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Am I too young?
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Am I too young to be giving my boyfriend a handjob or getting fingered? I mean we've been going out 2 months and we hooked up about a month before we went out...I feel almost scandalous when I do...I keep doubting my morals, there's a piece of me that wants to fight my hormones. Any personal experience or advice would help! Thank you!
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do what makes you happy and feels good to you. if you love being with your boyfriend in this way, and love having a deeper connection, then that should be all that matters. if you feel pressured or not happy while your doing it, then stop. its as simple as that. theres a reason your hormones want you to do this, becasue its natural. its natural to want to do this as a young person. so like i said, do what makes you happy.
and make sure to always be safe in whatever your doing, and that you trust your boyfriend enough to be doing this.
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Don't worry I felt exactly the same way and I was your age when I started doing stuff like that. My advice is, if you feel extremely comfortable with the guy then go ahead. but if you have any doubts about the guy then maybe lay off a bit. Also, if you still are confused then go ahead and fight your hormones every now and then.
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As one of the older Columnist here you will find my advice to be somewhat different from what you may receive from others.
What you and your boyfriend are doing is called mutual masturbations. There is nothing wrong with this as it is a good safe way to relieve you sexual tension. Mutual masturbation will most likely be part of your sex life for the rest of your life. Just remember if either of you get any of your boyfriends ejaculates (semen) on your hands do not put your hands near or in your vagina until you have washed your hands.
As to your question: Are you old enough to be giving or receiving of this kind of intimacy? This is the type of question only you can answer. As a parent my answer should be and probably would be that you should wait until you are older. My advice is: That from what I have read, that you yourself wrote, is that you are not quite ready for this type of intimacy. You wrote “I feel almost scandalous when I do...I keep doubting my morals.” It is this statement that I base my opinion on. Why you feel this way is something only you can answer.
Give yourself more time to get comfortable with sexual intimacy. There is no rush here. Each us reaches are comfort points at different times. You will know when that time is when the time comes. When it does you will find sexual intimacy to be a beautiful thing.
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If any piece of you wants to fight your hormones- then fight them. You can't regret not losing your virginity to someone who may or may not stick around. I speak from experience when I say that you should take your time. Figure out what you believe- think about your morals- and then go from there. You don't have to be just another teenage girl that's hooking up with whoever. You can be different and unique for having your own opinion and saving yourself for something amazing. If later down the road you think you're ready and you think it's time, then by all means, then you can go for it.
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