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moving in and what to do? havent told parents????!?
So I am bi sexual and I am a girl and im in a relationship with another girl. Well we have decided to move in together and I am so ready but scared because one my mom dont know I am with a girl or moving out whats she gonna think when she finds out I am moving in with a girl im dating? what should I do?
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If your mother really loves you she won't care about your sexuality. How old are you? If your over 18 or not living with them anymore then they won't care and should be happy that you are living your life! If she was against the whole Bi thing she might say it's a bad idea but shes your mother! She'll love you and support you no matter what you do! If not then I wish you had a more caring mother <=[. Ask anymore questions you have! I have A LOT of advice to give!
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I'm assuming that you're not out to your parents yet? If so, that's the first thing you should've done. What makes you think you can just move out & not tell them? They're going to find out or they're going to get suspicious when you're not there anymore.
You need to sit your parents down & tell them. Tell them you're in a relationship with another woman, and that you and that woman have plans to move in together. If your parents are open-minded, chances are they won't really mind the relationship too much, but you can expect them to probably blow their top about you moving out. If they're not open-minded, they'll get pissed about both of those things.
In the end, the decision to move out is always going to be yours. If you're 18, your parents cannot stop you. I moved out of my house the day after my 18th birthday, and I moved 2000 miles away. Moving out of a parents house is a very hard thing to do. I really hope that you have a job and transportation of some sort because moving out without either of those things wouldn't really be a wise idea.
Also, not to totally wipe out your whole idea of moving in with your girlfriend, but I suggest you re-think it. People are very different once you live with them. They have bad habits, behavior, manners, etc that you don't see when you're not together all the time. While moving in with someone can be a good thing, there are negative aspects so you really need to make sure that you can handle the changes within the relationship because it's a very hard thing to adjust to and if you don't like the way that person is when you're around them 24/7 then that's a big thing. So really take the time to consider that before you make a final decision to move out.
I really wish you luck. I hope your parents take the news well, and I hope that you take the time to re-consider moving in with someone. It's a really big decision that sometimes does not work out as planned.
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is your mum open minded?usually parents are never ready to hear that their daughter is bisexual. it will come as a shock to them.im not sure if its a good idea to bombard her with all this at once. maybe you can just tell her your moving in with your friend and later on once youve moved in and settled down you and your girlfriend can both see her and tell her the great news.
when you tell her your moving out maybe you want to cook her dinner and make sure you talk to her at a time where she wont get interrupted, thats why i said over dinner might be good because thats a really good seen to socialise. just ask her not to get angry and before hand make sure youve planned out everything your going to say to her. tell her that you need your space and you think your ready to move out with your friend.
When your ready to tell her about your gf go to her place and have a cup of tea sit together have a chat with eachother so she gets to know your gf and after youve had time to get to know one another you can tell her about your knews.
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