If you're not looking for a ton of support, then stick-on bra cups might be best for you.

http://www.nubra.net/shop/super_padded_featherlite-59-prd1.htm

They're backless, with only a tiny front closure and no straps. They're also reusable!

The big one is eHarmony, of course. I know several couples who have met through eHarmony, and they are still together 5+years later.

I haven't used it, but my one friend said that the big eHarmony negative is that they give you results from really far away sometimes, even if you request nearby people.

Another one, if you're looking for a low-risk one, is plentyoffish. I have several friends on there, and they're having a great time. It's free, so that's always a plus; no success, no loss.

It all depends on what you're going for.

I'm in engineering, and the environment is very anti-competitive. It's a very collaborative environment. Everyone helps each other out.

Something like pre-med or pre-law, however, may be extremely competitive. Limited med school spaces mean that a whole lot of applicants need to compete for the highest grades.

I looooove Burt's Bees. It's got a bit of a weird waxy texture, but that keeps you from licking it off by accident.

Stay away from really yummy chapstick. If you lick it off, you can actually end up drying your lips out more!

Try using a toothbrush to exfoliate your lips as well. Keeps them nice and soft.

What to wear: Jeans and a shirt that covers you. You don't want to be tugging at your clothes the whole time! If you have a shirt for that band, now is the time to wear it. Running shoes are a must, especially if you'll be moshing.

Hair: Something that won't require any thought or effort. Kind of a do-it-and-leave-it thing. I'd suggest leaving it down, personally.

Makeup: Minimal. It'll be pretty dark and hot. You'll end up sweating, so any foundation or blush will end up looking weird. Go for a little eyeliner and mascara with lip gloss. That way you're not worrying about your makeup smudging, and you can focus on having a good time!

Have fun!

I'm personally not a big fan of pigeonholing kids into gender roles.

As a little girl, I had no interest in dolls. I was scared of baby dolls, and I had much more interest in my chemistry set, Ninja Turtle action figures, and Matchbox cars.

Did I grow up strangely because of it? I'm a pretty normal girl. My sexuality wasn't affected by my choice in toys. I had friends, and was accepted by my peers (although I always got along better with boys than girls)

My opinion is that he can play with whatever he wants. Toys are about stimulating the imagination; if he likes to pretend with baby dolls, it won't do any real harm. He'll probably end up being really popular with the ladies, though!

I take it you mean one out in public?

At my fiance's request, I'm being Batgirl.

The sexiest costume is one that takes a guy's interests and puts a sexy spin on it!

Do you get kinda mucous-y? Because that's a fairly common thing.

Dairy products make your saliva thicker. That'll make you cough and clear your throat.

I'm not quite sure how to put this without offending you, but here goes.

You're being a little... forward? You're giving it up too easily. He's testing you by doing these little things, to gauge your response. You've been a little overeager to please.

If you're so willing to do sexual things for this guy at the drop of a hat (from his perspective, of course), you likely have done so for other guys. Guys don't mind fooling around with *cough* experienced girls, but they often don't want to have sex with them. The whole cleanliness issue.

To put it bluntly, he may think you're a bit loose. If you give him everything he asks for right away, he's going to think you're easy. In short, he doesn't respect you sexually.

Try withholding a little bit. Make him want you. Make him work a little. Don't give it up all at once, and he'll want it more.

If you guys are planning on a long engagement (and I'm talking like 5-6 years), you are definitely not too young!

What you want to be careful about is getting married before you guys have settled into your adult selves. You're both going to change an awful lot over the next few years, and you need to be sure that you can handle those changes in each other.

My fiance proposed to me when I was 19 and he was 20. He had bought the ring after 8 months of dating, and proposed to me after 11 months. People thought we were crazy, and that it wouldn't last. 3 years later, we've bought a house together, and we're still going strong! We're just waiting until we have the money to actually get married.

Some guys are just different from your usual horny teenager. My fiance, for instance, was actually looking for a committed relationship and had no interest in sowing his wild oats.

People are bullied because they allow themselves to be. I should know... I had a female bully for about 10 years. The problem with most schools is that they have a zero-tolerance policy... for violence. Emotional abuse is usually ignored.

What you need to do is stand up for yourself. Who is she to make you feel bad? Chances are, she's not all that bright. Bullies are insecure at heart, that's why they do what they do.

Ignoring doesn't work with this type. They do what they do for attention. If you ignore her, she'll escalate until she gets a reaction.

Next time she asks what you're looking at, say something like "not much" in a sarcastic voice. Get insulting back.

All it takes is to show her that you're not willing to be an easy victim. Stick up for yourself. Get your friends to help out.

Just remind yourself; you don't deserve to be treated like that.

You may have a urinary tract infection. If that's the case, it is really important to see a doctor, since they can spread into your kidneys and cause serious issues if left untreated.

Otherwise, you may just have an overactive bladder. Avoid caffeine and alcohol.

In the meantime, you can always try those Poise pad-things. They're not quite as bulky as diapers, so they'd stay hidden, but they'd also catch any spills.

I'm not American, so I couldn't vote, but if I had it would have been for Obama.

I'm a white female, so my demographic doesn't come into play.

Something I've never understood is the standard Republican. Lower-middle to upper-middle class, getting by okay but not filthy rich... yet they vote for people who give money to the rich. Tax breaks for the top 1% of society, raising taxes for the middle class. They aren't out for your best interests. They're out for the best interests of the rich (because that's generally where they lie on the scale).

Fiscally, what Obama stands for is helping the rest. Rather than pumping all your tax dollars into shiny new jets and tax breaks for big companies, he's trying to put a little into health care. And there's an uproar about this?

What you need to do is think of his proposed healthcare system as an insurance policy that nobody can turn you down from. You guys spend more per person per year on health care than we do, and we have fully covered health care! If you were to stop having this insurance BS, and start putting that money into public health care, everyone would benefit (except maybe for the very rich).

Instead of paying an insurance company, you pay the government. When you need to go to the hospital, it's paid for. Period. End of story. No fighting with the insurance company over whether it's a valid claim or not. Does living below the poverty line make you less deserving of the right to live? No! There are plenty of hard-working people who just can't afford health insurance, or who can't get it because of pre-existing conditions. They would be provided for, as would you in case of emergency.

No more families going bankrupt because dad gets cancer. Nobody dying from easily treated diseases because of inability to pay for health care. You guys are all about your fellow man... why not help him out?

As for his other policies... he's managed to pull you guys out of a war that was started for no reason other than pushiness and put you in where you belong... in Afghanistan. That war was dragging on and on and getting nowhere, and no other countries agreed with it. Meanwhile, everyone else has been stuck fighting the Taliban because of their attack on you. He's trying to end this thing so that your great-great-grandchildren aren't still paying for it.

He's also a social liberal. Isn't that one of your things... "with liberty and justice for all"? I don't see a whole lot of liberty. Two men or women who are deeply in love and want to make a lifetime commitment to one another can't do so. They can't adopt a child and give it a nurturing, loving home. You have politicians trying to take away womens' right to abortions. You have abstinence-only sex ed programs. A lot of people don't like these things.


He believes that your country needs change. And you know what? So do a lot of your fellow countrymen. Your country has been going consistently down the tubes for the last 8 years, and people have hope that with Obama, there will be change. Race isn't the issue here. Sure, it's exciting to have your first black president. It would be equally exciting (if not moreso) if you had your first female president!

Oh,and another point... that Sarah Palin was a doofus. She was an airhead. Even Republicans didn't like her. McCain is a pretty old guy with a bad health record. If he keeled over, guess who would have taken his place? *shudder* There would have been a mass exodus to Canada if that were the case.

Because the pill and the shot alter your body's chemistry, they could interact in a harmful way.

My suggestion would be to use the shot and condoms, based on personal experience.

The shot has a higher prevention rate(97-99.7% vs. 92-99.7%) , since it's much easier to use. Just once, and you forget about it for three months. The pill is kind of temperamental that way... if you forget to take it, or take it at the wrong time, or if you throw up, things are messed up. Also, the shot keeps you from having periods, which is pretty fantastic in my book!

Condoms on their own have an 85-98% success rate. This is because so much can go wrong with them on their own.

Thing is, when using both methods, there is a very, very slim chance of getting pregnant. Like, maybe ).01% chance. Both methods would have to fail at exactly the same time.

My basic rule; if you need to ask strangers online if you should have sex, you shouldn't.

The decision to have sex should be made based on being ready for it, and being in love with the person. If you're asking us, you're not sure, and so you're not ready.

Just keep in mind; the real expenses of car ownership are much worse than the cost of purchasing it.

My fiance and I just bought a car from my parents for $3000... it was a fantastic deal, in perfect condition.

Depending on what age you are and what your driving record is, your insurance will be a huge cost. My fiance is 23 with 6 years of driving experience and a clean record. His insurance costs him $2200 per year... and that's a steal. The average quote we got was $3400 per year.

Gas and maintenance will cost you, too. Factor in at least $100 per month in gas, which isn't too bad. If you get a really cheap car, it may have problems with it. In that case, it can cost you way more in maintenance than you will save by buying a cheap car.

My suggestion; get an extra part-time job to save up for a good car. You'll need the extra money, too, to deal with the costs of running and owning it.

I take it you mean sex ed sites to help her answer questions about sex, rather than instructions on how to do it? If she's old enough to be asking questions, she's old enough to learn the answers, for sure.

http://www.sexetc.org/ is a great website written by teens, for teens.

http://www.scarleteen.com/ is also a pretty good website.

These sites aren't too graphic, but not too clinical either. Sort of real-world advice.

I just watched this one a little while ago :)

She was eating his organs because she had porphyria. It's like a real life vampirism. It's a deficiency in the blood that (supposedly) makes one crave human blood. She took the organs that are the most rich in blood; liver, etc.

If you like science magazines, how about Scientific American? They usually have longer articles.

The problem isn't you... the problem is the guys.

You need to seek guys who have interests in common with you, and who respect women who have a minimum of half a brain.

Try joining an extra-curricular activity (like a Model UN, or something similar that interests you). You'll be able to meet guys who have an opportunity to see you as more than a pretty face and who like you for that side of you.

Take a look at the guys you've dated in the past. What they're like, how you met them, etc. Chances are you'll find some things in common. Avoid those things in the future! The only way to break a dating pattern is to change who you're dating.

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In my last 8 years with Advicenators, I've gone from honours student to failing out of university (and getting back on top again!), from single to married, from tenant to homeowner.

Until lately, I have been struggling with a diagnosis of bipolar disorder and OCD, which had basically ruined my life and taken just about everything from me. I'm thankful every day for every experience I've had because of this ordeal, because it's helped to make me who I am today. Things like that really make you appreciate what you do have. Now that I'm back in work and school and starting to become myself again, I couldn't be happier. I credit Advicenators with saving my life back when I was a teenager, which is a big part of why I'm still here.

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