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sex makes your boobs grow bigger

no, that is not true. being on birth control can make your boobs bigger though.

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erm well what does it mean when someone says 'The best thing we ever had, we took it for granted' ? pleaseee need to know what he meant.. thanku !

it can also mean you don't know what you have until it's gone, you don't realize how good something was until it's over. if it's meant to refer to a relationship then you can apply it to that. it's the best relationship you ever had but you took it for granted and didn't realize how special it was until it was already over.

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16/f
ok ive never had a bf in my whole life and my friends are startin to pick on me and my mom is startin to worry about me never havin a bf. Is this normal cause im not sure ive just never met 'the one'. My friends go out with people all the time and try to hook me up with people i dont even know. Guys ask me out but i just dont have the heart to say yes. Is this normal, to be 16 and never have had a bf in whole life?
Please any advise will be very thankful!!

it's completely normal. i'm 19 and i have friends my age who have never had a boyfriend. you aren't expected to find "the one" at 16. you are still so young. i dated a boy my whole freshman year of high school and we talked about what it would be like if we got married. i don't even talk to him anymore. boys come and go and you probably won't find "the one" until you are in college, or even later. flirt with boys, go on dates, just have fun being a high schooler. if a guy you really like asks you out then say yes! but if not, then keep your options open.

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I don't really know if this fits in this category, but I'm writing a story that I hope to turn into a movie fairly soon. I don't have a full story line for some of these yet, but tell me what you would be most interested in. Also, let me know if they're too sad. I'm really better at comedy, but I just thought I'd take a shot at drama for a change.

A. A story about a boy and a girl who fall in love after being introduced to each other by their fathers, who are old friends. Their relationship gets serious, even though the girl's father doesnt approve and feels akward about the situation. Then, the boy is involved in a car accident and taken to the hospital. The next day, the girl goes to visit him and sees that other than some cuts and bruises, he seems fine. Shortly after she gets home, her roommate tells her that she's just heard that the boy had just died from internal bleeding. I don't know the rest of the story, but it will involve the girl's family helping the boy's family deal with the agony of losing their son and it will have some kind of lesson about love and friendship.

B. A story about a man whose wife is murdered and his infant son is kidnapped from their house one night when he was gone for a very short amount of time. The man spends twelve years looking for his son and after he discovers that the man who stole his son passed him off as a child put up for adoption, he goes looking for the couple who adopted him. Then, he must choose between bringing his son home or allowing him to stay with the adopted parents who raised him.

C. A story about a man with a wife, a daughter, and a son who are involved in an accident together and taken to the emergency room. The daughter dies, the wife is declared brain dead, and the son is near death from damage done to his heart. The man gets to the hospital and the doctors tell him that they want to take his wife off of life support so they can give their son her heart. The man doesn't want to let her go, but if he doesn't, he will lose the only member of his family with a chance of survival and he has only minutes to make the decision.

i really like C. it seems like a better ending to a movie than a beginning though. i would build up the relationship between the family members in the beginning of the script and then end with the dramatic ending and maybe show what happens after his decision for a brief amount of time.

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Is it ok to commit suicide for unselfish reasons. i know the people who love me will be hurting emotionally but if I kill myself they will receive 2 million dollars. Right now we have almost no money left with no income coming in. I'm in constant pain due to a failed surgery and pretty much stay in bed all day ( I am 49 years old). I'm not afraid to die because I know I will see my son who died 3 years ago and I miss him so much, but I am afraid of pain or not succeeding and becoming a vegetable and not having my family collect my insurance. I still have a 17 year old son at home and he has one year left in private school, right now I can't afford his tuition. We won't have money for food soon. My husband of 9 years tries very hard he started a company but hasn't made money in years. I took a look at my policy and it does pay if I kill myself after 2 years. I've had the policy for 6 years. I don't want to die but I want to help my family and this seems like the only way i can help them. I am so afraid of us running out of money. Please help me get the courage I need to do this and help me figure out the best and least painful way to as well.

your life is much more important than any amount of money. you only get to live once. think about how much your son and husband will miss you. no amount of money can compensate for the emotional pain of losing someone. everyone goes through rough patches in their life but NOTHING is bad enough to end your life. if you and your husband and son love each other than that should be more important than money. you don't need money to have a happy life. i'm sure things will get better. thing about making adjustments to save money. can you send your son to a public school instead of a private one? (that may not be ideal, but it will save you a lot of money for now). maybe your husband should consider selling his business and finding a new job. there are ways to work around every problem and things WILL get better, you just have to give them a chance to and ending your life will not do any good.

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So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 6months now, we've been on 2 "breaks" because I felt like I couldn't deal with his ways. I'm 22 and he's 24, we're both in college, he just recently got a job 2 weeks ago because he needed to pay rent. Our first date he paid for dinner but after that we began taking turns and now it seems like in always the one paying for dinner, movie tickets, dates etc. One of the reasons we took a break was because he's a bum aka doesn't have a car, didn't have a job and has no money/ broke all the time. I felt shallow because I wanted to break up with him but he convinced me to take a break. Then a few weeks later we took another break because I just couldn't take it anymore! Instead of finding a job he would be at his apt playing video games all day!! I made a list of pros and cons of staying with him and I definitely had more cons but I was still with this guy!! Whyyyyy I can't tell you because I'm
not so sure myself! I consider him to be my first "real" relationship so maybe that's why I'm still with him? He says he loves me but I know I don't love him...yet or even at all, I don't know to be honest. Am I expecting too much from him? Should I finally break up with him? I mean the times we have together are good not great. I feel awful that I'm breaking up with him for this reason. Help!!

that is not a bad reason to break up with someone! can you see yourself with him in the future? if this is how he is acting now, imagine if you married him and had kids with him. if he wants to be with you he needs to change because it doesn't sound like you are happy with the way he is now. having a boyfriend shouldn't be such a burden on you and you shouldn't be paying for him all of the time unless you really love and care about him (which it doesn't sound like you do). if you really want to be with him you need to tell him he needs to get his life together because otherwise you two will not have a future. give him a few weeks and see if he is looking for a job, etc. and if he isn't then dump him. someone who doesn't care about his life and doesn't have goals won't care about your life and your goals either. good luck!

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20 f
I gained about 25 pounds this year which now makes me 150 and im only 5'2. So im definitely over weight. I was wondering if anyone knows what healthy yummy foods I could eat? I love fold. And im always eating. Thats what got me so big! So anyone know of any foods I could eat.??

-dannon vanilla yogurt with a little peanut butter (sounds weird i know, but it is so good!)
-eggs are always pretty filling but also healthier than many other foods (try them with a little bit of ketchup or marinara and don't put salt or cheese in them)
-banana with nutella
-apples and peanut butter
-pita chips instead of potato chips
-rice cakes


the easiest way to lose weight is to make your portion sizes a lot smaller. that means you don't have to stop eating your favorite foods, just eat less of them!

also, try to stay away from using A LOT of extras like cheese, cream cheese, peanut butter, mayonnaise, etc. because they are very fattening

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