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is it normal to have never had a bf my whole life?
16/f
ok ive never had a bf in my whole life and my friends are startin to pick on me and my mom is startin to worry about me never havin a bf. Is this normal cause im not sure ive just never met 'the one'. My friends go out with people all the time and try to hook me up with people i dont even know. Guys ask me out but i just dont have the heart to say yes. Is this normal, to be 16 and never have had a bf in whole life?
Please any advise will be very thankful!!
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Different people have different sensibilities and if you're 16 and haven't met anyone yet you want to couple up with there's nothing wrong with that. All it means is what it means, nobody has rung your chimes in the relationship department yet. At your age it's easy to understand why given how immature teenage boys are. Just carry on being you. Other people aren't you and so you shouldn't let them run your life. If they hit you up about you're not having a boyfriend yet ask them two questions: one, are you capable of minding your own business? And two, why are you so invested in me having a boyfriend? What, I have no worth unless a guy is attached to me? That ought to guilt them into STFU.
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I wouldn't say it's "normal", because, like you say, your friends are different from you in this regard. The thing is though, that there's nothing wrong with it and even though it's not normal, there are more people out there than you think that are in the same boat as you! Don't worry about whether it's normal or not, worry about whether it's right. I didn't date anyone until I was almost 19 and I'm glad I waited. I skipped over all the crap and started in ready for the good stuff. I'm married to the first guy I dated now, we've been together for almost 8 years now. You probably won't end up marrying the first person you date, but there's no reason to date someone just because your friends want you to. If you don't feel like it, you don't feel like it! There's no harm in waiting and you'll probably be happier in the end if you do. My advice for you is to stick to your guns and don't date just because your friends are giving you a hard time. If they really get on your case, bring up some of the mistakes the people they've dated have made and explain to them that you want to wait until you're a little older and people can be more mature. One thing I want to warn you about though is that you want to make sure that down the road you won't regret not dating when you were young. Sure I didn't go out looking for a date, but nobody ever asked me out on a date either and it made me feel kinda bad about myself. I sometimes wish that I had had dated in high school because I may have missed out on something. I wouldn't go back and change anything if I could, but I don't like feeling as if I should have done something differently. Make sure that you're making the right decision for you and that you can be okay with it later in life. You don't want to think back to high school and wonder what it would have been like if you'd had some dating experience. Good luck! :)
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it's completely normal. i'm 19 and i have friends my age who have never had a boyfriend. you aren't expected to find "the one" at 16. you are still so young. i dated a boy my whole freshman year of high school and we talked about what it would be like if we got married. i don't even talk to him anymore. boys come and go and you probably won't find "the one" until you are in college, or even later. flirt with boys, go on dates, just have fun being a high schooler. if a guy you really like asks you out then say yes! but if not, then keep your options open.
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I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 17. Now, I'm in college and usually have more boy drama than I could have ever bargained for.
High school is just a really superficial place. If you were a little awkward or quirky when you were younger, often times your peers will refuse to overlook that stage. They're really just insecure themselves, but they might focus on the shortcomings of other people to take the focus off of their own flaws. As you get older, this attitude tends to disappear, and people will see you for you and be interested in dating you.
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I'm a 16 year old male and I can relate to your situation. Everybody pushes me to date, but I tell them I'm looking for the one. So yes it is normal to be 16 and not have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Start dating when you feel ready.
I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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Absolutely normal.I had my first boyfriend when I was 16, and not a moment too soon. Everyone I knew had already had a history of trouble with guys, and I was perfectly content being single. Ever since the day I got my first boyfriend, life has been full of boy trouble. So enjoy yourself while your heart's still intact, and trust me, there's a guy out there who's perfect for you. Don't go out with any loser just because of peer pressure.
Good luck :)
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Perfectly normal,I mean,you're 16!You have a whole life ahead.So don't worry about your friends picking on you 'cause you're still young and there'll be lots of good guys waiting for you,I think it's great you haven't found the 'one' though, bc that means you're not shallow,you're looking for something true and lasting.So good for you!and do not get desperate!When you least expect it,someone will come to your life to make you happy!:)
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trust me it is normal. Your just not ready. Your the way i used to be i had few bfs but i didnt really want one so i broke it off after a week ive been single throughout HS really. Now that im in college im open to relationships. Its normal to not want a bf and to just wait to you find the one. Just because your friends have guys dont mean you should rush into anything. Wait until your ready. & When the guy comes along you'll know that this is the person you want to open up to & let into your heart & life.
Hope this helps :)
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