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my boyfriend wants "a little break"
we are in a long distance relationship by the way.
he won't talk to me.
he told me we need to take a little break because he's really stressed out.
and I don't understand why he is because everything between us has been fine.
he told me its not you at all, its me.
and I absolutely hate those words.
i understand if he needs a break or whatever but he just kinda left me hanging. he never told me why he stressed out or anything. he won't even talk stuff over with me and its been three days.
and its the longest three days of my life.
ive tried texting and calling him a bunch of times but i get nothing back and its frustrating me so much.
i wish i had the strength to move on and not bother him but i cant. i love him.
what should I do?
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Unfortunately, what might be working for you may not be working for him.
He might need some time to decide whether it's worth staying in the long distance relationship. LDRs are really stressful, and even though you're willing and able, he just might not be ready for that. Hence the "It's not you, it's me" thing. He recognizes that you're happy with the way things are, and that he isn't.
Texting and calling him excessively is more likely to have a negative effect than a positive one. If he's really looking for a break, you need to wait at least a week before you contact him again. Give him breathing room so he can think about things.
In the meantime, pour yourself into your friends, your family and your hobbies. Find things to do that don't revolve around him... no one person should be your entire world!
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I know you don't want to hear this. This clearly is a sucky situation and it sounds like your boyfriend did leave you hanging, which wasn't fair. But, the truth is, I think he just broke up with you. But he didn't have the courage to say it straight out, so he asked to take a break. That is guy-code for break up. Meaning, he'll be single and you'll be single. And "Its not you its me" really means "You haven't done anything wrong, I just want to see other people". Add the guy-code to the fact that you guys are long distance, plus he's not returning your messages, and what you end up with is a break-up. He's a jerk for being so unclear, but in the end, it sounds like he just didn't want to hurt you, so he said what he thought would hurt you the least. I know this is a harsh answer, and I know it hurts a lot, but I believe its the truth. Send him a message or a text that is blunt. "Are we broken up: yes or no". That's it, nothing else. Don't tell him you want to talk about things or ask him anything else. You need to know what the deal is so you can eventually heal your heart, but you can't move forward if you don't really have any closure. So ask him straight up what he meant. Then do your best to find other distractions in you life while you try to get over him. And you will, eventually, but it will take some time. In the end, you'll be fine, and you'll realize that whatever happens was meant to be. Good luck to you.
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Just give him a few days he will come around maybe something is just going on in his life and he just doesnt want to share because its personal so just dont bother him about it and just wait for him to tell you and dont call him anymore just wait a few weeks and if he doesnt call then call him and ask him whats going on because then you can say we had the break and now i wanna know whats going on and if things just arent working out then just break up with him because he mite need more time and you probably wont be able to give him more time so its better to move on even though its going to be tough your just going to have to deal with it if thats what it leads up to. Good luck :)
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