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New relationship?
Less than a week ago, i broke up with my boyfriend of 10 months. He was devastated, and he still keeps calling me and obsessing about what happened between us. I have no interest of getting back with him and i just want him to leave me alone. For about a month now, i've liked this other guy. We've been friends for a while, but we've gotten close and i really really like him. I found out recently that he likes me too. I want to be with him, but i just got out of a long relationship myself, and im not ready for another commited relationship. But i really like him a lot and i dont want to lose him, but im not ready for a relationship just yet. Its not fair to him but its also not the right time. I feel like he's getting screwed over and i feel so bad. What should i do?!? Thanks so much :]
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Well, for the ex thing, he just misses you, and wants to do anything to get you back.
As far as the new relationship goes, if he really likes you like you say he does, he will wait for you. "Boyfriend and Girlfriend" are just labels. You guys can still be together, just not dating. I think he will understand if you tell him straight up how you feel. If he doesn't feel the same, talk to him about it. If he's just a jerk about it, he's not worth it.
You know what they always say: 'Do whats best for you, not for anyone else.'
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i think your ex keeps calling you because its a pride thing the fact that you broke up with him kills him, but this other guy i say go for it! it'll be better for you and show your ex that you've moved on and he should too just because things didnt work out between you two just means you weren't meant to be you should probably sit him down and talk to him about it or he'll just keep bugging you
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You don't say how you respond when this ex calls you. Just tell him the truth and not to call you anymore, but if you're allowing that door to stay open a bit, then you're just leading him on, so end it. The new guy? What's wrong with being honest? Tell him you enjoy his company but you want to go slowly in developing a relationship. Who wouldn't understand that? But if you are playing a game of keeping your options open on both these guys one or both will eventually catch on and you'll get busted emotionally for it. Good luck.
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Just keep ignoring your ex- boyfriend, sooner or later he will give up, as for the new boy just tell him you want to be close to him and him not talk to other girls the way he's talking to you, tell him you wanna be with him without the label for right now, because you like him but you don't wanna rush into things.
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if your not ready for a new reletionship dont rush into it.
if he cares for you he will wait.
go out and have fun with him just as friends so if u eventually start dating it'll be worth the wait.
you have to get distance from your ex, if not itll drag you down.
start each reletionship new and fresh no bagadge
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Stop feeling so bad.
It's really all you can do.
You know what you need, and you are being honest about it. That rocks. That IS fair to him. The only thing that wouldn't be fair was if you were asking him to wait for you and not date anyone else, or if haven't told him "Look, I like you, but I'm not ready to be more than friends right now."
You have to understand that because you aren't ready, you risk him not being available when you are. That is a scarry and sad thought, but it's better than forcing something you aren't ready to do.
He's not getting screwed over. As long as you tell him what's what, and don't blame him if he doesn't wait for you, then you're being honest and respectful of him.
Take a deep breath and take care of yourself. The more and better you do that, the faster you'll find yourself feeling free and excited about dating someone else.
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