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alright so i have a boyfriend. and he lives in a differnt state at the moment for some reasons.
and its really hard. we havent going out for a long time but its been awhile.
everything was perfect up until this week.
he works allll the time and after he works he goes out with his friends till like 2 in the morning.
we always talk on the phone at night and i have school in the mornings so its annoying when he calls me when im sleeping.
we havent really talked this week and i told him the other day that we barely talk anymore and he like blew up on me and got all mad. and didnt talk to me the whole day
and then today he didnt even talk to me and i asked him why and he said hes tired and really busy. even though hes at home doing nothing.
he also has been working alot so he can come see me. and he was suppose to come next week and be here for my birthday and i just asked him if he still is and he said no but he will soon.
i just feel like hes drifting away from me and idk what to do.
he says nothings wrong but hes acting all differnt. and i told him that. and hes like im just tired. so im like alright then. ill just talk to you tomorrow. and he said ok.
that made me really mad.
i dont know waht to do. and im kinda scared to say anything to him cause he might blow up on me again. i want to be with him but he really doesnt act like it anymore. i havent gotten an i love you in two days.
i said it said and all he said back was ilytoo. and he never does that. and thats like my biggest pet peeve when people say it like that instead of like actually typing it,
can someone help me?
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well you just need to talk to him tell him that yall are fallin aoart and yo dont want that tohappen. ask him do he care and if he say yes then say well if you care then let you be free you deserve better go listen to this song calle dpretty wings by maxwell the song is about lettin you free.
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This almost sounds like what happened to me, but less violent. And I don't mean on your side. I mean his. I almost feel like this was written to me. Anyways, it's not 100% that he's not that into you. The only reason my thing didn't work out is because I wasn't going to be near the girl I was with for, well, I didn't even know. But seriously, why restrict him. If you keep getting mad, he's going to feel like you're restricting his fun 'til he eventually breaks up with you.
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This probably isn't what you want to hear.
He's moving on, just as you suspect. He's got a life seperate from you, and you from him. I've been in long distance relationships before and I know how hard they can be.
You get tired of missing each other. You can even come to resent each other. Contacting each other becomes an unhappy chore that just reminds you of what you're missing. You've become a chain holding him back from being happy.
If it's going to work with you two, you have to have some concrete plans to get back together, not just phone calls and the occasional visit. You can't maintain a relationship when you're rarely around each other.
If you don't get back together, things will eventually come to a head and you two will break up. So start making some serious plans to get back together or be prepared for the inevitable breakup.
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