send direct msgs to. I also want someone that wont take FOREVER to respond bacc because I really do need help on some situations. So please, if you feel as if you can be a great advice buddy then please respond. Thanks

I've been on this site for 6 years, and wouldn't mind giving someone advice one on one. If you want, you can inbox me, but if you prefer e-mail, that's fine too.

123abchristina@gmail.com

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My parents never taught me how to ride a bicycle but I want to teach my son and daughter (twins). They are 4 years old right now and they play around on a little tricycle all the time but I am wondering when I should purchase a real bicycle for them to learn how to ride? I know it's great exercise for kids and I'd really like to teach them while they're young. What is the best age to teach your child how to ride a bicycle? And since I have the money right now should I go on and purchase a couple of bikes for them? Thank you.

I learned around 3 on a tricycle, but when it came to big girl bikes, I was around 5 or 6. For now, since you still want them to be outside and have fun, try those little motorized vehicles that they sell at Wal-Mart. Those are fun.

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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

If your boyfriend is putting your whole relationship out there (on Facebook, no less) then he obviously doesn't respect you. The fact that he's either asking for advice from others or just putting it out there just says that he doesn't care enough about you or the relationship to deal with it personally between the two of you.

To be completely honest, secrets have no place in a relationship, and if he can't come to you with his issues, he shouldn't be in a relationship. He honestly does not seem mature enough to be in one. If he's gonna act 5, then he shouldn't have a girlfriend.

If you don't think you should stay with him, then don't. It's completely your decision but take it from someone who's been around the block - you shouldn't stay with him. He's clearly not worth your time.

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I've been dating My boyfriend for awhile. We always use condoms when We have sex. Always. I started on birth control pills about like maybe 6 or 7 months ago now. I always take them on time no matter what. I'm not stupid. My boyfriend and I had sex last month like usual. We used a condom every time and everything. Neither of Us thought any of the condoms We had used broke or busted or tore or whatever you call it. We had no cause to think I could get pregnant.

My period was late. I took a pregnancy test and it said + positive for pregnancy. I didn't have sex with anybody else. I read these things don't lie. Is this for real though? I mean, is it really possible to get pregnant when using birth control pills AND condoms? I mean WTF. Should I take another test or see a doctor?

The chances are very slim, but it's still possible to get pregnant. The condom may have broken and you might not have felt it.

Sometimes a pregnancy test can give a false positive. Blood tests are the only ways to be sure. See your doctor.

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If you give head to a guy at a party while your boyfriend is not there does that mean you cheated on your boyfriend? Yeah, the guy was really hot but it's not like we had sex or anything. I didn't even let him finger me! My boyfriend is really pissed and won't talk to me now but I really can't see his reasoning or point of view. I've done this a few times before but I haven't told him about it and regret telling him this time. Do you think giving a blow job is REALLY cheating? I mean, come on...it's like...kissing...sort of...I don't see a problem.

I would definitely consider a blowjob cheating. If my boyfriend went down on another girl while he was at a party, I'd kick her ass and then I'd tell him to go fuck himself.

You sound like you have very little respect for yourself and others. If you wanna blow every hot guy you see, fine, whatever, but at least have the decency to be a single woman.

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when you have sex for the first time but he didnt pop your cherry does it mean yor still a virgin ?

Once you have sex you can kiss your virginity goodbye. Your hymen being broken has nothing to do with it.

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i hit my head how long should i wait to go to sleep

If you banged your head and only have a tiny bump, you're alright to go to bed. However, if you hit your head and started bleeding, you need to see a doctor.

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What would happen if my boyfriend wore 2 condoms instead of one? would that make it more safe? what exactly would happen?

Wearing 2 condoms would be insanely stupid. Having 2 condoms on would cause friction which would make them break. If anything, it's more of a risk. It's not safe and you shouldn't do it.

You should get some birth control, or consider being abstinent.

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what color goes great with fandango pink?

Brown, black, etc. Any neutrals or shades.

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hi im 10 and i was wonder how old you have to be to babysit.

Definitely older than 10. If you can't take care of yourself, how can you take care of someone else?

And don't tell me you can take care of yourself - you're 10, so no you cannot.

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