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My brother hates me:(
14/f
I have two older brothers, ones a senior and ones a junior. Me and my brother who is a junior get a long great we have a wonderful relationship. It's my oldest brother who I have the problems with. Ever since we were little he would always be mean to me and being the little girl I was I would tattle on him. Lately, I've been trying to be nicer to him. I know a lot about him that my parents don't. Mainly, his drug and alcohol use. I definately don't think it's the drugs and alcohol that made him this way not at all he always seemed to hate me. On the contrary acutally, he is nicer to me when he is high or drunk. My parents do often get in more bad fights and arguements with him. And I sort of think that he doesn't want to be part of our family at all! He never attends family parties or anything. (Don't Judge!)Over the summer, I smoked weed with him and he said he felt bad for it but he continued to do it with me about four times after that. He doesn't anymore but he sells me what I need. Whenever I have friends over he likes to stick around and bother us and he's not terribly mean just annoying so I usually want him to leave but he usually doesn't and hangs around with us. When he has friends over and if I'm just hanging out with them for ten minutes he is always so mean to me! I ask him why do you hate me? And he says you're annoying and a bitch and just insults me in every way! He never has anything nice to say to me at all. He always points of my flaws and it doesn't feel to good. When we are just home with my family he usually is up in his room and isn't very nice to me. I do want us to have a better relationship with him but he doesn't.. It makes me sad.
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i think its really just a phase all siblings tend to fight i mean hey long ago i wished my sister were dead he'll grow out of it but it will take some time i guess its just his personality if he is nice to you when hes high this is when they really express their feelings youy know the saying "a drunk person never lies" so maybe he just feels that you two dont have anything in common with each other im sure he doesn't hate you try to find something that he likes to do and spend a aday with him or go to him for advice about something this will help realise he's the person you will look up to and you will probably see a change in behaviour
good luck
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You really need to talk with him about this when no one else is around.
Maybe when he's around in his room, just knock and ask for a few minutes of his time. Ask him why he treats you the way he does. Let him know how it makes you feel. If he still acts as if he doesn't care, then leave it at that. Be nice to him regardless of how he treats you because 2 wrongs don't make a right. Hopefully, when you tell him how it makes you feel (cry if you need to), it'll make him realize what a giant dick he is & he'll change.
I really hope that things work out between you & your brother because it's really shitty to have bad relationships with someone so close to you. If you need anything else, feel free to inbox me!
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