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whens a time where feedback wouldnt "Counts towards rating?" cause all of the times for me say "yes". thanks in advance!

Whenever they're too old (past 30 days) or a private question (one sent to your inbox) then they do not count towards you're rating, but if it's a question to the pool (the main site) then they count.

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Can one get sick from eating old graham crackers? They're probably about 3 months old, and I guess the package was left open. haha They're not dusty, but they're soft and chewy, very bizzare...

Mackenzie, you're such an idiot, I hope you didn't eat them, that would be gross!!!!! haha.

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I was working on Friday night with this guy, and he was sick the whole night, he shouldn't have even been at work but my boss wouldn't let him leave. So, it turns out he has mono. And I remember I accidently drank one of his drinks that night, and I'm really worried that I'm going to get it. How long does mono normally take to set it, and what are the symptoms?

Thanks.

Mono is THE WORST!! My friend got it, another friends drank off of her and got it, I drank off of that friend, got a horrible case of Strep, my doctor said if I had been really tired and stuff then I would've definitley had mono. But we all drank off of each other, not knowing we were sick, and we ended up spreading mono and strep around the school. Also most of us already missed a lot of school and at our school if you miss more than 13 days you automatically fail the class(es), so we couldn't stay home. Anyway, you're throat hurts, it's practically impossible to swallow, you're tired ALL THE TIME, it's just aweful. You do get a lot of flu-like symptoms, but really if you wanna know the rest just google it. Good luck! And yes, you probably will get it, and it takes only a few days to kick in. If it has been over a week and you still don't get it, chances are slim, but since it's only been about 3 days, you still have that chance. Good luck, hope ya don't get it, but what were you doing drinkin after someone you knew was sick?!?! Crazy haha, okay, well I'm done now.

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how do you break up with someone but be nice about it? what should you say?

No matter what you say they will be hurt. Just tell them the truth. It's always worse when they lie to spare feelings.
Tell the person, I'm sorry, but we have to end our relationship, I don't want to hurt you, but I think you should know why, I am breaking up with you because "...".

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Is it true that during basketball girls are supposed to run up stairs and walk down them?

Do you mean doing stadiums? (running up and down the bleachers) We used to do those in P.E. Stadiums is a good workout, but it can be difficult if you aren't in shape and stuff.
But no, it's not true that girls are "supposed" to do them. They can do them while working out. Also it could be used as a punishment by the coach. Like if the girls lose a game, or if they are slacking then the coach could say to run stadiums until she says to stop.

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here is a conversation I had with a friend...can you help me?
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
hey
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
hey
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
whats up/
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
**?
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
nm you
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
nothin just sitting here listening to music and doing my website thingy
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
ohh
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
yup
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
hey would you wanna hang out sometime?
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
I dont know
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
ok
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
why do you say thats
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
because I'm just asking
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
ook
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
yea
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
I aint gonna make any friends just sititng here
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
*sitting
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
ok
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
but y do you ask me now because we've not hung out for like 2 years
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
well I always asked you in the summer of 5th grade but you always said no
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
o
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
yea you guys didnt like me or something
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
ohh
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
yep
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
things change tho
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
yes
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
so would you want to hang out sometime?
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
idk
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
k
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
well i havent hung otu with you forever and were not realy friends anymore
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
is there something wrong with that?
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
you act like its a bad thing to become friends again
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
no its not but
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
but...
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
alright take it as this....I dont have like any friends...I dont wan to sit on my but all the time I want to hang out with someone
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
oh
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
you have friends
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
ohh Maddie...thats a lot
Leah.... ilss..sm says:
oo
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
yea
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
is there something wrong with me?
ålyşśå -ilkr says:
well you wouldnt know becuz you havnt hung out with me for ever
she got off after that...I dont know what to do

Who are you and who is the other person? What exactly do you want help with??

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hi people

i want to get nair this four minute lotion thingy. its when you rub it on you and wash it off four minutes and your hair comes off? does this work

NONONONONO!!! It didn't work that well for me and my sister, and it had a HORRID smell!!!!

Veet in my opinion, works, and smells better (though the smell is still not all that great) But nair used to stink up the bathroom after my sister used it, I would feel nautious just going in there (we shared a bathroom)
Plus nair gives lots of people bad rashes, and it can burn like a f***er.

I would suggest veet though, only if you don't like actually shaving.

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do anyone wear mary kay makeup?

is it good or bad i heared it was for old people

I'm almost 15, my sister is almost 16, we both use Mary Kay makeup. Mainly because my neighbor sells it and she gives us awesome discounts, but it's good. I like it a lot better than the covergirl stuff that I used to use, and it's a lot easier to wash off at night time, plus it does last all day, at least it lasts when I wear it, the covergirl stuff came off before the end of the school day, once summer started I started to use mary kay and it lasts all day.

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why are ALL BOYS heartbreakers?

Ha Ha Ha, sorry couldn't help but laugh.
Nah, there are actually some pretty good guys out there. I've met a few. I've had my heart broken once or twice, but not because the guy was a bad guy, mainly because they moved to different schools, we never saw each other anymore, they moved out of state, and stuff like that.
There's always going to be the occasional jerk, treats you with respect for a few months, maybe a year, then becomes a real.ahhh, there's not even a word for it.
But I've definitly met some great guys of the past few years. You'll eventually find the one.
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At first I thought you said are all about heartbreakers, but I still must laugh at the question.
Boys are heartbreakers because we usually like them more than they like us, we scare them by trying to get to serious, when honestly, all they want is US if ya get what I mean.
But still I stick by it, not all guys are heartbreakers. They just like to be bad guys in front of their friends, like in the movie Grease the way Danny treats Sandy in front of his friends after the bon fire, thats how most guys are until they really care for you...
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Just some quotes that may make you feel better about *love*

*In yOuR liFe yOu`LL meEt OnE guY
uNliKe aNy OtHer..yOu caN taLk tO hiM aNd NeVeR eVeR GEt BoReD..
teLL hiM evErytHing aNd NeVeR eveR bE judGed..
smiLe anD Get buTTeRfLies EveRytiMe yOu sEe hiS faCe...heaR hiS naMe oR His VoIcE..thiS peRson iS a..
beSt FrienD,*boyFrieNd*,aNd a truE LovE.*

x----------» ||LoVe || «-----------x
o~» l0ve is when y0u can*t «~o
x~» pay attenti0n in class «~x
o~» Cause y0ur t00 buzy writing «~o
x~» y0ur first name with hiz last «~x
x----------» || LoVe || «-----------x

he`s the 0nly guy i`d c0me t0 with my hair a mess
my makeup streaming d0wn my face..my eyes red
fr0m crying hysterically..yet he'd still tell me
[ *Babi..y0ur beautiful* ]

i wAnT a GuY wHo wiLL .cHaSe. mE wEn
i waLk aWAy \ suM1 whO wiLL mAKe mE
hiS [ rEaSoN ] tO LivE ¤ ( LoVe ) mE FoR
mE aNd caLL mE hiS - > eVeRyThInG < -

Wait fOr the bOy whO will
*make* a [ [ Ordinary mOment ] ] seem .:*magical*:.
The kinda bOy whO'll :: bring Out ::
the very *best* inside Of -> yOu
At absOlutely anytime || nO matter ||
what the :: circumstances ::
Wait fOr the bOy whO will make yOu smile
Like * nO1 else * the bOy whO -always- want tO { shOw yOu Off } tO the wOrld
When yOur in '' sweats ''and have
* nO make up On *but really * *appreciates*
It's when yOu get :+: dOlled up fOr him :+:
Wait fOr the bOy whO'll put yOu
in the center Of his [ u n i v e r s e ]
\\ mOst Of all \\
Wait fOr that because->thats where yOu *belOng*

::* I wAnT a GuY -2- HoLd Me TiGhT... *::
::* tReAt Me RiGhT... *::
::* KeEp Me SaFe ThRoUgH tHe NiGhT *::
::* i WaNt a GuY wHoS sUpEr SwEeT *::
::* a GuY -2- SaY "BaBy, It'S oK...jUsT FaLl AsLeEp..." *::
::* a GuY wHo WiLl AlwAyS LiStEn -2- Me... *::
::* tHaTs ThE GuY I wAnNa KeEp *::

The Perfect Guy
*A*ccepts you as you are
*B*elieves in you
*C*alls you just to say "HI"
*D*oesn't give up on you
*E*nvisions the whole of you
*F*orgives your mistakes
*G*ives unconditionally
*H*elps you
*I*nvites you over
*J*ust be with you
*K*eeps you close at heart
*L*ikes you for who you are
*M*akes a difference in your life
*N*ever Judges
*O*ffers support
*P*icks you up when your down
*Q*uiets your cries
*R*aises your spirits
*S*ays nice things about you
*T*ells you the truth when you need to hear it
*U*nderstands you
*V*alues you
*W*alks beside you
*X*-plains thing you don't understand
*Y*ells when you won't listen and
*Z*aps you back to reality

(
`•. ThInKiN oF yOu BrInGs A sMiLe To My FaCe
) DrEaMiN oF yOu MaKeS my HeArT rAcE
¸.•´ TaLkIn WiTh yOu MaKeS mE wAnT yOu eVeN mOrE
`•. BuT bEin WiTh yOu Is WhAt I LiVe FoR
(¸.•*¨`» (¨`•.•´¨)
`•.¸(¨`•.•´¨)
`•.¸.•´

Take * l O v e * `nD
.·´¯`* »m u l t i p l y
it by × i n f i n i t y ×
`nD take it tO the-»
dePthz of fOrevEr *..
`nD yOu will - s t i l l -
o n l y havE a.·´¯`·»
*·-·´¯`·-»g l i m p s e
Of .hOw. i feEl* fOr
*·-·´¯`·-»yOu«-·´¯`·-·*

I Love The Way My Fingers (¯`v´¯) Just Fall Into Yours
I Love How Your Taste Still `v´ Lingers On My Lips
After That Special Goodnight Kiss,(_.·´¯) I Love How You Look At Me
With (¯`v´¯) Those Gorgeous Eyes And Then You Smile
That `v´ Sweet Smile.. And I Know Right There, That
You Will Always Be Mine.. (_.·´¯) I Love How You Hug
Me With The (¯`·._) Intention Of Never Letting Go.. I
Love You More Than Words Could Ever Show



I know that's kind of a lot, but I like them, and you might just realize, that somewhere out there, your perfect guy will come!!!!
You should go see that movie, "The Perfect Man" it was really good!!

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i see someone already asked a name question

but you see i am having a baby girl and need a cute name but something beautiful at the same time! any ideas?

ABIGAL (my fave! Abby for short?)
Stephanie
Laura
Lauren
Destiny
Samantha
Cyndal
Sydney
Courtney
Alyssa
Alicia
Jessica
Katherine/Catherine/Kathryn/Katheryn (whatever way you'd want to spell it.(Kate for short?)
Emily
Emma
Allison
Bianca
Stacey (my cousins name, her real name is Anastacia)
Taylor (tay-tay for short?)
Kara (cute for a baby, but good for an adult)
Aubree
Meghan, Meghin, Megan (whichever way you'd like to spell it)
Brittany
Amanda (mandy for short, but I like Amanda just fine)
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That's about all I could think of. Hope you liked them.

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Well i do not know why but my mom says i need more protein in my system.
could people tell me food that is very high in protein for breakfast,lunch,and dinner?

Also,is it true that the more protein you have the more you nails and hair grows?Or is this not true?

For the second question, sometimes.

As to what you can eat. Eggs, meat, PEANUT BUTTER, fish, and nuts.

So I guess for breakfast you can have eggs, for lunch you can have peanut butter sandwich, or PB&J, or something of the such, for dinner you can have fish, burgers, steak, ribs(yummy), meat lovers pizza!!, and ummm thats really all I can think of off the top of my head.

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how long after a break up should you wait before the next chase? I mean like... looking around for new people... if the relationship you've just come out of wasn't that serious... but I don't want to hurt his feelings by jumping straight back in... :S
16/f

Depends how long the two of you were dating. If you were dating for a month, just wait two weeks, if you were dating for 3 months, I'd saw wait 3-4 weeks.
Possibly however many months you were dating, is how many weeks you should wait. If you were dating less than a month, 2 weeks is a perfectly fine time to way.
But you should always wait AT LEAST 2 weeks. Unless the two of you dated for less than a week, then one week is good enough, but that hardly ever happens.

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what are some good foods to take with you to eat in the car when your traveling?

Thanks

I rate 5 for good answers

Wow, good timeing for you to ask this, my family is driving to NY Thursday, and my mom had me pick out what to get.
We got cookies& bars (Cookies & M&M's, and Cookies&snickers.) You can get slim jims, teddy grams, granola bars, anything you like that you can easily hold while driving (unless you aren't the driver, then it doesn't matter) For drinks, I always drink flavored water, but we bring flavored water, gatorade, and regular water. Plus my parents always bring a cup of coffee, and me and my brother bring mugs for when we stop at rest stops and get hot chocolate (it's a 12 hour drive from NC so we leave anywhere from 4-6am)

Ummm, we also got pringles, and we always stop at McDonalds, though this time I think we're just going to use the drive-through because last time it took too long. But I'm sure you don't care about that haha.

If that doesn't help, another columnist (MFS) shared with some of us a wonderful website (and it's a real site too)
www.justfuckinggoogleit.com

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Well my boyfriend and i plan on having sex pretty soon and he wants to use 2 condoms for extra protection just incase... you know but do you think that's dumb and is there any kinds of condoms that are like extremely durable and are like guarenteed not to break or anything... please answer... thanx

-just asking...

NEVER EVER EVER EVER use 2 condoms, I've learned in health (since like 6th grade) and I don't remember if they taught this in parent child development, but it causes friction and could make them break. Also never use a condom thats been in someones pocket, that could also cause it to break.
All I know is that trojans are supposedly pretty good, but no condoms are 100% when it comes to not breaking.

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ok i am going to try to word this as maturely as possible..i used to uh masturbate with shampoos and conditioners and that stuff because i was afraid to get real lubricant..i have a tanline now and one side of my uh penis is like a lighter color than the other..i use hand lotion now and havent used the others in a while but it wont go away...does anyone know how i can make it go away?

Don't know what the heck is up, and don't know if this will work, but go to a tanning bed, you're naked in there, so it'll give your penis a good tan ;-P. But uhhh, if you really want advice, the best I can give is talk to your dad, or go see a doctor.

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hey
can anyone give me links to xanga quote sites...i tried looking, but my computer is half retarded and like, i dunno.
so, plz, links!!!
thanx

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There are lots more, just visit the blogrings, and try looking at the people those people are subscribed to.

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Hey ive heard people saying grinding what does it mean in a sexual way?

It's when you dance and you rub all up on the person you're dancing with.
In middle school we got into so much trouble for doing it, in high school the teachers don't really pay attention.
Anyway, yeah, it's just rubbing up on the REALLY close and stuff when you dance.

Or if you want REAL definitions, then here...
To rotate the pelvis erotically, as in the manner of a stripteaser.
and
And erotic rotation of the pelvis

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Hi. Heres my problem... I think im fat. Im 12 years old and i weigh around 75 pounds. All my friends tell me im not fat, at all. But when i look at my seld, all i see is fat. I'm a gymnast and i go to the gym 3 times a week for 3 hours. So i do work out alot. But I never feel satisfied with my weight. I never really skip meals, because i know its bad. But i sometimes wonder if i should.... What should i do?

--CONFUSED

Okay, well seeing that you're a gymnast and you work out that much, I highly doubt that you're overweight. Mainly because if you were it would be pretty hard to be a gymnast, because you work out, and because I have a friend my age, and I know other people who are gymnasts, and they're all sticks. But DO NOT start skipping meals, after you skip one meal one day, you might feel a little more satisfied, then you go skipping another meal another day, feeling more satisfied, then you skips any meal you would normally eat where there are no people around to witness whether you eat or not, then you simply just skip lunch at school (even though it's summer) telling your friends you had a huge breakfast, and you start feeling much more satisfied with you're weight. BUT... you may feel really satisfied, but you could in reality look horrid. I have quite a few pictures of when I was anorexic, and in my mind, I looked GREAT, looking back at those pictures, I looked horrible. My face and body was so thin you could see the boned, I was in 6th grade weighing around 50lbs, maybe less.

It's completely mental, once you start you CAN'T stop. I had to see more than one psychiatrist, and my parents ended up taking me away from the one that I liked which made it harder for me to want to start up eating again.
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It's okay if you want to eat smaller portions (but not too small).
It's okay if you want to work out for a few hours (but not too many, and not too hard)
It's not okay if you feel unsatisfied with the way you look. But that doesn't mean you start skipping meals, because no matter what you think, one or two skipped meals leads to a whole lot more, and if people notice the meal skipping, they'll force you to eat, which leads to you throwing up the food...

What you need to do, is talk to someone before your mind and what you're thinking of doing leads you too far. Since school is out I would reccomend a regular psychiatrist, but once schools back in, why pay all that money when the school guidance councilor is free?

Oh, and 75lbs is NOT fat. You need to learn to be satisfied with you're body just the way you are. I'm not the thinnest person in the world, but I've learned to not care about it. It's what you think that matters. I'm not sure how to help you learn to live with however you look (which by the sound of it probably isn't too bad :]) so thats what I would reccomend talking to someone for, to boost your self confidence. AND NEVER EVER EVER skip a mean uless you are truly not hungary, but then, even try to eat something small. I'm not saying one skipped meal leads to anorexia, but the way it sounds you feel about yourself, it just may lead that far.

And if you come out of anorexia alive (I know people who have died from it) then you end up eventually weighing more than you did before mainly because you're metabolism slows down so it can keep the fat in you for if and when you decide to become anorexic again. The less you eat, the slower your metabolism, and I really don't know if once your metabolism gets slow that you can speed it up.

GOOOOOOOD LUCK!

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hi, i remarried 10 years ago.i had 3 children when we met.he's been a great father and husband.about 2-3 years ago my(our) eldest son (15) and my husband tarted to argue all the time.i suggested that we all og to councelling,my husband said he didn't have a problem.it was all my sons fault.about a month ago he moved out.we didn't have a problem when he moved out ,then all the sudden he 's acting like he hates me. he says it's all my fault for not doing anything about my son.he says he'll move back ion when my son is out of the house.could be 1-4-6 months,or longer.he's blaming me for all of it.he wanted me to kick him out or put him in foster carte.now were on the verge of a divorce. i love him very much but i can't go on like this much longer.help please.

EDIT EDIT EDIT EDIT EDIT
I do apologize for misreading the question, but thanks for not just giving me a 1.
If I would have known more of the details such as your husbands condition and how your son reacted, I probably wouldn't have come across so harshly.
But it's never too late for counciling, and if he refuses to do that, then is the marriage really worth it? It actually seems like he doesn't want to save the marriage. I know you're son is also at fault, but you're the mom, you can ground him, or do whatever parents do to their kids (though at this age is harder to teach them respect and junk like he needs to learn) Anyway, I still think this man is a piece of junk. Whether he's sick or not, he still should go to counciling and it's never too late for counciling. When I was anorexic I hated the idea of counciling, I lost soo much weight, but my parents didn't give up on me, it might have seemed too late, but I still saw a "shrink" and your whole family should see a family councilor. You mention you have other kids, what do they feel about this whole situation, kids do keep things in, I usually write my feelings in poems, but still this would be a GREAT oppertunity for your husband and son to find out how they are effecting your family!!!!!!!!!!!!
If they're still being hard-headed about counciling, then maybe you should show them this questions and these answers, it might help them realize what they're doing, how they're making you feel, such as you're resulting to an advice site getting advice from people ages 13+, and maybe then they will take on counciling.
Sorry again about my mis reading, hope this helps you a little more, but I still left below what I had originally put. Good luck,

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I have the first symptoms of an eating disorder (yes this can be in Mental Health, it's a mental problem not a physical problem) and I'm really worried

I might sound crazy right now but there's this constant battle in my head. One part of me is saying not to do it that I should go and eat and the other is saying no! don't eat it's not worth getting fat.

I have no one I could talk to and except for parents and they would go crazy.
Ughh It's driving me crazy! I don't want to go and eat for then to realise I shouldn't have done and then go and binge and bring it all back up. Please help me.

Well I have gone through and recovered from an eating disorder (anorexia), so if you want someone to talk to, then feel free to e-mail me anytime, or IM me (mostly away, but I am on quite a bit too)

AIM - xo Krazi Kate ox
Yahoo - Maniac_Munchkin
E-mail - Maniac_Munchkin@yahoo.com
E-mail - Bull_Dawg_Babii@yahoo.com

Feel free to IM or e-mail me anytime.

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