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My son has played football for his school for 4 years now. He's never really been given an opportunity to play the position he wants. My wife and my son talked to the coach about it. He assured them that my son works hard in practice and the coach told him if stayed where he was he would be a starter. He also told my son that if he ever had a problem that he shouldn't be afraid to talk to him. He assured him that he was there to help in any way. It's been 4 games into the season and my son hasn't played a down. My son decided to tell the coach he had a problem and would like to talk to him. The coach told him he was really busy and would talk to him tomorrow. The next day he finally got to talk to the coach and instead of solving the problem he decided to pass the buck by telling him to talk to the other coach. Now I'm angry at the coach for lying to my son and my wife. I want to confront the coach about his lack of integrity, but my son also plays basketball and baseball, and I don't want this coach telling his other coaches that I'm a problem parent. Should I confront this coach and risk repercussions on my son or should I stay out of it and let my son think that this coach could care less about him? My son is an honor student and a good athlete. The coach said he works hard in practice. My son is nowhere near the best player on the team, but he is better than some of the ones who are playing all the time.
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Your son should follow through with the other coach as requested.
But you are right about the possibility of being labeled as a bothersome parent.
The responses from the coach sound like a bit of a run-around - he told you all the right things, but isn't doing anything he said he would do. Remember that coaches report to athletic directors and principals.
Check with your son how much he wants to pursue this issue. Is this his concern, or yours?
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Let your son talk to other coach.
It's understandable that you are upset, but what you see as 'passing the buck' may legitimately be the right course of action for your son to have been advised in. Give him the benefit of the doubt, and encourage your son to approach the other coach. It's not as though this coach told your son to curl up and die - he provided an action plan for the boy.
This coach might be the asshole you are thinking he is – or he may have honestly done the helpful thing and given the best advice he had.
See how this plays out,before assuming and confronting. It’s not a bad lesson for your son in life to be told “Okay, I’m not the right person to address this problem. Take it over there.”
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Unfortunately politics abound in sports too, which may be influencing your sons play time. My son also played football, doing well in Pop Warner etc but when he got to high school he was placed on the JV team. Their first game was against a school with very large black players. He got knocked out on his very first play. It took nearly an hour before he could say his own name. No more football. Unless your son is NFL material I say get him out before he gets hurt needlessly. I also have a nephew who injured a knee and was rejected from the Air Force Academy because of it. I know it doesn't directly answer your question but eliminating this sport will improve his opportunities in life IMHO. With the extra time after leaving football my son learned to play guitar and he is very good, a talent that will serve him for a lifetime. Good luck!
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