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Q: i like this guy so i asked my friend to see what he thinks of me and he said im a whore! what the freak do i do now? drop it? dress more modest? i dont know! he always stares at my body so i dont get y hes complainging, im sure it was just locker room babble but still. sometimes guys liek whores.. (not that i am one!)

There's good attention and there's bad attention. Unfortunately, some of us don't learn till too late the difference between the two.

When I was a teenager, I showed a lot of cleavage, wore a lot of tight clothes that weren't necessarily flattering. I got some attention, but it was the wrong type.

What you're getting is apparently the wrong type, if this guy is labeling you as a whore! He may find you attractive... heck, most guys can't control their eyeballs when someone's showing too much. However, guys like a girl who they can be proud to have standing next to them; a girl they can (pardon the cliche) take home to meet mom.

Or it may be your manner of speaking, or the content of your speech, or your behaviours. Do you talk about sex a lot (or curse)? Are you at all, even the slightest bit, promiscuous? These things can put a guy off. They tend to like a more ladylike type of girl.

Try covering a bit more, wearing clothes that give a hint of what you've got as opposed to showing it all. Be a little more coy, as opposed to brazen.

Q: 17/f

ugh parents... i know they aren't bad and that i should be thankful to have them. but sometimes they are soooo annoying!!!!!

my parents are difficult and stubborn. if i tell them something, they'll just say their opinion

example- i tell my mom i'm having boy issues. i have a boyfriend but like another guy at the same time. she will just tell me her opinion. she'll say "what?? oh no dont be like those girls. dont be a boy hopper who goes from guy to guy. you need to focus on school" gahhhh and all i was asking for is for her to make me feel better and figure out what to do. but instead, she just made me feel bad about myself and made everything worse and mad at her.

another example- I got a B in my math class (trigonometry) and i know i could have done better.. but when i told my parents they immediately freaked and was like- "ohh thats not good.. you need to maintain your good GPA so you can get into college.. i think you may have dropped to the B honor roll.. you need to stay on the A honor roll.." gahhh and its like- i studied for this math final for like 7 hours and i tried soo hard to get a good grade in this, and they dont appreciate how hard i'm trying..

another example- my dad is a volleyball coach at the same club that i play at (he coaches a different team, thank the lord. id go nuts if he coached my team) and so i will skip a setters practice because i have to study for school because i'll have finals.. and he'll get mad and tell me to go to the practice for a little while.. but he doesnt understand that i'm 17, he cant really control me anymore. i have a mind of my own... ugh its so frustrating..

i think this is my main problem with my parents- i feel like i can't tell them anything because I know that if i do tell them something, they'll make me feel bad about it. how do i fix this?? i cant just talk to them about it because if i do.. again... they'll make me feel bad about it and they're very stubborn and just give me their opinion... in this case their opinion would be- "what?! what do you mean you cant tell us anything?? you should be able to tell us anything!! how can you not trust your own parents.." blah blah blah..

so how can i fix this dilemma??

To me, it sounds like you resent your parents for being parents?

Talking to your parents is just like coming on here to ask for advice. You're asking for their opinion. If you just wanted to hear certain words, you could record yourself saying them and play it all you want. You going to your parents is you asking them what they think.

I'm just going to go scenario by scenario here, and give you my take on them.

1) Boy Hopping

You have a boyfriend but are considering another guy. I've seen some of your other questions on here, and it sounds like you've been a little pre-occupied with boys... maybe your mother has something there. She's been there, done that. Remember, she was 17 at one point. She's just trying to save you heartache by trying to keep you from making mistakes that she or her friends might have made already. A big part of being a mom is wanting to protect your kids. You wanted her to make you feel better. Well, if you follow her advice, you will feel better. Focusing less on guys would be a great idea, based on some of your other questions! You're going through a lot of headaches and heartaches, and a break from dating wouldn't hurt. You also wanted her to figure out what you should do... she gave you her input. I see no issues there. What I think is that she didn't give you the answer you wanted to hear.

2) School

You got a B, but know you could have done better. That to me says that you feel like you didn't live up to your full potential. Maybe instead of studying 7 hours, you needed to study 14. You're putting in effort, but your wording tells us that you're not happy with the results you got. And you want your parents to pat you on the head and tell you you did well? Good parents will push you... I know I hated mine for doing the same thing, but I got into a good program at a good school because of it. They know you can do better, and that's why they're challenging you to do so. Take it as a sign that they think you're better than a B. They know you've got what it takes!

3) Volleyball Issues

Your dad's trying to get you to relax. Taking a break from studying and getting some exercise is really good for you. And one thing you need to know: you live under his roof, he can control you. You need to follow his rules, no matter what age you are. However, you can meet him halfway; maybe instead of going during your study session, promise to do an extra practice the next week.

I think your main problem with your parents is that you're 17. All teenagers (myself a few years ago included) are at least a tad self-entitled, and you are no exception. You feel like an adult, but you aren't one quite yet... not till you move out! Grin and bear it, and 5 years from now you'll be amazed at how much smarter they've become all of a sudden. I know I was. Don't expect them to just give you what you want. Them challenging you means that they care enough about you to face conflict and potentially hurting your feelings.

Q: 18/f

so my boyfriend and i are planning on having sex underwater for the first time. I was just wondering if condoms would work? Are they waterproof. I really dont want to end up pregnant. And, when we have sex underwater, will water go into my vagina? Is that bad if it does? Water with chlorine or something. Is it safe?

Thanks.

Sex underwater is never a good idea.

First problem: lubrication. You'd think that water would HELP lubricate, but it does the total opposite. You'll dry out like you wouldn't believe. That would make condoms more likely to break, as they're put under more stress due to friction.

Second problem: Water entering you. You can end up with serious irritation or infection when water ends up forced inside of you, ESPECIALLY chlorinated water.

A better idea: get frisky while in the water, then when things heat up too much go water-side instead.

Q: Are breasts sensitive? Recently, I've been pinching them in order to adjust them in my bra, like I'll pinch them then pull them upwards. That night, I realized there were a few small circular bruises on my breasts and I'm positive it's because of this. Are they just extra sensitive? Or could there be something wrong with me?

Thanks in advance.:)

It's pretty delicate skin, so it's more susceptible to bruising.

Instead of pinching them to move them in your bra, a more breast-friendly way is to bend over at the waist, pull the band of your bra out and kind of wiggle till they're where you want them to be.

Q: How do I get over a guy that I really really like? You see we went out for 7 months and then he broke up with me and went out with my 'friend', we've been distant although we're trying to be friends. Now he has a new girlfriend who he doesn't really care to go out with or not...Idk wut to do. It makes my heart hurt and I want it to stop.

Sorry for the delay in answering... I was off sick for a bit.

The trick to this is a complete switch in your thinking. When you see him with this new girl, you think, "Oh, I'd be so much happier if I was in her place!" Instead, you need to be thinking "Been there, done that."

This guy is just a guy, and not a very nice one at that, if he's going to dump you and start dating one of your friends. You're not missing out on anything by not being in a relationship with him, even if he was the one who did the breaking up. There are plenty more guys out there, and higher quality ones too!

Take a break from guys. Don't even think about dating for a few months. Enjoy the single life, hang out with your girls, and think about everything that you are glad you have now that he's out of the way.

It's all in how you spin the situation.

Q: ithinkihave depression. I've had it for abbout 3 years. it goes on and off.butnow i'm like. suicidal. is thurr anyy advice for me? =[

Sorry for taking a while to answer... I was off sick for a bit.

If you think you have depression, you need to go get help. A counsellor can help you to figure out if you do have depression, what type, and what sort of treatment you're going to require. It may be as simple as going in once a week or every other week to discuss how to handle things, or you may need to step up to a psychiatrist in order to get medication.

If you are currently suicidal, you should avoid being alone. Stay somewhere near friends or family until you're out of this. If you don't have any nearby, if things get really bad, try calling a mental health hotline for your area. They are a great tool for when you're feeling really down.

As for what you can do for yourself, keep busy, even though you probably have no energy. Try to get a bit of exercise, because it makes you feel better. Avoid situations that will make you upset. Do things like making a list of everything you want to live for. Something I do when I'm depressed is browse this website:

http://1000awesomethings.com/

It helps you to remember the silly little things you may have left off your list!

The most important thing to recognize is that you don't need to do this on your own. There are professionals out there who are more than glad to help you, but you need to ask them.

Q: I am living where no one speaks english and I really need some help editing my essay:

On the evening of August 12, 2009 I stepped out of a taxi and into the one place I had been longing to go for the past twelve months. The high altitude made the air seem almost too thin to breath, and the huge volcano, Misty, that overlooks the city was disappearing into the twilight. Ignoring my dizziness, I ran up to the first girl I could see and knelt down. I am sure that the grin I had on my face was the largest and goofiest she had seen in her life. “¡Soy Katie!” I blurted, “¿Cómo te llamas?”
“A-Audrey,” she answered hesitantly, not quite sure what to make of this overjoyed stranger who acted like meeting her was the most exciting moment of her life. As a matter of fact, it was.
It had been my dream to volunteer at the Casa Hogar Torre Fuerte ever since I fist heard of the program a year before. Located in Arequipa, Peru, the Torre Fuerte is a home that takes in girls who can no longer stay with their families. The fifty-three girls who live here come from a variety of backgrounds: everything from poverty, to abuse, to the parents being in prison or no longer alive. Most of these kids have been treated like dirt and told that they are worthless. As a volunteer here, it is my job to act as a big sister. I live with fourteen girls, aged eight to thirteen, and I pretty much do everything an older sister does: help them get ready for school, clean up after them, help with homework, provide encouragement, referee squabbles, and, most importantly, love them unconditionally. Even though my daily life consists of simple, every-day tasks, I have gone though an incredible amount of growth during my past five months here.
During my first weeks at the Casa Hogar, I found my circumstances very different than what they had been in the United States. Instead of a student, I quickly became a teacher responsible for the education of my fourteen new little sisters. Encouraging and helping them to do their homework is a daily challenge. I soon found that getting an unwilling elementary school student to write five sentences can be harder than writing a five page paper on my own. My life changed in other ways as well. As an adult volunteer and staff member, I am now completely responsible for myself for the first time in my life. Getting things done such as my laundry and college applications without anyone reminding me took a little bit of getting used to, but suddenly being without parents was not nearly as great of a shock as becoming one myself. My volunteer position here had been described to me as that of a big sister; I cannot help but think, however, that “mom” would be a little more accurate. In my daily life I am responsible for the behavior and well-being of the girls that I live with. Making sure they do their chores, take a shower, and keep their beds organized are all a part of my job. After all of this, I am looking forward to getting back home and cheerfully obeying my parents. They will not have to wait until I have a family before I understand and appreciate what they put up from me for the past eighteen years.
The time that I have spent here at the girls home has also made me a much stronger and more independent person. Much of this has come from my new responsibilities, but there are other reasons as well. The past five months here have been my first time completely separated from all of my friends and family for an extensive length of time. This aspect of my journey has been even harder than I expected it to be. Living so far from everyone who I had once looked to for emotional support means that I must now rely more fully upon myself. It has also given me endurance. Working here at the Casa Hogar was, and is, a very big dream of mine, so when things get tough and I am tempted to pack up and go home I am faced with a choice that will probably be presented to me throughout my entire life: do I take the easy way out, or do I follow my dream even when it is hard? The longer I stay here, the more I learn that it is always worth the effort to fight for what you want.
The way that I view the world has been completely turned on its head since I left the United States. I could talk a lot about how the poverty in this country has struck me or about how I used to always take education and literacy for granted. I could even talk about how my idea of which foods are edible has been expended, but these things did not affect me nearly as much as what I have found inside the hearts of the girls themselves. I suppose the stealing was the first hint I had that the children here were not as innocent as I had always imagined. Little things, like chocolate, and eventually money began disappearing until I learned to keep everything locked up. As time went on, I found myself lied to, manipulated, and disrespected more than I had ever experienced in my life. Before the end of the first week I began to learn that almost all of the girls have lost their childhood. Their pasts have taught them dreadful things, and many were forced to give up their innocence just to survive. Their integrity has been torn to shreds, and when they finally come to the Torre Fuerte they are starved for love and have a hard time trusting anyone. This lesson was a difficult and painful one to learn, but it is also acting as the driving force as I set my goals for the future and move towards them.
It is my dream to become a doctor. Not only do I want to help others by finding cures to illnesses and healing the body, but I would like to focus on bringing health to the entire person: mind, body, and spirit. Many of my ideas I draw from Patch Adams, a doctor who travels around the world bringing joy, laughter, and healing to those who are suffering. His long-term goal is to create a free “fun hospital” where the patients and doctors are part of a community that incorporates friendship, trust, and fine arts into the healing process. When this hospital is built, I would like to work there. Until then, I would like to live and work as if I were already a part of that community.

The last paragraph is especialy challenging. I don't feel that I am getting my point across at all. Any help would be appreciated, thanks.

Beyond simple typos, here's what I noticed.

"Most of these kids have been treated like dirt and told that they are worthless"

- "Kids" is slang. Replace with "children"

" and I pretty much do everything an older sister does"

- "pretty much" is sort of insubstantial and slangy as well. You can just take it out of the sentence.

"I have gone though an incredible amount of growth"

- "I have experienced an incredible amount of growth" or "I have experienced incredible growth" would sound better here.

"I found my circumstances very different than what they had been"

- "I found my circumstances very different from what they had been" would be better.

"appreciate what they put up from me"

- "appreciate what they have put up with from me" or "appreciate what they tolerated from me"

"here at the girls home"

- Should be "at the girls' home"

As for the last paragraph... I agree that it doesn't get your point across. I would remove the Patch Adams reference, personally. It lessens the impact of your life goal statement. It's like your life goal is to do something that someone else has already set up. Maybe if you were to state that you want to join in the quest for the "fun" hospital, that would emphasize it better.

Q: i have blue eyes and lighter skin, but its not pale. right now its dark blonde but i want to go brown. like a medium/dark brown? i think dark brown hair with blue eyes is so pretty. so are their any good dyes anyone knows of? (box dyes i can't afford to get it professionally done :/)and a specific shade would be nice if you knew it too:) thanks

I like using Natural Instincts, which is a semi-permanent dye. This way, if you change your mind, you can let it wash out over a month. It also means no roots or redying when you decide to go back to your natural colour.

I've got blue eyes and pale skin too, and I went with Chestnut.

http://www.wwbeautystore.com/shopping/color-perm/clairol_natural_instincts_hair_color_Roasted_Chestnut_Dark_Warm_Brown_28B.jpg

Q: What are some good TV shows?>

Examples of stuff I like = South Park, The Simpsons, The Office (current favorite).

Some of my faves: Dexter, Dead Like Me, Bones, Weeds, American Dad, Mad Men, Firefly, Battlestar Galactica.

Q: he hasn't talked to me in three days becuase he wanted a break.
and today I texted him and I'm like tell me if were broken up and he said yes.
and I'm like why? and he's like because were too far away I can't do this
and I'm like well thanks for not telling me. and he's like I just decided. and I'm like can we still be friends and he's like I was hoping we could be.
and I'm like yeah so I'm guessing I don't get to see you in march or when I come down there ( I have family who lives by him )
and he's like maybe if you really want to.,
and I'm like of course I do. and he's like well I don't know maybe.
and I'm like ok well just text me when you want to talk to me I guess :/
and he's like ok bye.

im heartbroken. I don't know waht to do.
i feel like I should say something to him. but I don't know whaat
help meee :[

i also just asked him if we will ever be together again and he said idk maybe
and im like dont forget about me and hes like never
and im like ugh why did you do this. im miserable and he never said anything back :/
idk what to do. im miserable. reallly miserable.
what should i say to him. i want like closure or something.

It really sucks when someone else makes the decision to end a relationship without any input from you.

First off, it wasn't necessarily anything negative to do with you. From the sounds of it, it was more the distance thing that bothered him rather than anything you were doing wrong. So short of moving to be closer, there wasn't anything you could do to change his mind on this.

Just because you're no longer dating doesn't mean you still can't be great friends. My first boyfriend from when I was 17-18 and I are still really good friends 5 years later! If you can put the dating past behind you, you can still have an amazing friendship.

It's all about pulling up your socks and carrying on with life. Consider the relationship done and gone. Don't wait around for him to call and take you back. If it happens, great, but don't depend on that. Throw yourself into your friendships, your family, and yourself! Take up new hobbies (a great way to meet new people) that you've always wanted to try.

Keep yourself busy. Time heals all wounds, as they say. There will be plenty more men in your future... it's just a matter of getting there.

Q: My boyfriend hasn't been tested for STDs in a few years. I think he was tested when he was 16 because he found out his girlfriend at the time had herpes. He tested negative for herpes and everything else then, I guess, because he didn't say anything came up positive.

Well, he's had sex with maybe like 5 girls since then and so maybe 7 girls altogether. I've had sex with 2 guys and have never had a STD test because I'm only 17 and the guys I've been with before told me that they're clean.

I have a few bumps on the inner part of my vagina lips though. I don't remember having them a year ago though. My boyfriend said it looks like a couple of the other girls he's been with and it's probably nothing to worry about. The bumps don't hurt or anything but they're pretty noticable and they aren't going away. My boyfriend doesn't have these bumps though and the other guy I had sex with didn't have the bumps. I saw my best friend's vagina before though (don't ask!) and she didn't have bumps like this.

Is it normal to have bumps in the vagina?

I would recommend getting an STI test.

As the other posters have said, it can be any number of things. Thing is, if it is an STI, your chances of recovery without significant damage are much higher if you get in to a doctor right away.

You should never rely on word of mouth... In my dating days, I insisted upon a clean bill of health, in paper, from every boyfriend. You should also be tested before and after every partner yourself. Plenty of girls (and guys) under 17 end up with STIs.

Some STIs are forever; you don't want to let carelessness ruin your life!

That all aside, sometimes you can get pimples down there. If it looks like a whitehead sort of thing, that's probably what it is.

Q: we are in a long distance relationship by the way.

he won't talk to me.
he told me we need to take a little break because he's really stressed out.
and I don't understand why he is because everything between us has been fine.
he told me its not you at all, its me.
and I absolutely hate those words.

i understand if he needs a break or whatever but he just kinda left me hanging. he never told me why he stressed out or anything. he won't even talk stuff over with me and its been three days.
and its the longest three days of my life.
ive tried texting and calling him a bunch of times but i get nothing back and its frustrating me so much.
i wish i had the strength to move on and not bother him but i cant. i love him.
what should I do?

Unfortunately, what might be working for you may not be working for him.

He might need some time to decide whether it's worth staying in the long distance relationship. LDRs are really stressful, and even though you're willing and able, he just might not be ready for that. Hence the "It's not you, it's me" thing. He recognizes that you're happy with the way things are, and that he isn't.

Texting and calling him excessively is more likely to have a negative effect than a positive one. If he's really looking for a break, you need to wait at least a week before you contact him again. Give him breathing room so he can think about things.

In the meantime, pour yourself into your friends, your family and your hobbies. Find things to do that don't revolve around him... no one person should be your entire world!

Q: I've battled with severe and not so severe streaks of depression for what's going on to be 5 years. It started as small dips of sadness for no apparent reason, then when I found reasons- that's when the suicidal thoughts came. I haven't always been suicidal when I was depressed, it only appened about three times, and eventually I was able to stop thinking suicidal thoughts completely. Last year was my severest case of depression ever. I got addicted to pills, I was closed off, it basically was ruining my life and my relationships with family, friends, boyfriend. But I worked through it. It took a while, but I got alot better. I was truly happy for the first time in my life. But then I ended a serious relationship, I moved away from my closest friends, and basically the perfect catalysts needed to trip off my depression went into action. I need to know if what I have is deeper than just emotional, if the chemicals in my brain aren't normal. Should I seek medical attention?

I got to this question through your newest one, so I'll try my best to get both birds with one stone.

I'll let you know ahead of time that I have first-hand experience in this. I've just recently been diagnosed with Type 2 Bipolar Disorder after being misdiagnosed as having depression while in my teens.

First off, you do need to see a counselor at a minimum. A counselor can do many things for you:
- They can put you in contact with a psychiatrist if you do require medication.
- They can help you to deal with emergencies that may arise.
- They can help you recognize warning signs in yourself (things like alterations in sleeping patterns... stuff you wouldn't think of)
- They help you talk out your issues with a mature, unbiased perspective... not to mention that they are totally confidential. Nothing you say can get to your friends or family unless you want it to.
- They can help you to develop coping skills that prevent those dips from becoming too severe and unmanageable.
- They can help both you and your family learn to cope with your situation.

A stranger on the internet cannot diagnose you. A website cannot diagnose you. Only a mental health (or several!) can diagnose you. You most certainly should not self-medicate. Anti-depressants can cause nasty side effects (one big one is increased risk of suicide) and their use should be carefully monitored.

If you do go to a psychiatrist, they will work closely with you to find a medication regimen that works for you. Things like dosage increases, combining medications, dealing with side effects. You most certainly can get prescriptions underage without parental permission. That's only one part of the battle, though, as I can tell you first-hand.

It's all about tackling the issue from all sides. Medications do not by any means make things all better. What they do is act as a tool to get you back where you belong chemically, so that emotionally you can manage yourself.

So yes, you do need counselling. It's not a sign of weakness; rather, it's a sign of strength. Strength is being able to ask for help when you need it.

You can have these resources at your disposal... why struggle when you can use them? Your community may have a mental health clinic; you can contact your family doctor or your high school counselor to have them recommend a clinic.

In the meantime, develop a hobby. Several, if you need to. I took up crocheting like a fiend. Sports. Reading. Video games. Just pour yourself into it.

Try to avoid situations that make your emotional state worse. If a particular person upsets you, stay away from them.

Q: Is it possible to obtain a Masters in Aerospace Engineering if you have a Bachelors in Mechanical Engineering?

It is very possible. Your Masters may sometimes have absolutely nothing to do with your B. Eng. I personally know a guy who did Mechanical Engineering and is getting his Masters in Chemical, and another getting his Masters in Computer.

It all depends on the area you choose to study.

Q: Hello,
I Am a Vegan and My Parents Don't Truely Understand Why. I Explain To Them About Animal Welare,Yet They Still Don't Understand. My Mother Belives That Being A Vegan Is UnHealthy. Is It Truely UnHealthy To Be A Vegan.

The choice to begin a vegan diet is one that should be supervised by a doctor.

If your mother is concerned, have her make an appointment to see a nutritionist. They can help you make good nutritional decisions in keeping with a vegan lifestyle that will prevent the health issues that can arise with them.

Q: Alright so I'm looking for nice plus sized skinny jeans, durible, wont rip in two days.

Last year a bought some from the Deb, and they are fantastic. But two of them recently got holes on the thighs somehow.
Anyway, I heard Torrid.com has really good skinny jeans, and I took a look at them.
They are nice, but I;m iffy about buying new jeans from a store I've never bough stuff from before.
Last year I bought ripped jeans from the Deb, and within a week they were ripped in the thighs horribley. So yeah.

Anyway, what are your oppinions on their jeans?
Thank youu.

I tried these on at Addition-Elle (a Canadian store) the other day, and they're the most fantastically comfortable thing ever! There's no button, and they're stretchy... I could live in them.

http://www.1-plus.com/mxm-bottoms-Chloe-dark-wash-pull-on-denim_stcVVproductId79486248VVcatId487090VVviewprod.htm

Q: yes, fifteen. as in tenth grade. as in everyone else started developing them six years ago. all other signs of puberty are apparent, but as far as my chest goes, it's as if my body forgot to produce hormones there or something. what is wrong with me?? if all i have to do is wait, why haven't i ever met or heard of a single person out there like me? i can't even go swimming because any flat-chested girl looks awfully unattractive in a bathing suit unless she's just a little girl still. and both guys&girls will stare and be so grossed out and know and just... don't act like this isn't a big deal. sorry to sound like a b*tch, but all people tell me when i keep asking this question is "just be patient, they'll come" so please don't say anything at all if you're just going to act like this is normal. what should i do? should i get surgery when i'm older if i still don't have them? is there any chance i WILL ever get them because i know there are some women in this world that never develop breasts and that terrifies me.

Unfortunately, there's no natural way to grow breasts. There are a few tips and tricks, though:

1) Worried about swimsuits? Get a bathing suit that will let you insert cutlets (silicone inserts). They're pretty natural feeling, and give the illusion of a cup size bigger.

2) Try working out. If you develop your pecs to be a bit bigger, they may help give you a boost.

There are guys who care, but there are those who don't. The whole "bum men" vs. "boob men" thing. Actually, there are a lot of guys who prefer tiny-breasted women.

One of my friends in high school actually grew from a AA to a B literally overnight in Grade 11. It was kind of freaky, actually. Another of my friends is a 22 year old A cup and she's perfectly happy with them (Personally, I'd trade her any day. She can have my E's!)

As for surgery, it's your personal choice. I would definitely wait until you're in your mid twenties at least; you don't want to get implants and then grow!

Q: I have been confused on how to write algorithms from day one! I am currently taking an online class and am so lost with this topic. We have an assignment due in a week where we have to write an algorithm for a certain problem and then create a program for it. Here are my problems:
1. Write a program to calculate the change in quarters, dimes, nickels, and pennies when any amount from 1 to 99 is entered. The program should return the minimum coins that represent the amount entered. For example 37 cents should yield one quarter, 1 dime, and two pennies.
2. Write a program to find the smallest number, the largest number, and the average of any five numbers entered by the user. For example, if the five numbers entered are 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5, the answers should be smallest =1, largest=2, and average=3. (Your program should handle any numbers from 1 to 1,000)

So far what I have for the first one is:
cin>>inputCoins
while(inputCoins > 0)
{
if(inputCoins >= 25)
Quarters ++
inputCoins -= 25
elseif(inputCoins >= 10)
Dimes ++
inputCoins -= 10
elseif(inputCoins >=5)
Nickles ++
inputCoins -= 5
elseif(inputCoins >=1)
Pennies ++
inputCoins -= 1
}
cout>> //print your coin totals out here.

Any tips? any help? SO CONFUSED!!!

Something I find helps when troubleshooting is going through verbally and putting actual words to the program.

Right now, if the amount is higher than 25, the number of quarters goes up by one, and the amount is decreased by 25, the value of a quarter. So far, so good.

Now you move on to dimes. You say that if it's higher than or equal to 10, you up the number of dimes, and then decrease the amount by 10. Here's where I think an issue may be. Would you not need to say where the amount is greater than 10, but less than 25?

For instance: you enter 26.

For this, Quarters++, but ALSO, Dimes++ because it is greater than 10 as well as greater than 26.

For problem #2, I'm rusty on my C++ (it's been a few years). I believe what you would do is to assign each user-entered value to a variable as it is entered. You then need to check each variable to make sure it fits the parameters (i.e. has the person entered all five, is it between 1-1000). Now, just work bit by bit.

To find out which number is the smallest, create a variable called "Smallest". If variable 1 < variable 2 AND variable 1 < variable 3, etc, then Smallest = Variable 1. The opposite works for the largest.

As for the average, variable 1 + variable 2 + variable 3 + variable 4 + variable 5 divided by 5 will give you the solution.

Other than that, it's all the printouts and stuff you have to worry about.

Q: well I've been dating this guy for about 7 months & my mother knows about him but she doesn't want to let me go out with him because she says im to young ( im 13 ) & I think she's afriad because she thinks ima become out pregnant or something but at least I want her to meet him , my mother is the type of person that you can't have a serious talk with , & im scared of havinq a serious talk w| her she's always being sarcastic & im tired of lieinq to her bout hanqinq outt with him but I love him and I don't wanna losse him just because of her , so what do I do ?

You're probably not going to like my answer; just a warning. Keep in mind that I've been in exactly your situation.

You are only 13 years old. I know you feel like an adult, capable of making all your own decisions, but you're not. That's why you live with an adult. Your mom isn't there to feed you, she's also there to raise you. If she sets a "no dating" rule, you need to follow that rule. It is for your own good. You should be focusing on school, friendships and family right now, not on dating.

My parents did the same thing to me when I was in Grade 8. Yes, I was very upset with them at the time. Now, I'm wondering what the heck I was thinking, wanting to date when I was just a baby. You've got all the time in the world to grow up.

As for not wanting to lose the love of your life because of someone as silly as your mother, I think you need to readjust your priorities. How many relationships between thirteen year olds do you think last more than a year? More than 10 years? Not a whole lot. Your mother is one person who will be there for you through thick and thin, so long as you don't go losing that relationship because you don't value it. Never put a boyfriend ahead of your mother (at least not until you're living on your own). You're betraying her trust by dating this guy against her permission, and that could really hurt her.

Basically, what I'm saying is that you need to listen to your mom. You live under her roof, that means abiding by her rules.

Q: whats fun to do when ur high?

not lazy things like whats an activity, like muesium touring and that stuff. i live in nyc what shoudl i do?

You know what's really fun?

Go to the nearest police station and sell your excess product.

Seriously, though, this website clearly states that you aren't supposed to ask questions about illegal subjects (like, for instance... DRUG USE)

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