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Hey Draak.
I am 14 (Turning 15 March 9) I am home schooled though my mom doesn't teach me. I have plenty of school books but I don't do them because half of them I don't understand. I want to learn, I love learning but I have no drive with my mother teaching me. I know thats the reason because if I had someone else teaching I know I would do it for them, but for my mother its really why? She leaves the learning up to me. Tells me to go to her if I really want to learn. I just can't get myself to do that. My mother hates the school system. She is a teacher though she hasn't taught in the schools since I was born. I am a avid reader and love books. I have self taught myself to play the piano though I am not the best. I also take guitar and tap lessons. My peers often say I am very organized, I am very good at planning activity's. I would like to go to the CIA (Culinary Institute of America) I would like to become a Pastry Chef and have my own sweet shop. Thats my dream of about 4 years.
My mother is always saying that I will get my GED when I turn 16 which isn't that far away. I just don't think she relizes that 16 isn't a magic number and I won't be able to get my GED if I have had no Schooling. My mother taught me up until division and then she just kinda quit. I said I would do and I didn't and she never metioned it. When my mother does give me homework its things I have done a million times. I tell her and she says just do it. I have expressed my feelings to her about wanting to learn and that 16 isn't a magic number and she says we will get to it. That what she always says. My mother detests the school system and there is no convincing her. Trust me. I have tryed and tryed. Its waste of breath.
So my question to you is how do I get myself more motivated and excited about learning at home. I just do nothing everyday except for the computer, and I only go to advicenators. litterly.
Please your advice would be totally welcomed. I decided to ask you because give some of the best answers in my opinion.
You know who I am if you check so thankyou.
Sincerely
AG (link)
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First let me say that I'm sorry it took me so long to get to this. Secondly, I've never, personally, been home schooled. But from what I do know about home schooling, it sounds like you're mom isn't doing her job. She should be the one motivating you, since it's her expectations that you are trying to meet and your future. It sounds like it's your mom that needs motivating.
But I digress, no, 16 isn't a magic number. You aren't instantly going to know everything. As far as motivating yourself, I'd start by using my computer and going out to some school sites and looking around at their curriculum and study guides. There's lots of stuff out there to learn that you need, like algebra. You said you like to read, start reading, anything. Start making reports of all the books you read.
I can tell you, it probably won't be exciting. Even when going to a school it gets boring. Talk to your mom again, sit her down and tell her how you feel. But make sure you do it in an adult manner, meaning try not to whine to your mom about it, but try reasoning with her again. Tell her that you need structure in order to learn, tha you need new things to learn. If she's that worried about your education she'll realize she isn't enough or get motivated to help you achieve your dreams.
And that's what it's all about... your future. Is it important enough to fight for? I'm sure the answer is yes. So, you keep fighting. Keep fighting to learn.
I'm sorry I'm not much help. I just can't wrap my mind around why your mom, who detests the school system, but wants you to succeed so badly, won't assign you work to do. or find you the help that you need. But I hope the suggestions work and that you find the motivation that you need to succeed.
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I'm contemplating having the bariatric surgery done. I'm 140lbs over my "ideal" weight... and the diabetes and other probs are too much to deal with for the next 10 years. I've been this same size plus or minus 20 lbs for longer than that...and I have hated being heavy... now we have insurance that will cover it!! I think I need to do it... Just wanted to see where you stand on the issue... and see if you're supportive of the idea.
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I see nothing wrong with getting surgery done for health reasons. But, just to ask because you didn't mention it, have you first tried other ways to lose weight? Like exercise and diet? If you have and nothing's worked, then yes, I'd say go for it.
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Okay, i've been using photobucket for a while and just recently my pictures stoped working. I'm pretty sure it's because too many people direct linked to me. Does anyone know how I can know whos using my stuff, and also when my graphics will start working again? Also are there any better sites you know of to use? Thanks if anyone can awnser this. (link)
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http://www.deviantart.com
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what is a birthday suit? (link)
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LoL! Okay, well your birthday suit is when you don't have any clothes on. No this doesn't mean you run around butt naked on your birthday, it just means that when you were born os now they call it your birthday suit. lol. ~Brit
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i have been dating this guy for 5 months. when he's not around, i miss him to death.. but when he's around, he drives me nuts. it seems like he wants me to do stuff with him .. and i do. when we're done doing whatever, he just leaves! i don't know what to say to him! will someone please help me. (link)
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I would get rid of that guy ASAP! You will miss him at first but in the end I think you'll be glad he's gone. He's jsut using you and if you don't get rid of him now, you'll be the one hurt in the end. I don't know you at all, but I know any girl deserves better than him. Good Luck and keep me updated! ~Brit
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When do your breasts stop growing because I'm 14 and I wear a size B bra and how much will I be when I stop growing? Thanks! Please try to give me a range of my bra size for me! (link)
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All girls are different but usually your breasts stop growing aorund the age of 18. That's about when your entire body stops growing, but then again it's different for everyone. Hope I helped! ~Brit
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ok-----I have a stepsister named Danielle. She's 16. She has a boyfriend named DeShaun.---He's 14. (I'm 13.)I don't think they deserve each other because they are always on the phone fighting about something. Secretly, Danielle sucked her ex-boyfriend's dick behind DeShaun's back. He dosn't know. No one knows----but me. They are so dysfunctional and they distrust each other so much. To the point that it irratates anyone around them. It's confusing----some nights they could be on the phone making nasty sounds and the next they are screaming at each other. Danielle has had soooooooooo many boyfriends since she was like 11-----but shes had DeShaun for one and a half years. Now..... Danielle is sort of a slutty gold digger, (if you ask me), and DeShaun just happens to be rich. Well, alot richer than me and Danielle (i dont know your perspective of "rich")Even though I think Danielle is a slutty hoe-bag, (she took my 15 year old summer "boyfriend" Laron(i hung out with him every day in the summer----and she knew we liked each other!!!!) away from me for like a week and got his phone number, (that bitch!!!!)but i feel bad for DeShaun because Danielle constantly cheats on him------and DeShaun's not very smart so he has no idea. What should I do??? (link)
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You should tell DeShaun that she's cheating on him. Tell him the truth and be sure to include EVERYTHING you just told us. Nobody deserves to be strung along in a relationship that isn't going anywhere. If he doesn't listen to you, you can always say 'I told you so' later. Anyways, Good Luck! ~Brit
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Okay so I am the same person that asked about calling one of my old staff members from a mental institution at home. I decided to send her a christmas card and i called her at work tonight to find out if she got it and she said yes. I asked her if she minded me mailing it to her house and she said no. So i was wondering if i shouldnt call her at home tomorrow and find out if there is some way i can see her because she only lives like a mile away. I have walked past her house several times and i know that she took an oath that stated that if she saw a patient outside of the hospital the only way she could talk to them would be if they approached her. so if i was thinking that maybe i should have her go outside and maybe "bump into her". Do you think I should do this, I mean I really really really miss her and she is such a big influence in my life right now and she is the only reason that I have not killed myself! She has made me realize that I can be a great person if I try and work hard at it? What should I do?
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Yes you should call her! Tell her how much you appreciated her help. Maybe ya'll could go out to lunch and catch up on what's been going on since you left the institution. Just be careful not to bug her. It's easy to anoy someone when you're just trying to say thank-you. Hope I helped! ~Brit
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Ok, I miss this guy that I like, really badly. I haven't seen him in like almost three weeks because he hasn't been at church or anything. I don't have his phone number, AIM, or anything like that. What should I do? It's not like I can just go over to his house or anything like that. I could see him in a few days if he goes to the church stuff, but what if he's not there? What I am I supposed to do? (link)
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Ask around! There has to be someone that you know that has his number or AIM or something. If not, the next tiem you see him, you should ask him for that kind of stuff that way you don't have these 'dry spells' where you don't see each other or whatever. Anyways, Good Luck! ~Brit
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i have been best friends with Alex for 4 years. This year, i found out that he likes me. And i like him. He has attempted to ask me out but i am always busy with something else. I feel very bad because he doesnt understand how much i really care about him. He is also known as the school hottie and he flirts with all the girls at out school. I dont want to go out with someone who flirts with everyone right in front of me; what do i do?? (link)
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You should really just be honest with him. Tell him that you like him and care for him a lot but you don't want to go out with him and make him feel left out because you're always busy. You should also tell him that it bothers you that he flirts with all of the girls at your school. Hope I could help! ~Brit
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Hey, I'm 13, and my bf wants to take it to the next level. I'm not sure what to say, I want to, but my parents would kill me. Pleaz help.... (link)
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I would do whatever feels right in your heart. I base my decisions off of that and what I think God will think of me because I know that is all that truly matters. Good Luck! ~Brit
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ok, i like this guy. lets call him joe. i've liked joe for a few months. and we've become really good friends. and, my friend...lets call her betty...betty and i love to do 3 way calling. so we usually call joe and other people when we do that. but lately, like last night, he just seemed really annoyed or moody or somethin'. but i don't know if it was cuz of me and betty or not. and, lately, joe's been kinda...bleh. and when i was online one night i said hi and he never said anything. i don't know. i'm not sure if its me or not. i mean, is it just a guy thing? or is it me?
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Maybe you and 'Betty' are calling 'Joe' too much. There is also the possibility that Joe may like either you or betty and wants the other girl to butt out so he can have some one on one time with the girl he likes. It could also just be a guy thing. I hate to say this guys cause I love you to death but you do get pretty moody sometimes. Anyways, I hope I could be of some assisstance. ~Brit
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gosh i really hate reading and i have to take these tests and read books before the end of the quarter at skool and i have none!!! is there a way i can be encouraged to read!!!
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Just try to find a book you're interested in. That's the only way to get around it. Or you could be a bad girl like me and read the online summaries, talk 2 someone online who has read the book, or watch the movie. Hope I helped a little! ~Brit
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Ok, well, right now, i'm in 7th grade. Well, a couple of weeks ago, i got bored and well, i fingered myself...i kno pretty desprit, eh? Well, anyway, me and my boyfriend r ready to go to the next step, and he wants to finger me. Well, see the only thing that's stopping me is that I don't know if there is any transmitted disease i can get. Id there any transmitted disease i can get or can i get hurt in any kind of way?
thnx for the help>> roxy (link)
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You're in 7th grade and you're gonna let a guy finger you? Do we need to check you into the psyche ward?! If you don't understand the complications or implications that go along with fingering then you probably shouldn't be doing it, but that's just my opinion. One more thing.. If your mom found out, would you still be able to look her in the face? and sometimes things like this can lead to sex but hey, it's up to you. Just to let you know, if you do this now, you'll probably regret it later. ~Brit
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I babysit my 3 year old niece and she gets on my nerves and i don't get paid for it and my sister makes me babysit .
What should i do? (link)
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You should try to make the best of it. Try to do things with your niece like art projects and things like that. I know exactly how you feel since I have a 3 year old niece myself. I just try to keep my cool around her and stuff. Afterall, once she starts growing up, you're going to wish you had those old days back. All of those memories you'll have made while you were babysitting will pay off. Stick in there and Good Luck! ~Brit
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has anyone tried those crest whitestrips? i was wondering when you put the whitestrip on top of your teeth, how does the bleach stay on w/o your tongue getting it off? and PLEASE tell me the truth: are they really effective? how much do they whiten? (link)
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My advice is don't even bother trying them. They don't work and they make your teeth sensitive. I ahve never met a person that has actually used them and liked them. ~Brit
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I have been best friends with kara for almost a year. Just the other day, she broke up with her boyfriend. And that same day, someone new asked her out. She said yes, and has been ditching me ever since. Because we go to different schools, we talk on the phone every night. Now, when i call her house she always says got to go, i will call you back in 5, and never does. I really am upset because i did nothing wrong and we were best friends and she is avoiding me for reasons that i dont know, and i cant get ahold of her to talk about it. Also, before she dumped her first boy friend, i kept talking about his boy that i like a lot! And she was kinda annoyed about it because she came to my school one day. I think that she likes him, she told me she did. Then, I have been doing stuff with him and my other friends a lot lately, could she be jealous of that?
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Okay, first of all, if she was your best friend she wouldnt be ditching you unless shes trying totellyou something thatshe's too nervous or embarrassed to say. I would stop calling her and try to meet her at her house after school or just try to meet up with her in person so you can get this problem solved. Apologize and tell her that you're sorry that you're having problems and that you'd like to do whatever is necessary to solve them so you can be friends again. As for the whole thing with the guy you both like, she shouyld back off. If you've already told her that you like him and then she goes out and goes after him, I would be pissed. Maybe you should bring this up to her when you have your nice little chat. Anyways, I think it is a good possibility that she might be jealous of you and your new friends. Maybe she's having a hard time adjusting at her school and she's not as popular as she once was. She could also just be missing you and her old friends and this is her way of putting it in the past. I hope I could be of soem help to you. Good Luck! ~Brit
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I was in a mental institution and I got really close to one of the staff members that worked there, she helped me in every way possible and I thought of her as my mom. Since I have been out it seems like everytime I call the hospital to talk to her, they make an excuse for me to NOT talk to her. Last night my sister looked her up on the internet and come to find out, she lives a mile away from me, and I have her home phone number, I mailed her a christmas card this morning to her home, but I dont know if I should actually call her at home. I miss her so much and she made such a big impact in my life, what do I do? I don't want her to think that I am like stalking her or anything! ??????? (link)
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I would definently call her. If someone has made such a major impact in your life, the least you can do is thank them. Just call her and tell her that you miss her and tell her how she changed your life. You should also mention that you aren't trying to stalk her but you felt the need to say thanks. Then be sure to wish her a safe a wonderful holiday season. If I was her and I got a phonecall like that, I wouldbe flattered. I think it's very sweet of you to reach back out and thank those that helped you through your troublesome times. There aren't many people out there like you so keep up the good work! I hope I helped.. ~Brit
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Have any of you guys tryed to spray on tan where you stand in the thing and it gives you a tan? If so does it work good and better then a tanning bed? (link)
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Spray on tan works pretty good but I still prefer the tanning bed because it lasts longer. Depending on what kind of spray on tan you get, it's usually pretty good too. The only kind I wouldnt get is the kind where you have to rub it in after it's sprayed on. That leaves streaks and spots everywhere andis just not a pleasant experience. But that's just my opinion. Hopefully I can be of some assisstance to you. ~brit
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Ok i only want answers from someone who cuts/ used to cut. Why do you do it? I cut so often and I'm really depressed and it just makes me feel so good. But what specifically for you was it that made you want to cut? I think getting ideas from others would help me. Thank you. (link)
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Hey fellow cutter! I've not been a cutter for years and years or anything but I still do it. There are many reasons I do it too. Sometimes I just feel so alone. Hell, even the smallest things make me want to cry. It's so ridiculous sometimes but I really enjoy the rush it gives you. At first, I began cutting because my brother had a baby and it seemed like nothing I could ever do was right but now I do it because 1)im addicted, 2)it feels so right, and 3)it feels like my only release. I honestly dont know what else to do besides cut. It's jsut how I vent and stuff. Or sometimes I feel so worthless I sit in my room and cry and bleed and just hate myself so much. One of my friends suggested praying but it hasn't really helped me. Maybe I just need to try harder or something but yeah.. it's pretty much the only way I know to use to solve my problems. I hope this is what you were looking for or something. Anyways, good luck getting responses! ~Brit
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