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Losing my mind
It's been like this for quite some time now. I feel lost, like I'm slipping away. I've been stressed with relationships, friendships, and school.And.. I feel so different with my boyfriend then before, and I'm not too sure why. I mean, I still care for him, but something has changed. And we got into this fight today, and it hasnt helped whatsoever. I've been in this big hole of depression. I don't know what to do. On top of this, I've had a really bad urge to hurt myself. I've already cut myself open with my nails. Any advice would be appreciated.
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one thing that i always do when i'm depressed is go on a walk or jog. It gets you going, and you feel alot better. hurting yourself is not the answer. something i do to help me feel better is i get a sqishy ball and squeeze it whenever i feel bad or upset. Hope i helped. i'm always here if you need my help.
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You have to ask yourself before lifting your finger above your skin: What exactly do you get out of cutting yourself, other than scars and such? It's not going to relax your mind from whatever stress you're venturing through. You may think that the pain will help avert your mind from whatever that is bothering you, but it works the opposite way. Cutting yourself in the progress eventually gets worst as you are reminded of why you are hurting yourself in the first place.
You can take this irresistible urge of harming your body by doing something the YOU enjoy to do...like drawing, reading, or even a simple stroll around the streets,. If this urge is still too great to overcome, find someone you completely trust to talk about your situation. You're never alone in this world, hun and so don't try to deal this by yourself.
If you choose to, you can even try to talk to your boyfriend about what's bothering you. But that depends entirely on who you think is best to talk with.
I hope this advice was of some use to you and if you have any questions or want help, feel free to email me~ take care and hang in there. Depression comes and goes in our lives, but we can learn to deal with it as long as we have the help from others. =3
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I'm sure you're aware, cutting yourself in any way is really bad, but with your NAILS? Hello, infection! Please at least pick something you can sterilize...
I can give you a few tips and suggestions:
First thing you need to do as far as that's concerned is be aware of when you get these urges. When that happens, also be aware that you are not a slave to your urges. You can control them, that's part of what makes you human. I can understand the frustration and the desire to feel something solid, and the endorphins that cutting actually produces, but that is NOT the way to go.
Cutting is like a drug, and it's just as addictive. You need to stop while you still can, and channel your energy into something else. If you really want to do something physical, when you feel like hurting yourself, go for a run instead. That produces endorphins just like cutting, and if you run hard enough, it hurts. Or, if you need sharp pain, keep a rubber band around your wrist and snap it instead. That won't leave scars, and your brain will have a similar reaction to that as it does to the cutting.
But, that's just one temporary solution. If you feel like you're losing your mind with stress like this, and you're aware that you're in a hole, you MUST seek counseling. We on this site can give you little suggestions, but in the end, we can't even help facilitate change because we're so disconnected from you. You need someone you can talk to on a weekly basis - or even bi-weekly, who you can connect with, who can help you climb out of your hole.
You can IM me at SirenCytherea on AIM if you want someone to talk to a little more, but you HAVE to seek active therapy in some way. The human contact makes a huge difference. If you do decide to contact me, try to IM more than once so I know you're not spam. As far as seeking counseling, I suggest you call your insurance company and ask if they can recommend an outpatient mental health facility near you.
I know you know that this is no way to live. That's why you reached out to us. Help yourself by finding someone to actively help you.
If I don't hear from you, I wish you good luck and strength. You won't feel this way forever. You'll get through this. =)
Siren
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I am 18 now. but when i was in 8th grade i had this amazing friend amanda. she used to cut. i had a very long talk with her one night and convinced her to speak to her mother and work things out. seek some help. and she did her mom was so thank full. I graduated high school a year early but not the best grades i really regret that. its great to have a boyfriend there for you but not always helpful your not happy leave him tell him you would like to be friends if he is willing?? trust me you have plenty of time for a relationship. with the way the econmy is going you are better off focusing on school work.. as for friends dont let a little fight ruin your friendships work those out even if yo have a friend or two you are good off. you dont need a million friends. when you get sad or upset punch a pillow scream in a pillow.. get a note book and write everything down even if it doesnt make sense. good luck
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