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sexually frustrated:(
19, female. i'm not going to beat around the bush; i am sexually frustrated!! the ONLY guy i feel comfortable being sexual with, i dont know if he feels the same! he's always giving me mixed signals and i'm definately not the girl to be like... "do you want to have sex already?!" haha. here are some signs he wants to sexually be with me:
1. MULTIPLE times he's randomly texted me saying "wanna fuck" and i'm always like yahh! but NOTHING ever happens, i only saw him once after he texted me and said it and nothing happened. the last time he texted me saying this was probably a month ago, maybe a little longer:(
2. my friend bought these mints at the sex store thats suppose to basically numb your mouth so you can give a guy a bj without gagging. well he is always like come on linds, lets try it! and i'm not really into the whole bj thing, so i just laugh it off and am like naaah.
3. he's tried fingering me before; although the last time he tried that was basically over 6 months ago because i always turned him down because i just wasn't that into it at the time, and it didn't feel right.
4. we've gone streaking before, just me and him. it wasnt really even streaking haha we just both took our clothes off not knowing what to do next but he makes me feel so comfortable with my body. then one of my friends took my clothes and ran with them so i was stuck with only my bra and underwear, and i asked if i could wear his shirt and he was like no! and i was sad, but i didnt know if he just didnt want me to wear it or he wanted to see me with pratically no clothes on haha. then he like picked me up and threw me over his shoulders. and we were sitting in the yard, he was fully clothed at this point and i just had my bra and thong on and i sat in his lap and it was sooo cute.
everytime i see him, i just want to jump on him. he makes me feel like that. but we are also close friends, so i dont really want to be too aggressive if he doesnt feel the same way. how can i just start becoming affectionate towards him, i already kinda am but i want him to know i WANT him. he should already know by the way i act towards him and everytime he texted me asking if i wanted to have sex, i'd say yeah. its just so confusing! & i'm DEFF. not into the whole masturbation thing. i'd rather be pleasured by a guy ha.
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Girls usually develop their flirting skills before boys do since girls tend to be more social and empathetic than boys. They learn to read body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, etc. before the boys do. If he's the same age as you, he probably isn't as good as you at reading flirty signals.
You said he's sending mixed signals. You're sending mixed signals, too. Why do you think he hasn't tried to finger you for the past 6 months? It's because you've turned him down so many times. You've also turned him down for oral multiple times. So he may be unsure about where he stands with you. Your response to his texting "wanna fuck?" might be just playful banter for all he knows.
When a guy wants to finger you or have you go down on him, ultimately he wants sex. If you keep turning him down when he's just getting started on you, he's going to wonder what you want.
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I'm not quite sure how to put this without offending you, but here goes.
You're being a little... forward? You're giving it up too easily. He's testing you by doing these little things, to gauge your response. You've been a little overeager to please.
If you're so willing to do sexual things for this guy at the drop of a hat (from his perspective, of course), you likely have done so for other guys. Guys don't mind fooling around with *cough* experienced girls, but they often don't want to have sex with them. The whole cleanliness issue.
To put it bluntly, he may think you're a bit loose. If you give him everything he asks for right away, he's going to think you're easy. In short, he doesn't respect you sexually.
Try withholding a little bit. Make him want you. Make him work a little. Don't give it up all at once, and he'll want it more.
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If you're pretty much throwing yourself at this guy and he's not taking, he must be gay. I'm sorry. What kind of self respecting straight guy is going to turn down sex? EVER? Not that there is something wrong with gay guys, but guys think about fucking girls at least 37 hours a day. If he is 100% for sure straight, like bangs girls all the time and shit, then you're either: A. fat B. ugly C. both.
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