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Cheating: I cheated on my boyfriend but it means nothing... it was just something to do
I have been going out with my boyfriend since 4 . 20 . 2012 Our relationship hasnt been all that perfect the two things is were in a LDR & He's type boring . Plus , I dont even love him I just have a feeleing when I see this month for the first time all the feelings I dont have for him will bloom. My ex came over and spent the night because hes my brother friend and we end up making out . But no feelings are there for him at all . It was just something to do . He has an girlfriend and I have a boyfriend .
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Let me be the first person to tell you that any feelings you don't have for your boyfriend will not bloom. If you don't love him, you don't love him. I mean you even called him boring and you cheated on him with your ex! What makes me upset is that you're holding him back! You think he is boring but there could be another woman out there who would love to have a man like that!
If you cheat becuase it's just something to do, then something is wrong. The both of you should break up.
I say this because you cheated on him, and you haven't gotten the chance to even like him on an emotional level. If you don't like his personality, than why would you stay for his looks?
Now if you do intend on staying in this relatinship, than you better intend on telling him the truth because what's done in the dark always comes to the light.And if you don't tell him and he finds out, than he'll never trust you. Relationships are built on TRUST and FAITHFULNESS.
Hopefully, you do the right thing.
~Andrew~
P.S. Tell your ex everything that I told you and maybe he'll learn to be faithful and truthful to his girlfriend.
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Break up with your boyfriend, You owe him that much. It is unfair to lead someone on and play with someone's feelings.
If you are not happy nor do you have feelings for him then at least do the right thing and give him the respect to tell him. Cheating is unacceptable
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It sounds to me you are not ready for a committed relationship and having one thats Long Distance will definately not work. I am not judging you but from what you've said you've got to mature some what more emotionally and mentally to be able to commit to someone and understand what that means.
What should you do? Let your boyfriend know its over, let him down gently and end it. If you do not it will eventually come out about what you did and not only will he hate you but you'll feel worse than you may already do and it will damage you and him. Do you need to let him know you cheated on him? No, just let him know the Long Distance thing isnt working for you or him and you cant do it anymore. You can either do it in person or a phone call but do not do it over a text or email as it is somewhat impersonal and remember its not your boyfriends fault this has happened so do not blame him for it, allow him to vent if he needs to, it'll help you both move on.
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Not sure what the question is... but, if you want general advice, here goes:
Break if off with your boyfriend, he deserves better. What you do with your ex is up to you, but I am thinking his girlfriend deserves better too (feel free to pass that on).
See, a relationship is about trust and commitment. Once you violate that, you are just using and deceiving the other person. Its not just about your feelings and what you like to do, and this seems to be all you are thinking about.
Honestly, I don't even think you are ready for relationships. Perhaps the best advice is to wait a few years.
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