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i have a friend, let's call her her liz . liz is really good friends with my crush lets call him alex . alex acted like he didn't want to be around me after he found out i liked him. anyway today alex and liz seemed to get pretty chummy with one another. they were playing around with one another (not sexual) he would always go and sit by her. and he leaned on her arm while she was texting. he sat in her lap. and she gave him a back rub and kept her hand on his back when she was done. ( i wanted to tell her to take it off but that would be wrong). i think he layed on her too. it seems like they like each other. i couldnt stop looking. i didn't want to look but i couldnt help it. its like i feel really jealous but i really have no right to be i dont think liz knows i like alex though. i know this could be friends playing but i don't think it is. am i wrong to be jealous? what do i do to get over this jealousy? do i tell her how i feel even thought i don't see the point of it? (link)
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With that much physical contact, there's no doubt that Alex is into Liz.
Liz is probably into Alex. Physical contact is a pretty good indicator of sexual attraction between two people. More physical contact means more attraction. But women are more flexible about male-female relationships, so she may just be keeping him close because she likes the attention he gives her. Or to keep a "guy friend" (women like having guy friends). But whatever it is, Liz is getting something she wants from Alex. And she may be trying to develop that relationship.
I know it sucks, but if Alex is into Liz, you can't change that. He wants Liz more than he wants you.
The jealousy you feel is your competitiveness for Alex, which is perfectly natural. But Liz's jealousy and competitiveness will come out in response to yours if she senses you're threatening her relationship with Alex.
If she wants Alex as a real boyfriend, she's got the upper hand and won't be happy to give it up. You'll build some real resentment if you get in the way of that budding relationship that she's working to develop. And the best you can expect from Alex is that you become his second choice.
You have to accept that your feelings are your responsibility. Jealousy sucks, but don't make your feelings a problem for Liz or Alex.
Respect their choices. Just as you'd want if you and Liz switched places.
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alright so i have a boyfriend. and he lives in a differnt state at the moment for some reasons.
and its really hard. we havent going out for a long time but its been awhile.
everything was perfect up until this week.
he works allll the time and after he works he goes out with his friends till like 2 in the morning.
we always talk on the phone at night and i have school in the mornings so its annoying when he calls me when im sleeping.
we havent really talked this week and i told him the other day that we barely talk anymore and he like blew up on me and got all mad. and didnt talk to me the whole day
and then today he didnt even talk to me and i asked him why and he said hes tired and really busy. even though hes at home doing nothing.
he also has been working alot so he can come see me. and he was suppose to come next week and be here for my birthday and i just asked him if he still is and he said no but he will soon.
i just feel like hes drifting away from me and idk what to do.
he says nothings wrong but hes acting all differnt. and i told him that. and hes like im just tired. so im like alright then. ill just talk to you tomorrow. and he said ok.
that made me really mad.
i dont know waht to do. and im kinda scared to say anything to him cause he might blow up on me again. i want to be with him but he really doesnt act like it anymore. i havent gotten an i love you in two days.
i said it said and all he said back was ilytoo. and he never does that. and thats like my biggest pet peeve when people say it like that instead of like actually typing it,
can someone help me? (link)
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This probably isn't what you want to hear.
He's moving on, just as you suspect. He's got a life seperate from you, and you from him. I've been in long distance relationships before and I know how hard they can be.
You get tired of missing each other. You can even come to resent each other. Contacting each other becomes an unhappy chore that just reminds you of what you're missing. You've become a chain holding him back from being happy.
If it's going to work with you two, you have to have some concrete plans to get back together, not just phone calls and the occasional visit. You can't maintain a relationship when you're rarely around each other.
If you don't get back together, things will eventually come to a head and you two will break up. So start making some serious plans to get back together or be prepared for the inevitable breakup.
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Ok, so there is this girl at my school that I like, problem is, she absolutely hates me! In fact, since I sit next to her in Advisement, she makes a point of scooting her desk a foot away from mine the second I sit down! How can I change this and make her actually like me? Thanks, 8th grader male in the USA (link)
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If she's going through the childish trouble of moving her desk away from you, she's got you on her mind and is just pretending not to like you. She may have even convinced herself to dislike you for some obscure reason. But deep down, there's a reason she's paying any attention to you at all. As strange as this sounds, at your age, a girl that shows obvious dislike for you is better than a girl that's completely ignoring you.
What you do is let her know that her disliking you doesn't bother you at all, while showing her that you like her. This requires some self-confidence to pull off.
What you can do is the next time she scoots her desk away from you, give her a smile and scoot your desk away from her as if your teasing her. During class, you can strike up a conversation with her. Tell her a joke. Facetiously ask, "Are you sure your desk is far enough away from me?". Do these sorts of things with a smile on your face.
This will let her know two things. That you don't give a rip that she doesn't like you, while also letting her know that your not such a bad guy.
It will take some time, but eventually she'll come around. The most important thing is to let any negative reaction she has to your actions slide right off of you like it means nothing. Don't ever let her know that she's getting to you with her antics.
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im 16 and a chick, and have not had sex as far as i know. as of 2 or so days ago, i have been having brown spotting. its dark and there is usually a little left on the tissue after i wipe. im about 2 weeks out of my last period and am not due for my next one for another 2 weeks. Im just really scared as to what it could be. i want to aviod going to the doctor or talking to my parents about it for as long as i can. i dont think its pregnancy because i havnt had sex yet, although i have fooled around with stuff like getting fingered. oh also if it helps i have had my period for about 3-4 years. please if you know what this is please help! thank you in advance! (link)
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It's not uncommon for girls your age to spot between periods, especially around the time of ovulation, which is where you were at if you were 2 weeks away from your period.
If you still have spotting on your next cycle, or if the spotting continues for more than a few days, you should see a doctor. Continued spotting can be an early indicator of several medical conditions. If seeing a doctor is problematic for you, check with the school nurse or a female faculty member and they can help you.
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guys why do you like boobs so much? i don't get it, they're just like fat sacs. i asked my boyfriend and he said they were "beautiful" hah but i think they're ugly...idk can anyone answer my question? lol (link)
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It's pretty simple. Boys attraction to girls is an innate instinct. Your breasts are one of the things that make you uniquely female. Your boyfriend finds them attractive because you're breasts are a symbol of your femininity. The masculine is attracted to the feminin and vice-versa.
As girls grow into women and become comfortable with their sexuality, they generally take pride in their breasts and other features that men find attractive. Just as men take pride in their features that women find attractive.
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I've been with my bf for almost a year now, and he's incredible: kind, funny, sweet, smart, ect. We have a healthy sex life and it feels like I'm in love with my best friend. Our relationship isnt lacking in the least.
Recently, though, my ex asked me to be back on speaking terms with him. He's known as a man-whore, and the whole reason we broke up in the first place was because he's a known cheater. We've begun talking and I feel really weird about it.
I have no romantic attraction to my ex at all, but there's something that's compelling me to get physical with him (which he's trying to do). I've been able to deny him for a few weeks but I'm really afraid my resolve is getting thin.
I do NOT want to cheat on my bf, and I feel horrible for even thinking about it. I just need to convince myself that my ex is a scumbag, but for some reason I'm still drawn to him.. I don't know why.
Please don't attack me. I feel guilty enough and I haven't cheated on anyone ever. My bf is the LAST PERSON I would EVER want to hurt. So I need some assurance that I can get through this, and advice on how. Thank you.
-M (link)
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Have you ever heard of oxytocin? It's a hormone that's released in the brain when you have sex with someone. One of it's effects is to bond you to the person you're having sex with. It's also responsible for bonding women to their babies when nursing.
Women produce much more of this hormone than men. It's what gives you that warm, fuzzy feeling about your partner during and after sex. When oxytocin is released in your brain during sex. The look, sound, and smell of your partner is imprinted on your brain.
After that, whenever you see, hear, smell, or even think about that partner, a bit of oxytocin is released in your brain making you want him again.
If you remain in contact with your ex, you're going to keep getting releases of oxytocin. Cut contact and eventually the effects will go away. It can take months or even years for these effects to go away depending on how long you were with him, and how close you two were.
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19, female. i'm not going to beat around the bush; i am sexually frustrated!! the ONLY guy i feel comfortable being sexual with, i dont know if he feels the same! he's always giving me mixed signals and i'm definately not the girl to be like... "do you want to have sex already?!" haha. here are some signs he wants to sexually be with me:
1. MULTIPLE times he's randomly texted me saying "wanna fuck" and i'm always like yahh! but NOTHING ever happens, i only saw him once after he texted me and said it and nothing happened. the last time he texted me saying this was probably a month ago, maybe a little longer:(
2. my friend bought these mints at the sex store thats suppose to basically numb your mouth so you can give a guy a bj without gagging. well he is always like come on linds, lets try it! and i'm not really into the whole bj thing, so i just laugh it off and am like naaah.
3. he's tried fingering me before; although the last time he tried that was basically over 6 months ago because i always turned him down because i just wasn't that into it at the time, and it didn't feel right.
4. we've gone streaking before, just me and him. it wasnt really even streaking haha we just both took our clothes off not knowing what to do next but he makes me feel so comfortable with my body. then one of my friends took my clothes and ran with them so i was stuck with only my bra and underwear, and i asked if i could wear his shirt and he was like no! and i was sad, but i didnt know if he just didnt want me to wear it or he wanted to see me with pratically no clothes on haha. then he like picked me up and threw me over his shoulders. and we were sitting in the yard, he was fully clothed at this point and i just had my bra and thong on and i sat in his lap and it was sooo cute.
everytime i see him, i just want to jump on him. he makes me feel like that. but we are also close friends, so i dont really want to be too aggressive if he doesnt feel the same way. how can i just start becoming affectionate towards him, i already kinda am but i want him to know i WANT him. he should already know by the way i act towards him and everytime he texted me asking if i wanted to have sex, i'd say yeah. its just so confusing! & i'm DEFF. not into the whole masturbation thing. i'd rather be pleasured by a guy ha. (link)
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Girls usually develop their flirting skills before boys do since girls tend to be more social and empathetic than boys. They learn to read body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, etc. before the boys do. If he's the same age as you, he probably isn't as good as you at reading flirty signals.
You said he's sending mixed signals. You're sending mixed signals, too. Why do you think he hasn't tried to finger you for the past 6 months? It's because you've turned him down so many times. You've also turned him down for oral multiple times. So he may be unsure about where he stands with you. Your response to his texting "wanna fuck?" might be just playful banter for all he knows.
When a guy wants to finger you or have you go down on him, ultimately he wants sex. If you keep turning him down when he's just getting started on you, he's going to wonder what you want.
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I have sat and thought many a times about the point of life. When one comes to think about it, life is jsut about the most pointless and meaningless thing there is around. We are born, we are stupid and useless. We work for many many years with minimal enjoyment, then we are again stupid and useless. I really don't get the point of all this s**t and it really is getting to me. I have thought about how we all really jsut WANT to live, we don't really need to live. What does this universe or whatever need with humans? We are a pointless existence. In the end, everything will be gone. When the supernova of our sun happenes, everything will be gone. What really is the point? no matter the little joys you may get out of life, I don't see the point in going on through a long and pointless life, to get to nowhere. Death? that's all you get as a reward. its truly pathetic. Therefore, I don't want to live any longer, and I would like to commit suicide. But I am scared, and I do not want to make a scene. I want to just quickly, silently, and painlessly pass away, and be done with all this bulls**t. Please help me out. thank you (link)
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There doesn't have to be a point.
Deal with the facts at hand. You are here, you have a mind and body that's capable of doing some amazing things, there's a wonderous world out there to explore, and some cool people to hang with.
As the great philosopher Ted Nugent once put it - "You are born at point 'A', you will die at point 'B'. In between, kick maximum ass."
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today in math class i overheard two girls talking about this overweight girl who got pregnant and they were saying things like "who would have sex with a fat person" i felt offended because i am an overweight person myself. i am hoping to lose weight and when i do, i would never make fun of overweight people because i know it hurts. and i've been there but i was wondering. do the overweight people who become skinny tease other overweight people or not? or does it just depend on their personality (link)
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IME, people that have been through teasing or didn't grow up pretty and popular tend to be less superficial.
It also depends on age and maturity. If you're in high school, then everything is about social status. Some girls will start acting like their former antagonists trying to get acceptance from them. They may abandon their old friends so they can hang with the "cool" girls.
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