Member Since: September 16, 2010
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16/f
My parents will NOT listen to anything I say. They told me my curfew is at 8, right, and I told them that I needed it to be at 9 or 10 because of stuff I want to do and they totally IGNORED me! Then I told them I wanted to go to the beach this summer with my friend and her bf because they're old enough and her parents let her but my parents were like, "No, you'll get into trouble!" and this crap about how a 16 year old girl shouldn't be away from her parents like that. I told them it would make me HAPPY to go to the beach w/them and they were like we'll they would schedule a time to go to the beach as a family and that is NOT what I said! This is stupid because I'm almost grown up and they should let me do what I want to do and be an adult like that. I mean this is just stupid. Everything I tell them I want to do they pull some crap like if there's a party then they want to know the SPECIFIC names of adults that are going to be there and they want to know if drinking is involved and I tell them I can handle myself and that I'm a woman already and they just won't listen. How can I make my parents listen to me and do what I want them to do? (link)
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You have reached the time of life when you now posess this beautiful womans body. You want to try new things and meet new people as well as have new experiences. It seems like everyone else has more freedom than you. If they do it is probably because their parents care less about them or just don't have the time to keep track of them. You have no idea how vulnerable you are at this point. You are like low hanging fruit to those who want sex or to ply you with drugs. Driving around with strangers becomes a real threat to your safety and you are completely unaware of the consequences because you just want to have fun. At this point you have one option only as I see it. Whatever activities you have planned will have to be presented to your parents logically. What safeguards are in place. Who will be there to protect you that they trust? What assurances can you give them that they can call you at a moments notice to see how you are doing. Where will you be and when will you be there?
From their side you have to keep in mind they have invested 17 years in your care so far (including the 9 months your Mom carried you) and they are not about to let all their efforts be spoiled by some creep in the back seat of a car or a drink passed to you that contains a date rape drug or worse. They see all the dangers and you see all the things you could miss out on. If your plans are reasonable safe and well presented you'll find more freedom but if you are just out to defy their authority then you're in for some really unhappy times. You have an entire lifetime ahead of you to do all the things you want. The person you will be by age 21 is going to be far different than you might think. I hope you make the right decisions here because your whole future can be ruined by one night of indulgence. Good luck!
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For some reason, I am unable to sleep. I roll around in bed for hours until its time to go to school and I feel miserable all day, unless I've had coffee or something to give me a buzz. But I don't quite crash from it either. I just don't get sleepy. Is there any reason why?
I don't believe I'm particuarly stressed either, but I'm pretty much a slacker and ignore a lot of my school work. The only real work I can do is just writing random things for myself.
Would it help to mention that over summer vacation, I pulled several allnighters or normally stayed up until 4 or 5 in the morning? I need help, please! I really need some sleep! This has been happening for about two years now, I believe, but it's really bad this time around. (link)
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Get to your family Doctor first, and do it NOW. If he doesn't find a physiological answer he will refer you to the proper sleep disorder people. Problems like this can take a while to resolve so don't waste time here. Good luck!
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I been dating my bf for almost 2 years and he's just great. Today we were talking about fetishes and fantasies and he said he had a really embarrassing thing he liked and desired. So, of course, I pushed him to telling me. He was saying he likes when girls fart. I thought he was kidding but he was dead serious and even turned red. Anyways, I said I was okay and cool with it but then later he asked me if I would fart on him. I don't see why this is a big issue so I'm like okay I will. I couldn't do it then but I guess it'll happen sometime. Is it weird, you think, or do you think all or most boys like this sort of thing secretly? He's the only one who has ever said something like this to me and I'm just kind of curious if this is like common? (link)
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Eproctophilia (fart fetish) is a sexual fetish, most commonly in straight men in which they receive arousal from their partner's flatulence. It is sometimes seen as a lighter form of coprophilia, aka scat. Unlike scat however, there are no health risks involved.
Not all eproctophiles enjoy the notorious cake farts. In fact, several of them are just as grossed out as normal people and only a slim minority of them like it. Instead, the majority of them enjoy the smell and/or sound their partner's farts make.
It was revealed in writer James Joyce's love letters to his wife that he had a fart fetish.
Being red-faced indicates he intends to keep it very private. It's up to you whether to accommodate him or not. Everybody's a little weird. Good luck!
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whats a good college that has env. psychology, env. science, natural resources and conservation, nat resources managemnet, and wildreness management? it would be lovely if i could find a college with art as well as those others.... ahah but this is reality =/ (link)
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I think Rutgers University at New Brunswick, NJ would serve most of your needs. There are about 24,000 students in a beautiful historic town. Good Luck!
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My son has played football for his school for 4 years now. He's never really been given an opportunity to play the position he wants. My wife and my son talked to the coach about it. He assured them that my son works hard in practice and the coach told him if stayed where he was he would be a starter. He also told my son that if he ever had a problem that he shouldn't be afraid to talk to him. He assured him that he was there to help in any way. It's been 4 games into the season and my son hasn't played a down. My son decided to tell the coach he had a problem and would like to talk to him. The coach told him he was really busy and would talk to him tomorrow. The next day he finally got to talk to the coach and instead of solving the problem he decided to pass the buck by telling him to talk to the other coach. Now I'm angry at the coach for lying to my son and my wife. I want to confront the coach about his lack of integrity, but my son also plays basketball and baseball, and I don't want this coach telling his other coaches that I'm a problem parent. Should I confront this coach and risk repercussions on my son or should I stay out of it and let my son think that this coach could care less about him? My son is an honor student and a good athlete. The coach said he works hard in practice. My son is nowhere near the best player on the team, but he is better than some of the ones who are playing all the time. (link)
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Unfortunately politics abound in sports too, which may be influencing your sons play time. My son also played football, doing well in Pop Warner etc but when he got to high school he was placed on the JV team. Their first game was against a school with very large black players. He got knocked out on his very first play. It took nearly an hour before he could say his own name. No more football. Unless your son is NFL material I say get him out before he gets hurt needlessly. I also have a nephew who injured a knee and was rejected from the Air Force Academy because of it. I know it doesn't directly answer your question but eliminating this sport will improve his opportunities in life IMHO. With the extra time after leaving football my son learned to play guitar and he is very good, a talent that will serve him for a lifetime. Good luck!
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i spend alot of time with my bf i admit, but i spend the equal amount of time with my bestie.
shes getting clingy though, hates my boyfriend ( and everyone i have dated in the past), hates my friends, and always wants to be alone with me. it was always me her and another girl but resently the other girl left are school so its me and her.
i spend most my school time with the guys as my bf is always busy on the weekends so its the only time we hang, so my friend thinks im ditching her wtf.
what should i do..... shes starting to annoy me (link)
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Sounds like your bestie is way less than a ten. She wants your exclusive companionship and finds fault with the bfs in hoes of repelling them. Be honest with her and tell her to stop dissing. Let her know you enjoy her company WHEN YOU CAN, and leave it at that. Otherwise she's just going to continue to try and manipulate you. Good luck!
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Well not exactly a bad person, I just feel like a weird creep inside. I don't hurt anyone, I never get into trouble either. The thing is that I think I'm kind of slow, I miss good opportunities & I'm shy. I'm m/15. There is this addiction I have. It's not drugs or anything, it's pornography. And after I finish, I feel like an evil, dirty, creep. Then I highly regret looking at it. BUT after a day or so, I feel a need to look at it. I try to quit but I keep breaking the streak. I feel as if pornography messes up my soul & social life. It's like I'm tired of doing it, but I cannot stop. It's also a weird kind of pornography. I don't consider it gay, I DO NOT GET TURNED ON BY GUYS, I WOULD NOT EVEN THINK OF EVEN getting with one, no interest at all. I love girls. But the pornography type it transexual. I started by accident too. I was scrolling down thinking it's a girl then suprise. I do not look at gay porn. See I think the femininism & unusualness turned me on. But I cannot see a guy nude. I cannot stop.WTH! (link)
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Fifteen huh? That's a problem all by itself. Your trying to figure out who you are and where you fit in to the world around you. You're afraid of being discovered but not enough to stop. As time marches on things will become clearer for you. Sexual preferences will emerge and you will seek a path toward a career. In the meantime remember that mid-teens are the most confusing and messed up times for almost every one of us. Hang in there and set aside the shame. The answers are coming.
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I talked to a guy i like on facebook IM. Ever since then, he always appears offline while online. He never did this before, at least not to my knowledge. Is he avoiding me? :/ (link)
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You already know. Now you are simply looking for confirmation. Move on Find someone else. Good luck!
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Less than a week ago, i broke up with my boyfriend of 10 months. He was devastated, and he still keeps calling me and obsessing about what happened between us. I have no interest of getting back with him and i just want him to leave me alone. For about a month now, i've liked this other guy. We've been friends for a while, but we've gotten close and i really really like him. I found out recently that he likes me too. I want to be with him, but i just got out of a long relationship myself, and im not ready for another commited relationship. But i really like him a lot and i dont want to lose him, but im not ready for a relationship just yet. Its not fair to him but its also not the right time. I feel like he's getting screwed over and i feel so bad. What should i do?!? Thanks so much :] (link)
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You don't say how you respond when this ex calls you. Just tell him the truth and not to call you anymore, but if you're allowing that door to stay open a bit, then you're just leading him on, so end it. The new guy? What's wrong with being honest? Tell him you enjoy his company but you want to go slowly in developing a relationship. Who wouldn't understand that? But if you are playing a game of keeping your options open on both these guys one or both will eventually catch on and you'll get busted emotionally for it. Good luck.
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Okay so I'm a 19 year old female. A little history on my situation. There is this guy that is apart of the hip hop company with me in a professional dance company. He has made it very obvious that he has feelings for me and has even told me this. I get creeped out by him because he is so straight forward. He will text me asking what I'm wearing like every night, and he is just a creep. Anyway, last night one of the girls in our dance company had a party. I am usually not a partier but since it was with this group of people I did not see the big deal. I took about 6 shots if not more and needless to say I was very drunk. Everyone knows how much I get creeped out by this guy and regardless of this fact they left me alone with him. I passed out on my friends bed and when I woke up I was on her couch and he was on top of me. We started making out for a long time which I know was stupid on my part but I was so drunk that it didn't even matter. The next thing I know he took off my pants and started fingering me. I am unfortunately not a very outspoken person and I didn't tell him to stop. Before I knew it he was trying to have sex with me. I wasn't sure what was going on until I felt him go inside of me and again I just kind of laid there not knowing what to do. I know that this is all my fault because I didn't say no....... but he knew how drunk I was and I just feel so taken advantage of. To make it worse, this is how I lost my virginity...... I need to talk to him and let him know that that was not okay. I have to see him on a regular basis and I just don't know what I should say to him.... I feel SO stupid about this situation. I am a girl who never gets mixed up in this type of drama. I have talked to many of my friends about it, but I need outside advice....... (link)
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This was your fault. From the beginning you should have avoided him. You went to a party he was at. You got drunk. You knowingly made out with him and let him fuck you. He told you all along he had the hots for you. You have a clear memory of the events and said you could have stopped him if you wanted to. Rape? I think not. Poor judgement on your part? Yes! You better tell this guy to stay away from you from now on, and stay away from situations that make you more vulnerable. You don't say anything about your current sex life so in a way you might have allowed it to happen just because you needed the contact that everyone does. Learn from this. Protect yourself from disease and pregnancy. Masturbate more often to control your desire. Good luck.
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Dad died in 1998, Mom died last year. The eldest brother in our family of 6 siblings had been named executor of the will. 20 years prior my Father allowed one of my brothers to defer his payment for his purchase of a seashore vacation home ($25000.00) that he owned in partnership with his brother until his estate was settled. Dad's brother was paid in full for his half. Dad did not specify this in the will but took my brother at his word with the understanding of other family members. Now that the estate is being distributed, the seashore house-owning brother is currently claiming the property was a gift and that he owes nothing to his siblings. He is threatening to sue for an equal share of the residual amount of the estate, and he is casting insults about the executor brother and implying he is a conniving thief by withholding the money for the property. Since the sale of this home it has appreciated by at least $100,000. A partial distribution has been made but the disputed debt amount is being held in an escrow account. It is causing a breakdown within segments of our large family. The brother who denies the debt now has a daughter about to give birth. In what should be a happy time, the issue is causing havoc with family members emotions. I believe any other of us would have taken the deduction without question but this brother, who is very well off financially with a six figure pension, is refusing to acknowledge the debt now that both parents are gone. He is trying to gain support from one of the sisters, who wants nothing to do with the issue. The lawyer for the estate says there is a decent chance to collect the debt but the opposing lawyer sent a message to all that he would pay $1000 to each sibling as a "courtesy" but now has withdrawn the offer after an ultimatum date has passed. As it stands the only people that are going to get any money are the lawyers. What should we do??? (link)
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It sounds to me like your housethiefing brother is a money grubbing, penny pinching, miserly a**hole. What kind of scum bag steals from his own family? Were you watching when they closed the casket on your parents? He might have stole their rings and gold teeth if they had any. There's one in every family but what a low trick this guy is pulling here. I don't know if there's a legal answer but I would not bother with this greedy animal. Wow. I wouldn't give him nothing. Keep the money in an account that he has to force his lawyer to find, it will cost him plenty. Ha,ha,ha. Somebody else said forgive and forget but I know I never could for something like this. There's also a chance he's mental too, you don't say if he is crazy in other ways. If he ends up getting the money it won't be able to buy any family love that's for sure. Good luck to your family.
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