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Hidden Inner Beauy
Okay well I dont want this to come off as conceited or stuck up in any way because I am not like that.
But I seem to have noticed something about all my relationships that really is bothering me.
I would really like to know how a girl can make her inner beauty shine more than her outer beauty to a guy. In every relationship I have been in, most of the guys seemed to care more about how I looked. And because they liked it, they would always comment on it, and be very focused on it. But I am also a very happy, loving, but nerdy girl. Nerdy as in I enjoy learning, I like debating over issues in the world, I am very culturally aware and I would love it if, for once, a guy would notice these things about me. Which they dont. Whenever I try to have a serious conversation about something in the world, and I am being very serious about it, guys just smile and say that I'm cute, and then they change the subject. It is really aggravating when I am not taken seriously i guess because I am considered attractive...And my question is how can I get guys to see that I am more than just a pretty face, that I have ideas and maybe that i wanna discuss them????
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Well, it seems to me that these guys you date are probably not as smart as you are and can't carry an intellectual conversation so they run from one when they smell one. Perhaps when "talking"(I mean before becoming boyfriend/girlfriend) to a guy, you should start the cultural conversations you like to have to see if he is interested in them too. If not, then you know that he probably won't want to have such conversations with you and should rethink dating him. An easy way to let a guy know who you are inside is by telling him. You have to put your ideas out there from the beginning so he knows what kind of girl you are and perhaps you are waiting until you become bf/gf to show off you inner beauty. Also, try meeting guys in school clubs that deal with current issues and maybe you'll have that in common. Bottom line is that you need to get to know a guy well and make sure he knows what kind of girl you are before accepting to be his girlfriend.
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you sound like my type of girl o.o
you are making you inner beauty shine. its just the guys your with dont seem to be on the same page as you, were you would rather have meaningfull discussions they are probably more interested in whats going on around them selves and current local affair's.
everything you asked us to help you with is allready answerd in your question, you just gotta look :P
"I would really like to know how a girl can make her inner beauty shine more than her outer beauty to a guy"
Your being yourself allready you just need to be patient untill the mr right comes along.
"guys seemed to care more about how I looked. And because they liked it, they would always comment on it, and be very focused on it"
other wise another way of expressing shallow, wanting your form over your mind.
its quite easy to do, change your guy's heh heh
firstly find a dude who will listen well, and will put in his input to a conversation.
hopefully i helped a little bit
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The problem isn't you... the problem is the guys.
You need to seek guys who have interests in common with you, and who respect women who have a minimum of half a brain.
Try joining an extra-curricular activity (like a Model UN, or something similar that interests you). You'll be able to meet guys who have an opportunity to see you as more than a pretty face and who like you for that side of you.
Take a look at the guys you've dated in the past. What they're like, how you met them, etc. Chances are you'll find some things in common. Avoid those things in the future! The only way to break a dating pattern is to change who you're dating.
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Just be who you are, Don't try and act like someone any different. If you dress in an revealing way you may want to try to dress more casual and covered up like the person below me said it is more easy to test a guy of whether he is into you or your body that way. Sometimes guys forget that there is much more to a girl than just the body (not all guys, but most guys) when they comment on your body you should say.."Thanks but I was just curious what do you think of me as a person?" Not are you putting it out there but you are also throwing hints on the fact you have a personality. Guys that are focused on the body and not who someone is as a person well personally I think those type of guys are just interested in sex to tell you the truth..either that or you are a trophy prize.
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how do you dress?? dont be reveling. maybe one day wear pjs hair in a messy bun around your boyfriend. get to know the guy before dating him you will be able to tell if he is into you or your looks.
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