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i want to die bcz i was in merchant navy before after that i left job thn i started own business get loss in that but i still trying to achive goal but my family members all saying u destroyed your life own . who is partner with he is also my relative , he giving support to me do business, but my other family member discouraging me always . now only the thing happened i want to die. (link)
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Get a counselor or talk to someone at a church.
I used to think about suicide as well, but I don't think I was ever as serious about it as you are. It was more of just a momentary thought than something I seriously thought I might do. My health was going down and it seemed hopeless to get better, I didn't have a job, was living with my parents, and worried that I'd never get married, have kids, or reach my other goals in life.
Before all of this was happening, my mother was very upset to find out that her bosses daughter had committed suicide less than two weeks before Christmas. The family was devastated and my mother's boss had to be on antidepressants to be able to keep going on with her life. Her father in law stated at the funeral home that he wished it had been him who had died instead of his granddaughter.
I didn't want to leave my family to have these kinds of problems because of me. I didn't want my legacy to be wimping out and committing suicide at age 25 just because I thought couldn't take my life anymore. It just didn't seem like things could possibly be so hopeless that there was no solution and that things would stay bad for the rest of my life. I wanted to experience to good parts of life and at least try to live out my dreams. Suicide was not how I wanted to leave this world. I can't really explain what exactly I was feeling, but I just didn't want to be remembered as they woman who took the easy way out and left her family and friends to suffer the consequences.
I don't know if you're a religious person, but if you are, you might pray about this. People will tell you that praying does nothing or that God can't help you, but I am living proof that that's not true. God has healed me of health problems in the past and I am confident He could he me or anyone else of anything in the future, including your kind of depression. He promises to heal us, but negative talk will prevent it from happening. You have to be positive, believe it will happen, and talk as if it already has.
My life improve after my problems started when I re- committed my life to Christ because I was confident He would help me and He did, just like He can for you. I went from wanting to die to wanting to live as long as I could, not taking a second of my life for granted, because doing God's will gave me a reason to live and it was the best reason I could have ever had.
This is a good life, you just have to hold on until you find your reason to want to live. Hang on and something will come along that makes you glad you have not yet taken your own life.
Your family sounds like they don't treat you very well, but my mother's boss and her family didn't treat their kids very well either. They played favorites and did things like that, but they were still truly upset when their daughter died. Your family may feel the same way, but even if you don't, you may have friends who do. If you don't believe you have anyone, that doesn't mean you can't in the near future. Like I said, go to church. It's a great place to make friends because people are very welcoming and friendly. God commands us to love each other and that's what good people at a good church will do for you. Try to go out and make friends in other places if you can. These people can also help you deal with your problems. What would be a better legacy to leave behind, they guy who committed suicide and left his loved ones behind to suffer for it, the guy who committed suicide and no one cared, or the guy who lived his life the best he could and died naturally, leaving loved ones to remember how strong he was and how he handled his problems well, never letting any of them destroy him?
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Let's say there was someone who was diagnosed with diabetes a year ago and since then, has said that the hardest part is just not being able to live the normal life she used to have. She can no longer eat or drink much unless she has her medicine with her unless her blood sugar is low, which makes her feel worse than if it was high. She has to turn people down when they offer her something and she doesn't like explaining why. I've heard of these insulin pumps that deliver insulin to you as you need it. You wear on your belt and they have these IVs that are inserted into your stomach, so she wouldn't have to take medicine everytime she eats and will be more free to eat when she doesn't have her medicine with her. It will allow her to live a normal life and I think it's a good idea to pay for her to get one for Christmas, but what do you think? (link)
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In sentence 2, I meant to say that she can't eat or drink unless she has her medicine with her OR unless her blood sugar is low. Sorry about that.
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Hi I'm 19/F. Haven't gone out for halloween in five years but this year my friends and I from college residence are going to go trick-or-treating!!!!
Nothing sexy. I want things that will hopefully keep me warm. Affordable. I'd look good as a hot cop but that will not get me candy at people's door.
Costumes are about 90 bucks in stores and websites. The only thing I could think of is paper bag princess. Any ideas? (link)
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I know your problem. I'm in my 20s and my friends and I have Halloween parties every year. It's not near as easy to dress up for it now as it was when I was a kid, but I usually dress up as a character from one of my favorite movies. Many times, it costs little to no money. For example, in 2010, one of my friends, who is a big Tim Burton fan wanted us dress up as characters from one of Burton's movies. I chose to be Corpse Bride and my boyfriend was the guy from that movie. All I had to buy was a white cape, a cheap wig, and blue makeup. I made the cape look like a wedding dress with some lace, made a vail out of a plastic tiara and fabric my sister had, put on the wig, and painted my face blue with the makeup. All my boyfriend had to do was wear a suit and hairstyle that looked like his character's. Last year, we dressed up as Jed and Ellie May Clampett, embarrassingly enough with only clothes that we or our relatives already had and I attached little stuffed animals to my shoulders, since Ellie May had all kinds of pets. A friend of mine went last year as Cameron Diaz from, "Bad Teacher." All she had to buy was a dodgeball and a world's best teacher mug to carry around. Then, she just wore a black dress and acted like that character all night. It was really good. You don't necessarily have to buy an entire costume. Try to think of something clever you can be and see if you might can use things you already have for the costume.
Good luck and I hope I helped!
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Hello,
I wanna hv sex wit my virgin g/f how to i convince hr to hv sex with me, Coz i really want it. (link)
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If you care about her, let her make up her own mind. A lot of girls who want to remain virgins do so because they are religious and in religion, her virginity is meant ONLY for her future husband. Even if she doesn't believe in God, than her virginity is still something very special that is not meant to just throw away because of urges or pressure that is put on her. If you want to have sex with her this bad, than I can imagine that she is a very pretty girl. She could likely have any guy she wanted and most guys might try very hard, but so far, she has continued to save herself. Rejecting boys efforts to have sex is not easy, especially when you've been in a relationship for a while and he's putting pressure on you the way you're talking about doing to your girlfriend. I wouldn't judge her if she did have sex and once she did, she wouldn't be any different than most girls these days. But since she hasn't so far, she has a gift to give her future husband that most brides will not. She should be proud of herself for this and you shouldn't want to take it away from her all because of your urges and what you want. Also, how would you feel if you two did have sex and she got pregnant? I got pregnant with two of my children while on birth control, so don't assume that there is any guaranteed protection. This is a HUGE decision. It could affect the rest of your life, so don't be so quick to make it and pressure her to do it if she doesn't want to.
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I will be an incoming freshman to a city school with a large population of commuter students. My school treats it's commuters very nicely with a commuter center, an orientation specifically for commuter students, and various events for commuters. Despite this, I'm still nervous about commuting to school and not being able to make friends. Will joining clubs help me out? Also, what can I do to be a bit more outgoing when attending orientation. Thanks! (link)
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Definitely. When I started college, that totally helped me. When I first started, I wanted to go to a specific university in my town, but long story short, I spent the first semester at a junior college instead. It was actually a branch of a small school. When I got there, I was surprised how friendly the people there were. When I was in high school, no one would talk to you unless they knew you. At that junior college, complete strangers would say hello to you and ask you how you were. One class I was in just had like seven students and we would all greet each other and shoot the breeze a little now and then. Then, we all had to do an assignment together as a group. We had to meet on our own time and we laughed and had so much fun together that I met with a lot of to study at one time or another. Really think about stuff like that if you're ever in a situation were you and someone you know a little in one of your classes have the same assignment. As far as clubs go, that would be a great idea. Surely the best way to make friends in college. When I did get to go to the university, I wanted to join a sorority, but at first, I didn't know which one. It was a Christian university, and I did things like go to Bible study and went to chapel even though students who lived at home didn't have to. I met a lot of really great people there who were more than happy to talk and make friends with me. When I did join a sorority, since it wasn't just a giant school, the size of the sorority wasn't too big and even though it did take some time to get to know everyone, I did and I'm good friends with a lot of them. I started by making friends with the girls who sat close to me during our meetings. Pretty much all of my sister's close college friends were in her sorority or people she met through girls in her sorority. I would definitely advise joining clubs.
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Ok so I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 19 it's a two year difference! we always talk about everything togeather, but when we start to hang out more he told me he smokes! I didn't like that he wasn't going to tell me until I heard his mom over the phone one day telling him his room smelled really bad and then of Course he had to tell me. After that I guess I didn't care and still hang out with him, until he kept thinking of smoking and then told me it mad him feel calm cause well he's the type of guy that is shy and always worries to much. He told me his friend had told him to smoke to feel calm. He also went through a lot of depression and takes medisone for it. He also thinks in a negative way I try to help him I just worry about him! Sometimes its very akward because i used to get depressed too but i ways seemed to control it without medicne so everytime he gets negative i try to help! What should I do? (link)
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Well, I'm don't know the reason for his depression, but medicine may be necessary. If not, try to help him quit thinking in a negative way. Point out everything he has to be happy about. Everything he has to be grateful for, and trust me, there's probably a lot, as well as everything he could have to be happy about in the future.
As for the smoking, this is NEVER a good idea. There are other ways to calm yourself. Both of my granddads were big time smokers. My dad's dad smoked like the worst cigarettes there are called lucky strikes, and now he has ruined his lungs. He has to drag around an oxygen tank nearly everywhere he goes and he has a pacemaker. He's also had bad heart trouble and scares with cancer. My mom's dad has to go to frequent appointments with a cardiologist and lung doctor. A couple years ago, he had to have major heart surgery and afterwards, he was so pathetically hooked on smoking that he started again the day he got out of the hospital and, frighteningly, smoked around his oxygen tank, which can cause an explosion. He even had a heart attack when I was a little kid. You do not want your boyfriend to have these problems. I know he knows that smoking is bad for him, but let him know that these problems are not just possible, but likely if he's already smoking when he's this young. Tell him that if he was to have these problems, it wouldn't just affect him, but everyone who cares about him as well. Try to help him find a different way to deal with his depression and stress.
Hope I helped :)
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I need help because I've been seriously contemplating suicide. Nobody but my boyfriend knows this. Many people on this website and my boyfriend told me to talk to somebody about it. However, I'm unsure on how to do this. I don't want to mention it to my parents, because, well, they're youth pastors and I feel as if they haven't known my situation lately and I tell them it's been going on for awhile, they'll think badly of themselves. Or if I told somebody close to me, they'll think my parents shouldn't be in a position to help other teens like me. But, I don't think it's all there fault they don't know, I hide it well. I don't know how to talk to someone i know about my cutting or suicidal thoughts. Please somebody help me! I am embarrassed by my situation and I don't want somebody to think badly of my family or myself. (link)
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Hello honey
First of all, suicide is NEVER the answer. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. No matter what is going on in your life, you'll get through it one way or another. There was I time when I hypothetically thought about suicide. I didn't really want to do it, but I did what it would be like I did. I think that back then, the reason I wouldn't even consider it was because of my family and the dreams I had for my life. Those are two things you should think about as well. Not that your parents should be blamed by others or that they should feel embarrassed like you worry they will, but those feelings are absolutely nothing compared to the loss of a child, sister, grandchild, ect. They would much rather you tell them what's going on so they can help you and if you don't tell them, they'll be shocked by your death and can end up blaming themselves for the rest of their lives and wondering what they could have done differently to change things. Your family loves you unconditionally and wants to help with your problems, they wouldn't want things to be hidden from them to avoid embarrassment. They can get help. They can talk to you, get you a counselor, get you whatever else you need so that you can get through this while having someone to talk to about it. Also, think about the plans you've had for your life. If you don't have any, you will and you should start trying to think so you can have something to look forward to. The one thing that I've always wanted for my life more than I've ever wanted anything was a family of my own. I can't imagine having died (and especially committing suicide) before my precious family was born. You should really try to think of something to strive for and give yourself some motivation to get through whatever's going on right now. Hope I helped.
Good luck!
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I don't really know if this fits in this category, but I'm writing a story that I hope to turn into a movie fairly soon. I don't have a full story line for some of these yet, but tell me what you would be most interested in. Also, let me know if they're too sad. I'm really better at comedy, but I just thought I'd take a shot at drama for a change.
A. A story about a boy and a girl who fall in love after being introduced to each other by their fathers, who are old friends. Their relationship gets serious, even though the girl's father doesnt approve and feels akward about the situation. Then, the boy is involved in a car accident and taken to the hospital. The next day, the girl goes to visit him and sees that other than some cuts and bruises, he seems fine. Shortly after she gets home, her roommate tells her that she's just heard that the boy had just died from internal bleeding. I don't know the rest of the story, but it will involve the girl's family helping the boy's family deal with the agony of losing their son and it will have some kind of lesson about love and friendship.
B. A story about a man whose wife is murdered and his infant son is kidnapped from their house one night when he was gone for a very short amount of time. The man spends twelve years looking for his son and after he discovers that the man who stole his son passed him off as a child put up for adoption, he goes looking for the couple who adopted him. Then, he must choose between bringing his son home or allowing him to stay with the adopted parents who raised him.
C. A story about a man with a wife, a daughter, and a son who are involved in an accident together and taken to the emergency room. The daughter dies, the wife is declared brain dead, and the son is near death from damage done to his heart. The man gets to the hospital and the doctors tell him that they want to take his wife off of life support so they can give their son her heart. The man doesn't want to let her go, but if he doesn't, he will lose the only member of his family with a chance of survival and he has only minutes to make the decision. (link)
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What would be the characters' names? Can I make some suggestions?
Story A:
Boy- Tyler, Alex, Matthew, or Matt
Girl- Iris, Carrie, Amanda, Lexi
Boy's dad- Tom
Girl's dad- Doug
Boy's doctor- Dr. Stephen Turner
Story B:
Man- Tom, Jack
Wife- Barbara, Laura
Man's son- Adam
Son's adopted mom- Laura, Carmen
Son's adopted dad- Jim, David
Kidnapper- Nathan, Jonathan, Mikayla, Lucy
Story C:
Man- Carl, Jim
Wife- Tess, Janet
Man's daughter- Anna
Man's son- James, Alex, Ben, Matt
ER doctor- Dr. Ron Carlson
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I'm a 16 year old girl in New Jersey. I went to a private all-girls school for grade 9 and 10 , because I hate myself, my body, my lack of confidence and courage. My parents want to send me to public school next year for gr 11 for they can no longer afford private. I've been thinking about committing suicide and cry myself to sleep every night for about 2 years. I hate everything about me, but my skills and love in ICT. I lack confidence, courage, and am too scared to go out in public. I've kept a lot of secrets for friends and for myself from my family, and not helping out my parents in housework has made them weak. I have 3 younger sisters and a brother who's the youngest.
As much as I hate myself and intend to commit suicide for various reasons I cant explain, I want to watch my brother grow up too. I don't want that I commit suicide, and my mother gets ill from it, and the future of my siblings be shattered. I dont want my family to hold their heads in shame after my death. They've done nothing wrong raising me all this time- it's just that I'm a coward. I have migraines and other bodily problems, I dont want to have sex, I hate my body, I dont want to have children and get married, I dont want to step out in public, I dont want to go to college; I'm just too shy and nervous. The problem here is I cant visit or call any one without my family knowing, and I'm planning to get rid of myself before grade 11 starts. I want to die and rot in hell for the bastard and sins I am and have done, but I wanna see my family and sibligs and their future as well. I dont want my death to split the family apart; I'm a horrible rolemodel and my siblings arent that good as they should be either.
I honestly dont know what to do ; I'm too big of a coward for many reasons, but I'll miss living as well. Yeah, this is awkward, but I'm done with convincing myself I can do anything good. I'm lazy, emotional, and a little more than average in beauty. What should I do? (link)
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Don't do it. I know what it's like to feel average or below. I've had extremely low confidence and felt like the ONLY thing I was good at was screwing up. I've some tragedies in my life, I'm in bad health, and have felt extremely bored with my life, but there are two things that will always keep me from ever doing such a thing. 1. My family would be crushed and 2. suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Things might seem bad at one time, but trust me, you never know when they will get better. If you wait and work on improving your life, things will get better. If you commit suicide and you're not sure at that time whether or not you want to, you can't change your mind the next day. Once you're gone, you're gone and you can't take back that decision. There are specialists to help you with any problem. Please do not choose suicide and leave behind a family to grieve for you. You cannot imagine how bad it hurts to lose a child. You also don't know how great life can get if you hang in there. Good luck and God bless you, honey.
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