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My mother has had strokes and is in skilled nursing. She has early dementia and has very little memory left. Most times, she doesn't know where she's at or who you are. I haven't been to visit her lately and really don't want to because she doesn't know who I am, doesn't carry on any kind of intelligible conversation and ends up agitated and I am agitated in the process. I have deep seated resentments towards her from some childhood abuse she allowed to happen by my adopted father and further from the way she has favored one of my other brothers all his life, pandering and catering to himm, supporting his alcoholism and lazy work habits and lying for him to keep him out of trouble. He is a loser and she enabled him to destroy everything and steal her money so now she is broke. She has thrown me under the bus for many years in favor of this brother and I have another brother who made it his business to not tell me my mother had even had a stroke and I didn't find out about it for over 5 months. The whole entire family was in on the ruse, including my own two children. There was absolutely NO reason for it other than the weird brother didn't want me to know so that he could steal even more of her money, have her sign bogus documents, etc. It sounds incredulous, but this honestly happened. I was extremely hurt by all this deception and disloyal behavior, especially with my mother scheming and having my kids lie to me to protect that son of hers....it was a nightmare and really still is. Anyway, my issue is that I really don't want to visit, but am feeling some guilty because I don't want my kids to abandon me should I ever be in a position like that...hopefully not. I am hurt, angry and resentful. I pray for the fortitude to forgive her, my pedophile father and brothers all, but I am not there yet. What should I do? It's Thanksgiving next week and I am wondering if I should go get her and bring her to my house. She is totally dependent on someone else to help her do anything, walk, etc. I just really am not in the mood. (link)
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Before I get started I want to tell you that I am a teenager and that I may not know too much about adult situations like this but I'm here to help.
And you are right. Thanksgiving is coming up soon. It's a time for celebrating family. It wasn't when the pilgrims did it but it is now and I think you should have your mom over for Thanksgiving.
I know that maybe you two had a rocky relationship or whatever but she is still your mom and she did the best that she could. It may not have been much but it was her best. And now she's at a point in her life where she needs someone to take care of her. You don't want to regret the time you didn't spend with your mom.
In your question, you sounded very angry with your family. I'm here to tell you, LET IT GO. FORGIVE AND FORGET. You don't need to carry anger on your shoulders because it will just drive you CRAZY.
I know you went through a lot during your childhood but you're not dead! YOU'RE STILL STANDING. You're a survivor. If you won't be thankful for that than be thankful for your children.
My advice to you is, stop stressing yourself out. Keeping going through life and reaching your goals and don't let anybody or anything mess up your stride. You don't have to deal with the family drama.
I hope this got you thinking.
~Andrew~
P.S: Have a Happy Thanksgiving.
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Me:12/F
Him:14/m
Well my boyfriend fingers me and I wanted to know if its okay since I'm 12 I'm turning 13 in 7 months and it just feels so good and I don't want it to stop but if its not right then I should probably stop him. We haven't had sex yet and I'm still a virgin. I really love him and we've been together for 6 months and he's been fingering me 4 5 months he fingers me every weekend and we see each other everyday at school and I'm at his house most days and my parents don't know about us when I sleep there on the weekends they thing I'm sleeping at my friend(she lives next door to him)please don't judge me
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I'm not going to judge you but I will tell you what I think.
You sneaking around with a boy behind your parents' back is just going to blow up in your face. Again I'm not judging you, but you are hiding your boyfriend from your parents.
I may be wrong but I think you already know what you're doing is wrong because why else would you hide your boyfriend from your parents? I'm sure you know that they would probably be upset about his age and the fact that you hang out at his house. But that's just my perspective based on what you wrote.
Now I'm sure you have heard this before but, YOU ARE TOO YOUNG. You need to keep in mind that he is 14. How do you know what's really on his mind?
HE IS MASTURBATING YOU AT HIS HOUSE. How long do you think it will be before you two are doing "other things" in his house? How do you know he won't force you to do those things?
You love him, but does he love you? A guy can say I love you and not mean it. I'm not telling you to break up with him. But if you love him and he really loves you, then you stop going to his house, stop having him "finger" you and introduce him to your parents. If he TRULY LOVES YOU, then he will do ALL those things and expect NOTHING FROM YOU IN RETURN.
The SNEAKING AROUND HAS GOT TO END.
You also mentioned that you are a virgin. KEEP IT THAT WAY. Your virginity is not something you should be careless with. You want to make sure that when you are ready, you give yourself to the right person.
I don't know your boyfriend, but I know teenage guys and from what you wrote, it sounds like he has the upper hand in the relationship. It doesn't sound mutual but to me it sounds like he could get you to do whatever he wants. I'm just saying you need to be cautious.
And if I sounded like I was judging you, it wasn't intentional. And I know I probably didn't answer your question directly but I found other issues in your question that I wanted to talk about.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
P.S: Please be SAFE!
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imk Nikki im a 11 yeear old girl. my best friend is hanging out with a girl im not that close too. i mean ive been friends with her since 2nd grade. but recently we drifted and havent hung for a while. now she just blows me off and never wants to hang out. and whenever her and someone else hang out she always video chats me and makes me jealous. i dont understand. are we true friends? (link)
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In my opinion I think that a true friend treats all their friends as equally important instead of putting one over the other.
Now you said that you guys drifted apart and that she is always blowing you off for someone else. I don't know if this is the answer you want or not but she doesn't sound like she is being a good friend to you. If you have tried to talk to her about how you feel and she just ignored you, then maybe you and her shouldn't be friends anymore. YOU'RE 11 YEARS OLD. You'll find more friends who are nice to you and respect you.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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So I'm asking you this because it'd be nice to get a guys perspective.
So...basically I have a crush on this guy who's 19-nd I'm 17 in one of my classes. We've spoken like twice and that was 6 months ago.
Theres been some signs to say he likes me...like he does look at me quite alot and stuff, but I just really don't know for sure.
So, bearing in mind we hardly ever speak, and he and I share no mutual friends on facebook, would it be wrong to add him?
Also as a guy, what would you think if a shy girl a few years younger than you added you randomly on facebook? Thanks
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Well I don't think there's anything wrong with you adding him on facebook. You don't always have to have mutual friends in common to add somebody. You just need to know the person you're adding. But to be honest, I think you're better off talking to him in person. At least you can find out if he likes you or not rather than waiting for some friend request to go through.
Now in your case, age difference isn't a huge problem because you're almost 18. But if I barely spoke to a certain girl and she added me on facebook the next day, to me that means that she probably wants to talk more with me. So I think you should go for it. But the decision is entirely up to you.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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So heres the thing.... my crush is moving to Cali after winter break. My friends think that he likes me. When I first heard it i was like "um ok?" but after my birthday party and spending time with him I just started liking him. There were moments where i just didnt know what to do. Our time is shortening and i want to tell him but im just to big of a wimp to do it. My friend attempted asking him and he just said "She's my bestfriend" she said that she saw it in his eyes that he was lying.... What should i do? (link)
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Listen to me when I say...
STOP PLAYING AROUND!
Go up there and tell him that you like him. Nothing bad can happen from being honest. He's leaving after winter break. Do you want to be stuck wherever you are saying, "I wish I did this" or "I wish I said that" or "I should've done this" or "I should've said that". If you like this guy, LET HIM KNOW BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
P.S: DO NOT SEND YOUR FRIEND TO TALK TO HIM FOR YOU. SHE'S NOT THE ONE WITH THE CRUSH, YOU ARE. GATHER YOUR COURAGE AND TELL HIM.
GOOD LUCK!
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I've seen everyone I ever cared about vanish away. I've got my heartbreake plenty of times. This time God will not have enough time to save his troubled Human. It's all to late, I dont have time to wait for a reply. If he really exsist he will show me something at the railway station. We will see my dear friend if he really cares about everyone. You are my proof I challenged him to just show me a TINY FUCKING BIT OF SIGN WHY I SHOULDN'T END IT. (link)
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You asked for a sign and here it is. I just hope it's not too late.
First and foremost, what is so bad about your life that you want to end it all? There must be some good things left. I'm guessing you're going through some troubles and you just can't seem to find God anywhere. Trust me, you're not the only one in the world that feels like this. I don't know if you ever heard this or not but in order to get to where you are trying to go, you're going to go through some ruff things. Nothing is supposed to come easy to you. You have to learn along the way.
You're heart has been broken so many times because God wanted you to learn something from those relationships and keep moving on. Sometimes you have to go through 20 people before you finally reach the person that God has designed for you. DON'T GIVE UP ON FINDING LOVE.
You said that everyone you cared about has vanished away? Well you should thank God that you're still here! Everyday he gives us is a GIFT! What are you telling God if you kill yourself? What is suicide going to prove? That you couldn't just hang in there a little longer? Suicide is for those who have given up. DON'T GIVE UP because GOD HASN'T GIVEN UP ON YOU! I know you don't see it right now but please trust me. You have to believe that God will NEVER put more on you than you can carry. Whatever you're going through, you're going through it because God knows that you are strong enough to handle it and that he is right by your side. I don't know what else to say. Just keep going. DON'T GIVE UP.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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I am always being yelled at. Mostly "WHAT THE H*LL IS WRONG WITH YOU?!?!??", "I HATE YOU!", "WHY CAN'T YOU BE LIKE YOUR SISTER?!??", and "nobody likes fat people. If you are fat nobody will love you and you will die alone."
A few things he calls me are:
Fat
Stupid
Ugly
Lazy
How he makes me feel:
Fat
Stupid
Ugly
Lazy
Untalented
Worthless
Crazy
Like its always my fault
Alone
Unloved
Depressed
Suicidal
Things that have resulted from constant yelling,name calling, and a few beatings:
Him saying he hates me
Him refusing to feed me
Confusion of sexuality
Shyness
Suicidal thoughts
Thoughts of killing him
Plans to run away
Attempted cutting
Attempted purging
Attempts to starve myself. Fantasy coping (only a few hours spent in reality)
Scared of men
Hate being touched
Hate him
Hate relationships with people
Have to sever all relationships with men after 3 months
Loner
Don't trust people
Confusion (mostly of if I'm being abused and if he ever molested me)
Foggy memories of him laying on top of me asleep and I want to get away but can't.
Self hatred
A few things he has done:
Refused to feed me
Compare me to sister
Forced me to lay in bed with him
Forced me to hug him
Forced me to sit in his lap
Forced me to kiss his mouth (long time)
Yells if I don't let him lay with me in bed
Stomped my dogs head in the ground
Threw one of my dogs across the concrete
I don't want to call authorities when I have so much to be happy about. I.e- four friends that sometimes pay attention to me, two dogs and a cat that love me very much, a big yard, and im in the middle class money area. I know some people go through so much more (beatings,rape,neglect, homeless,broke, etc.) so I really don't mean to complain. It's weird that I'm just now thinking that this may be abuse (like how when my older sister was 6 he told her she got to fat and forced her to get on the treadmill everyday even though she was an average weight.) For some reason I just have a strong feeling I was raped or molested and so was my sister but I just don't know....thank you.
I'm a 13yr old female.
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I don't know if you're going to like this but it's time to get some help. You need to call the police and tell them everything you told us or tell a close relative and ask them if you can stay with them. And yes, what he does is called ABUSE. From what I read he has physically, verbally, and mentally abused you and your sister. Maybe you should go to another family member and have them call the police with you. Either way, you and your sister don't need to be around this man anymore. THIS IS A HARMFUL ENVIRONMENT AND YOU NEED TO LEAVE. Maybe you can talk to your counselor at school and see if they can help you because you can't stay with your dad anymore. It's time to SPEAK UP.
GET HELP FROM SOMEONE.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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I know I have social anxiety. I always have. My heart starts pounding, I get short of breath, and I have Tourettes, which also tend to go out of control in social situations so I'm standing there listening to someone and my body's twitching all over the place. I used to make my friends take up my papers in school because I was too scared to get up in front of everyone. Even getting picked on during class to answer a question made my face get really hot and my chest all tight.
I even do it over the Internet! If someone tries to chat me on Facebook, I get super nervous and spend at least five minutes trying to think of something proper to say, but then I feel like an idiot because when I do manage to finally speak, I always put my foot in my mouth. I know there's always going to be someone in the world who won't like me, but I guess the idea of that freaks me out so much that I try and please everyone when we first meet.
It doesn't help that this is preventing me from a job search. I hate using the phone because I start to stutter over the phone and at my last job interview, my mind drew a blank so I was stammering and tripping over words and saying extremely stupid things.
I have a therapist that I'm talking to, but I honestly don't think it's helping me overcome this. And it's so hard to force myself, because I know that I may get pumped up and ready to say something, but once I'm faced with the situation, my mind goes blank and I'm left stammering and picking words out of the air.
What I want to know is if there's anyone else with this problem, and what they may do to ease the suffocating sensation in a social situation because I'm never going to be able to get a job or make new friends this way. In fact, I think I'm losing some of my friends because of the way I talk when I finally get around to socializing. (link)
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I can understand exactly where you are coming from because I used to be the same way. Everytime during a presentation you start talking and all these things start running through your head like, don't look at your notecards to much or don't look people in the eye and especially don't look up or down. I know that when I did presentations and I hear someone giggle I start thinking that they're laughing at me when in all actuality they're laughing at something their friend said.
In order to try and be more social with people, you have to learn how to be comfortable with yourself. IT ALL STARTS WITH YOU. You have to have confidence in yourself. I noticed that when you have respect for yourself others will follow.
Now facebook should be easy. If someone talks to you, the first thing you should do is say "hi" or "hey" or "hey how are you" or "Hey how's it going". It's the same as writing a business letter: ALWAYS BEGAN WITH A GREETING! Now I have never been interviewed in my whole life but when you do an interview I think you should talk to the interviewer proffessionally but be very open and honest. Tell them your strengths and how you could be a great benefit if they hire you. Be very social and tell all the good things about yourself.
Remember the key to being sociable starts with YOU. The best way to do it to just be yourself and don't try to please everybody you meet because that's impossible. You don't want to be known as a people pleaser but an INDIVIDUAL!
Good Luck and I hope I helped in some way.
~Andrew~
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If I want to be grammatically correct, would I say, "I had to do 10 Hail Mary's" or would I say, "I had to do 10 Hail Marys" (with our without the apostrophe). Thank you. (link)
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WITHOUT THE APOSTROPHE.
Aspostrophe "s" is to show ownership.
Example:
MARY'S dog was small.
MARY'S cat was big.
We went to MARY'S restaurants.
And when you just add a plain "s" is when you have more than one of something.
Example:
We went to all the STORES.
We went to the zoo and saw lots of ANIMALS.
I have three BROTHERS.
I hope this helped and made sense.
~Andrew~
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I would laugh if I could. You are 12 years old and you think you are qualified to give advice as to the right and wrong of suicide? Have you lived through a decade of serious pain? Have your family, wife, and friends walked away from you when you lost your six figure salary? No matter what you pray for: Strength, help, someone to talk to, one day of peace. I get nothing. I don't whine about it. I've withstood years of it and I do not want to be here anymore. You think the other side is like a painful sensation. How do you know there is a god to begin with, let alone you try to scare people out of suicide with a campfire. You have a lot to learn little 12 year old. If you knew anything about someone who has lived a painful life, and I'm sure to you that means something hurts like you got a paper cut. Let me tell you, I have been in enough physical pain to pass out many times. It is awful but can't even compare to the mental pain this world can dish out. Your "hand burn" and video game "Zombie" notions are rediculous. I'm a 39 year old male and have been tortured in one way or another for 37 of them. enough is enough. Grow up. To some of us, it does not get any worse than it is right now. I'll take my chances on the other side if there is one. Why don't you quit trying to talk about things you know nothing about, at least until you're a big high school student! You don't know what real pain even is But I can tell I could easily drive nails through my hands more easily than I can think about spending another year on this planet. (link)
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I'm 16 in case you're wondering.
You said that you have pain that a 12 year old probably doesn't understand and you're right. I admit that I don't understand what your going through. But everybody has pain. You can't possibly think that all teenagers live a happy life and the only things they worry about are video games. If my self-esteem was on the ground ever since I was born, then I probably would be suicidal. I was called fat all throughout elementary. My great grandmother passed away when I was young but I remember it. My grandmother who I was extremely close to died a few years ago to cancer. Not to mention she also had bronchitis. And I was talking to my dad a while ago and he told me that she would have survived if the doctors did an MRI and found it earlier. A few months ago, my dad went into ICU because a blood vessel had ruptured in his head and if the doctors hadn't caught in time, he probably wouldn't be here. Thankfully he has recovered and he has been back home for a while. I'm not trying to compare my problems to yours but I'm trying to let you know that if I was a easily depressed by every bad thing that happened in my life, I would be dead right now. But I'm not a quitter. I will never give up on my life and neither should you. Instead of being depressed, pick yourself up and keep moving on with your life. So what if friends and family left you. People are always going to leave you whether it be intentional or unintentional. There are people in the world that have it worse than you and I combined.
I don't mean to sound preachy, but God will not put us through something for no reason. Maybe he was trying to get all the fake people out of your life, or maybe he's putting you through your darkest days so you can be a blessing to someone in your brighter future. I know you said that you are having your doubts about God, but I'm just telling you what I know. And I'm not going to force you to believe me. But you need to reflect on what your going through and try to fix it. Go back to church if you have to. But don't sit there and give up. You can fix this and I have hope that your situation will turn around.
Sorry this was a bit long.
~Andrew~
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ok so i am 13 and my brother is 3. a year ago i found out on my dads phone that hes going on to dating websites and talking with other women. and before that i found condoms in his car droor. and i just think he goes to other womens house and you know, does it with them. i dont know what to do. i told my aunt but she told me not to tell anyone. i think when my brother grows up to be my age one day, i will tell him and discuss what to do about it together, but now what do you people think? (link)
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I say, listen to your aunt FOR NOW. Since she's the only one who knows, talk to her and let her know how you feel about this situation. Ask her if she can do something about it. But I believe you should follow your heart. I'm sorry that you have to go through this and I hope everything gets better.
~Andrew~
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is it advisable to have sex with another girl if your virgin girlfriend is not ready.
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You shouldn't be with the girl you're dating right now because you're looking for sex and she's looking for commitment. She doesn't want some guy who is going to who her hand during the day and then run off and have sex with some other girl at night. If you really LOVE your girlfriend, you'll treat her with the respect that she deserves. The fact that you're considering having sex with another girl means that you were only in this relationship for the sex. And think about the image you would be creating for yourself if you're dating a girl yet you're sleeping with everyone else. If you keep giving yourself out like that, your girlfriend will eventually find out and nobody will want you anymore because everybody has already had you.
What I'm trying to say is... Don't cheat on your girlfriend just because she has morals and values. Don't cheat on your girlfriend because she holds herself to high standards. Don't cheat on your girlfriend because she's making you prove yourself. If you really want to sleep around with other girls, by all means go ahead. BUT DO NOT DRAG YOUR GIRLFRIEND DOWN WITH YOU!
~Andrew~
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me and this guy my bf want to have sex but want to stay virgins until married we are fifteen and sugesstions (link)
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Sorry but once you have sex, you're no longer a virgin. There is no way around it. I suggest that you wait until marriage or until you are truly ready. Don't be in a rush to have sex becase you're still young and you have plenty of time.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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ok ive never had a bf in my whole life and my friends are startin to pick on me and my mom is startin to worry about me never havin a bf. Is this normal cause im not sure ive just never met 'the one'. My friends go out with people all the time and try to hook me up with people i dont even know. Guys ask me out but i just dont have the heart to say yes. Is this normal, to be 16 and never have had a bf in whole life?
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I'm a 16 year old male and I can relate to your situation. Everybody pushes me to date, but I tell them I'm looking for the one. So yes it is normal to be 16 and not have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Start dating when you feel ready.
I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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I have been dealing with drama with a former friend. She is harassing me, stalking me, threatening me with calling the police on me for stuff I didn't do or say to her. She is falsely accused me of things of things I didn't do or say. I have not had any contact with he since May. I have left her alone since May as she wanted nothing to do with me anymore. I have respected her wishes and made no contact on any sites, etc. She changed her email address and all because someone hacked into her account. Not me of course. Ignoring her isn't the answer as she and her friends are spying on me on sites and harassing me. There is one site that won't do anything about the bullying and harassment. I;m tired of it. I have been saving what is going on and I'm tired of being the victim of bullying and harassment. I have left this ex friend alone and she is falsely accusing me of contacting her through various sources which isn't true. I have left her alone. She also promised not to harass and bother me and mention me in her stuff and she lied. She is getting people to harass me and make fun of me. Especially my weight and she once posed as someone she isn't and harassed making up stuff that isn't true. She denied it at first, but confessed to the crime and has since stalked or is getting people to stalk and harass men on different sites. I'm tired of this. and ignoring her just adds fuel to the fire cuz she can do as she pleases. I have a friend who is friends with both me and this person and she is in the middle of this and she is in between this mess and doesn't want part of it. I'm tired of the harassment and stalking and bulling from this person. I am not sure what to do at this point. I have saved everything what this person is doing/saying about me along with her friends who have been stalking, spying and harassing me as well as bullying me. I want this to end. This person threatened with police action and I am innocent and not doing anything wrong and have left the woman alone. I don't get why she can't leave me alone and out of her life and her stuff and why she's harassing and stalking and spying on me. If she's not doing it, she is having someone else do it. I am not sure about filing a report on this person. What should I do?
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Okay. First of all I'm sorry you have to go through this. But let me tell you this first. This girl that is bullying you, SHE CAN NOT DO ANYTHING TO YOU! She has no power. Just because she has people watching you doesn't make her anybody special. If people want to watch you, let watch. As long as they don't put their hands on you, you're fine.
And another thing, you need to tell somebody. STOP KEEPING THIS TO YOURSELF! That's how people go crazy.
You need to realize, OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS DON'T MATTER! What this girl is doing to you is STUPID because she's wasting all of her time and energy on making sure somebody's life is miserable. But don't be angry at her because some kids bully other kids because they're insecure with themselves or they're having some family issues back home. I wish there was more I could do to help.
~Andrew~
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My boyfriend cheated on me several times, i forgave him, i got pregnant and he asked me to abort saying that we are not ready, i refused and he broke up with me.he went back dating one of the girls he was 2 timing me with.later on he said that he can't be with me but that he will be there for the child eventhough he can't provide financially. I was devastated, depressed, and so hurt. i didn't know what to do and i didn't want the child to suffer, so out of fustration i had an abortion, but i told my him that i had a misscaraige. he felt for me and asked me back out again. i accepeted and we started dating later to find out that he was still involve with other women. i broke up with him and ever since now we have being on and off. he says he loves me, that am the love of his life and that we should be exclusive. recently i discovered that he is still involve with one girl and is chasing after other gilrs. i confronted him and he told me that he will set things straight with other girls an let them know that the past is the past and that he wants to concentrate on his future which is me. i don't know what to do,i love him so much,but i can't trust him,i have tried several to move on but its hard, i feel miserable without him. should i give him another chance?i am 23 and i want to be in a stable relationship with someone that i love so that i might end up marrying the person and carrying his childreen. A part of me wants to be in a relationship with him again, but the other part is afraid of getting hurt again. what can i do? (link)
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If you really want a stable relationship, then you need to get off this rollercoaster. Tell him you are done and go on with your life. You're still young and you still have time to find another guy. But this boyfriend you have now either needs to change or he needs to go and I doubt that he will change.
If someone frustrates you enough to the point where you get an abortion, then there's a problem. This relationship needs to be over! Tell him you're getting off the rollercoaster TODAY!
~Andrew~
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I am 18 year old student i have ear loss in my life and feel to leave in this world as every of my friends tease me and make mock at me and really feel very sad by hearing those word i feel hatred and i fell in love with a girl and she left me and loved my best friend . I doesn't bother about that WHY I HAVE EAR LOSS I HAVE NOT DONE ANY WRONG TO ANYBODY AND WHY PEOPLE TEASE ME I WANT TO DIE I FEEL ASHAMED OF MY SELF MAN IN THE WORLD I WANT TO DIE PLEASE SUGGEST ME A EASY WAY TO DIE ? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE SUGGEST ? I BEG"YOU" (link)
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NO ONE ON THIS SITE IS GOING TO HELP YOU KILL YOURSELF. I wish people would stop coming on here asking for suicide advice.
So you said your friends are making fun of you because you have hearing loss. Well these guys weren't true friends if they're making fun of you. But what people say about you doesn't matter. At the end of the day, they're not doing anything special for you. They don't put food on your table or money in your pocket. THEY HAVE NO POWER OVER YOU. DON'T EVER FEEL ASHAMED OF YOURSELF! Keep living your life and don't EVER give up on yourself.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
P.S. Don't kill yourself. There's so much good you can still accomplish with your life.
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I really like this guy but I dont know if he does. How can I know if he likes me? (link)
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ASK HIM! The only way to ever find out if a guy likes you is to ask him. Avoiding him and just watching him from a distance doesn't work. You have to talk to him yourself and ask him if he likes you.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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I am currently a cheerleader in high school, and it's very time consuming. Music/singing is one thing I love more than anything. For me to be able to follow my dreams I would have to give up another thing that I love. I'm confused on what ro do, and I need advice. Music is my dream and love. But cheerleading is my life. (link)
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You sound like you want to do singing. But it is your choice that matters. You described singing as your DREAM and your LOVE. And you described cheerleading as your LIFE. I say, that you follow your heart. Follow your PASSION.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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Hi!
So there once was this guy from church that I was seeing for like a whole year.As many relationships start off , it was nice and wonderful at the beginning . In a span of 2-3 months he said that he loved me, we had done "some things " together and he had also told me that he wanted to take me to his grad next year and that by then, he would like to make things official with us. As the school year came and went by , we would always have our ups and downs. we would always bicker about what our relationship was and how he wanted our relationship to be hushed. Because we were never official, things got complicated as we continued to act like a couple even though when really we never were one.
He would always make excuses about how half of the time he felt like he would date me and how half of the time he wouldn't because he didn't want anything to be serious at the moment. Although i knew i shouldve took it as a red flag, I would always ignore it because I didn't want to lose him .
So ,when the following year finally came he told his parents that he was going to take me as his grad date. But instead of being ok with it, they were shocked and disapproved of it . They gave him a whole lecture about how it would be best if he dated someone outside of church . And their reasoning behind this was because they didn't want any rumors and awkwardness happening around in the church.
To sum things up, in the end he took a different girl to his grad , I got jealous and he broke up our so called bond. Although he said that we could maybe get back in the future and that things would never change between us, the whole friendship became really hard on me because things were changing and he wasn't texting me as much as he used to.
And now that I think about it, I feel like he never tried hard enough to make it work.
I feel hurt and used, that now whenever he does text me, it feels that it is only just for the sake of it.
And as for that , I haven't answered his text yet. I don't know what to do !! Is it best if I continue to ignore him , or should I continue to talk to him and be a friend?!?!!
Please help !
Thanks
Ps sorry for the long message haha (link)
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The decision is yours to make. If I were in your place, I would continue to ignore him because he didn't want anyone to know about your relationship and he broke a promise that he had made to you. You don't need a guy or a friend who is going to break promises and be ashamed to be with you. There are plenty of good men still out in the world so don't get caught up on this guy.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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