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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I have been going out with my boyfriend since 4 . 20 . 2012 Our relationship hasnt been all that perfect the two things is were in a LDR & He's type boring . Plus , I dont even love him I just have a feeleing when I see this month for the first time all the feelings I dont have for him will bloom. My ex came over and spent the night because hes my brother friend and we end up making out . But no feelings are there for him at all . It was just something to do . He has an girlfriend and I have a boyfriend .
Break up with your boyfriend, You owe him that much. It is unfair to lead someone on and play with someone's feelings.
If you are not happy nor do you have feelings for him then at least do the right thing and give him the respect to tell him. Cheating is unacceptable
I'm a single dad with custody of two kids 8 and 9. I met a woman over the internet, let's call her Carol, and I love her very much. She has everything that I want in a woman except she has little money, and a tiny bit overweight (I can handle with the weight issue). We both want to marry. Carol is divorced, she has two daughters 14 and 5. She lives in the Caribbean and we talk almost every day on skype.
I told her many times that I cannot afford a family of six on my salary. She tells me that if we love each other it doesn't matter b/c we can solve any problem. She's willing to look for a job to make it work.
Carol is not a skilled worker, she didn't finish college, and I can't imagine how she can contribute anything significant to the cost of managing the household. I'm afraid that if marry her and try to support a family of six on my salary that we all might fall on hard times; I'll lose everything that I've worked for.
She insists that money doesn't matter and I should follow my heart. I told her that we can get married in 2013, but I have ice cold feet.
Do I follow my heart and overcome, or do I follow my brain and stay alone? I'm really torn between the two decisions because she really is good woman.
Thanks.
Money does make a huge difference, It isn't all just about love. Money makes a bigger difference when you have children too support. If you become committed to her in anyway whether it's marriage or living together then you take a vow to co-parent her kids too. I would definitely highly advise you to hold off on the idea of getting married until you know that Carol is financially stable. If you are meant to marry this women then don't rush it, Play it safe. Technically, It's a bit unfair to tell her you will marry her in 2013. We cannot predict the future. I would play it by ear but make sure that she reaches some goals before you give her your ticket of commitment. Marrying her while she is jobless and has no stability is going to set you both up for a long haul.
Now if I were in your shoes, I'd definitely wait until you know she has held a job for a least 6 months. You do not want to marry someone and have the burden be on you.
Also, To be a bit honest
I would talk to her about your concerns. It's a bit hard to judge a situation when I only hear one story. My main concern is to why she is set on the marriage? You have no even met this woman in person and how do you know she is giving you a run for money? I'm not saying she is a bad person but something don't seem quiet right about what you've asked.
So, 13/f and I met this dude. 16/m and I haven't really met him offiicially or seen the guy. I just try to imagine him. Lets just say his name is Mike. When I think about his REAL name the thing that comes to mind is blonde hair blue eyes and let the rest fall in place. Well, we talked over the power of the internet and he sounds really nice and harmless. I don't know who he really is or what he looks like we met by chance on this really cool website and happened to hit him up about it. I think I like him, he sounds pretty harmless to me, but that's just the internet, he might be some homeboy trying to get a life. Who knows he might even a 50 perverted year old dude who is lonely and stupid. So, how do I get to bring up the subject of what we look like in a convo while chatting?? Is 3 years older than me way out of my league?? I mean, IDK if he's in a relationship wit someone, but I want to get some ideas. Can you guys give me some please?? Thanks so much.
Believe it or not, The internet is the number one place where pedophiles pray on young people. Anyone can become convincing if they try hard enough, I am 27 years old and I'm sure if I tried hard enough I can be a convincing 16 year old too. Do not trust him, Do not send him photo's or give him personal information about you.
At the age of 13, You are a bit too young to be involved with a 16 year old. (I'm referring to actually meeting someone here) While 3 years doesn't seem like a huge difference it really is at your age. The difference is maturity.
I honestly think your best bet is too meet someone in person and stay away from the internet. You do not "love" or "like" him. You like the idea of him, You like what he has tell you. It is almost impossible to fall for someone you do not even know and never met before. I really encourage you to be smart, Back off on being personal and DO NOT trust him. Remember, Once you leak personal information on the internet you can't take it back.
Hey,
This looks too good to be true but the Quick Money App was on the news and they said he proved this works live on the news!
I don't want to get scammed again, can you help me make sure I don't get taken again? Here is the link http://quickmoneyapp.com/ would you please tell me if it seems real to you?
THANK YOU!
If it sounds to good to be true then it probably is.
Any sort of website that advertises survey payouts is a scam. There is no such thing as quick money, Websites false advertise to get people to visit their web page. Also, Like DN said below me people on the news are all actors.
Avoid such websites
I've. Been texting with a guy that I saw once. I got his number I've sent hime pictures and say I look good,but at times he's like no I don't want nothing,but then when I text him back or send a picture he will start texting with me again. What does he really mean?
You cannot fall in love with someone without actually get to know the person. This person may have good looks or a seemingly good personality but you do not know him personally.
If he is only texting you when you send pictures of yourself then that should tell you he is not interested in YOU. This guy is only interested in your body, Not who you are as a person. Generally this would be the kind of guy to avoid as they tend to only take advantage of people. If you want someone real who will be genuine then you really need to move on and find someone else. A person who appreciates you will want to get to know you.
These days i feel my boyfriend is avoiding me. Once i got a call from him and by accident i pressed the off button of the mobile,it was his call. After that he has changed,he doesnt call me,write me. I feel so sad. I actually told him about the accident. But he seems doesnt care anymore. I dont know what to do.
You cannot make someone love you, It's either he does or he doesn't.
Honestly, If your boyfriend doesn't care anymore then let him go. I know this sounds a bit harsh but how does being in a relationship with someone that doesn't want to try benefit you?
Move on and meet someone who will appreciate you.
Hi Dr,
I'm 30 years old I have a daughter of 4 years old. Now Im pregnent but as we donot need a child due to which I had contraceptive pill after intercourse but still Im pregnent and Im very much scared if I go for the second child will the child b healthy? Will there b any complication with the child?? Shall I go for the second child or not. Please advice me and its very urgent.
Shwetha
Hello,
Just like Adviceman said below we are not doctors, We just people who give advice.
If you took a contraceptive pill once then you should be fine. However, This is definitely something you should speak to your doctor about. I would think it would all depend on the person and how long you were taking the pill for.
If you are unable to provide for the child financially then I would consider adoption.
Ok, so I'm female and am under 18, from England.
Its only because this is advicenators that I can talk about this in confidence-I can't give up sucking my thumb.
When I don't its like I get cravings similar to smokers that are really bad. Its totally embarrasing so I only do it at home but how do i stop?!
This isn't really all that embarrassing, I sucked my finger until I was 17.
In order to stop, You have to be willing to stop.
The way I did it was I realized I was getting older and I decided to just go cold turkey. Ween your way off it, I'm not sure how you sleep but I sleep on my stomach so whenever I had an urge I'd put my hand under my pillow. Eventually, It stopped.
Whenever you feel like you are going to put your thumb in your mouth, Take it out. Better yet put some lotion on your hands. This will prevent the thumb sucking.
What to do when Oral sex with a smoker makes vagina smell like tobacco
This is a tough one
The only thing I can really suggest is maybe taking a shower afterwards.
I really do not know what else to tell you other then maybe trying other sexual things that will give the same pleasure without smelling like a cig. :/
Here is something I found that might be very helpful for you;
http://i.walmartimages.com/i/p/00/30/13/20/08/0030132008870_500X500.jpg
Can't beat that!
Also, Maybe brushing teeth before hand with minty toothpaste.
hey im from a place where people look weirdly if a guy and girl talk..they consider a girl a a slut
in such a place i was in relationship with 3 guys.
(this is was when i was 14) the first guy was crazy guy.. we had sex except for the blowjob and then we broke up.
(when i was 15 ) the second guy n me kissed n d cops caught us in a lonely place n later left.
(this was when i was 15)the third guy n me had sex except d blowjob... he seriously accepts knowing everything about the two guys and he wants me.. but i feel like i am a slut n he deserves better than me.
if my parents get to know about this. they will die. as in our place a girl losing her virginity is considered a slut.
do you think i am a slut?
do you think i should be with the third guy?
do you think my parents would forgive me?
do you think i should run away from all this?
do you think i should die?
I really do not like labeling people a slut.
However, I'm not sure what your current age is but I would tone down the sexual activity a bit. You are still young and there shouldn't be a rush to jump into sex. Sex is not something you just do because you are bored. It's something you do when you are ready and been with someone for awhile that loves you.
I think you need to chill out a little bit
Yes, I think your parents will forgive you. Everyone makes mistakes, It's not unusual. Next time you meet someone just take it slow.
I want to know because im 17 and i in love with a girl but im a girl how do i ask her to have sex with me?please tell me
Your sexual orientation is who you are, There isn't anything wrong with being gay/lesbian/bisexual.
Like I said, Better off approaching a close friend or a friend of a friend.
im 9 years and want to know how to get him to touch my boobs im 100% sure i want to please tell me im in love pluse my boobs are big and sexy!!!!!so please help
Sweetie you are only 9 years old. You are still a child and you aren't even fully developed yet. A guy touching your boobs at this age is very inappropriate. Wait until you are in high school, Sex and touching is something that you do when you are older and more mature. Enjoy being a kid and stop worrying so much. You are too young!!!
I am a divorced 42 year old man. I have been dating this woman for a little over three weeks. I know it's silly but this girl has really got a hold on me. I can never remember feeling like this in my life. I am in love with this girl but I don't want to scare her away or have her think that I am not sincere. I can't stand the thought of loosing her before I even have her. I want to tell her how I feel but I don't know if it is wise. I don't expect her to feel the same. Are there any women out there that can tell me if it's a good idea to tell her yet?
I would personally wait just a little while longer. Although it is nice to here someone has strong feelings for someone you wouldn't want to come off to strong to soon. If you both make one another happy then what is the rush?
You could hint to her you like her but I'd wait another month or so before you lay it on her. Better to be safe then sorry
I am an 18 year female. Girl on girl action is so sexy and I've been thinking a lot about it lately. Basically, I want to fool around with another girl, but I don't want everyone to know. Also, I don't just wanna go up to random chick, hit on her and have her be totally straight. Craigslist ads are way too shady, so please don't suggest that. Any ideas on how to find a hookup?
Definitely do not do Craigslist. I can't begin to tell you how many weird cases I've heard. I don't even use that site period.
If you want a hookup the best way believe it or not is probably through a good friend. At least you have that bond and close relationship with that person. If not, Try finding someone that is maybe friends with a friend.
i live in aurora colorado
At 12 years old you are way too young to be thinking of sex.
What is the rush? You are still a child. Also by law in many states the age to consent to sex is 16.
If you have to come to us and ask strangers if you are too young, Then yes you are too young. Wait until you are older, mature and ready. Enjoy being a kid because trust me time goes too fast. Stop worrying so much.
hi...i got married to this guy in 2011. now i know that he is bisexual... i came to know this by reading his messages in a gay community in his phone.i love him a lot... when i asked him he told me he was a bisexual , he is not involved with any guy after he got married , and he will be with me forever.i dont know if i can trust him or not. i hav't told this to my parents either as they would never get what bisexual is.
can bisexuals be loyal to a women... he says he had sexual relation with more than 50 guys. how can i trust him, he will not do it again.
now he wants me to get pregnant...please help me, i don't know have anyone to talk to.. i love him a lot, i feel like committing suicide nt able to decide what to do.please please please help me.
I believe you are the same person who previously posted a simular question.
You stated right here "i dont know if i can trust him or not"
If you can't trust him fully, Then you may want to seek marriage counseling to help you work through your problem.
Also, The fact that you asked this question twice makes me think you are doubting your marriage. If you are not happy nor can you bring yourself to trust your husband then either come to an agreement for counseling or file a divorce. I personally do not think becoming pregnant is the best thing at this time as it's pretty obvious that you have an issue to work out with him first. Committing suicide over something like this is not going to help the situation.
Honestly, You should have a sit down with him and explain to him that you are feeling insecure in the relationship. Explain your worries, concerns and how it bothers you he had so many partners. If you do not express yourself you are keeping it bottled in and it will cause you to become stressed. In the meantime lay off becoming pregnant, Sort of the issues you have first.
can fingering self delay periods. i have fingered thrice myself and my periods were due in june 28 bt still no sign of it.,
No, Masturbating does not delay periods.
Signs of delayed period include;
Stress, Depression, Illness, Poor diet and exercise, Weight gain or weight loss etc.
I wouldn't worry too much if you are only a week and half late. If you do not get your period in the month of July call your OBGYN.
I have been helping a guy friend for the past two years through a divorce. He has recently bought a new house, got his divorce and has a new girlfriend. Suddenly all the help, emotionally and physically such as moving, etc.that I provided is out the window and he has turned into an ungrateful self centered brat. I have listened to his whining about the divorce, moved furniture, stored it at my house, provided advice, a real estate agent, shopping for mattresses, babysitting for his kid, rearranged my schedule and life to help him during this period.
A month ago he said he would be a supportive friend to me at a going away party which he knew I would get emotional at. One of my best friends were moving. The day before he called for details and asked if the girlfriend could come and that he was coming to support me. Really, with the girlfriend along? I have tried to get to know her but she is always busy and I have a feeling she has no desire to get to know me. So, he showed up for about an hour, alone, checking his email the whole time and then left without even a goodbye! Seriously! I emailed later that night and thanked him for coming an told him that I felt that we were no longer friends due to the lack of respect lately and that his new girlfriend wanted nothing to do with me and that she was the winner of everything and I lost everything. Well, I never heard back from him and that was 8 days ago. I am refusing to reach out like I usually do and am going to wait until he contacts me. The question is when he will or even WILL HE? What should I do. I will probably see him in a few days. He has changed since the divorce and everyone told him not to date for a little while but he says she is perfect and so smart, etc. but when they are together he treats her no different than the rest of us and even talked her into babysitting when we all went to a festival. I thought that was tremendously rude but he said she offered since her friend who was suppose to babysit did not show up. All I know is that she did not look too happy about staying behind. I know I sound jealous, but I think I am more resentful that she was not there holding his hand the past two years and I did not even get a thank you. What do you think?
Have you tried to approach this friend in person and explain to him how you feel? I am not going to assume that it is, but he could possibly be influenced by his new girlfriend's jealousy? It's pretty hard to give good advice when I only hear one side of the story. There could be several reasons, Maybe he took advantage of the situation?
Either way, I agree with you. I would back off a little bit. If he needs something again just simply express how you felt unappreciated once he started dating again. If I were in your shoes I would probably decide to cut contact. Who does something for someone and not even get a thank you? Never mind that but the fact that this man would have the nerve to leave without showing respect to say goodbye would be my last nerve. I think you are wonderful to help someone but maybe this should be a lesson to not be so giving with certain people unfortunately.
Anyway, You do not sound a bit jealous to me at all. I believe you have a valid reason for how you feel.
So I've been talking to this guy for about a year off & on. I'm 13 & a female. Yes I'm young, but my maturity level is VERY HIGH. The guy I've been talking to is everything I look for in a guy, he isn't like the others. But he is 15. Now remember you donot know me, but anyone that does knows I'm very mature for my age. & this guy I like he isn't asking anything from me. He's not a virgin, but he's only had sex ONE time. With someone he was with for awhile. Anyways, what is your opinion opon such a an age difference?
From the way you worded your question, I can already tell you do not want advice. You are seeking approval. However, I'm going to simply give you my 2 cents
While you are likely entering the 7th grade, This kid is hitting high school. There is a very big difference there and the reason that it matters so much is because you both are living in two different worlds. The people we hang around have an influence on our maturity level. Also, This kid may not be pushing to do anything YET. I completely agree with Adviceman many young teenagers mix love with lust. They think about sex because they THINK they are in love or they just simply want a release. I think if you want a boyfriend so badly that maybe you should seek someone who is the same age as you. It wouldn't make much of a difference if you were 23-25 because then you both would be pretty much on the same maturity level and stage in your lives. Does 13 and 15 make a big difference? Yes. This kid is too old for you. One thing you should realize is that you are going to go on in Jr. high and meet people and so won't he. You may not want that too happen nor do you think it will but it's just a fact.
i'm 20,i wanna know if i will get pregnant if my boyfriend chummed on my pussy,not inside me.
please answer me
Yes it's possible, As long as sperm has contact with the vagina it's always possible.