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Competition, Jealousy, Stress--> Ending?
I'm a senior in high school and over the years I've had to suffer, and still more than ever, really, really bad jealousy. And I don't mean I'm jealous over people in my grade being prettier than me or getting guys, but I mean being jealous of people being smarter and better at stuff than i am. I am pretty smart, i work really hard, and do well in school and everything else I do, but there are always handfuls of people who are way better than me. I mean, I know it's almost impossible to be the best at everything but I can't help but be really, really jealous. I'm really good at music but there are so many people who I'm jealous of because they're better than me. I'm also so jealous of the kids in my class who are smart enough to apply to mit, yale, cornell, harvard, upenn, etc. What kills me is when people are amazing at music AND really smart. But my question is, does this high school competitiveness tone down once college starts (i'm not going to an ivy league)? Is college less like high school, where everyone is interested in each others' grades and where everyone is always trying to surpass each other? I really want to be able to see a light at the end of the tunnel.
Thanks.
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It all depends on what you're going for.
I'm in engineering, and the environment is very anti-competitive. It's a very collaborative environment. Everyone helps each other out.
Something like pre-med or pre-law, however, may be extremely competitive. Limited med school spaces mean that a whole lot of applicants need to compete for the highest grades.
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i dont see why you should compare yourself to others when it comes to grades and that stuff. you should be doing the best you can do. you probably could have gotten into any of those schools but did you actually apply to them? if not then thats why you arent there. because you got to jealous of someone else that you really shouldnt have gotten jealous of anyways and you didnt think you could do it. jealousy is something everybody feels. but it seems like you dont have enough confidence in yourself to see how great you are. you just look at everyone else. i havent gone to college yet but my friends tell me that it is a new experience. it can be hard for you if you let it be. i never got jealous of people in high school because of their grades i just tried to do the best i could.
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i have the same problem with the jealousy and what i find helpful is that whenever there is someone who i dislike or am jelous of, just find one thing about your life that is better that theirs (i.e- you have more friends, better family, more money, your pretier, taller, smarter, more creative, whatever it is) there will probably always be something.
and yes, it will get better, in college people are not so involved in eachothers lives, and it is a lot less competitive.
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