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I need Advice On This Thanks.
I have been dealing with drama with a former friend. She is harassing me, stalking me, threatening me with calling the police on me for stuff I didn't do or say to her. She is falsely accused me of things of things I didn't do or say. I have not had any contact with he since May. I have left her alone since May as she wanted nothing to do with me anymore. I have respected her wishes and made no contact on any sites, etc. She changed her email address and all because someone hacked into her account. Not me of course. Ignoring her isn't the answer as she and her friends are spying on me on sites and harassing me. There is one site that won't do anything about the bullying and harassment. I;m tired of it. I have been saving what is going on and I'm tired of being the victim of bullying and harassment. I have left this ex friend alone and she is falsely accusing me of contacting her through various sources which isn't true. I have left her alone. She also promised not to harass and bother me and mention me in her stuff and she lied. She is getting people to harass me and make fun of me. Especially my weight and she once posed as someone she isn't and harassed making up stuff that isn't true. She denied it at first, but confessed to the crime and has since stalked or is getting people to stalk and harass men on different sites. I'm tired of this. and ignoring her just adds fuel to the fire cuz she can do as she pleases. I have a friend who is friends with both me and this person and she is in the middle of this and she is in between this mess and doesn't want part of it. I'm tired of the harassment and stalking and bulling from this person. I am not sure what to do at this point. I have saved everything what this person is doing/saying about me along with her friends who have been stalking, spying and harassing me as well as bullying me. I want this to end. This person threatened with police action and I am innocent and not doing anything wrong and have left the woman alone. I don't get why she can't leave me alone and out of her life and her stuff and why she's harassing and stalking and spying on me. If she's not doing it, she is having someone else do it. I am not sure about filing a report on this person. What should I do?
Kim
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Okay. First of all I'm sorry you have to go through this. But let me tell you this first. This girl that is bullying you, SHE CAN NOT DO ANYTHING TO YOU! She has no power. Just because she has people watching you doesn't make her anybody special. If people want to watch you, let watch. As long as they don't put their hands on you, you're fine.
And another thing, you need to tell somebody. STOP KEEPING THIS TO YOURSELF! That's how people go crazy.
You need to realize, OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS DON'T MATTER! What this girl is doing to you is STUPID because she's wasting all of her time and energy on making sure somebody's life is miserable. But don't be angry at her because some kids bully other kids because they're insecure with themselves or they're having some family issues back home. I wish there was more I could do to help.
~Andrew~
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You have not said how old you are, though by your writing I believe you are a young teenager.
Why this girl is doing this is because she can. It is a form of bullying and stalking. There is zero tolerance today for bullying by young people and stalking is illegal. If as you feel she has someone impersonating you. Should it come to it the police and the social websites can trace the messages to the IP the came form. She may not be aware of this but it is done when the police need to do so for many reasons.
What to do about this? If as I suspect you are a teenager the first thing you do is tell your parents. Stalking and bullying are a police matters. If you have done nothing wrong as you have said then any so called evidence she may have is worthless.
Have you ever heard the expression: "A good defence is a good Offence?". This is what I'm suggesting here. She keeps bulling you by threatening to go to the police and tell them you are stalking her. She knows it is not true and her evidence wont stand a forensic investigation.
By you going to the police, offencive attack, you are calling her out. Now she has to prove she is the wronged person, go on the defence, when she has been on the offense. She won't be able to prove anything. Now we will be the one humiliated. She will be the one who will have to speak to a juvenile court judge about her bullying. She will be the one who's parents are going to have to fork out money for lawyers. After having to do so I'm sure her parents will take appropriate action to correct her behavior.
This is also called turning the tables on her. So do it. Tell your parents, let them call the police. If she can't prove anything or her so called evidence, which she probably doesn't have, will not stand the test as evidence. Whatever she may have sent you as proof can easily be made up on her own computer, will not stand the test as evidence.
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I don't know if they really do this or not, but you should go to a police office and report her and ask them to give you one of those microscopic cameras that you wear on your collar or something like that and document some stuff for a week. Make sure it's on when she's harrasing you and then give the police the footage and have her arrested. Simple as that. As for the stalking, you may have to go to someone else's house and leave in disguise to the police station. I don't know. Be creative with that part of it.
I hope I helped and good luck! Let me know how it turns out :)
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