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Hi my name is Angel, that's my real name. I'm a young adult now, I've had this advice column for years, but I made another one under the name anq3l_xo when I thought I couldn't access this one. A little bit about myself. I am a student, both in college and high school. I work as a nanny part time. I want to be a lawyer when I "grow up." I believe I've done a lot of growing up in my short life. I have conquered an obsession over drugs and alcohol in the last year and a half. I'm sober now and I wouldn't trade that for the world. I'm happy now. I'm in an absolutely blessed relationship with someone that I truly care about and love with all of my heart. I have been through things that you kids have nightmares about. I have seen, heard, and witnessed a lot of things that would make full grown men cry. I believe that I am innocent now, because I don't live that old lifestyle anymore. I have a lot of experience in a lot of things, and I've always been good at shedding light on dark situations. I come from a broken family, so I have step, half whatever siblings, and I just recently reunited with my real mother after she abandoned me 10 years ago. I have amazing friends today, but it wasn't always like that. I have a wonderful boyfriend and a great relationship with him, but let me tell you, it wasn't always like that. My sister is a drug addict/ alcoholic of the worst type. She's my best friend in the entire world, and I hope this 14 year old girl doesn't have to go through what I went through. I've come to understand that I can't help her, but I can help others through advice and by being of service to people around me. I'm always here to help, leave one in my inbox on this column or my other one, or my email which is listed, and I WILL get back to you. I know what it's like to feel like nobody cares, well I care about everybody. God bless. ~Love Angeladvice
the problem is were both very busy these months (both graduating from different colleges) and I can't possibly demand anymore of his time for me. Also, i'm planning on pursuing med school so there's still a way too long wait ahead.
also, I like this guy too much to impose on him my confused feelings (actually, we are both leaned to nonserious matters so probably i'll freak him out If I'd start) of the present. I'm so paranoid of losing this guy for the future. My friend's advice is for me to continue the sacrifice, and its really taking toll on my psychological balance. And God seems too far to reach these days...
You can't continue this sacrifice if it's hurting you. You just need to do what you've got to do. You have to tell this guy how you're feeling, because the only way that he will be able to understand with you and be with you is if you tell him how you're feeling, he won't get freaked out. You guys just need to talk about it. If you guys really love each other like I'm sure you do, then you need to talk. You both deserve it. Depending on how the relationship is working out, then maybe the two of you should go on a break. This situation is hard, but things will work out. Good luck, hope I helped, and keep ya head up. -Angel
everything's a mess! nothing's going right..
my grades at school are low unlike other times when i always got all A's..and i am loosing my self-confidence..this friend of mine is so PECFECT at everything that i don't know what to do..even when i try my best, she does better than me! it's just frustrating and i start crying..she is my best friend but i can't help it..her grades are just wonderful, and her everything is so great! when i look at her and look at myself, i feel very stupid..can you please help me get back on track?
Don't obsess over your friend's success. Think about yourself and your successes. You don't need to live upto anyone's standards. I can't help you get back on track, that's something you gotta figure out. Talk to your friend about how you're feeling, don't say that you're jealous of her success, but ask her how you can get on track. Also realize that she's not perfect, everyone has their insecurities, she may have things that aren't so great in her life. Just like everyone, no one person is perfect. As long as you're doing your best, then you're perfect. Keep ya head up. Hope I helped. -Angel
What makes you happy?
A lot of things can make me happy. I really am a very sad person though. Clinically depressed I think is the term. Things that make me happy, my friends, they are the best thing in my life. They mean more to me then family, school, anything. My boyfriend makes me happy, in an emotional way, he's always there for me, just like any one of my friends, he is one of my best friends. Music makes me happy, it's soothing, and it makes me forget about the stress in my life. Not that forgetting about your problems are going to solve them, I just look for temporary relief until I can solve my problems on my own. There are also a lot of other things that make me happy. Just IM me if you really want details. Sillyangel869 or anq3l x3 babi. Hope I helped. -Angel
I like this guy who likes me too, but the thing is I'm so scared to fall in love because i dont wanna get hurt! My friend thinks i've already fallin for him but i'm hoping that It's not true! It's weird because when i'm not around him I feel so empty! But then when he's with me I fell like my feet won't ever touch the ground again. How can I not fall in Love?!
If you don't want to fall in love, then you have to break it off with him, fast. Don't be scared to get hurt, don't be like every other person in the world. You owe it to this guy to fall in love with him, if you do get hurt, then you just bounce back and you've learned a lesson. There is never a way not to fall in love, but you can fall out of attachment by getting over and rid of him. I really hope you don't do that. But good luck with whatever you do in life. -Angel
I hate school so much! Like its crazy how much i hate it. So does anybody have some advice on how i can enjoy it more? Or at least get some kind of motivation to do my work. Its not really school i hate, its just the work part of it. Please help, thanks.
Think of what you're gonna do when you finish the work, think about the benefits of doing your school work. Maybe work something out with you parents, some sort of reward system for good grades. Hope I helped. -Angel
About a couple of days ago I got an e-mail from my boyfriend's sister. She told me that he tryed killing himself and he's currently in the hospital for blood loss. I'm blaming myself for all this. He told me he loved me a week ago or and I rolled my eyes and blocked him. Because we've been fighting for awhile. One of my friends told him I didn't love him, but mixed up the converstation when he should have said I didn't know if I had the same feelings for him anymore. My boyfriend took it the wrong way because I do really love him. Problem is, his family doesn't know if hes going to make it. I have no way to get to see him, because he's on the other side of Canada. (He moved). We've been together for 3 years. I know this is all my fault and I think about it everyday and been crying all the time. I don't know what to do. ANY help would be GREAT!
This can't be all your fault. You just need to be strong, write him a letter or call him, as long as your words get to him, it may make him feel a little better. You need to tell him how much you love and care about him. If he doesn't make it, at least you will feel at peace about it. Chances are, he will make it, so you owe it to him to tell him how much you love and care about him. Just keep your head up, and be strong sweetie. Best of luck, keep me posted. -Angel
there was this girl that was pretty attractive sitting by me at the movies the other day and she goes to my school and i dont really know but ne way every time something scary popped up during she would grab my arm. So what do you think i should do. Do you think i should try to get to know her better or was it just nothing and i should forget about?
It wouldn't hurt to get to know her a little better. If she didn't like you then so what? It's not like you're in love with her. Just get to know her a little better, if she doesn't like you, then don't worry about it. But you'll never really know until you try. Good luck. Hope I helped. -Angel
I'm 20 (F) and the type of person that usually panics when somebody wants to know about by feelings. I'm not very much leaned into emotional blabberings.
I have been in a relationship where we don't see each other much but agreed to fix our lives (school, family etc) first before we go head-on a serious relationship.
My problem is - How, as girl can I control my feelings of longing to be with that person because I don't want destroy that future plan and disturb his pleasant present because of by my present needs (wherein in all the years of my life, its the first time I've felt this confusion)?
Since you have never really trusted someone enough to tell them about your emotions and feelings for them, and other feelings of yours, it's about time you give this guy a chance. Tell him about your present needs, try to work around it, learn to trust him, he deserves that much. It is an ultimate learning experience that you need, and he deserves for you to be able to control these feelings. You're feeling this confusion because you are really attached to this guy, so the best I can tell you, is to completely trust him, the worst thing that will happen is that you will learn from it and move on. It's really hard, and believe me I know, but you can't really take advice from a bunch of strangers, do what you really feel is right. I really hope I helped though. Good luck and keep me posted. -Angel
What do YOU do when your sad
I don't know if I can really answer that question. Not because I don't get sad, my whole life I have pretty much been sad. I just ignore it and try to move on. If you're asking me what I do because I seem happy and you'd like to be the same, don't take that as advice. I don't meet up to the standards of happiness. In order for you to be happy, you need to find out why you're sad and try to fix it. Once you can get past that, you have overcome one of the biggest obstacles of life, and I applaud anyone who can do that. I'm still trying to DO something about being sad, but I hope that I answered your question. -Angel
I really need to know how to eat a girl out should i twirl my toung in her gina a lot or should i wait for her to moan and take a few seconds and when i have sex with a girl she usually bleeds so i need to know how not to do it soo f**king ruff if u can plz awnser this question quickly thanks bye
Well, let's just get one thing straight, I don't know much about this sort of thing. Eating a girl out, it's very complicating if you don't know how to please her. The faster the tongue, the better I would assume. As far as sex goes, just go in slowly, it's really hard to go slow, but just wait for her to get comfortable, and always be ready for her to tell you to get off, and don't get mad. Hope I helped bye.
o my freekin god wat the hell iz wrong wit me??? i mean im 14 n ive NEVER had a boyfriend. it seems like everytime ilike someone, they neva like me bak. all my friend either have a bf or did n i feel really bad bout myself, cuz i fel like theres sumthin wrong wit me wat shud i do????
~*thnx*~
There's nothing wrong with you, maybe guys just don't think of you as "girlfriend material." You just need to be more flirty with guys, be a little more aggressive perhaps? The guys will grow up, or you'll find a more grown up guy, and things will work out. Hope I helped. Good luck. -Angel
ok i met this guy off buddypic a while back and hes got a salute and a lot of pictures so i know its him for sure and we talk on the phone and stuff....well he wants to meet me next weekened and hes already talking about fucking me in the car next weekend....hes like oh well have SO much fun....i have a boyfriend though of 5 months...and we promised to NEVER cheat on eachother..and me and my boyfriend havent even fucked..should i do this??
think of the consequences, he could turn out to be something hes not, and your boyfriend will hate you, and who knows what else could happen. I'm not saying you shouldn't go, but you need to think about it, maybe bring a couple friends just in case. Good luck, be safe, don't have sex with that guy before your boyfriend. Hope I helped. -Angel
thanks, but there are a few things wrong with that suggestion, although it was good advice. first, my bf is really prideful and doesn't feel like he should have to prove himself to anyone, especially my mom. second, my dad doesn't live with me, he lives in WA while i live in CA. third: it's not that they don't trust me to make my own mistakes, but they've been through hard times and are trying to "save me" from the heartache they went through. i've asked them to let me make my own mistakes, but they just want me to break up with him. the people i'm warring with on this are my mom and my grandparents, who are all very reserved people and aren't used to dealing with people that have less-than-perfect upbringings. if you have any more advice, plz tell me, and if you want to email me, my addy is on my advice column. thanks,Metalkat86 A.K.A.
Kat
You know, it's hard, but it is just something that you will figure out if you really love this guy. In this situation, which I'm kinda in, I wouldn't pay any attention to my parents, because all that really matters to me is that I'm happy and if my parents and grandparents can't realize that that's the most important thing, then they're not really worth my time. That's just how I would go about it. I'm sure you will find your own way. Just keep your head up. Good luck en keep me posted. -Angel
ok, i have stretch marks on the the sides or my butt..is that normal n if so what can i do 2 fix it?
stretch marks go away, they fade away sooner or later, just put on lots of lotion and it is totally normal. You can't really fix it, you can just accept it, and put lotion on them and they will fade away sooner or later.
Hi, Like any other love related problem.. theres this boy. He's the picture perfect guy and the most goregous thing to ever walk this planet... he is a year older than me (17) and is a Varsity football player... I never thought I would ever have a chance with him but we hung out a couple of times and we've kissed... but the thing is at school he doesnt act any different... i tell myself i dont like him and it was just fun and games, but i like him and refuse to tell anyone.. lets just say, he thinks VERY highly of himself and knows he hott and knows he could get whatever he wants.. I wish i could explain this better but its really difficult.. one day hes the sweetest guy ever and the next day hes a completely different person! I dont know what to do... i dont want to tell him i like him because I'm not ready to.. but i want to say something along those lines without putting my heart on the line... suggestions?
Tell him little things that you like about him. Little hints, "you're soo sweet." stuff like that. He should get the memo. If not, then just wait until you're ready to tell him how you feel. Hope I helped. Im here if you need more advice. -Angel
i always seem to go for the wrong guys and get hurt in relationships. how can i stop that
Once you know what all the wrong guys are like, you will start looking for someone who doesn't fit the description of a wrong guy. This is something that your heart controls. The wrong guys you are finding are making you a stronger person, but once you find the right person, you will be able to love him and you won't get hurt so much. In the meantime, just have fun, and keep your head up. Hope I helped, good luck. -Angel
Me and my bofriend, Rob, have been going out about a month. We dated for about 2 months b4 I asked him out. It seems whenever we hang out its boring. He's already told me he loves me and wants to marry me. We're 16 and 17 btw. I recently met this guy named Ed. He seems cool and everything. Before Ed, everything with Rob was fine but since I met Ed the stuff between me and Rob seems boring and predictable. So my question is should I dump Rob and persue Ed or should I stay with Rob and see what happens?
Stay with Rob and see if things liven up. If after a while, you still have feelings for Ed, and Rob is still boring you, I would pursure Ed. Just remember, if Ed isn't Mr. Perfect, Rob probably won't take you back. Go for it, good luck and I hope I helped. Keep me posted -Angel
Alright..I've lost a good amount of weight...but I still have a huge butt and thighs...and I'm pretty freaking skinny everywhere else...how do I get them smaller...any good toning exercises anyone knows of?
just eat healthy low-carb foods, to focus on the buttock and thigh region, I would reccomend squats, legpress, or pilates. If you need more explanation or help or any more advice on fitness and health. IM me on sillyangel869. Hope I helped, -Angel
I seem to attract women who are not currently single.
This wouldn't be such a delima if I didn't fall for them when they seduce me, but I seem to do that too.
It's happening again now, for the 3rd time in my life! I know morally I should avoid the situation, but it's too late for that now, I'm in knee deep. What should I do?
age/gender, huh? I'm an adult Male.
If you can't avoid it, and it keeps happening, then pursue it. Talk to the woman that you've attracted, if she's married, well then I see your problem. But technically it wouldn't be fair for either of you if the subject was left unmentioned. If she likes you and you like her, then it's rather obvious. Maybe I'm just being young and naive, but I think you should just talk to her and get to know her too. Who knows? Maybe she will find that she likes you more than her boyfriend/spouse, and become involved with you. Hope I helped, good luck. -Angel
hi.... ok i think i like this guy randy and i know that he likes me.. or at least thats what he tells me. here's the catch he's a junior and im only in 8th grade. is that too werid? also everyone doesn't think the best of him.. people judge him before knowing him. and as ive got to know him ive found i think i like him. but im not sure if he just was to get with me and then hook up and then dump me afterwards. im so confused with this. what should i do? please please help me... i really need it! thanks for reading .
~shelly
Shelly-
Ok well if it helps, I'm in the same situation. I'm a freshman, and I'm going out with a senior. So it's not weird. As far as what everyone thinks about this guy, don't let it phase you. You can't judge someone based on what you hear, but I don't think you've done that. Talk to him, tell him how you feel, chances are, he's just a mature older guy, that is interested in you. If you talk to him, and it seems like he just wants to use you, then you can certainly find someone a lot better. If you guys do end up going out, don't do ANYTHING with him for a while, like, not even make out. If he just breaks up with you thinking that you're prude, at least you have nothing to regret but saying yes to going out with him. I hope this helps, and good luck Shelly. Keep me posted. -Angel