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My mother doesn't accept my boyfriend
well I've been dating this guy for about 7 months & my mother knows about him but she doesn't want to let me go out with him because she says im to young ( im 13 ) & I think she's afriad because she thinks ima become out pregnant or something but at least I want her to meet him , my mother is the type of person that you can't have a serious talk with , & im scared of havinq a serious talk w| her she's always being sarcastic & im tired of lieinq to her bout hanqinq outt with him but I love him and I don't wanna losse him just because of her , so what do I do ?
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You're probably not going to like my answer; just a warning. Keep in mind that I've been in exactly your situation.
You are only 13 years old. I know you feel like an adult, capable of making all your own decisions, but you're not. That's why you live with an adult. Your mom isn't there to feed you, she's also there to raise you. If she sets a "no dating" rule, you need to follow that rule. It is for your own good. You should be focusing on school, friendships and family right now, not on dating.
My parents did the same thing to me when I was in Grade 8. Yes, I was very upset with them at the time. Now, I'm wondering what the heck I was thinking, wanting to date when I was just a baby. You've got all the time in the world to grow up.
As for not wanting to lose the love of your life because of someone as silly as your mother, I think you need to readjust your priorities. How many relationships between thirteen year olds do you think last more than a year? More than 10 years? Not a whole lot. Your mother is one person who will be there for you through thick and thin, so long as you don't go losing that relationship because you don't value it. Never put a boyfriend ahead of your mother (at least not until you're living on your own). You're betraying her trust by dating this guy against her permission, and that could really hurt her.
Basically, what I'm saying is that you need to listen to your mom. You live under her roof, that means abiding by her rules.
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You've got to talk to your mother and explain to her how you feel say that you'd like for her to take you seriously assure her that you aren't going to become pregnant and you'd like her to trust you seeing as your her daughter tell your mother to give your boyfriend a chance he deserves one and not jump to conclusions so quickly talking is your best option things will move forward once you do it's better then keeping everything your feeling bottled up inside and not telling your mother anything at all you'll probably feel better once you get everything out in the open :)
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It is very common for parents to be worried about their children and you are very young she probably did not expect you to be dating until you were older. You need to sit down and yes i know you said its hard but you still have to do it. Tell her mom I dont know if you are nervous I am going to go out and have sex. but tell her. If there was a point in time way later down the road that i felt i was ready to have sex I will tell you first. I will ask for birth control but until that day you have nothing to worry about. (and please to this) I got pregnant at 15 years old and it was the hardest time of my life. trust me. any who just let her know you dont plan on having sex.
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